FynBabe:
Both of you can still work things out. What does your family think about all these? Let her leave her parents' house ASAP. Stay together and resolve your issues. Don't worry, this is nothing compared to what some people have been through and came out stronger. All the best.

so u want the op to kill her? I think she should remain there for now until they are able to resolve their problems.

Truth is, there's no way she can be loyal to you while at her parents' place. If you must work things out, it has to be in your house. Btw, how long do you intend to keep her at her parents' place? If your mind is made up on not continuing with the marriage, why not get a divorce so both of you can be free to carry on with your lives instead of tying one another down?

pogolowa1:

We can only work things out if she has the heart of accepting her faults. My family are divided in between my lawyer sister said worst we should divorce while the rest are wondring what kind of heart and family she has.

How will they resolve their problems staying far from themselves? Can you tell the op a way forward instead of jumping at my post for no reason

mikeywise:


so u want the op to kill her? I think she should remain there for now until they are able to resolve their problems.

FynBabe:
How will they resolve their problems staying far from themselves? Can you tell the op a way forward instead of jumping at my post for no reason

How come they didn't resolve things for 2 years while they were together?

So two years is long enough to resolve all marital issues, right? How sure are you this op is even telling us the truth? He is the saint while his wife is a complete demon, yet he married her? Hmmmm.... Behind every unusually 'stubborn' wife, there is a man always wanting things done his own way without putting his wife into consideration. There are things BOTH of them are doing wrongly, it can't just be the wife. I asked the op some specific questions but he wisely ignored them. When there is a marital crisis, both parties can go to any length to paint the other BLACK in order to justify what they did or are doing.

mikeywise:


How come they didn't resolve things for 2 years while they were together?

FynBabe:
So two years is long enough to resolve all marital issues, right? How sure are you this op is even telling us the truth? He is the saint while his wife is a complete demon, yet he married her? Hmmmm.... Behind every unusually 'stubborn' wife, there is a man always wanting things done his own way without putting his wife into consideration. There are things BOTH of them are doing wrongly, it can't just be the wife. I asked the op some specific questions but he wisely ignored them. When there is a marital crisis, both parties can go to any length to paint the other BLACK in order to justify what they did or are doing.

I quite agree with u but the OP should avoid anything that would make him hit his wife.

Op please dont take her back for now.

Let her be the one to beg that she wants to come back. She will do this if she values her marriage.

If she doesnt show remorse for like 1 month, please just take it a big sign that your wife cares less about the marriage

Dont bother yourself, send monthly allowance to her for your child upkeep since she rejected her foods the last time because they came late. She's not even serious so because food came late she rejected it. It seems she is super rich so she can take up the child''s responsibilities.

I can see she is taking your softness to ride it. May be she knows you cant do without your baby or somethings so she knows you will always look out for her.

Please send her allowance, live your life and i don't mean messing around, go and visit your child every weekend and always look good.
By the time she sees how happy and good looking you are or you care less about her but your child, she will sit up.

You too should please work on your own weaknesses as well because you know deep down what you are not doing right.

skyladon22:
Op please dont take her back for now.

Let her be the one to beg that she wants to come back. She will do this if she values her marriage.

If she doesnt show remorse for like 1 month, please just take it a big sign that your wife cares less about the marriage

Dont bother yourself, send monthly allowance
to her for your child upkeep since she rejected her foods the last time because they came late. She's not even serious so because food came late she rejected it. It seems she is super rich so she can take up the child''s responsibilities.

I can see she is taking your softness to ride it. May be she knows you cant do without your baby or somethings so she knows you will always look out for her.

Please send her allowance, live your life and i don't mean messing around, go and visit your child every weekend and always look good.
By the time she sees how happy and good looking you are or you care less about her but your child, she will sit up.

You too should please work on your own weaknesses as well because you know deep down what you are not doing right.

Thank you so much for your comment. How can I ever go and see my daughter in her parents house when the mother insulted me when I told her my decision. She said her daughter is a bone on my neck. Said so many ill things that I just can't face her again. The problem is her mother but she has refused to cut from the root. This is my position havnt seeing my daughter for 3 months now.

