SPEEDEPITOME:

Yeah, true.
An AVERAGE introvert has the solution to problems. While you're shouting and worrying your head off, he's lost in thought trying to get solutions.
Basically, some of them are usually one step ahead.

lol very right though, I still hope I can change cause it's turning me to a weirdo. My graduation party Id next month nd am thinking of not going due this crowd, I didn't go to my secondary school graduation due to my hatred for crowd

pweeryambre:

OK, but I call out people on their behavior anytime they act up or wanna end up taking advantage of my quiet nature, the down part is that they mostly don't get second chances with me, and the relationship kind of ends there and then it appears like I'm shutting them out but I'm not, its actually a way of protecting my mental health.
meanwhile, withdrawing from people, is that not the essence of being introverted? so you can get to have a quiet time alone to recharge and analyse your situation. there is nothing timid about that.
And the topic is about the challenges and not about accomplishments or the likes before it gets diverted now.

I totally understand you, its just communication gap at a point. My mission is just to make people see the difference in been introverted, shy and not out-poken, those class of people are prone to suicide, and they get to that point over time. You can be introverted, shy but you must never be not outspoken.

Sorry if you felt downgraded by my comment once again

alabi484:

Awwwnnn...this is so me

[quote author=alabi484 post=58671281] Hmmm same here #

Uniqueness01:
I don't keep friends, don't go to parties whether birthday or wedding even when I am among the bridal train or asoebi I don't attend receptions because I don't like staying out for long...my tailor will be vexing that all this your body and style I am making for you suppose bring more customers for me o I will belike I go try and people will think I am forming
And when I finally go out people will belike where this girl dey since.......

Now that I am working,after office my house straight

Awwwwn... n u ar soo pretty.

SPEEDEPITOME:

Jesus!
For the umpteenth time, being introverted is not the same as lacking communication skills! How does 'I don't like crowd' translate to 'I have communication problems'And No, it has nothing to do with fears, it just the way they are wired.

FEAR is an ingredient of being an introvert, that's what makes them different frm extros. Most Introverts are timid cos of FEAR of rejection! thereby having low self-esteem.

kagari:


This is the first introvert on this thread, as an introvert people respect you, they want to hear your idea, your contribution, seek your opinion, call you that guy or girl with so much idea, in gathering, you easily change discussions from petty talks to productive ones. Mind you been an introvert doesn't make you shy or not outspoken, it only makes you slightly more intelligent than an average tom, why you think and fantasise all the time.

you must be mistaken if you believe that being an introvert amounts to being slightly more intelligent, there are quiet a lot them with average or below average intelligence.
Introvert on a deeper level simply means people that get their energy from internal source unlike extrovert that gets there's from external source. each has it's pros and cons.
The only thing is when an intelligent introvert speaks their words are taken more seriously than the one that is always talkng. Even when a retard is silent he will mistakenly be considered as wise.
I have a very extroverted friend with a very sound high IQ. I always like having her around and to pick her brain when she talks and the way she does things. So the intelligence thing goes both ways not exclusively for introverted persons as the way you make it sound.

OMG! See pweety ladies coming out. Why we still single

kagari:


They end up saying my money would do the talking

Then smart Extros like mua help him keep his GF alive both outside n the oza room

kagari:


I totally understand you, its just communication gap at a point. My mission is just to make people see the difference in been introverted, shy and not out-poken, those class of people are prone to suicide, and they get to that point over time. You can be introverted, shy but you must never be not outspoken.

Sorry if you felt downgraded by my comment once again

Its alright... Actually I didn't even feel anything, I'm just good at noticing and pointing out things that's all.

Create a buffer zone for yourself, mount a wall of protection around you, set limits to encroachment on your territory, seclude yourself from merry makers and unfriendly friends then you will identify your foes. Stay indoor during holidays. Attend church without joining any service group. See no evil and talk no evil then you will know that the heart of human is desperately wicked and only God can search it. Tell people the truth they will still probe further to provoke you to anger, then why answer them. People talk their destiny away by confiding in adversary they term as friend who goes abound undermining and backstabbing. Commune with your creator and avoid the cacophony of lieing tongues who engage in idle talk, gist, gossiping, backbiting and character assasination. Give short responces like yes, no, later, no problem, don't know and move on to enjoy your sweet quietness. Is it a crime to enjoy my space without interferrence?

pweeryambre:

you must be mistaken if you believe that being an introvert amounts to being slightly more intelligent, there are quiet a lot them with average or below average intelligence.
Introvert on a deeper level simply means people that get their energy from internal source unlike extrovert that gets there's from external source. each has it's pros and cons.
The only thing is when an intelligent introvert speaks their words are taken more seriously than the one that is always talkng. Even when a retard is silent he will mistakenly be considered as wise.
I have a very extroverted friend with a very sound high IQ. I always like having her around and to pick her brain when she talks and the way she does things. So the intelligence thing goes both ways not exclusively for introverted persons as the way you make it sound.

