omoharry:
Guys I am 36 years old..working but no relationship ..presently I am not depress but lost..some times i get really low ..so low that you feel that Time has be frozen and every other person is moving except you.You watch as your friends achieve things in life..get married with children with good job and start planning their lives but you have not even started any.You sometimes wonder if the world is really fair to some people and unfair to others. But what get me up most times is that i look up to the high heavens and thank God that i am healthy and not running from hospital to hospital trying to treat a terminal ailment.When that thought comes through my mind all other negative thoughts go away.I do volunteering activities when i am free just keep me uplifted sometimes.The world works in mysterious ways.some times we do not always get what we hope for and the world becomes dark to us but when we achieving most of our expectations in life it becomes a wonderful place to live in. the twin sister of sadness and joy..hmmmmm!!

I may not be the best person to advice you, but i'll tell you the little i know. The world has never been fair. But don't lose hope, once you lose hope, that's when Satan rejoices.

You may think I'm not in your shoes. But trust me, I had been depressed to the point of suicide, thinking of suicide every single day.

You may think your friends are ahead, because that is the reality you see. Not what God see's for you. I have come to tell you that God hasn't forgotten you. For the promises of God in him are Yes and Amen.

Always remember, its not over until you win. Don't lose hope yet.

truthsayer009:


I may not be the best person to advice you, but i'll tell you the little i know. The world has never been fair. But don't lose hope, once you lose hope, that's when Satan rejoices.

You may think I'm not in your shoes. But trust me, I had been depressed to the point of suicide, thinking of suicide every single day.

You may think your friends are ahead, because that is the reality you see. Not what God see's for you. I have come to tell you that God hasn't forgotten you. For the promises of God in him are Yes and Amen.

Always remember, its not over until you win. Don't lose hope yet.

thank you.

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bbeautylik:
I get rumoured/ gossiped about one bad thing or the other. I could remember 10 years ago after my secondary school. I was rumoured that I was pregnant by almost everyone in my street, I dare not pass without people saying (oloyun) she is pregnant, yes I had a big tummy, so I went exercising. People later said I had an abortion. In uni visited many relative houses I was always tagged a thief. Now married staying in[b] a family house,[/b] they never fail to rub it in my face that I a bad cook.(when single I get credited)..... Moving out next month really don't know what I will face again?


I have always been lucky with my education and career that what gives me joy,

why are you staying in a family house?

Arondizuogu:
Ever been in that family while growing up and your parents are the poor ones? Yep that's my family. My dad's siblings are wealthy, my mom's siblings are wealthy too. My parents didn't start off on a bad note though, they were doing alright until my dad fell sick and mom lost her job. From then we have been living from hand to mouth and people still thought we were comfortable smh.
Growing up we were that family other extended family don't want to talk to. To make it worse, I dreaded Christmas because that's when all my dad's siblings and their kids come home and they never fail to robot in our face that we are poor. It was just so bad that I wanted to drown one of my cousins after he insulted my dad. I grew up having few friends and a good nuclear family, depressed and still depressed now, I just don't feel anything towards my "friends". I think of myself as a prey now and things are not getting any better now. Dad's late, mom is jobless. Me and my siblings hustling and at the end of the day it looks like nothing is moving forward. Haven't paid my tuition, the school has sent messages to Nigeria tire. I am now regretting why I traveled to this place sef.
Checked my school email today and Thank God I have not been delisted or have a canceled I-20.
I looked at my dad with this nearly hatred eyes when he was alive and I miss him now. I was just so mad that he couldn't provide the life my cousins had for us.
Where I go start, where would I end. Took 10 Tylenol last week to end it all and still woke up. Thinking of any banned substance here and worst of all now, if I get sick, I don't have insurance and I have been having this banging headache.

PS: I might not have the strength to make it pass this year. I love you Mom; you tried
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Thought my was bad, till I read bleble24's tale here. Just wish I can help her but I just can't. I know what she's going through because I was once that child that asked that question. Hell I still ask now why my dad wasn't rich while all his siblings are. I still ask why my mom's rich siblings that care has to die off, all five of them dead.
To bleble24: Love your children unconditionally but know when to rest while hustling to make them happy. Wish you the best and sent you a PM If you want to talk.

