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The marriage is dead already

Did Evans kidnap her into the marriage?

She saw all these attributes and still went on to marry him.

I'll revisit this later.

He should join us on the lawn tennis court this morning. His libido will more than surprise her.

U saw him and married him that way.
U may have seen Ds qualities but chose 2 ignore n went ahead with marriage.

My advice, pray through Ds, trust God 2 re-model ur home, talk to each other and cover up each others weakness.

Isn't there anything good in the man?

I'm sure its not a recent devt and he probably has always been like that.
What he needs is some encouragement to believe in himself and also guidance.
Get him a mentor, and let him move close to such a person.
All those things listed are things that can be worked on. Bad breathe? See a dentist. Ensure he brushes twice daily.
Bad in bed? Then teach him what you want, watch adult movies together.
Poor dressing? Come on..., you can equally help in that dept. Go to Balogun market, get new underwear, singlets/inner tee shirts for him, get some proper shirts and polo shirts for him and some trousers. You both should go together.
All the other things you listed just shows he needs some encouragement to believe in himself and possibly some professional counselling.
If you're the wife, you should try to be supportive. He may have faced some traumatic experiences in childhood, hence his lack of confidence

You sound desperate and heartless. When you see only the bad in someone how can you help him become a better person.

Why don't you list the good qualities he has and help him build on them first that way you can earn his respect and help him to work on his weaknesses.

Complaining never changes any situation for the better but wisdom does.

OP, so to you, a weak man is a man that's boring to hang out with and also lousy in bed?
Lol, this is what happens when a Slay Queen decides to create a topic in the family section.

Men cherish respect more than love. I'm my opinion respect is what makes them feel like a man, so taking the respect away is like taking their manhood. Ko le werk!!

eyinjuege:
Isn't there anything good in the man?

I'm sure its not a recent devt and he probably has always been like that.
What he needs is some encouragement to believe in himself and also guidance.
Get him a mentor, and let him move close to such a person.
All those things listed are things that can be worked on. Bad breathe? See a dentist. Ensure he brushes twice daily.
Bad in bed? Then teach him what you want, watch adult movies together.
Poor dressing? Come on..., you can equally help in that dept. Go to Balogun market, get new underwear, singlets/inner tee shirts for him, get some proper shirts and polo shirts for him and some trousers. You both should go together.
All the other things you listed just shows he needs some encouragement to believe in himself and possibly some professional counselling.
If you're the wife, you should try to be supportive. He may have faced some traumatic experiences in childhood, hence his lack of confidence

What if you do all these but he gets angry, defensive & stubborn whenever you try to help him?

missperky:
What if you do all these but he gets angry, defensive & stubborn whenever you try to help him?

You sound as though communication has completely broken down between you two

You need to talk with each other. Be calm about it, be empathetic and sympathetic. You're both a team, and not competitors. If he goes down, you go down with him and vice versa.
Most people get defensive because they feel you're trying to put them down and not genuinely trying to help them. That's why I said you need to show some empathy.


No one should get angry when you get them new underwear and new clothes. You don't have to spend to much, that's why I suggested a wholesale market like balogun. Just buy and bring home.
Make sure you brush together, in the morning and last thing at night. Just say let's go and brush. You can start it ( we all need to anyway), and you also need to watch the kind of meals you both eat, because of the bad breathe. While at it, look for a suitable time when you both can see the dentist. The medical advice is usually to see a dentist twice a year for routine check up, so start that in your family. Also go for routine medical check ups twice a year or so.

You started noticing on this because you are comparing him with another person.


If you have all those things that he lacks, why not complement him?


Madam, desist from what you are doing already or what you want to summon courage to do. It will not help you, rather it will destroy you in the future.