Hey romance landers, having some issues lately and I really want you people to assist me with it. this is going to be a long read ooo. *smiles
So, I have always loved being in love and trying all I could to make things work even if I am not perfect myself but I do everything within my power to make my partner happy.
Was in this relationship for 4years which I found out lately was all a lie and my innocent, open mindedness made me ignore the signs and believed everything I was told even when I knew they were lies.
I got so bound, did so many things I am not proud of just make it work. We broke up January this year and we are still really close.
So the issue is, I can't get myself to open up or love any other person. I still feel like my world revolves around my ex. the most annoying part is I met someone recently who had similar issues with his ex, we became really close talked a lot, I told him everything I think he should know but immediately I noticed I was getting to love him, I blocked him out and started giving attitudes and faking mood swings, I guess because I am scared and having serious trust issues. Now he is kinda upset and this guy really loves me and I know it and I love him too.
I killed the vibe and I am so confused because I really wish to be with him but just scared of opening up and it is getting to him
he told my friend yesterday that he too is scared of trying to help me with it and get hopelessly in love then I disappoint.
I am very confused and don't want to lose him.
Please house, advice me on what to do, how to get the whole atmosphere charged again and ultimately how to open up to him.
I have tried calling and texting and all but he seems very concious of everything now and it is killing me. Hey romance landers, having some issues lately and I really want you people to assist me with it. this is going to be a long read ooo. *smiles
So, I have always loved being in love and trying all I could to make things work even if I am not perfect myself but I do everything within my power to make my partner happy.
Was in this relationship for 4years which I found out lately was all a lie and my innocent, open mindedness made me ignore the signs and believed everything I was told even when I knew they were lies.
I got so bound, did so many things I am not proud of just make it work. We broke up January this year and we are still really close.
So the issue is, I can't get myself to open up or love any other person. I still feel like my world revolves around my ex. the most annoying part is I met someone recently who had similar issues with his ex, we became really close talked a lot, I told him everything I think he should know but immediately I noticed I was getting to love him, I blocked him out and started giving attitudes and faking mood swings, I guess because I am scared and having serious trust issues. Now he is kinda upset and this guy really loves me and I know it and I love him too.
I killed the vibe and I am so confused because I really wish to be with him but just scared of opening up and it is getting to him
he told my friend yesterday that he too is scared of trying to help me with it and get hopelessly in love then I disappoint.
I am very confused and don't want to lose him.
Please house, advice me on what to do, how to get the whole atmosphere charged again and ultimately how to open up to him.
I have tried calling and texting and all but he seems very concious of everything now and it is killing me.

I am so sorry the post is doubled. I don't really know how to go about editing it. hope the moderated can assist with that. Thanks

You just have to learn how to let go the past and move on with your life! Possibly break all ties with your ex if you truly love this new guy as you claimed!

Chief adviser here. What you two need is a sit-down for a frank conversation. Tell him you really like him but these are your concerns. You two can decide whether to continue the relationship or pursue it.

Of course, you forget about the old guy. He is past. Ex.

Eeeehyah! I really know how you're feeling

Nearly everyone has found himself or herself in your dilemma yet they moved on and didn't let their past ruin their future. And please stop worrying so much over your ex, because that is what has been affecting your psychology

Issues like these are difficult to finalise...guys these days are difficult to understand, they like to advantage...they can say the 'sweetest lies' just to get that which they want from ladies...as for the ex........let him be, the present, don't fall for any trick, keep him on his toes, if he likes you....he will always come for you...if actually he loves you, he would feel the way you feel within yourself...so give it time and don't rush into it...

Stop being close with your ex firstly and cut of sexual ties with him.
After 1 month of not even talking to him, watch the magic

You're already making the same mistake you made at first

1. LOVING OUT OF PITY
2. GETTING YOUR DEFINITION OF LOVE WRONG


NB: true love don't come like that... It grows.. True loving is based on attributes been exhibited from both side..... You both only get attracted and true love is built on understanding..... It difficult for true love to fade because they both knew if d partner is d one to love or not b4 going into it.. Compatibility have been tested...
Currently I'm dating Someone I have been friend with for 5 yrs n now with additional 1yr of dating... D compatibility is 95% n we are both cool with it


My advice... Make friend with d person u wanna date... D kinda friendship where u cud figure his personality..... Never give him idea that Ure tripping

Wesell:
I am so sorry the post is doubled. I don't really know how to go about editing it. hope the moderated can assist with that. Thanks

just copy everything you put here and forward it to him.



I'm sure he will understand

People don't stop buying cars 'cause of the mere thoughts that they'd get involved in road accident. You don't stop loving 'cause you're scared of being heartbroken. Each experience leaves you with a lesson. Learn the lessons you ought to from the previous one and avoid making same mistake in the future. Get over your ex first, there's no point in holding on to him.

When you're ready for life, you'll advise your self.

Stay there and be looking for who to waste time on you.

Please give me that guy's contact let me convince him to delete everything about you, because you're not ready for life yet.

unqombothi:
Chief adviser here. What you two need is a sit-down for a frank conversation. Tell him you really like him but these are your concerns. You two can decide whether to continue the relationship or pursue it.

Of course, you forget about the old guy. He is past. Ex.

its been difficult doing this, he has not been around presently...

unqombothi:
Chief adviser here. What you two need is a sit-down for a frank conversation. Tell him you really like him but these are your concerns. You two can decide whether to continue the relationship or pursue it.

Of course, you forget about the old guy. He is past. Ex.

its been difficult doing this, he has not been around...

Benita27:
People don't stop buying cars 'cause of the mere thoughts that they'd get involved in road accident. You don't stop loving 'cause you're scared of being heartbroken. Each experience leaves you with a lesson. Learn the lessons you ought to from the previous one and avoid making same mistake in the future. Get over your ex first, there's no point in holding on to him.

I guess that's what I really need to do, just hold on to the lessons and move on. Thanks dear.

Wesell:


I guess that's what I really need to do, just hold on to the lessons and move on. Thanks dear.

You're welcome.

ikp120:
When you're ready for life, you'll advise your self.

Stay there and be looking for who to waste time on you.

Please give me that guy's contact let me convince him to delete everything about you, because you're not ready for life yet.

lmfdtracv (laughing my flaccid dick to rigidity at constant velocity)

ma nigga
always blunt with words............nothing do you jareh




and ermm honey we both know what you've got to do..................
Viz:
give love a chance again since u're sure you both love unaselves

i know its gonna be hard esp in da case of trusting the nigga but you just have to do it............
And ermmm try limiting ur interaction with ur e if you want what u have with the new guy to turn into something beautiful biko

Wesell:


its been difficult doing this, he has not been around...

You still need to reach an understanding with him. Talk. On phone. WhatsApp. Anything. You two need to know what is up between you two and where you stand with each other.