Where are you located? If you're in the US, please consider all options. Forget the poverty of your past and focus on what you can do now. Suicide by Tylenol is a VERY painful death. Please don't do that again. I'm praying for you and will be checking your posts from time to time.

FortuneTeller:


Where are you located? If you're in the US, please consider all options. Forget the poverty of your past and focus on what you can do now. Suicide by Tylenol is a VERY painful death. Please don't do that again. I'm praying for you and will be checking your posts from time to time.

Thanks, currently in Las Vegas but I live in North Dakota. Getting a nursing degree but it has not been a good ride. Surely gonna be in debts when I graduate. I am trying to be happy with my life.
And I am not trying suicide again, my sister is pregnant, the baby needs a good uncle so I will try and stay for him/her.

Arondizuogu:


Thanks, currently in Las Vegas but I live in North Dakota. Getting a nursing degree but it has not been a good ride. Surely gonna be in debts when I graduate. I am trying to be happy with my life.
And I am not trying suicide again, my sister is pregnant, the baby needs a good uncle so I will try and stay for him/her.

The medical area is not good for people with ADHD. There are too many changes and precision is required. People with ADHD do better when they work alone or with repetitive tasks. Pleaae adjust your goals and look into teaching or computer science. Thank God you are no longer considering leaving us.

FortuneTeller:


The medical area is not good for people with ADHD. There are too many changes and precision is required. People with ADHD do better when they work alone or with repetitive tasks. Pleaae adjust your goals and look into teaching or computer science. Thank God you are no longer considering leaving us.

I would thanks. The probs is like am like half way in this major and I tell u it's not been easy with my forgetfulness and memory lapses. I don't think I can stand my family after their help and expectations.

Arondizuogu:


I would thanks. The probs is like am like half way in this major and I tell u it's not been easy with my forgetfulness and memory lapses. I don't think I can stand my family after their help and expectations.

If you go through with it then lose your license later due to negligence, I fear for your mental state. If you lose too many jobs, you won't be hired by anyone again in that field. The good news is that there are office and telecommuting jobs for nurses. Please be careful and keep a positive state of mind. I wish you the best.

FortuneTeller:


If you go through with it then lose your license later due to negligence, I fear for your mental state. If you lose too many jobs, you won't be hired by anyone again in that field. The good news is that there are office and telecommuting jobs for nurses. Please be careful and keep a positive state of mind. I wish you the best.

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Thanks a lot. I'm thinking about nursing administration because I know I might not do well in mainstream nursing with the signs I'm seeing

yettymuse:
why are you staying in a family house?

Beginning of my marriage things weren't working well with my husband so... I decided to leave in his family house

bbeautylik:
Beginning of my marriage things weren't working well with my husband so... I decided to leave in his family house

I applaud you for having the courage to stay at his family house. You're a strong woman. I wouldn't want you to get depressed over this, instead look out for possible solutions. Why not get a small apartment, so you both can stay away from the family

too many things bottled up,,keep loosing the few friends remainig,,phone becoming quieter by the day,,friends hitting money and acting like they want to help yet they wont,people looking at ur family and thinking all is rosy..people kip asking for help and i try my best and yet going thru my fone cant find help wen i need it.living a very bored life,,addicted to nairaland and betting..lost a good girl going to church and yet i feel the pastors re scammers..no girl friend..go to coded bars drink and smoke sitting alone..not just happy at all..just going round in circles

Sometimes winning makes me feel better. I won a few times http://randomnaira.com/

FortuneTeller:


If you go through with it then lose your license later due to negligence, I fear for your mental state. If you lose too many jobs, you won't be hired by anyone again in that field. The good news is that there are office and telecommuting jobs for nurses. Please be careful and keep a positive state of mind. I wish you the best.

Hey, can I send send you a PM? Is it okay with you? Thanks.

Arondizuogu:



Hey, can I send send you a PM? Is it okay with you? Thanks.

I don't chat offline. If you want to chat, please start a new thread in a less visited forum. Blessings.

