₦airaland Forum

PaperLace:
I am sure people insulting him didn't read his write up_they read only the heading, but it's normal for Nairalanders .

Truth is bitter, very bitter...
He was a bit hard, went off at some point but he made some sense.

Modified: Before insulting, take your time to read the post without bias. Forget he is gay, sieve out his message_then comment. If you still don't get the message, then you need to walk in the shoes of some Nigerian first sons/daughters.

This set of people labour for years training their younger ones(that may number up to 4) and helping out their parents too. The guys most times would keep on struggling to please his family, pausing his own life. He might finally get married and start his own family in his mid-late 30s.
The ladies sometimes move on to get married, the innocent son-inlaw might end up carrying unnecessary expenses.

Everyone should make plans for his/her retirement. Don't be overly independent on your kids. Some kids will give, some might not even have to give, some will totally disappoint you...it happens.
It's clearly stated that if you have _give, but don't fall for emotional blackmails aimed at ripping you off. But then _the black man doesn't read.

gypsey:
I agree %5000000 Absolutely! correct!

Fuckallmods:
Cristiano Ronaldo wishes he has a dad, cos now he has money but doesn't have a dad. You don't value what you have until you want to/lose them.
I WILL DO ANYTHING FOR MY MOTHER.let him know he'll be forgotten also by his children

Funkybabee:
Are u a Lady or guy self? do you pray to work and have no gain.

if NO,what u are talking about here is totally nonsense. And don't quote me back if u don't have sensible thing to say!!! because I wish ur parents can see what u wrote down here and also when ur mate children is buying good thing for their parents none will come from ur own yours and see how it feels

nobody on earth lay their hand on business and don't want positive results, we came here to sell and gain do u understand.

alezzy13:
With the number of illiterates on this thread who reason with their ASSS, it shouldn't really surprise you the backlash you're getting.

Don't be surprised its the same set who see nothing wrong with a very poor couple having 9 children afterall, "its their right to have children!!", then only able to train just the first two and then pass the burden of the remaining 7 children to them. I have seen countless examples and find it highly nauseating. IT is the height of irresponsibility.

RealHaute:
PaperLace, you know math. And maybe lace....and paper; but you don't know life. You best believe it.

eyinjuege:
Every parent should have a plan for their old age and not rely on their children, for their children are also human and can always disappoint you at any time.
Raise your children right, do your best for them, but also have a retirement plan, and not rely on them. Invest in yourself and your old age. Have only the no of children you can afford to raise, and at the same time save for your old age.
Some children will support their parents, some won't. Some parents will still continue to support their children who are married depending on the size of their pockets, No size fits all. Family dynamics differ.

alezzy13:
With the number of illiterates on this thread who reason with their ASSS, it shouldn't really surprise you the backlash you're getting.

Don't be surprised its the same set who see nothing wrong with a very poor couple having 9 children afterall, "its their right to have children!!", then only able to train just the first two and then pass the burden of the remaining 7 children to them. I have seen countless examples and find it highly nauseating. IT is the height of irresponsibility.

Odkosh:
wetin this one dey yern?

OfficialNNB:
Nigerian gay activist, Bisi Alimi, has written an epistle telling Nigerians that
I understand that the system is bleeped, pension money is being embezzled by stupid greedy politicians, the same ones you worship and bow to, and there is no guarantee for old age, but Bleep, the system won't fix itself. If you don't resist, you will be consumed.

Litmus:
The Nigeria culture of children taking care of their parents in old age is the right one to adopt. The West is finding this out now as the population ratio of old/young skews in favour of the old. Uk care homes are currently overburdened with aged abandoned by their families to the public or state care. Ironically, as Africa abandons her cultural values in favour of adopting Western ones, the West increasingly turns to Asia to learn values wich are actually more prevalent in Africa, especially Nigeria. In England right now the prevailing mood in regards to this issue is one of overwhelming praise for the so-called Indian values of parental care. Anyone capable of gaining access to do so should visit care homes and witness first hand the pathetic, pathetic existences of old people. The experience would soon show them the irresponsible, naive and dated nature of this individual, Bisis Alimis's suggestions.


Nigerians should continue to value their cultural ways, don't abandon them in favour of the culture of others, they are not always right and we always wrong.

PaperLace:
You actually made no sense dear, but I guess in your emotional state_ you failed to notice.
Take a cue from Solomon, when next God asks what you want, ask for wisdom. He would give you great wisdom and exceeding UNDERSTANDING. You obviously lack the latter.


Very nauseating. If you wanna hide something from a black man, put it in a book. They don't read, when they do_ they read without understanding. Then comment with sentiments...

Here is a realist!!

