Egohunter:
Being an introvert doesn't mk u less sharp. U were nt sensitive to ur environment n u also don't need to lk some1 to work wt dem. Don't blame it on aw u were brot up

I second you sir, she needs to work on her confidence and all.

I am introvert and am ashamed sef,we are not dull like that.

wkkwl:


I second you sir, she needs to work on her confidence and all.

I am introvert and am ashamed sef,we are not dull like that.

Blaming their inability to survive on their own personality n av d guts to back it up wt excuses, playing d blame game n nt seeing their limitations as der own creation... Ds ar d youths dat will rant on twitter tomorrow . i weep fr una

I relate to this topic but being an introvert isn't really the issue, so when you are called for an interview read well about the organization, study the common interview questions it gives you confidence during the interview. It worked for me & I'm a quiet type of person who hardly kick-start a conversation. It takes me a long while to get acquainted to people, I usually like isolation because I feel like that's self-respect, I don't care what people think or say about me but I put my best in everything I am doing

This is interesting. First, I think being an introvert should not stop one from getting a good job, though some jobs are more suitable for extroverts than introverts.

We can all improve who we are though we can hardly change who we are.

I have discovered we have to consciously go out of our normal way and learn some social skills. It will be very difficult for a start.

Reading of some books too like 'why you act the way you do' by Tim Layahe will significant help anyone that want to improve.

tyreal:
And the funniest part is it's always showing on my face dat am an introvert... Even wen am trying to hide it... But wen am with my friends and family am a troublemaker...i can only be free with som1 I ve full trust for...

lol.. I can relate to that showing on the face thing.

Donald3d:
Be a freaking freelancer, I aint working for anyone no more. Especially that carrying a bag of a thing,wetin concern person wey dey IT department with carrying your bag from your car,wetin do your hand. And the eye service the other employees doo, arrrgh.I am sticking with freelance .

Show me the way bro, I'm willing to learn. [I] Want to be a freelancer, too.

Dynamite02:

Thank you o!!! You nailed it.
Shyness and introversion are not the same thing,an introvert can adopt an extroverted demeanour when the occasion calls for it and then recharge in solitude.
Shyness on the other hand is fear of social disapproval or humiliation,while introversion
is a preference for environments that are not stimulating. An introvert stays home from a party out of preference but a shy person out of fear.

You know, i have been trying to define these two words and finding where i fit in.
I for a person cannot hold a conversation no matter what. I can't even with my parents, brothers or sisters. I find it difficult to find what to say.
Also, i have had some few female friends but they all left because i don't keep conv. with them.
Well looking at women's eyes are a big problem i avoid them because as soon as i do, i have negative thoughts.
Now i cant tell if this is shyness or introversion. I can hardly stop someone one the road be it a guy or a girl.
And what the Bleep, one of my friend always tell me that my talks don't have meanings although my Father told me that i can say what ever i want to say that is on my mind. But socially, i don't fit in a group nor do i like going out.
It kills slowly sha.

wkkwl:


I second you sir, she needs to work on her confidence and all.

I am introvert and am ashamed sef,we are not dull like that.

Agreed which is exactly what am doing; but dont call me dull cos am not. If you had read carefully you would notice its was the pressure of the moment and besides was i suppose to shout back at her,get your facts right before jumping to conclusion. I might be an introvert but doesnt mean i am a dullard. Besides if i was a dullard i wont have gotten any job(without any connection just my brain) after my nysc which i finished not more than 6month ago when i was not the only candidate. I am pretty good at acting and presenting just dont like to show myself, like i dont like too much attention. I prefer being alone and reflect on things.

pkang:


You know, i have been trying to define these two words and finding where i fit in.
I for a person cannot hold a conversation no matter what. I can't even with my parents, brothers or sisters. I find it difficult to find what to say.
Also, i have had some few female friends but they all left because i don't keep conv. with them.
Well looking at women's eyes are a big problem i avoid them because as soon as i do, i have negative thoughts.
Now i cant tell if this is shyness or introversion. I can hardly stop someone one the road be it a guy or a girl.
And what the Bleep, one of my friend always tell me that my talks don't have meanings although my Father told me that i can say what ever i want to say that is on my mind. But socially, i don't fit in a group nor do i like going out.
It kills slowly sha.

