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. by Zilifish(op): 8:02pm On Apr 26, 2017*

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Re: . by BlackDBagba: 8:05pm On Apr 26, 2017

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Re: . by tripplephi: 8:06pm On Apr 26, 2017

bros when u were dating her didnt you see the signs? or were you BLIND in love?
How long did you wait in courtship before marriage?
Since you have done the trad, then you are already married, hence before you go ahead to traditional.... kindly talk with her and find a reasonable ground for agreement o... tell her "YOU NOT GIRL I USED TO KNOW, YOU'RE A SHADOW OF YOURSELF"

IF IT CAN NOT BE RESOLVED THREATEN TO END IT ALL COS ITS BETTER NOW THAN NEVER.... before a child comes in and forces you to commit, BE WISE

Zilifish:
I did traditional wedding some months ago now i learnt that any single quarell my wife tells her people. Now this brings resentments btw her siblings and me.

My mum and siblings some times send her stuff and she never calls to say thanks. We planning our white wedding now. We argue at every thing and she never sees shes wrong. Im always hurt. She is from a rich island home...im not doing so badly but am average sha but things havent been moving so well. Does she miss her fathers house? shud i still go on...well iv done trad sha....never knew marraige was like this... i miss my bachelorhood so much

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Re: . by Alennsar(f): 8:06pm On Apr 26, 2017

eyah sorry op . d advisers are coming

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Re: . by TITOBIGZ(m): 8:06pm On Apr 26, 2017

Don't worry OP,both of u will grow old 2geda,HML in advance. grin

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Re: . by millyj(f): 8:07pm On Apr 26, 2017

Oga relax,been married takes alot of patience

Re: . by gabinogem(m): 8:07pm On Apr 26, 2017

In your world, your happiness comes first. A sad mind can never make someone else happy. Marriage shouldn't be a do or die affair. cool

Re: . by Zilifish(op): 8:14pm On Apr 26, 2017

Nawa o

Re: . by delishpot: 8:14pm On Apr 26, 2017

Well, you married a bad wife.joke aside, Did you break anyone's heart to marry her? Plus, what causes the disagreement between you guys? Are you domineering? We need to know more to give better judgement.

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Re: . by Zilifish(op): 8:18pm On Apr 26, 2017

delishpot:
Well, you married a bad wife.joke aside, Did you break anyone's heart to marry her? Plus, what causes the disagreement between you guys? Are you domineering? We need to know more to give better judgement.

Yes i broke someones heart to marry her...quite sad. My ex wasnt from my tribe so my parents didnt want her and failed to support me. I also didnt date my wife for long..just tired mehn

Re: . by thesicilian: 8:19pm On Apr 26, 2017

Alennsar:
eyah sorry op . d advisers are coming

lol. These are many advisers here really.

Re: . by delishpot: 8:21pm On Apr 26, 2017

Zilifish:
Yes i broke someones heart to marry her...quite sad. My ex wasnt from my tribe so my parents didnt want her and failed to support me. I also didnt date my wife for long..just tired mehn

I knew it. It always happens like that. Sorry bro na karma. Oya tell your ex "ori" sorry and then have a heart to heart with your wife hopefully, with time, you guys would settle into the routine called marriage

Re: . by Nobody: 8:28pm On Apr 26, 2017

delishpot:
I knew it. It always happens like that. Sorry bro na karma. Oya tell your ex "ori" sorry and then have a heart to heart with your wife hopefully, with time, you guys would settle into the routine called marriage

Lol so african magic like...zilifish no mind am... huh

Just chill and discuss ok?

Re: . by TheeDetective: 8:29pm On Apr 26, 2017*

@OP you seem to be the same person in this thread below as your story is so identical. Anyway if it is not you, then go through that thread and pick reasonable advise given there.

https://www.nairaland.com/3710027/should-break-off-engagement-go

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Re: . by delishpot: 8:30pm On Apr 26, 2017

obitee69:
Lol so african magic like...zilifish no mind am... Just chill and discuss ok?

