Only very few jobs pay well. And very few self employed guys make it big. The average salary range for most graduate is 45-85k!! With a sizeable figure earning below the stated amount. Truth be told, you still want to complete the normal life cycle of getting married and also give birth. Your income is on the low side, your age is ticking and your choice or standard for a wife is getting lean.

Do not despair. It is expected. The dream of most normal men is to marry a young fresh lady. Who has got good morals, education yet submissive. I am sorry to tell you my dear you need to wake from the dream. It is a Nigerian dream hence void of reality.

So are we not going to get married? Not at all, but there is one skill you must possess. Patience!!!, I tell you! You must be patient. Women are like commodities, with time the price and value depreciates. Men too, only that the former depreciates astronomically. You can leverage on it. I know you think it sounds absurd but you ain't got so much choice buddy.

My aunt wedding was last week (yesterday) we were all very happy. Trust me the guy payed close to nothing. We even entertained most of the guest with our food. We were really happy for her!!! (market wey we don dey remove mind untop). At that age we didn't even think of a list .

You may not get a Young fresh babe, but you will definitely get married if only you wait longer. Wait for the value to fall and do your thing quietly. No one may even ask "what do you do for a living" as long as you can barely feed yourself and you don't look like a criminal, everyone is fine.

Finally, how do you get married on a low paying job? Ans: Patience; wait for the value to fall and you have it...she may look older but you ain't young yourself. Life begins at FORTY where the hell are you rushing to?

Eshe.

HQuadreal:
Eshe.

. I love this post..!!! Mr op.... oooooshe..!!!

CuteMorriz:

Nice 1.

"...Women are like commodities, with time the price and value depreciates. Men too, only that the former depreciates astronomically. You can leverage on it. I know you think it sounds absurd but you ain't got so much choice buddy"


When you get married and have kids, give them this advice. Tell them they are commodities with poor shelf life. Don't teach them to value themselves first before seeking value from a partner.

No wonder we have people going into marriages for the wrong reasons, all in a bid to please society and not lose value.

You're absolutely on point. As bad as it sounds, the younger ones have extremely high expectations.

However, whoever follows your idea will likely fall into the hands of a lady whose love belongs to another man. So the husband may end up being an alternative... You cannot be the best by being an alternative. As soon as the dream is achieved (Mrs. and kids), your own don done be dat, especially when you fall into the hands of a desperate rich one without ascertaining the level of love you both share.

Overall, it is not a bad idea as long as both love themselves so well. Whether father-in-law choose to sponsor the wedding or not is not a reason to desire a frustrated life.

Op is either an economist or a good businessman.


I hail thee..

biazarre:
. I love this post..!!! Mr op.... oooooshe..!!!

that's my nigga!!! 2 bottles of orijin for you

pocohantas:
"...Women are like commodities, with time the price and value depreciates. Men too, only that the former depreciates astronomically. You can leverage on it. I know you think it sounds absurd but you ain't got so much choice buddy"

Something is definitely wrong with you.
When you get married and have kids, give them this advice. Tell them they are commodities with poor shelf life. Don't teach them to value themselves first before seeking value from a partner.

No wonder we have people going into marriages for the wrong reasons, all in a bid to please society and not lose value.

E take e easy...pele.

HQuadreal:

Nice 1.

na so!!! Boil in two packs of rothmas for you

twosquare:
E take e easy...pele.

Some of you don't have the ability to argue logically so you resort to throwing tantrums. I am used to that...

pocohantas:
"...Women are like commodities, with time the price and value depreciates. Men too, only that the former depreciates astronomically. You can leverage on it. I know you think it sounds absurd but you ain't got so much choice buddy"

Something is definitely wrong with you.
When you get married and have kids, give them this advice. Tell them they are commodities with poor shelf life. Don't teach them to value themselves first before seeking value from a partner.

No wonder we have people going into marriages for the wrong reasons, all in a bid to please society and not lose value.

We are all commodities with a shelf life and a life span; believe it or not. What is the use of a ninety year old man to a hirer? As the day breaks we depreciate. Mentally, physically, emotionally and health-wise. I don't need to teach my kids anything!!! Even a daft person knows that they will definitely age and lose value someday...

CuteMorriz:
na so!!! Boil in two packs of rothmas for you

Abeg I no dey smoke ooo.

pocohantas:

Some of you don't have the ability to argue logically so you resort to throwing tantrums. I am used to that...

I said take it easy...it is not everything in life person dey hold like iron, otherwise one will have HbP....pele pocohantas...Sometimes, it is not all opinions on NL you will react to...just walk (that would help), and please, refrain from insults, you can still drive your points without it...such doesn't befits you as a virtuous woman.

