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Hello Nairalanders,
I usually dont bring relationship matters into social media platforms like this, but this one I think is bigger than me and my ancestors so i need your advice.
Last night Wednesday May 10th after the Champions League game, I was on phone with my very good friend who lives few blocks away. earlier in the morning I had congratulated him after his relationship status changed from single to being in a relationship with his long term girlfriend.
During our cause of discussion i asked him why he out-rightly denied the girl in the post. You know how facebook behaves, showing you status to friends and friends, na so the congratulation also many for the guy wall.
He told me that when he saw the post he was very happy that his girlfriend had finally decided to have a change of attitude. I have known them for more than 3 years, and they have been living happily, in fact I envied their relationship and took it as a model for mine.
After much pressure on him, he explained to me that a friend to his girlfriend took her phone and changed her status to being in a relationship, when the notification stated coming he checked and called her girlfriend only to be told it was a mistake and she later changed it to single, but the notification and tagging was already there.
He further told me that since he has been dating his girl, she has never introduced him to her friends (both male and female because she keeps lots of male friends) as boyfriend rather "meet my friend."
He had earlier told me he wanted to officially meet the girls parent this month after officially introducing her to his family, but now he is confused if the girl is only taking him as an option, while all his walls both facebook and at home is filled with the girl's photo.
I tried advising him last night but I also need your thought on this. Should he continue with the relationship or take her also as a fiend with benefit?
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A bit about the girl.
I have known her to be very religious, so also holds position in her fellowship at school. But she sleeps with this guy, they are everything lovers should be, but the issue is she has never introduced him to anyone especially in school as my boyfriend.

I will draw alot of girls to myself including her friends and if she complains about it, I'll tell her they don't know we are dating so it's her fault for hiding the relationship status.

Alternatively, I'll deny her too in the presence of friends esp girls

ikbnice:
I will draw alot of girls to myself including her friends and if she complains about it, I'll tell her they don't know we are dating so it's her fault for hiding the relationship status.

Alternatively, I'll deny her too in the presence of friends esp girls

Thanks a lot ikbnice. I also thought as much, but he is a guy that doesnt like cheating due to personal experience and he wants to settle down.

why would I fail to introduce bae as my babe to friends except I'm cheating openly with another girl.

Thats not fair.


But my Ex usually introduce me to her friends as "My husband"
But for my mind I be like, when I marry you.
Duhhhh

Im fine with it...its NOT a big deal..i wud prefer that way i guess were in a lowkey publicly but were on fire inside somewhere around the house

There's no point even he will tell everyone u are his wife but all his friends knows he is shiiting on your head..

....

IamAirforce1:
Thats not fair.


But my Ex usually introduce me to her friends as "My husband"
But for my mind I be like, when I marry you.
Duhhhh

Lol. I gues most guys are just afraid of that "my husband" ish.

gsogbu:
Lol. I gues most guys are just afraid of that "my husband" ish.

I ain't comfortable with her calling me her husband
But I just gotta smile so she no feel embarrassed.

TrapQueen77:




Im fine with it...its NOT a big deal..i wud prefer that way i guess were in a lowkey publicly but were on fire inside somewhere around the house

There's no point even he will tell everyone u are his wife but all his friends knows he is shiiting on your head..

Well the guy thinks she might be cheating thats why she didnt want to make it publicly in other to hide her religiosity.
Trapqueen77, did you think the guy should go on with the introduction?

You said she very religious and holds a position in her school fellowship.

I guess that is most likely the reason why she introduces her boyfriend as 'just friend'.

You already said she holds position in her fellowship, so you don't expect her to introduce the guy as his boyfriend cos 'boyfriendism' is prohibited in the Christian faith.. And probably she doesn't want to scare off potential husbands cos even your friend might give up on her anytime..

I think the girl actually changed the status herself not her friend but the guy's call made her reverse it.

Lastly, your guy should do the needful and officially meet the parents (if he has the means o) so he can enter the 'fiance' Zone that he is yearning for.

a bleeped up child is like excessive drug

At least that will let you know your place soon enough. It's left for you to use your head.




