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Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Destined2win: 8:51pm On Jul 22, 2017
I want to use this thread to pour out my heart on this. I am in my late 20s but I strongly believe that age has nothing to do with whatever I desire for myself in life albeit genuine.

First and foremost, I grew as a shy young man most especially with the ladies but over the years after my 25th birthday, I became so bold that I could easily chat up any girl or lady, get their number 90% of the times but i hardly follow through due to time factor.

After a while, i find myself deleting all their contacts and before you know it, I will have new set of numbers again but the cycle of deleting them occurs.

I desire to marry now with what's coming my way at the moment even though I ain't doing badly knowing; I am not living my desired posh life yet but I am so afraid of ending up with the wrong woman. I need a woman to hustle with me now, a friend that knows all about me. I desire a blissful marriage. People that know me say I am kind, that i have a good heart, that I don't get angry easily. All these are truly part of me and I love to play when it's time.

Don't get it twisted, I have few females that say they love me, but trust me, I really don't know if i want any of them as a life partner. I don't know so much about them though we are close basically because I don't like probing into people's lives and affairs.

I can't say if this too is a stage of life but I need to see a replica of me in the arms of a woman I can be proud to say, "this is the flesh of my flesh and the bone of my Bone"!

Is there any hard and fast rule for getting a woman that will make marriage worthwhile every single minute?
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by elantraceey(f): 8:58pm On Jul 22, 2017
Nope there's no hard and fast rule to getting a wife,,, it takes time and effort, real effort, little wonder the Bible say he who finds a wife finds a good thing because finding a good wife is not a days job.



Just interact more, expand your social cycle, get really interested in those you meet, at least get to know them, become friends, it starts from there.



Good luck in your search but I'll advice you to not be in haste just take your time.

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Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Destined2win: 9:02pm On Jul 22, 2017
elantraceey:
Nope there's no hard and fast rule to getting a wife,,, it takes time and effort, real effort, little wonder the Bible say he who finds a wife finds a good thing because finding a good wife is not a days job.



Just interact more, expand your social cycle, get really interested in those you meet, at least get to know them, become friends, it starts from there.



Good luck in your search but I'll advice you to not be in haste just take your time.
Wow. This is well taken. But I have seen that I am not really interested in chasing someone who I like but plays hard to get.

Is there benefit in that?
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Rtopzy(f): 9:04pm On Jul 22, 2017
You have to befriend a lady to know her more before moving to the next stage... have you created such an avenue? you dn't just get numbers and it end there.
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by elantraceey(f): 9:07pm On Jul 22, 2017
Destined2win:
Wow. This is well taken. But I have seen that I am not really interested in chasing someone who I like but plays hard to get.

Is there benefit in that?


If you really want something then you should go after it but just be less obvious and be yourself
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Destined2win: 9:07pm On Jul 22, 2017
Rtopzy:
You have to befriend a lady to know her more before moving to the next stage... have you created such an avenue? you dn't just get numbers and it end there.
No time for follow up. That's the problem.
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Rtopzy(f): 9:11pm On Jul 22, 2017
Destined2win:
No time for follow up. That's the problem.
You have to create that time, cos its important...... you can't eat ur cake and still have it. can you?
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Destined2win: 9:11pm On Jul 22, 2017
elantraceey:



If you really want something then you should go after it but just be less obvious and be yourself
I have never mentioned to any lady that I'll marry her. Just don't know know how to keep chasing someone for long
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by SmartchoiceNGR: 9:12pm On Jul 22, 2017
Destined2win:
I have never mentioned to any lady that I'll marry her. Just don't know know how to keep chasing someone for long

Let me help your ministry.... I will give you a list of single and desperate ladies in here...
1. Bumbae
2. Elantra ceey
3. Rtopzy
4. Baranalle
5. If you need more... let me know
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by elantraceey(f): 9:14pm On Jul 22, 2017
Destined2win:
I have never mentioned to any lady that I'll marry her. Just don't know know how to keep chasing someone for long


You don't have to mention to any lady that you want to marry her... like I said build friendship first...you don't even have to ask her to be your date at inception,, build a relationship and watch how you guys connect,, that will tell you if you can step it up or not, it's easier that way, you guys just want things in haste, calm down and give it time.

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Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by elantraceey(f): 9:17pm On Jul 22, 2017
Destined2win:
No time for follow up. That's the problem.

If you don't have time to build relationships now then how will you have time for your family later?


No matter how busy you are you can always make out time for someone that's important to you.
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Destined2win: 9:18pm On Jul 22, 2017
elantraceey:



You don't have to mention to any lady that you want to marry her... like I said build friendship first...you don't even have to ask her to be your date at inception,, build a relationship and watch how you guys connect,, that will tell you if you can step it up or not, it's easier that way, you guys just want things in haste, calm down and give it time.
Hahaha. OK I have heard you. But can I tell you that most women do not have patience for this wonderful advice you just have? While you are trying to do this, she's messing up with someone else.

But I will take your advice.
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Destined2win: 9:20pm On Jul 22, 2017
elantraceey:


If you don't have time to build relationships now then how will you have time for your family later?


