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NwaAmaikpe:

The only thing I deduce is that your wife's mother wants you to do her.


Don't dull

Very foolish reasoning

Why always Igando

Joavid:
extended house of commotion.

oziohi wa dahi

MAN

The man is a wife beater, this in intolerable (at least to all modern families and non-muslims). But the story doesn't tell us that he beats her up when she denies him sex, or he beats her up then she denies him sex. If the former is constantly the case, it is permissible. He is right to suspect that the children aren't his especially as the woman says it when vexed and bitter. Unfortunately, he doesn't have the means to pursue a paternity test. In spite of these, he still wants the marriage, this is good nature. He is 39 and could easily move on if he wanted. Being 39 and a fruit seller is part of the reason he is in this mess. He should make plans towards getting a loyal woman. A woman with divided loyalty is a hand grenade with the pin off.
The man should be cautioned on wife beating and the dangers inherent. Telling the mother in law that thunder will fire her was a good one.

WOMAN

She wants divorce on the grounds of battery. She denies her husband sex. This woman obviously is younger than the man, yet she is eager to leave after having 4 children, considering the difficulty of getting a man with such impossible odds, she moves on because she already has security elsewhere, she is seeing another man who is probably encouraging her. The woman complaining that the husband did not pay her bills imply that she may not be financially independent afterall, and moving out in the nation's worst recession means there's a sponsor lurking. She made a mistake mentioning the paternity issue, it swings the case against her severely. The woman is guilty of adultery as accused. She is too eager to leave after 11 years. Just too eager.

MOTHER-IN-LAW
Knowing about her daughter's sex life tells us so much. There is a collusion between them. Habouring the grandchildren also tells us even more. THis woman is in the scheme of things, she knows about her daughter's dark ways and approves of it. She wants her daughter to leave the man for a better candidate so she'll reap benefits, that's why she made the habouring sacrifice in the face of nigeria's worst recession in 25 years. Mother in law is complicit, she was probably a hoe in her heydays, little wonder she lives alone, either she predeceased her husband due to her ways or he threw her out . She should be cautioned.

JUDGE
It is not easy being a judge in that Igando, you go nearly flog some, others will nearly kill you with laugh. The judge knows the truth, that's why he adjourned it - because throwing out the case will seem harsh in the light of battery accusations and to save his name in the case that he kills her in future. He shouldn't grant her request. Let him send them back home to live for another 10 years, in ten years time she would be post-menopausal and her salvage value close to zero, this also prevents her from running away with the man (or men) who caused these problems. Ten years is enough time for the man to get his act together and make some money which may rekindle their love, and in ten years the children would be old enough to decide whose custody they want.

Interesting case anyways.
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But why are you telling us? grow up

PaperLace:
He didn't deny the alleged battery, he claims she is adulterous, he doubts the paternity of the kids, she denies him sex, her mother lays curses on him, she moved out of the house _and he still wants the marriage? A Nigerian man living in Nigeria?

How can you batter your spouse and expect her to have consensual sex with you, are you people practising BDSM?

If he really loves his wife, he should stop battering her and fix things.
The woman too should stop implying the kids are not his, there are somethings that shouldn't be said _no matter the provocation.

I don't know what to say about the MIL, maybe that's not her real character, she is probably angry he batters her daughter.

Brother, ask the married people, denying your husband sex has a reaction from the man that always comes in a very ill manner that even you the other partner of not discerning won't know that such a little no! could be disastrous...
A lot of marriages are living in worse scenario to this and there must.be a partner who dislike divorce and love the other more...
I am never in support of domestic violence but the women are culpable some where in a lot of the violent act... but men, should be men enough to.know that these women are special and have their enthropy state which is absurd, real men don't muzzle their wives...
but sincerely, what on earth will make a christian woman deprive the husband sex and tell him in quarrels that the kids aren't his. this means that she is adulterous that is why she loss sex appetite when he is around and no man wants to hear that the kids they are training is another man's.