I guess she wants to be seen as pure. LMAO All this Christian sisters go dey hide dey collect knack. The people she is hiding you from fit even be grand masters for knacking. If she can not use the term 'boyfriend ' why not introduce you as someone she is in a relationship with? Your bae should be a people pleaser and pretender

Punch him in his fu*ckn throat.

She can introduce me as her classmate, I care not as long as I am getting what I need from her.

I rarely invest emotionally in a relationship so I hardly get hurt.

gsogbu:
Well the guy thinks she might be cheating thats why she didnt want to make it publicly in other to hide her religiosity.
Trapqueen77, did you think the guy should go on with the introduction?

Its all up to ur friend if he is really serious abt her then he can meet her parents sha but if he's still doubt, he always have an options anyway.

Relationships get plenty wahala ehn, no wonder some folks wanna stay single till someone serious comes along..

pls where do they apply for such friends cus i need one asap.

TrapQueen77:
Its all up to ur friend if he is really serious abt her then he can meet her parents sha but if he's still doubt, he always have an options anyway.

Ok, thanks

schumastic:
pls where do they apply for such friends cus i need one asap.

lol maybe you should go to a school fellowship since they pretend a lot there.

Kondomatic:
She can introduce me as her classmate, I care not as long as I am getting what I need from her.

I rarely invest emotionally in a relationship so I hardly get hurt.

I think the guy is really ready to settle down. But he is not sure yet.

bunnae:
At least that will let you know your place soon enough. It's left for you to use your head.




I guess she wants to be seen as pure. LMAO All this Christian sisters go dey hide dey collect knack. The people she is hiding you from fit even be grand masters for knacking. If she can not use the term 'boyfriend ' why not introduce you as someone she is in a relationship with? Your bae should be a people pleaser and pretender

Thanks, maybe I'll speak to both of them concerning this.

gsogbu:
lol maybe you should go to a school fellowship since they pretend a lot there.

am attending one right now but the ladies in my class are all taken, so a just waiting in line, maybe one will agree even if is side dude we don't mind, cus I have 10 years experience and i can do the job very well, I won't even complain at all.

schumastic:
am attending one right now but the ladies in my class are all taken, so a just waiting in line, maybe one will agree even if is side dude we don't mind, cus I have 10 years experience and i can do the job very well, I won't even complain at all.

Hmmm, 10 years experience and you never marry! You be executive bachelor o

Omonoba1:
You already said she holds position in her fellowship, so you don't expect her to introduce the guy as his boyfriend cos 'boyfriendism' is prohibited in the Christian faith.. And probably she doesn't want to scare off potential husbands cos even your friend might give up on her anytime..

I think the girl actually changed the status herself not her friend but the guy's call made her reverse it.

Lastly, your guy should do the needful and officially meet the parents (if he has the means o) so he can enter the 'fiance' Zone that he is yearning for.

So pastors who get married to their wives eventually didn't date abi?

I won't have a problem with it.

What of the ones that introduce you as "my wife", his friends will be calling you "our wife", whereas he be bending several chicks in your absence.

Or the ones that call you their girlfriend, but you know nothing about what's happening around them or in their lives.

Abeg, all na title.
He should be true to me, that's all.

TrapQueen77:




Im fine with it...its NOT a big deal..i wud prefer that way i guess were in a lowkey publicly but were on fire inside somewhere around the house

There's no point even he will tell everyone u are his wife but all his friends knows he is shiiting on your head..

omg! Those boobs!

TrapQueen77:




Im fine with it...its NOT a big deal..i wud prefer that way i guess were in a lowkey publicly but were on fire inside somewhere around the house

There's no point even he will tell everyone u are his wife but all his friends knows he is shiiting on your head..

anytime i see your moniker, my dick salutes,,

IamAirforce1:
Thats not fair.


But my Ex usually introduce me to her friends as "My husband"
But for my mind I be like, when I marry you.
Duhhhh

do you mind having a collabor with me before the year runs out?

Naughtytboy:
do you mind having a collabor with me before the year runs out?

If you're for real

Naughtytboy:
anytime i see your moniker, my dick salutes,,

Hahahahaa...show me that D that salute or else i wont believe it