Introverts feel energised when they are alone,they yearn for alone time....while shy people often desperately want to connect with others, but don't know how or can't tolerate the anxiety that comes with human interaction.
Shyness is when someone feels awkward or apprehensive when being approached or trying to approach other people,like you've explained in your post. So I'll say your problem is shyness.
My advice: Tell yourself you can change..it is not a disease but a "trait" and can be changed,set it as a goal that everything you mentioned there,you are going to do the opposite. Confide in someone close to you that can assist you, someone that can roll with you ( crash parties,attend events,seminars,conferences,trade fairs ,exhibitions etc),read books,go on google and type "dealing with shyness" there are 1001 suggestions there ,take practical steps, with time you'll see positive results.
Caution : Too much of everything is bad e.g over confidence is bad..everything should be balanced.

roik:

Being an Introvert Can Help in your Job - Experiences


I realized I was an introvert around the same time I started my first job. The relief of finally acknowledging my introversion was offset by my concern that it would hold me back in my job and prevent me from reaching the level of success I desired. When looking for a job, I noticed the emphasis firms placed on soft skills such as communication, networking, and teamwork—qualities I associated more strongly with extroverts. However, over the next year, as my confidence and familiarity with work grew, I realized that being an introvert was not a disadvantage at all but, rather, something I could use as a strength.

When it comes to working with others, networking, and communicating, introverts can often take a less conventional approach but one which leads to meaningful business relationships and creative solutions to problems.

Here’s what my first year of work taught me about how introverts can “take back” qualities more usually linked to extroverts:

Introverts can remain calm. Busy work environments create stressed employees, which reduces productivity and causes tempers to fray. Although introverts can be accused of lacking vigor, their subdued demeanor is actually beneficial when it comes to problem-solving and overcoming challenges in a demanding setting.
Introverts provide balance and diversity. Companies are waking up to the benefits of a diverse workforce, and this diversity should extend to the extroversion-introversion spectrum. The thoughtful and calm approach provided by introverts can act as a positive check on the more zealous members within a team and ensure that a range of ideas is considered before a course of action is determined.
Introverts value meaningful relationships. The financial crisis has created backlash against the hard sell. In its place, people are looking for smarter and more considered business partners. This works for introverts who prefer investing time in quality and long-lasting relationships.
Introverts are good listeners. Good communication is as much about listening as it is speaking, and many introverts are excellent listeners. This is an advantage when networking because it means introverts take time to understand what others are saying and, as a consequence, can identify areas where they may be able to work with others.
Introverts have good ideas and make valuable contributions. Introverts generally don’t say something unless they believe it will be a valuable addition to the conversation. What’s more, introverts have a penchant for creating and developing new ideas, which means they can offer a unique and alternative perspective on an issue.
Focusing on these qualities helped me transform daunting situations into opportunities where I could display the great attributes that come with being an introvert. I no longer look to be the loudest in meetings but aim to offer smart and authoritative opinions. Similarly, I now view networking as a chance to initiate a long-lasting and prosperous relationship rather than a time to “work” the room. All of this has helped improve my confidence in the workplace and allowed me to make a greater individual impact and a larger contribution to my team.

While they may not shout the loudest or be the most noticeable, many introverts have a sharp brain and a quiet determination to succeed—which is why we will continue to see the Zuckerbergs, Gateses, and Buffets at the top of their respective fields.

It may have taken me a year to realize it, but I will succeed in my work because I am an introvert and not in spite of it.

You garrit!!! *thumbsup*

Dynamite02:

You garrit!!! *thumbsup*

Thanks

Hmmmmm

Be a f***ing freelancer and work from home.
All these 8 to 5 jobs doesn't suit introverts!!