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| My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by cherr(f): 7:28am On Apr 14, 2017 |
I am a 23 year old female and i have borderline personality disorder. I am ashamed to talk to anyone about it. I don't think therapy would work because I can't make a full sentence without telling lies. I am very manipulative, I only make friends with people I can benefit from. I can go to extreme lengths to get what I want which includes stealing,lying. I easily discard friends when I don't need them. I am good looking and people tend to love me easily but I don't treat them right. I have multiple sex partners just to feel loved. I am constantly afraid of getting dumped but I easily dump people. I have stolen multiple times from people especially my closest friend even her clothes I would later wear them in her presence and manipulate her into believing someone else did it. I am not poor or hungry. I don't know why I steal. I go as far as stealing pants and bras  . I can even steal N5 if I have 1 million in my account. The worse part of that I don't feel any remorse. I haven't gotten caught until recently (I am that good ) even when I got caught I still denied even though it was very obvious and still got out of it because I had a lot of people on my side.I feel emotions to the extreme, when I'm happy it feels like I'm high on cocaine and when I'm sad I feel suicidal I even make nasty cuts on my body  . If someone offends me I pretend to forgive them but I always make nasty revenge, my parents suffered this a lot,if I get beaten or scolded I make sure they fight, I even got my dad to kick out my mum multiple times. I feel sorry for the people who love and care about me. Sometimes I treat them like they are all I've got and other times I treat them like trash, I don't even know why they still stick around. I see a you as the most amazing person in the world today and the next day you are a worthless piece of shit.  I have experimented with hard drugs to escape from myself but it just made things worse. Sometimes I feel inferior and lack self confidence and other times I look down on people and make them feel like a nobody. I know I sound like a terrible person but I try as much as possible to be there for people and help them. I'm not stingy. I don't believe in God. There are a lot of things I didn't mention. Please is there anyone like me here? Kindly share and I need advice. Thanks 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by Tallesty1(m): 7:31am On Apr 14, 2017 |
cherr: 4 Likes
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| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by DrWellbeing: 8:04am On Apr 14, 2017 |
My dear lady,having read through about your dilemma I would want to advice you to go snd see a mental health doctor for diagnosis. If you need my help whatsapp me zero eight one eight seven seven eight eight eight seven seven four. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by KealDrogo: 8:05am On Apr 14, 2017 |
Op, you sound like some kinda emotional terrorist, manipulative and terrorizing everyone around you. even your parents are not left out. I will advise you continue taking that drugs you earlier stated on high dosage it might help at the long run . just My advice. 4 Likes
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| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by cherr(f): 8:15am On Apr 14, 2017 |
Please I need a serious advice and also support. My life is at stake here. 1 Like |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by diablos: 8:19am On Apr 14, 2017 |
cherr: What kind of advice or help are u looking for? |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by Vivly(f): 12:39pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
cherr:Are you in Nigeria? If you are, bear in my mind that if you're caught stealing, no one would run a psychological test on you before beating you blue black. This really doesn't sound like a disorder sha. Someone just forgot to flog you properly when you were a misbehaving little kid and now, you've carried that attitude into adulthood. 24 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by Nobody: 6:39pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
cherr: Can I give you e hugs?  What you feel is normal for people with borderline disorder. Drugs won't do anything but make it worse. I would suggest you continue with therapy and speak with your psychiatrist. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by sisisioge: 6:40pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
Dearlordinheaven! Thank God you are no where close to where I'm . Can't deal girl...can't deal. May God Himself cure your of this very very serious infection. It is well. |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by FriendNG: 7:13pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
I get your problem. You said u always lie. So how sure are we u are not lying in this write up. 12 Likes |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by cherr(f): 11:16pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
snapscore:Thank you so much. I know I need therapy but I'm too ashamed |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by OjayDavido(m): 12:48am On Apr 15, 2017 |
Swt hrt. U need JESUS. He's the only one dat can save U. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by nmreports: 1:24am On Apr 15, 2017 |
cherr: Sorry about your situation. It can be a terrible situation when you also feel helpless. My believe is that you will come out of all this naturally as you grow up. My only worry is not believing in God. God is worried about you and im sure he wants to help you. "Come to me all ye who labor and are heavily laden and I will give you rest". If you have to, I suggest you drop the shame and visit a therapist in Covenant University. Im not a member of the fold nor did I school there but I learnt they have awesome scientists there. Good luck. 9 Likes |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by Sunnylink(m): 5:19am On Apr 15, 2017 |
Op you are possess by unseen forces called demons, they control your emotion and determine your action and inaction. They have hijack your brain. You need to be deliver. You have go to a Bible believing church. Deeper life are in the camp for easter RETRICT now! you can join them and seek the attention of one of their cordinator and explain your condition to him/her. OR you can join The Redeemed Christain Church of God (RCCG) THE LORD CHOSEN, or SCOAN etc. You will be deliver and lead to CHRIST. 1 Like |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by Nobody: 6:54am On Apr 15, 2017 |