OfficialNNB:
Nigerian gay activist, Bisi Alimi, has written an epistle telling Nigerians that it is not their responsibility to take care of their parents, neither is it the right of their parents. According to him, a child owes his/her parent nothing, as he/she never begged them to have sex.

He went further to disclose that a child, is not an old age pension scheme. He went further to tell Nigerians not to succumb to emotional blackmail from their parents, or they will milk them dry.

Here's what he wrote;

"Nigerians, doomed financial vicious circle is when your parents brought you up so you can be their cow to milk, while you look forward to doing same to your children.
I understand that the system is bleeped, pension money is being embezzled by stupid greedy politicians, the same ones you worship and bow to, and there is no guarantee for old age, but Bleep, the system won't fix itself. If you don't resist, you will be consumed.


The idea that it is the responsibility of the struggling young to take care of the struggling old is a myth sold to you by the corrupt politicians who have stolen the resources of your commonwealth.


Remember, one rich man among 100 poor men will eventually end up being poor.
You only have two commitments in life; yourself and your children and that's until they are old enough to be kicked out of the house.

You do not, I repeat, you do not owe your parents any pay back unless you are still living with them, which means get the Bleep out or start paying rent and bills.

Remember, you didn't beg them to have sex, they wanted to have children, it's their choice, you should not be their old age pension scheme.
Only do it if you can and have the resources to, but even with that, know the limit or they will emotionally blackmail you and milk you dry."

alezzy13:
read slowly and youll understand

ehix89:
He is trying to say we as youth shouldn't have the same Fvcked mentality as our parents did which I think he is so so right, he just opened my eyes, we learn everyday

Siscooh:
Be careful!!! God is watching. Don't be part of his sin.

ehix89:
He is gay doesn't mean he is brain-dead bro, see I love and cater for my parents even when its not convenient for me, I know their struggles in getting me were i'm now, I will never ever despise them....then I ask myself the question do I want my future kids to struggle to take care of me even when they don't have the means to, then comes my answer its a capital No, what then should I do, I'll try to secure my Old age as much as I can, give my children the best of I can, free them the burden of taking care of my and face their life squarely, therein I have successfully found a balance....Bro we learn everyday

PaperLace:
I am sure people insulting him didn't read his write up_they read only the heading, but it's normal for Nairalanders .

Truth is bitter, very bitter...
He was a bit hard, went off at some point but he made some sense.

Modified: Before insulting, take your time to read the post without bias. Forget he is gay, sieve out his message_then comment. If you still don't get the message, then you need to walk in the shoes of some Nigerian first sons/daughters.

This set of people labour for years training their younger ones(that may number up to 4) and helping out their parents too. The guys most times would keep on struggling to please his family, pausing his own life. He might finally get married and start his own family in his mid-late 30s.
The ladies sometimes move on to get married, the innocent son-inlaw might end up carrying unnecessary expenses.

Everyone should make plans for his/her retirement. Don't be overly independent on your kids. Some kids will give, some might not even have to give, some will totally disappoint you...it happens.
It's clearly stated that if you have _give, but don't fall for emotional blackmails aimed at ripping you off. But then _the black man doesn't read.

donsiqua:
Bastard son of a thousand fathers.

OfficialNNB:
Nigerian gay activist, Bisi Alimi, has written an epistle telling Nigerians that it is not their responsibility to take care of their parents, neither is it the right of their parents. According to him, a child owes his/her parent nothing, as he/she never begged them to have sex.

He went further to disclose that a child, is not an old age pension scheme. He went further to tell Nigerians not to succumb to emotional blackmail from their parents, or they will milk them dry.

Here's what he wrote;

"Nigerians, doomed financial vicious circle is when your parents brought you up so you can be their cow to milk, while you look forward to doing same to your children.
I understand that the system is bleeped, pension money is being embezzled by stupid greedy politicians, the same ones you worship and bow to, and there is no guarantee for old age, but Bleep, the system won't fix itself. If you don't resist, you will be consumed.


The idea that it is the responsibility of the struggling young to take care of the struggling old is a myth sold to you by the corrupt politicians who have stolen the resources of your commonwealth.


Remember, one rich man among 100 poor men will eventually end up being poor.
You only have two commitments in life; yourself and your children and that's until they are old enough to be kicked out of the house.

You do not, I repeat, you do not owe your parents any pay back unless you are still living with them, which means get the Bleep out or start paying rent and bills.

Remember, you didn't beg them to have sex, they wanted to have children, it's their choice, you should not be their old age pension scheme.
Only do it if you can and have the resources to, but even with that, know the limit or they will emotionally blackmail you and milk you dry."

This bisi alimi guy is officially insane na zoo him suppose dey.