why is dia many oponu on this thread? wat if the man has not been battering her b4 and only started afta d lady start denying him sex....dou its very bad to beat ur wife no mata d condition cus dia is always a way out of evry situation. but some of d guys here condeming him break up or beat dia girlfriends bcus of sex. dose dat take no chill wen it comes to sex are busy condeming som1. why not advice d guy on wat to do instead of beating. and in evry issue like dis....its only wen u are in d same shoe dat u will know wat u ar capable of doin or d extent to which ur patient can go.
dats why its not gud for a guy to love sex too much....its not a fud biko.

trustyshoess:
Actually I don't see it that way. But yes, Whoever physically abuses their spouse, regardless or gender deserves to be seen as a demon. Domestic violence should never happen

alas! you missed the point ma'am, I said once it's. mentioned, not proven.
these days ladies use it as a weapon, they know once its mentioned, "activists" will spring up and pronounce the guy guilty without proper investigation.
I've seen ladies inflict injuries on themselves just to demonize their partners.

PaperLace:
He didn't deny the alleged battery, he claims she is adulterous, he doubts the paternity of the kids, she denies him sex, her mother lays curses on him, she moved out of the house _and he still wants the marriage? A Nigerian man living in Nigeria?

How can you batter your spouse and expect her to have consensual sex with you, are you people practising BDSM?

If he really loves his wife, he should stop battering her and fix things.
The woman too should stop implying the kids are not his, there are somethings that shouldn't be said _no matter the provocation.

I don't know what to say about the MIL, maybe that's not her real character, she is probably angry he batters her daughter.

Perhaps he thinks his wife is a masochist,who will continue to endure d torture.I hate abusive marriages because it usually creates a lingering negative effect on the children at the long run. Such children will eventually grow up practicing what they av witnessed when they grow up.

After she don collect her right from you. She is your property now, you can enjoy her.

Anyway, I am angry with nairalanders. Today is my birthday and I did not get up to 10 likes.
C'mon show your brother some love.

What are her wifely duties?
*It's middle of the year already. Get your hands busy - it can make U RAW cash!. Learn !
If sitting idle has been good for you so far...CONTINUE. If not, here's an opportunity!

Just view and get it immediately through my signature!

rozaybb Na your story be dis o

goodmorning40:
The man is crazy. Why will u demand sex from a woman u batter, with wich mind do u expect her to give u sex. Useless men everywhere

the man was so wrong..yes we all know that,but note that not all men are useless ok...so mind it..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S5o6sulje9g

goodmorning40:
The man is crazy. Why will u demand sex from a woman u batter, with wich mind do u expect her to give u sex. Useless men everywhere

before you judge try and find out what caused the fight. Do U know if it's the denial of sex? Reason abeg

the mother most be a sex throat
what her problem if the guy short serve you start going to babalawo for classes

Islie:
http://www.vanguardngr.com/2017/06/wifes-mother-say-not-kill-daughter-sex/

youngest85:
Sex doesn't kill it is infection dat kills

Hahahaha



who told u DAT as sweet as sex is DAT it doesn't kill.


OK if u tire no stand up,still dey do m mek I see say u no kpyi on top.

ebomo79:
before you judge try and find out what caused the fight. Do U know if it's the denial of sex? Reason abeg

So when a man gets denied of sex he shld beat up his wife?
If she denies him sex there is an underlying cause to that

goodmorning40:
The man is crazy. Why will u demand sex from a woman u batter, with wich mind do u expect her to give u sex. Useless men everywhere

Idiot. I believe you are not wife material too. His beating her is wrong but she has issues too. Psycho

goodmorning40:
So when a man gets denied of sex he shld beat up his wife?
If she denies him sex there is an underlying cause to that

If he beats her there is an underlying cause to that. Take #5 and go buy sense.

you don't have to worry if your wife says no.go out there and enjoy escorts.if you fail to touch her for one month.she will be dying for your -dick again. extend it for 3months. she will -Bleep yoh for a whole year none stop.

learn how to deal with recalstrictant women

PaperLace:
He didn't deny the alleged battery, he claims she is adulterous, he doubts the paternity of the kids, she denies him sex, her mother lays curses on him, she moved out of the house _and he still wants the marriage? A Nigerian man living in Nigeria?