CuteMorriz:
We are all commodities with a shelf life and a life span; believe it or not. What is the use of a ninety year old man to a hirer? As the day breaks we depreciate. Mentally, physically, emotionally and health-wise. I don't need to teach my kids anything!!! Even a daft person knows that they will definitely age and lose value someday...

The problem is the motive behind preaching that humans are commodities, even though I strongly disagree that humans are 'commodities'.

A man or woman shouldn't settle for less because he or she is old or not financially okay. As long as your desire in a dream partner isn't a fairytale one...there must be someone for you.

If a man isn't rich, there is a young woman out there that will love him for who he is. There are other things he could work on, that will make him more desirable. Advising him to go marry an old woman, not because he loves her but because he thinks she is a cheap commodity and has limited or no choice, makes no sense!
It is one of the reasons marriages fail! People are marrying for the wrong reasons!

Acidosis:
You're absolutely on point. As bad as it sounds, the younger ones have extremely high expectations.

However, whoever follows your idea will likely fall into the hands of a lady whose love belongs to another man. So the husband may end up being an alternative... You cannot be the best by being an alternative. As soon as the dream is achieved (Mrs. and kids), your own don done be dat, especially when you fall into the hands of a desperate rich one without ascertaining the level of love you both share.

Overall, it is not a bad idea as long as both love themselves so well. Whether father-in-law choose to sponsor the wedding or not is not a reason to desire a frustrated life.

We are all alternatives. Beauty only favours the Courageous. You approached a lady today but she may have wished Paul approached her and not you. Perhaps Paul was shy; since you are courageous to do that, she may later come to love you. At some point you were an alternative...

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twosquare:
I said take it easy...it is not everything in life person dey hold like iron, otherwise one will have HbP....pele pocohantas...Sometimes, it is not all opinions on NL you will react to...just walk (that would help), and please, refrain from insults, you can still drive your points without it...such doesn't befits you as a virtuous woman.

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Playing victim? Trash...

pocohantas:

The problem is the motive behind preaching that humans are commodities, even though I strongly disagree that humans are 'commodities'.

A man or woman shouldn't settle for less because he or she is old or not financially okay. As long as your desire in a dream partner isn't a fairytale one...there must be someone for you.

If a man isn't rich, there is a young woman out there that will love him for who he is. There are other things he could work on, that will make him more desirable. Advising him to go marry an old woman, not because he loves her but because he thinks she is a cheap commodity and has limited or no choice, makes no sense!
It is one of the reasons marriages fail! People are marrying for the wrong reasons!

The Nigerian dream is different my lady. The truth is if you are ready to choose, you should be ready to pay. Choice my dear is luxury. It doesn't come cheap. There is nothing desirable in a poor guy. His talks becomes noise, his vision impaired and his life span shorter. But he has something to leverage on. The defects in humanity. So a little patience may get him an affordable bride. Think less of the motive, the goal is to get married. Married he has become!

yomi007k:


Op is either an economist or a good businessman.


I hail thee..

Naaahhhh...I am none! But life is an art, business is also an art. You just have to be tactful, cautious and discrete to finish the race

CuteMorriz:
The Nigerian dream is different my lady. The truth is if you are ready to choose, you should be ready to pay. Choice my dear is luxury. It doesn't come cheap. There is nothing desirable in a poor guy. His talks becomes noise, his vision impaired and his life span shorter. But he has something to leverage on. The defects in humanity. So a little patience may get him an affordable bride. Think less of the motive, the goal is to get married. Married he has become!

No, the goal is not to get married.
The goal is to be happily married. Please, let's change the way we view marriage. If you have to be married, it should be worth.

There are so many things desirable in a man, things beyond money...
Look around you, you'll see so many poor and average families, they are even more than the rich ones, yet we see them pushing it.

I don't want any man marrying me because I am affordable. I don't want to marry any man out of pity too.

pocohantas:

Playing victim? Trash...

You think I'm against you? But true true, the post pain you...like i will say again...take things easy, and I just can't understand why you can't let go of the bitterness in your soul....o ga fun e o...mo tie n pe ni virtuous..oniranu

HQuadreal:

Abeg I no dey smoke ooo.

two sticks of lolly for my friend...

CuteMorriz:
two sticks of lolly for my friend...

Boss abeg ooo.
You wan kill person.

twosquare:
You think I'm against you? But true true, the post pain you...like i will say again...take things easy, and I just can't understand why you can't let go of the bitterness in your soul....o ga fun e o...mo tie n pe ni virtuous..oniranu

The moment you guys start this e dey pain you, I just know you are not very smart or capable of a logical argument. That's why I get angry when I see people say all men are logical. Which logical contribution have you given to this thread now!