Cool analysis. Goodnight dear

Fine it so difficult to make friends, even when I eventually do make just 1,wud just let it remain cold, like chilled coke..Also owe a lot of people phone call. Most persons mistake my being just quiet to my self, to pride. But on getting closer, it's all a different thing.... its cool being an Introvert... So cool that persons nearby wud be curious to know u.

datjohn:


Awwwwn... n u ar soo pretty.

if you believe that babe, you would believe snow falls in Nigeria.

ransomed:
Create a buffer zone for yourself, mount a wall of protection around you, set limits to encroachment on your territory, seclude yourself from merry makers and unfriendly friends then you will identify your foes. Stay indoor during holidays. Attend church without joining any service group. See no evil and talk no evil then you will know that the heart of human is desperately wicked and only God can search it. Tell people the truth they will still probe further to provoke you to anger, then why answer them. People talk their destiny away by confiding in adversary they term as friend who goes abound undermining and backstabbing. Commune with your creator and avoid the cacophony of lieing tongues who engage in idle talk, gist, gossiping, backbiting and character assasination. Give short responces like yes, no, later, no problem, don't know and move on to enjoy your sweet quietness. Is it a crime to enjoy my space without interferrence?

A billion likes for this post,you've said it all,I owe you a bottle of chilled palmwine...

Brown14:
I have missed a lot of opportunities(relationship wise) because of this my nature...I ave lots of stories to tell but each time I remember them I just feel defeated and stupid because some of the green lights would be so glaring (full current) but I just could not make that first move.

Tell me sumtin I dunno

pweeryambre:

you must be mistaken if you believe that being an introvert amounts to being slightly more intelligent, there are quiet a lot them with average or below average intelligence.
Introvert on a deeper level simply means people that get their energy from internal source unlike extrovert that gets there's from external source. each has it's pros and cons.
The only thing is when an intelligent introvert speaks their words are taken more seriously than the one that is always talkng. Even when a retard is silent he will mistakenly be considered as wise.
I have a very extroverted friend with a very sound high IQ. I always like having her around and to pick her brain when she talks and the way she does things. So the intelligence thing goes both ways not exclusively for introverted persons as the way you make it sound.

I totally agree with you Ma'am.

I am a capricorn and I also double as an introvert too. But what amazes me is sometimes I don't understand myself- I go through mood swings; sometimes I act like an extrovert and most times I behave like an introvert that I am. A cacausian female friend of mine told me just recently that I am weird, I asked her to explain how she meant but she changed the subject. Thank GOD maturity and exposure helps me crawl out of my shell as the need arises.

Difficult to mingle with new people,I stay glued to my clique which us quite frustrating sometimes.

finds it hard to make new friends especially females

Hard to talk to girls that I love,waiting for them to make the first move

walexzee11:
FEAR is an ingredient of being an introvert, that's what makes them different frm extros. Most Introverts are timid cos of FEAR of rejection! thereby having low self-esteem.

You just made the whole thing complicated. First, you made being introverted all about inability to communicate.
"in one thing, if you want to conquer your fears, you have to start surfing the Internet on "how to communicate with people without fear"- these were your words.
See, Excellence in the communication department is called OUTSPOKENNESS and this is not a factor of being intro or extro.

Now you are making it about low self esteem and fear. I'm not sure you read people's comment before posting. I insist that the ability to speak up, make your voice heard, self esteem/confidence or lack of it has nothing to do with being intro or extro.
I respect your opinion but I have two questions for you.
1). Is fear limited to introverts
2). Does being introverted translate to low self esteem in all cases?

Divay22:
Staying out for long makes me unhappy..
Going out can be so frustrating, annoying, let's just stay at home Eat popcorn and watch movies, wetin i wan use cinema do ....

But it has cost me alot, I have missed opportunities, words I'll rehearse :Din my head, but wouldn't be able to say it out, memories i couldn't gain....I wouldn't want any of my child to be one.....


Introverts don't mind staying in another planet where they can be aliens, the world seems too populated to them
But i love them because THEY CARE, THEY CARE MORE THAN THEY SHOULD.....i give them A1 When it comes to taking care of others, even if they don't like you.....


Tell an introvert your secret, it's save for life,they barely have time to gossip
Commonly used word :I DON'T KNOW

whoever you are,i could9lt help but SMH after reading this,
i guess we have same exact traits...
I have tried shaking mine of ever since i grew up to become a man,but somethings about me are better off unchanged...