From your posts, you really want to settle with your wife but it seems the mum is the only obstacle in your way. Are you financially bouyant to get them an accomodation else where? At least, so you can have access to your daughter as often as possible? Has your wife made any attempt to get back to her home since the seperation?

pogolowa1:

Thank you so much for your comment. How can I ever go and see my daughter in her parents house when the mother insulted me when I told her my decision. She said her daughter is a bone on my neck. Said so many ill things that I just can't face her again. The problem is her mother but she has refused to cut from the root. This is my position havnt seeing my daughter for 3 months now.

pogolowa1:

Thank you so much for your comment. How can I ever go and see my daughter in her parents house when the mother insulted me when I told her my decision. She said her daughter is a bone on my neck. Said so many ill things that I just can't face her again. The problem is her mother but she has refused to cut from the root. This is my position havnt seeing my daughter for 3 months now.

Nooooo please your child is your child
Dont do what will make people blame you. Go and check on your daughter.
Dnt allow what the mother said to hold you back. Even if it is fortnightly, still ensure you look out for her.
She may start saying you abandoned her as well later all. Please 3months is too long without seeing your daughter.
Try to be a good and caring father please

Thank you all for your comments and contribution. I was listining to lean on me today and I understood we all need a helping shoulder. After reading trough the all post I was thinking deep down in me if I was rich as I would love to be by now she would have been begging me with her mom. I have decided not to beg her if she value our wedding she would come back if she dosnt I would just look for what I would use to occupy my self realy thinking of traveling out of the country. Her mom and her brother dey have tried allthey could to bring my business down I have been fighting so hard to survive but right now I think am tired I think I just need to take a trip far away from their sight. Am so fed up my family and thiers am so fed up. Thank you all for your contributions expecialy that brother that told me about that book but in benin where I stay I don't think I can get that book and I don't think it can help me as she would never change. Thank you all once more you all far too kind

u knew she had this annoying traits yet u pancaked it n marrid her. do u see dat the same things u overlooked is wat is breaking ur home now.....
well sit her down n talk some sense into her! ! I don't understand some women! !! u dont cook as a married woman? wat shldnt the man eat? ??

giftedmum:
u knew she had this annoying traits yet u pancaked it n marrid her. do u see dat the same things u overlooked is wat is breaking ur home now.....
well sit her down n talk some sense into her! ! I don't understand some women! !! u dont cook as a married woman? wat shldnt the man eat? ??

MA please WATS app me on 07035167128 can't make it public again need to talk to someone

pogolowa1:
MA please WATS app me on 07035167128 can't make it public again need to talk to someone

You are faceless on this platform so I think you ought to get different ideas from the public, that way u sieve them and apply d one that best suits u. Getting the opinion of just one individual is not helpful here.

shedyman:


You are faceless on this platform so I think you ought to get different ideas from the public, that way u sieve them and apply d one that best suits u. Getting the opinion of just one individual is not helpful here.

when I type my name on Google all the this I have ever posted online comes up. And I find it difficult to create another moniker just to get advice. Try and understand don't mind if it's your number. Just want to WATS app and talk

pogolowa1:
when I type my name on Google all the this I have ever posted online comes up. And I find it difficult to create another moniker just to get advice. Try and understand don't mind if it's your number. Just want to WATS app and talk

Its been long....from 2014 till now
What is the position of things now?

Barryton:

Its been long....from 2014 till now
What is the position of things now?

worst

pogolowa1:
worst

How do mean?
Is she still in her parents house?

Barryton:

How do mean?
Is she still in her parents house?

WATS app me please it's embarrassing.

pogolowa1:
WATS app me please it's embarrassing.

The major cause of your problem is your nature...
U have the heart of a woman in a man's body.
How can u be this shy on a faceless forum?
I will whatsapp u...i already know the kind of man u are....a soft one...

But where is your wife now?
@ your place or her parents place?

Barryton:

The major cause of your problem is your nature...
U have the heart of a woman in a man's body.
How can u be this shy on a faceless forum?
I will whatsapp u...i already know the kind of man u are....a soft one...

But where is your wife now?
@ your place or her parents place?

you can say that again. She has been at my place since 2015. Just faceless forum aren't that faceless