istoctober:


it was with a pastor in one of the pentecostal churches and he is still living in the sin of adultery. l still hate myself and curse that day for the act l committed.
Thx for your words, it means alot to me now.

When I read and saw your religiosity, I knew it would be a pastor.


To all pastors, Mark my name, I Am realmindz, the day I catch any of you with any female that is my relative be it sister, cousin, or wife etc....Consider yourself gone....

Ishilove:
When the poster is battling with the marital storms that follows confession, I hope those advising her here to confess will open their homes to her.

Her husband's love may turn to hate and even if he says he has forgiven her, will he forget?

He is only human and will act like one.

1stoctober, be wise.

As a christian, what does your bible say about truth?

realmindz:


When I read and saw your religiosity, I knew it would be a pastor.
To all pastors, Mark my name, I Am realmindz, the day I catch any of you with any female that is my relative be it sister, cousin, or wife etc....Consider yourself gone....

Ah ba bros easy now. E neva reach dis level.

Ishilove:

Poster follow this advice.

God answers prayers, I'm a living proof.

ssp, ishilove too don cheat before

garrimallam:
Dear , but do you know there is no secret in the grave? All is before the judgement seat if left confessed. It is better to confess it now than later before the judgement seat. The present humiliation will be joyous in eternity.Forget about Pastors or men, do what your conscience tells u because two of will be left before God on that day.

Don't mind these guys here jare! How can you commit such a sin & still give yourself the right to dictate how the repercussion of the sin should? Crap!

Ishilove:

The one in my church impregnated a chorister and it affected his marriage. As I speak to you his ministry has taken a nose dive and he is no longer in the church. I hear he has started a prayer group but I did not dig deeper because I can't be part of such.

The one that took over from him is even worse. He chases anything in skirt and even my mum warned me to avoid him. He too has been redeployed.

The church as we know it today is filled with all manner of abominations and i'm not surprised. We are at the end times and it's only going to get worse

Here comes the same ishilove that has been defending pastors in the name of blackmail....Your time Will soon come you double mouth

The best way to confess in this type of situation is to invite a pastor that he respect also u have to be courageous and face whatever is coming than allowed depression kill u.

Note that men react more when they discovered things themselves than when they discovered through confession.

Before you tell him, make sure it's at the right time, when he is happy with you, when he can handle forgiveness, you must have to wait for the right time to do that or else it might be disastrous

famosh:

God has NOT forgiven her, stop deceiving her; God doesn't work that way. She cheated on her husband & not God. She will definitely NOT be forgiven by God if she doesn't confess to her husband. That's why humans need to think right & thoroughly before doing certain things. You think making heaven is easy?

Hey, do you know his husband sin?

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

You need to confess to him. However be prepared for the consequences. It could potentially destroy your home because cheating on him is a direct attack on the foundation of your relationship, that is trust.

I don't know how best you can go about it but maybe inform someone he respects to come along as you make the confession. But make sure that individual is aware of what you want to say and agree to be around to help manage the fall out.

Not telling him is deception and you know it. It's equally a sin if you took marriage vows before God.

You never know he might have cheated on you too. Just saying.

realmindz:


Here comes the same ishilove that has been defending pastors in the name of blackmail....Your time Will soon come you double mouth

Bros one 'Otobo' for you. LOL.

ShaqFu:
As a christian, what does your bible say about truth?

Confess and genuinely repent. She has already done that

Ishilove:

Confess and genuinely repent. She has already done that

Confess to who or whom? Did she confess to the person she cheated on?

Truth is the only solid ground upon which you can stand. If you don't tell him, you will keep looking over your shoulder for the rest of your life.
True repentance stems from a heartfelt regret over a wrong action and a strong determination never to repeat such. It is also predicated on restitution, a desire to right the wrong. You can restitute by confessing first to God and then to him, not to any pastor nor to nairalanders.
Adultery is such serious sin that it is the only ground that a TRUE Christian can divorce the spouse and remarry. If you don't tell him you are not TRULY repentant.

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

madam you have already repented but ur mind is playing games with you became ur husband threatened u with his native doctor brother. the day you forgive urself not him to forgive, that is the day you will be free. Don't mind his threats, tell urself it won't happen again and that you are a new person. block his threats out of your mind completely as you begin your self healing or forgiveness.

realmindz:


Here comes the same ishilove that has been defending pastors in the name of blackmail....Your time Will soon come you double mouth

Jump in front of a speeding train if my posts pain you.

MrsPhysics:

Hey, do you know his husband sin?

I don't need to know because it's all about this woman here. If the husband has also cheated before & he doesn't confess to his wife now that he still has the chance to, he too will go to hell!

istoctober:


l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.

....you believe that is possible?


Nothing will happen to you.Seek for forgiveness and dont go back to it.

Ishilove:
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You answered the first two, and avoided the last question.

That's you knowing what you should do but battling with your conscience.

Who can condemn who God has forgiven? While you flogging yourself, God is saying 'I love you and I will not remember your past iniquities'.

You realised your wrong, asked God for forgiveness and repented. Now you have to forgive yourself and let go. God has not condemned you so free yourself from the cage you have put yourself.