So many people like me

Akalia:
I am a capricorn and I also double as an introvert too. But what amazes me is sometimes I don't understand myself- I go through mood swings; sometimes I act like an extrovert and most times I behave like an introvert that I am. A cacausian female friend of mine told me just recently that I am weird, I asked her to explain how she meant but she changed the subject. Thank GOD maturity and exposure helps me crawl out of my shell as the need arises.

Do you also feel like you have different voices in your head sometimes? lol, happen to be a Capricorn too, i totally get where you are coming from, think the introverted/weird nature is stimulated by the earth sign... not sure

wins18:
lol, we are just being programmed differently by our creator, we are nice people to be with though, just that people don't understand us, sometimes they mistake our silence mood to keeping malice or...something. some people say we are weird, maybe they are right though.

NOT SOMETIMES......ITS ALL THE TIME!!!

Cleopatra4:
Yeah... I feel we attract d opposite of us. Don't like crowd. Can't stand a noisy environment likewise lousy people.. Just prefer staying at home when I'm not busy.. Sometimes I wonder if na like this I go take see husband

feel like marrying u already

Staying out for long makes me unhappy..
Going out can be so frustrating, annoying, am just the kind of guy that loves catching fun indoor ....

But it has cost me alot, I have missed opportunities,chased many friends away, words I'll rehearse :Din my head, but wouldn't be able to say it out, memories i couldn't gain....I wouldn't want any of my child to be one.....


Sometimes i imagine having an alien identity,if u ask me one impossible wish i would love to requst,will always tell you is have an Alien as a friend. the world seems too populated to them
But i love them because THEY CARE, THEY CARE MORE THAN THEY SHOULD.....i give them A1 When it comes to taking care of others, even if they don't like you.....


Tell an introvert your secret, it's safe for life
Commonly used word :I DON'T KNOW ;
it brings extra pressure to my daily life especially @work,i team up wit me,myself&i alone.
Am just one who derives his energy from another source.
I guess i was just born this way

I was immersed in delight once I saw this topic about introverts, hence my clicking on it without further ado. The story of my personality is interesting but where do I begin? To be earnest, the disposition of my way of life in the recent past and present cannot be isolated from God. Just thinking, would it be apt to say my encounter with the Most High God turned me to an introvert? I used to have quite a lot of friends and fancied going out but that gradually changed when I met Christ Jesus as a freshman in the university. The number of friends of mine depleted and I began enjoying my own company, which enabled me to prioritize more effectively. I set a high academic goal and studied more. God and studying offered me little time to "socialize" (in the conventional sense of the word). God helped me attain that goal and has made my life more purposeful to date. Well, let's take a leap to the present.

In as much as I resent needlessly going out and mostly prefer staying indoors either reading or seeing a thrilling epic cum historical movie, I'm confident and outspoken to an extent that I feel bad when I do not air my view in any gathering with respect to issues raised. It is rare for me to be in an environment over a short period of time and you won't know me. Although I like my space and keeping to myself, I simultaneously have a dominant and assertive personality. As for ladies matters, I neither dread them nor rejection; I seldom approach them in order to ward off distractions. There is time for everything. Moreover, no one can make you feel inferior without your permission! I believe I am exceptional and en route doing great things. Believe same too. That makes all the difference. From the foregoing, would it be mistaken to still regard me as an introvert? If yes, why? And if no, could that mean a new brand of personality is on the rise?

IamSingleDad:


Let me sort that out. Trust me, u will love it. Where do you base?

you want to fix her?!!

Am just one that gets his energy from another source

hinky:


Why do we find it hard to keep friends?? like i lose friends almost every month... Nd they b lyk m complicated

that's true

sorextee:
Just give him time, he will come out of it. At least, judging by what you said, hes willing to fight it off.

Afterall, u guys are somehow just starting the relnship..

fight what off? his introversion? I doubt it bro. its not like a character flaw. its how he is wired. you don't fight it off. its either the babe wants to stay or she can take her leave. everybody knows what they want in a relationship. ppl don't go into relationship just for the fun of it.

lol.. me I dey disturb friends ni.. I can make frends easily no doubt but I av a personality flaw.. when in d midst of a group of frends.. I wil want to be d funniest so I say things dat vex ppl.. lol I don vex a lot of pple for dis life to d point dat we av physical fit..esp girls..I am annoying bt I don't know why. i annoy pple every seconds and can't do without going near sum1 to disturb.. dats why I am currently experiencing depression and anxiety.. I am trying to overcome and stop dis annoying attitude because pple av criticised me a lot and a lot of frends av left me.. esp d quiet ones.. to b sincere na becos of introverts I dey suffer presently oo.. God punish dem.. life is boring without frends n I wonder aw sum1 will cope without a frends to hangout wit.. I tink all dis pple claiming introverts here dey lie jare