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Men can be in abusive relationships too. P.S I made this one shorter at least shey you can read it??

I stare at Sandra and cannot help but wonder...
Where did I go wrong?
She used to be a sweet sarcastic lovely angel but now she's more like a nagging demon. Yeah.
Sandra was the one who helped me get this job with the Oil company,good pay,accommodation ,luxuries...I was living the life mahn! Coupled with all that,the only daughter of the famous business tycoon was in love with me. At least that was what I thought.
"Jide, my friends say they saw you with a girl in Tropicana last week,who was she" Sandra barges into my office and asks.
"Hello to you too, this your friends and tabs you keep on me,i have no idea what you're talking about,i havent being to Tropicana this month"
"Hmmmmm don't try me ohh, you know I made you into what you are,just one silly move and you're done!" She barges out.
I am sick and tired of her reminding me every time about how she got me the job,and good life,damn!
"Jide who is the girl you are putting smile emojis for on Facebook"
"Haaaaa! This woman! Are you for real?"
She stalks me on all Social media accounts,she pretends she's cool with my female friends but when I laugh or comment on a post or picture of theirs,I am not allowed to touch her or get affection from her again.
" Be allowing this small small girls comment on your pictures anyhow. Don't forget I made you the man they now love."
"Babe do you have to keep rubbing it on my face every time?"
"Yes I would! You are nothing without me,let that sink in too." She hisses.

I remember one time we were talking and laughing and I wanted to kiss her and she blurted out "Go and get kisses from @divaniva who was blowing you kisses on your picture on Instagram"
Jeez! How is that my fault? Lately I do not derive joy in seeing her anymore because I didn't have the strength for her endless nagging and insults. How can a woman who claims to love me look me in the face and say "You are nothing,Jide. You cannot achieve anything in this life without me. You should be happy a person like me associates with you. Nothing you set your foot to do in this life can ever work out without my help" Sandra said all this to me simply because I gave a female neighbour of mine a lift to the market and she saw us.
This has got to stop,i cant take this anymore but I don't want to loose everything. Maybe I really am nothing without her. This emotional abuse had being going on for over 2 years now and anytime I think about all she does I put my ring back into its box.

Later on I would realise how much of a fool Sandra made me look like and how worthless I was to her.
This isn't Love,Its Abuse.
With great sadness I would resign from my job,vacate the house and drop the car keys at Sandra's place.
I can't do this anymore. I can do well without you. I can achieve the best in life without your help. I'm grateful for everything you did for me but I can't continue in this unhealthy relationship. I'm walking out.

A year later I would be married to a loving wife who adores and cherish me with a good job,though not better than what I had before but definitely happier than before.

Yes,men too can be in emotional abusive relationships and physical too.No one deserves to be abused in that manner because of love.This,a friend once told me.

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Nice read
You are right same way men can be nasty women also too .. just all about getting to know the person in and out before siging dotted line . ( if that's the plan)
And some women get bad mouth sef constantly nagging the guy till he amounts to nothing

Bumbae1:
Nice read
You are right same way men can be nasty women also too .. just all about getting to know the person in and out before siging dotted line . ( if that's the plan)
And some women get bad mouth sef constantly nagging the guy till he amounts to nothing

Women hardly reason like you do... Watch how another lady will come and say he deseved it

I am in one already. planning to leave when I get out of this country

xoxo001:
I am in one already. planning to leave when I get out of this country

Show me the way bro... Which route you wan pass?

generalbush:
Show me the way bro... Which route you wan pass?

Why u want run comot your father land? it's not advisable. lol

I will comment later

xoxo001:
Why u want run comot your father land? it's not advisable. lol

I take God beg you. Even if na Mozambique!!

Lol... Just show me your route...

Factfinder1:
Women hardly reason like you do... Watch how another lady will come and say he deseved it

Haba i doubt they would .. .. we aint all witches yanno