If you say you want to confess then also prepare yourself for the storm that will follow.

As for your husband, what's up with all these mental fuckery? Are you acting in any way that's making him suspect you?

EXACTLY what I wanted to hear. Op is a good woman who did a stupid thing...

She was probably deceived.
She needs to move on
I don't see any reason why she should confess.

According to statistics her husband is probably cheating or has cheated or will cheat at some point.

People make mistakes..

1stOctober. Lemme tell you this and believe me when I say it's the truth. Until you confess, scratch that, tell him the truth, you'll never be free.

Just talk to your parents, tell them what happened. Then have your parents talk to his parents. Then both parents should summon him and tell him in your presence when you guys are together. I'm sure that will loosen whatever devious action he would be thinking about.

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

My sister, since you've prayed and asked God to forgive I know he has, it's the devil that is making you think God hasn't forgiven you. Think about how damaged your marriage will be, you are probably young.
Do you want to live with your husband with him constantly suspicious of You?
Do you want him to misbehave or throw you out. My sister Trust me, you don't want it.
Since you begged God and you feel remorse about it, that means God still loves you and it was probably a mistake. Confess to your husband After you've had children, it will minimize his punishment on you.

Please take this advice

ShaqFu:
Confess to who or whom? Did she confess to the person she cheated on?

She has confessed to God and has never gone back to it. There is no point in damaging her marriage over what has happened in the past.

Do you know the terrible consequences that may follow? Will you advice your own sister to toe that line knowing the kind of husband she has?

Abeg leave matter. Wisdom is profitable

victorDanladi:


....you believe that is possible?

Nothing will happen to you.Seek for forgiveness and dont go back to it.

correct..to avoid being "hitted" by another headache,lolssss

YelloweWest:

EXACTLY what I wanted to hear. Op is a good woman who did a stupid thing...

She was probably deceived.
She needs to move on
I don't see any reason why she should confess.

According to statistics her husband is probably cheating or has cheated or will cheat at some point.

People make mistakes..

Which statistics? Can you show evidence and proof of that stats that her husband has cheated on her?

Is that the only sin you committed that us hunting you in your life there are some other ones you have done too and you will not want people to hear about it just keep shut. If is religion you practice that wants you to confess the the judgment is that you should be stoned to death only then you will be purified and not the forgiveness of your husband can purify you so it's either you live with it or confess and still be punished by God

victorDanladi:


....you believe that is possible?

Nothing will happen to you.Seek for forgiveness and dont go back to it.

correct..to avoid being "hitted" by another headache,lolssss

Y did u cheated on him in D first place, marrying hoes as a wife is very bad

Op. I thank I for this post.
For me it's a reminder, if u can't do the time don't do the crime...

Look at how a good person has imprisoned herself...

It's one thing for God to forgive u. It's another for u to forgive yourself...

Dear married people DO NOT CHEAT!

From the day 1 of your marriage pledge ur fidelity to God Almighty in addition to ur spouse!

I married at 18 today I'm 29. God has never allowed me to fall into such temptation.

May God help you op..

Ishilove:

She has confessed to God and has never gone back to it. There is no point in damaging her marriage over what has happened in the past.

Do you know the terrible consequences that may follow? Will you advice your own sister to toe that line knowing the kind of husband she has?

Abeg leave matter. Wisdom is profitable

I'll advice my sister to tell her husband the truth! It's that simple.

She confessed to God means what exactly? Was God the person she cheated on?

Sometimes I smile when I see how just devious many of you christians can be when things like this surface. I reaffirms my zeal never to find myself about people who twist the truth just so they can save face.

Until she confess to her husband, she will never know peace. God whom she confessed to hasn't yet given her peace, has he? If he has, why is her conscience eating her from deep inside her?

The truth, I've learnt, is bitter, but it is always nice to swallow it and say it, no matter what.

For Christ Sake, DON'T tell him. God has forgiven you, GO and sin NO MORE. From now on, cherish him, your marriage, your home, your family MUCH MORE. Pamper and APPRECIATE him much MOOOOORE. Just forget the sin of the past and FOCUS Only on the KING OF kings and the LORD of lords - He Will Never leave you nor Forsake you. In spite of ALL your past God STILL love you. Seek His Face everyday. Deuteronomy 31:6, Isaiah 43:1-4, upon all Matthew 6:33.
May God Bless you in all things, I will always include your family in my prayers. Your home was established on the Rock of Ages, In Jesus Almighty Name, the gates of hell will NOT overcome it.

holluphemydavid:
Y did u cheated on him in D first place, marrying hoes as a wife is very bad

Stop that. U are not better than her. It was clearly a mistake.

Nuezha:


Serious!

Please consider the following before you think of confessing, because he will ask you.

Who did you cheat on him with? Better not be his family member, friend, business partner, a lowlife (his driver, gateman etc), your old timer, because these will make it hard (not impossible) for him to pardon you.

Where did you cheat? Better not be in his home.

When did you cheat? Better not be moments when he was sick or had any problem.

Why did you cheat? No reason is cogent enough if you're legally married to him.

Confession is good, but seeking counsel before confession is the best move.

who do u think u re 4 u to call some one who earns a descent pay from his daily hussle a low life.