No matter how busy you are you can always make out time for someone that's important to you.
I must have time for my family no matter what it takes
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by elantraceey(f): 9:22pm On Jul 22, 2017
Destined2win:
Hahaha. OK I have heard you. But can I tell you that most women do not have patience for this wonderful advice you just have? While you are trying to do this, she's messing up with someone else.

But I will take your advice.


That's true... well I think that's how you'll get to find the real one, the one who will be willing enough to become your friend in the first place, you know friendship is two sided.

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Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by elantraceey(f): 9:22pm On Jul 22, 2017
Destined2win:
I must have time for my family no matter what it takes


It starts from now my brother.......it starts from now.
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Destined2win: 9:25pm On Jul 22, 2017
elantraceey:



That's true... well I think that's how you'll get to find the real one, the one who will be willing enough to become your friend in the first place, you know friendship is two sided.
By the time I finally get the real one, dem go done break my heart tire.....and I really don't want that
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by elantraceey(f): 9:30pm On Jul 22, 2017
Destined2win:
By the time I finally get the real one, dem go done break my heart tire.....and I really don't want that



Lol.... you don't have to get your heart broken na..... it's just platonic friendship at first.... na wa for you oo
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Destined2win: 9:37pm On Jul 22, 2017
elantraceey:




Lol.... you don't have to get your heart broken na..... it's just platonic friendship at first.... na wa for you oo
grin
You are saying this thing as if it's so easy. An active young man trying to keep a platonic relationship with females is like telling a goat, "you see this yam tuber, take care of it". grin
I am not saying the goat will eat it ooo
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Rtopzy(f): 9:38pm On Jul 22, 2017
SmartchoiceNGR:


Let me help your ministry.... I will give you a list of single and desperate ladies in here...
1. Bumbae
2. Elantra ceey
3. Rtopzy
4. Baranalle
5. If you need more... let me know

Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Destined2win: 9:41pm On Jul 22, 2017
[quote author=Rtopzy post=58732584][/quote] grin

Hmmm. Okay. I will do some profiling
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by elantraceey(f): 9:45pm On Jul 22, 2017
Destined2win:
grin
You are saying this thing as if it's so easy. An active young man trying to keep a platonic relationship with females is like telling a goat, "you see this yam tuber, take care of it". grin
I am not saying the goat will eat it ooo

grin grin


This is why some of you guys end up marrying the wrong woman because you don't want to take your time, every relationship with a lady doesn't have to be sexually related.

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Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by SmartchoiceNGR: 9:50pm On Jul 22, 2017
[quote author=Rtopzy post=58732584][/quote]
Unless you are this endowed nothing for you for my side

Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Destined2win: 9:50pm On Jul 22, 2017
elantraceey:


grin grin


This is why some of you guys end up marrying the wrong woman because you don't want to take your time, every relationship with a lady doesn't have to be sexually related.
Yes. Also tell that to ladies. Let them stop thinking that if a guy doesn't talk about sex, he's not very engaging.
It was still a lady that slapped me when she came to my house and I didn't make move to sleep with her
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Rtopzy(f): 9:53pm On Jul 22, 2017
SmartchoiceNGR:
Unless you are this endowed nothing for you for my side
May such boobi fall on you.
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Rtopzy(f): 9:54pm On Jul 22, 2017
SmartchoiceNGR:
Unless you are this endowed nothing for you for my side
May such boobi fall on you.
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by SmartchoiceNGR: 9:54pm On Jul 22, 2017
Rtopzy:

May such boobi fall on you.
Yakata..... I take am.... Carry your chopping board chest waka
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by elantraceey(f): 9:55pm On Jul 22, 2017
Destined2win:
Yes. Also tell that to ladies. Let them stop thinking that if a guy doesn't talk about sex, he's not very engaging.
It was still a lady that slapped me when she came to my house and I didn't make move to sleep with her


Change the circle of ladies you meet then..... not all girls have their cycling around sex.
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by SmartchoiceNGR: 9:55pm On Jul 22, 2017
Rtopzy:

May such boobi fall on you.
Second chance....if you can match this... maybe we can talk...

Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Rtopzy(f): 10:03pm On Jul 22, 2017
SmartchoiceNGR:
Second chance....if you can match this... maybe we can talk...
You well so? dat ass wey de owner say na curse?? may it fall on u all de same.
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by SmartchoiceNGR: 10:04pm On Jul 22, 2017
Rtopzy:

You well so? dat ass wey de owner say na curse?? may it fall on u all de same.
So what do you have to offer me? I like your relational disposition...but I need something more
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Rtopzy(f): 10:11pm On Jul 22, 2017
SmartchoiceNGR:

So what do you have to offer me? I like your relational disposition...but I need something more
Nothing but nairaland mentions.
Re: Familylanders, I desire to start a family but have this major challenge by Destined2win: 10:12pm On Jul 22, 2017
elantraceey:



Change the circle of ladies you meet then..... not all girls have their cycling around sex.
You might be right. Thought it was a subconscious thing for them all

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