Haha! For real mehn grin

Re: . by Nobody: 8:32pm On Apr 26, 2017

TheeDetective:
@OP you seem to be the same person in this thread below as your story is so identical. Anyway if it is not you, then go through that thread and pick reasonable advise give there.

https://www.nairaland.com/3710027/should-break-off-engagement-go

Re: . by Nobody: 8:32pm On Apr 26, 2017

[quote author=TheeDetective post=55948326]@OP you seem to be the same person in this thread below as your story is so identical. Anyway if it is not you, then go through that thread and pick reasonable .

Re: . by delishpot: 8:34pm On Apr 26, 2017

obitee69:
Not me bro

OP, would she talk to someone? I can arrange someone(counselor ) to have a skype vid conference with both of you. If you guys dont mind

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Re: . by Afam4eva(m): 8:36pm On Apr 26, 2017

Zilifish:
I did traditional wedding some months ago now i learnt that any single quarell my wife tells her people. Now this brings resentments btw her siblings and me.

My mum and siblings some times send her stuff and she never calls to say thanks. We planning our white wedding now. We argue at every thing and she never sees shes wrong. Im always hurt. She is from a rich island home...im not doing so badly but am average sha but things havent been moving so well. Does she miss her fathers house? shud i still go on...well iv done trad sha....never knew marraige was like this... i miss my bachelorhood so much

Did you guys not court before getting married and did you not see theese signs but ignored them. Yes, you married a really bad wife and your life is going to be hell for the next few days. She has only started. She's one of those people that will bring her family for a fight. If it's possible to run, my brother remove your slippers and run as far as you can. Don't listen to the "for better or for worse". Embrace "For worse for go".

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Re: . by femolacqua(m): 8:52pm On Apr 26, 2017

Just one important question I wanna ask, is that did you not see the handwriting on the wall from day one.

Re: . by TheeDetective: 8:56pm On Apr 26, 2017

Are you the same person as Zilifish?

obitee69:
Not me bro

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Re: . by delishpot: 9:18pm On Apr 26, 2017

TheeDetective:
Are you the same person as Zilifish?

BUSTED!

Re: . by madone: 9:53pm On Apr 26, 2017

Zilifish:
Yes i broke someones heart to marry her...quite sad. My ex wasnt from my tribe so my parents didnt want her and failed to support me. I also didnt date my wife for long..just tired mehn

no no no dont take ur mind to that side out all. Whether u break one heart or not is not the issue.No body has the right to cast spell on ur marriage becos u no do again. Face the problem and solve it quick. Sit that girl down and talk sense to her head and let jer talk sense into ur head too. Cos from what i see u two re not ready for marriage. I read where u talked about ur mum buying things for her and she no say thank you. And she reporting matters to her family. I think the pressure of ur families are too much on u guys. They need to back off so una fit face una lmarriage well.if possible propone the white wedding till u guys re calm

Re: . by madone: 9:53pm On Apr 26, 2017

Zilifish:
Yes i broke someones heart to marry her...quite sad. My ex wasnt from my tribe so my parents didnt want her and failed to support me. I also didnt date my wife for long..just tired mehn

Re: . by TheeDetective: 10:05pm On Apr 26, 2017

delishpot:
BUSTED!

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Re: . by Nobody: 10:11pm On Apr 26, 2017

Zilifish:
I did traditional wedding some months ago now i learnt that any single quarell my wife tells her people. Now this brings resentments btw her siblings and me.

My mum and siblings some times send her stuff and she never calls to say thanks. We planning our white wedding now. We argue at every thing and she never sees shes wrong. Im always hurt. She is from a rich island home...im not doing so badly but am average sha but things havent been moving so well. Does she miss her fathers house? shud i still go on...well iv done trad sha....never knew marraige was like this... i miss my bachelorhood so much

Its not because she's from a Rich family. There are ladies who never agree that they are wrong. And will never apologize for anything. You Dom enter the boat already. Sail safe.

Re: . by NaeChris: 10:15pm On Apr 26, 2017

millyj:
Oga relax,been married takes alot of patience

''A LOT of patience'' For those that make the wrong choice.

Re: . by tonio2wo: 11:44pm On Apr 26, 2017

Marriage is not a bed of roses! Endure!

U don enter, u don enter!!

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