Take a look at the OP's responses, if he happens to be broke...it's obvious he is smart. Then take a look at your responses...you're actually very petty for a man, I've not even insulted you and you call me oniranu...whatever that means? What can I hold on to in you now?

You'll still reply me, because you like to bandy words, but I'm done with you.

Happiness my dear is now a luxury only a handful can afford. No one can guarantee a happy marriage. Not even the one blessed by the Pope. The out come of any marriage is up to fate. The art of Manning up to get married despite the low income is what I have analysed. I am sorry to be the one to tell you this my lady before a guy will think of getting married to you, "Affordability" will not be out of the scope. Marrying out of pity is a choice my dear! As long as you have the bargaining power please make your choice.

CuteMorriz:
We are all commodities with a shelf life and a life span; believe it or not. What is the use of a ninety year old man to a hirer? As the day breaks we depreciate. Mentally, physically, emotionally and health-wise. I don't need to teach my kids anything!!! Even a daft person knows that they will definitely age and lose value someday...

. who ar u.. I think I nid to kno more of u... I love ur reasoning, love d way u portrayed it, n ur blunt responses... people ar always afraid of d truth... even an empty headed ninny knows we depreciate in every area once the peak has been reached... the more u grow d more value u loose... even, u loose memory space, cos some vital information tend to delete automatically in ur brain.... I STAND WIT U.... BRO!!!

Happiness my dear is now a luxury only a handful can afford. No one can guarantee a happy marriage. Not even the one blessed by the Pope. The out come of any marriage is up to fate. The art of Manning up to get married despite the low income is what I have analysed. I am sorry to be the one to tell you this my lady before a guy will think of getting married to you, "Affordability" will not be out of the scope. Marrying out of pity is a choice my dear! As long as you have the bargaining power please make your choice. @pocohantas

pocohantas:

The moment you guys start this e dey pain you, I just know you are not very smart or capable of a logical argument. That's why I get angry when I see people say all men are logical. Which logical contribution have you given to this thread now!

Take a look at the OP's responses, if he happens to be broke...it's obvious he is smart. Then take a look at your responses...you're actually very petty for a man, I've not even insulted you and you call me oniranu...whatever that means? What can I hold on to in you now?

You'll still reply me, because you like to bandy words, but I'm done with you.

You are actually oniranu...you like nonsense too much....And oh, you are the significant one who knows all...Op is entitled to his opinions, and in the world of academics, you argue with facts and counter arguments and not start with "something is wrong with you, Op"... That's why I called you Oniranu....Emi ko lo koba e, girl...You are not different---just like the folks also throwing tantrums on NL...and please, stop being so full of yourself...learn how to talk, then perhaps I can consider you...bye.

CuteMorriz:
Happiness my dear is now a luxury only a handful can afford. No one can guarantee a happy marriage. Not even the one blessed by the Pope. The out come of any marriage is up to fate. The art of Manning up to get married despite the low income is what I have analysed. I am sorry to be the one to tell you this my lady before a guy will think of getting married to you, "Affordability" will not be out of the scope. Marrying out of pity is a choice my dear! As long as you have the bargaining power please make your choice. @pocohantas

There are different perspective of affordability, you could see a slay queen with 100k Brazilian hair and steer clear...that's affordability too.

But marrying someone who is old,because you believe her people just want her out by all means is wrong!
No one has a guarantee of a happy marriage, but when you start on the very wrong foundation, you're bound to crash! Or the probability of crashing is higher!! I'm done on this.

Oh, sorry for saying something is wrong with you. You're actually a nice sensible guy, unlike 'the other one' who just replied again.

Craaaze dey give you bear hug!

pocohantas:

The problem is the motive behind preaching that humans are commodities, even though I strongly disagree that humans are 'commodities'.

A man or woman shouldn't settle for less because he or she is old or not financially okay. As long as your desire in a dream partner isn't a fairytale one...there must be someone for you.

If a man isn't rich, there is a young woman out there that will love him for who he is. There are other things he could work on, that will make him more desirable. Advising him to go marry an old woman, not because he loves her but because he thinks she is a cheap commodity and has limited or no choice, makes no sense!
It is one of the reasons marriages fail! People are marrying for the wrong reasons!

. my sister, pls stop living in a dream world... this is d kind of reasoning that's destroying us in Africa... u all kno d truth... its just dat u ar too afraid to make it sink... that is wy we all prefer going to spiritual organizations for miracles while we suppose to take d bull by d horn, wat is love.. in my experience, u can develop it towards who ever u want, so far u wanna do it... mind u, our great grand mamas Neva married their choices because their marriages then were match made... again if u ave it at d back of ur mind that someone will forever b out there for u.... hmmmm. Oyo is ur case ooo.. reach out out n make strong decisions...