How can you batter your spouse and expect her to have consensual sex with you, are you people practising BDSM?

If he really loves his wife, he should stop battering her and fix things.
The woman too should stop implying the kids are not his, there are somethings that shouldn't be said _no matter the provocation.

I don't know what to say about the MIL, maybe that's not her real character, she is probably angry he batters her daughter.

hmmmm .and d mother in law expect d man not to continually hammer d laplace'

Redoil:
oziohi wa dahi

ma dahi o.
etemeya?
how u know say I be ebira?

tayoccu:
alas! you missed the point ma'am, I said once it's. mentioned, not proven.
these days ladies use it as a weapon, they know once its mentioned, "activists" will spring up and pronounce the guy guilty without proper investigation.
I've seen ladies inflict injuries on themselves just to demonize their partners.

Abeg ee. Try another lie! How many ladies exactly have you seen do the bolded?
Most of the time, domestic violence reports are true. Doesn't mean the woman didn't aggravate the man or start the argument but my point is, we all have the ability to control out emotions (unless you've got a mental problem) so we should put that ability to good use and refrain from hitting anyone out of anger

trustyshoess:
Abeg ee. Try another lie! How many ladies exactly have you seen do the bolded?
Most of the time, domestic violence reports are true. Doesn't mean the woman didn't aggravate the man or start the argument but my point is, we all have the ability to control out emotions (unless you've got a mental problem) so we should put that ability to good use and refrain from hitting anyone out of anger

so I'm lying?
just because I hold a different view, and I've see scenarios you haven't?
it us well...

TheArchangel:
Where is this Igando magistrate court? I need to always be there for my comic reliefs.

lol, infact the number of divorce cases that are in that court are alarming. The magistrate there go don hear am.. Stories plenty no be small. I wan laugh die.

fpeter:
Ndi yoruba sef

Wonder why they can't marry in peace.

donqx:
you don't have to worry if your wife says no.go out there and enjoy escorts.if you fail to touch her for one month.she will be dying for your -dick again. extend it for 3months. she will -Bleep yoh for a whole year none stop.

learn how to deal with recalstrictant women

You're wrong you know.
Some women will continue despite the bolded.
I've seen a stretch of seven months denial yet they sleep, eat and reside under same roof.
An adultrous woman will even use it against you when it turns to family meeting things.
She can easily blame her attitude on your infidelity.

Sterix10:
Hmmmm,as a guy I believe the man,analysing it;

She refuses u sex

She says the kids are not yours

U still love her

Logically and mathematically,if she refuses you sex,then truly the kids are not yours,Mr man,man up,you still young,the truth is always told in anger n she has revealed hers,so just find another woman

BUT IF U STILL INSIST BEING WITH HER

goodluck in raising another man kids,sorry anoda men kids

I cannot agree more here.
You've said all without mincing words.

We however have to consider which action started first...
Did the battery start before the denial?

Wouldn't you beat your wife if you were a fruit seller at 39 in this recession and as if that was not enough, she still denies you sex?

Will a normal woman say a man's children are not his own just to score a point in a quarrel?

For a woman to state that the kids are not his, imagine all she must have said alongside.

The Yoruba race is fast turning into something else and this is all due to the training and re-training we get from overzealous elders.
Why would a parent take her daughter in after a quarrel with her husband.

CorGier:
How pathetic can you get? I just hope them cheap likes are/were worth it. Woman wrapper.

What did he say that was wrong?

The man is in serious one chance....how can the woman you called your wife tell you the children are not yours even if she is angry....DNA test asap