cherr: What's making you feel ashamed dear? There shouldn't be any shame in going for treatment. You know, mental illnesses are just similar to physical illnesses. Just as no one feels ashamed for going to the doctor for diabetes, no one should feel ashamed for going to the doctor for a mental illness. You have already recognized the need for therapy and I commend you for that (not everyone can do that). So what's holding you back treatment? 4 Likes |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by AskAwayHealth: 3:36pm On Apr 15, 2017 |
cherr: Hello Cherr. It's not easy to open up about your problems and seek for advice like you've done. There is a mixture of different issues here and they may be all connected. You say you have been silent on other problems you have, but from your post, I have identified the following: 1. Impulse control Disorder specifically Kleptomania; defined as “the inability to refrain from the urge for stealing items and is usually done for reasons other than personal use or financial gain” 2. Behavioural Problems 3. Drug Misuse 4. Low Self esteem 5. Erratic or unstable Mood Behavioural patterns which you have described here that are manipulative or self-destructive may have been learned in response to an abusive situation at some point in the past. Low self-esteem can be at the root of the behaviour where you’ve been ‘dumping other people’ and engaged in multiple sexual health partners to satisfy a need to be loved. Low self-esteem and feeling that you are not good enough (in spite of being attractive) may also be as a result of Mood problems or childhood abuse. Drug misuse on its own can lead to behavioural problems, low self-esteem, depression, other mood problems and several other complications – so no surprises then that it’s made no difference to your situation. A correct diagnosis coupled with treatment (may include medication and counselling) would provide you the way forward to manage this condition. I would recommend you seek the help of a good psychiatrist in the first instance. Then the problems can be properly categorised and the appropriate treatment sought. Support from friends and family would be great, but don’t let the absence of either stop you. Complete strangers have been known to help someone in need. You've taken a step forward already. The biggest shame would be in not giving yourself an opportunity to get better and make the most of your life. Stay Well. 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by cherr(f): 4:05pm On Apr 15, 2017 |
[quote author=AskAwayHealth Behavioural patterns which you have described here that are manipulative or self-destructive may have been learned in response to an abusive situation at some point in the past. Low self-esteem and feeling that you are not good enough (in spite of being attractive) may also be as a result of Mood problems or childhood abuse. [/quote] Thank you so much. Yes I was sexually abused as a child by a close relative and when I finally opened up I was blamed for it. My parents accused me of "enjoying it" and the taunts went on for years |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by WebSurfer(m): 8:21pm On Apr 15, 2017 |
cherr:where are you from ? |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by Nobody: 10:51pm On Apr 15, 2017 |
Hi OP, You need serious psychotherapy. I wish you well. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by gozzlin: 11:15pm On Apr 15, 2017 |
Babe, lemme tell you. what you need is deliverance and you'll be free from all the misery. I know you don't believe in God, but He is the only one who can set you free from this excruciating burden. Trust me on this. 1 Like |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by PlayerMeji: 9:46am On Apr 16, 2017 |
cherr: I dont know, but you sound so much like my GF!! |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by cherr(f): 10:47am On Apr 16, 2017 |
1 Like |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by Nellychinma20(f): 2:29pm On Apr 16, 2017 |
I think u need psychotherapy 2 Likes |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by AskAwayHealth: 2:54pm On Apr 16, 2017 |
[quote author=cherr post=55594097][/quote] Cherr, You're welcome. Just my initial thoughts based on what you shared but its important to start working things out and I hope you find the services of a good mental health professional soon. Best Wishes. |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by Nobody: 11:44pm On Apr 22, 2017 |
Are you related to Eric?  I have met lot of girls with bipolar disorder but your case. You need psych evaluation. |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by jaxxy(m): 4:01pm On Apr 23, 2017 |
Cherr i read all u said and i think sm people hv already given u good advice bt to add to that or my personal opinion is u simply need love, care and attention dats all.. cos i see u didn't get alot of that growing up with all d things u had to face and Sm of ur actions now it just ur way of dealing with those issues and getting over them the best way u cud.(like a defence mechanism of sm type) bt u hv 2 gradually let go and grow out of this and become somebody better cos ure a much better person than this i can tell. A problem shared is half solved so thanks 4 sharing. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by atilla(m): 6:08pm On Jun 18, 2017 |
Uve taken two very important steps im the healing process which are knowing theres a problem and asking for help. You meed to still ne strong. Go amd seek help physically is also a step. Im a church or at a hospital with a psychiatrist thos is also importnt and might not be easy. Tell the people around you about the issue. I wosh i the best in your health dear |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by slayking(m): 10:38am On Jul 04, 2017 |
Cherr how are you doing? |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by krushdripper(m): 4:34pm On Jul 21, 2017 |
Do the world a favour and jump off a cliff. 1 Like |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by bellong: 5:38am On Oct 11, 2017 |
cherr: You actually need a therapy. You need the service of a psychologist who will evaluate where you are at the personality disorder spectrum before considering the type of therapy you need. You can google cognitive behavioral therapy online for materials. Read and digest them. You can start from there. How was your upbringing like? What are your parents' parenting style? The relationship between the principal caregiver (which are usually the parents for those who are not orphans) and the child is part of what aggravates this disorder. |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by bellong: 5:39am On Oct 11, 2017 |
Rasmega: A bipolar disorder is completely different from a personality disorder. |
| Re: My Mental Health Is Ruining My Life!!!! by Funjosh(m): 6:24am On Oct 11, 2017 |
This is serious |
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