Hello people,
I'm wondering if there's any support system especially psychotherapy in naija? Support groups / help lines for people who feel low? Or even psychiatrists who can prescribe antidepressants and some guidance for stress relief?
Being suicidal is rock bottom and dangerous ,this is the point where you may need to see someone to at least get therapy for this rough patch.

I hope things get better..

olivegirl:
Depression is not a play, there is something that caused it, patients should always work on things that depress them. I learnt that major cause of depression is inability to balance spiritual visions and reality.

Depression has been in africa but we belief its a taboo hardly do we think of it. But now nija full for social media, oyibo things all photocopied

inability to balance spiritual visions and reality seems to be the cause of mine. I've been down for months now... I just feel worthless

bemagnify:
the world will soon los anoda persn....even if am not important to the world,,,, well atleast my post on nairaland will serve as an evidence...no humanity on earth wana help me achiev my dreams...i swear i av lost touch to reality rip in advance to me

glad, you are still alive bro

Depression is real, so real.
The feeling of being worthless, undeserving etc. A point where everything seems bleak, you can't even see the end of a tunnel talk more of silver lining. So much pain, fear and uncertainties behind the smiles and laugher.

I'm worried and scared too, but suicide is out of the question.
It's well

mrphysics:

You might be the divine help you are looking for. From experience, the only solution is how you take your life. This world is complicated and hard to understand. Decide to be happy, avoid anything that can get you angry. If there is anything you are passionate about, take a break from it. Then eat good, take fruits, do regular exercises.

I do not know what you are passing through, but don't take this life too serious. Depression is real, I have experienced it till it built me up. I have passed through one of the most devastating problem anyone could pass from in this life. I didn't allow anyone to notice, at all times I have been strong, hard working, smart and hard a supporting family. Even the rich also cry, thats the truth. Get books and read, listen to music, avoid things that will make you emotional.

Life has no law, the graph of time is not linear. You can't predict anything. It will be well

.. Thanks a lot.

question is what Do we Do? Staying in Nigeria is hard leaving the country is harder. Been looking for how to apply for a visa no luck. The government keep singing it be self employed how much do I make a month. God should just come down and let all this end.

My thoughts exactly. The world should end already. Nigeria is too depressing.

Im living my life, trying to be upbeat, cheerful and optimistic, but situations around always trying to make me sad.. guess thats why i cant quit smoking

Am happy

I just cry and cry and cry most time when I think of my inability to be able to fend for the family like I used to do years back.

I have mixed Sniper with Powerhorse to swallow many a time but I see my children's faces smiling at me during these episodes and I feel I come back to the reality of what will become their lot after I am gone.

it's a cruel world, a place where you work so hard and yet no reward for your labour, a place where you help and when it's your turn to get help people turn their back on you. Now I do not have friends, not even a phone call from anyone and it's unlike before when you have resources to throw around.

Most times I feel it's just only me..............

Depression is a very terrible thing.. There are sometimes I get off but when I think of my parents and how they've struggled to get me this far, i shake it off . I keep praying for my siblings, I'm way younger than them but the wayy they act is nothing to write home about.. I feel for my parents, after all the godly upbringing and trying to fend for us, they still have to put up with their silly attitudes..
Hmmm God help us..

Arondizuogu:


I would thanks. The probs is like am like half way in this major and I tell u it's not been easy with my forgetfulness and memory lapses. I don't think I can stand my family after their help and expectations.

Nwanne have you tried medicines for the issue?

The suicide thots are coming back again. Lost my job again no wher to turn to. Existence shld ave meaning, its seem ave been running and in circle. I need a release, I want Peace.

omoharry:
Guys I am 36 years old..working but no relationship ..presently I am not depress but lost..some times i get really low ..so low that you feel that Time has be frozen and every other person is moving except you.You watch as your friends achieve things in life..get married with children with good job and start planning their lives but you have not even started any.You sometimes wonder if the world is really fair to some people and unfair to others. But what get me up most times is that i look up to the high heavens and thank God that i am healthy and not running from hospital to hospital trying to treat a terminal ailment.When that thought comes through my mind all other negative thoughts go away.I do volunteering activities when i am free just keep me uplifted sometimes.The world works in mysterious ways.some times we do not always get what we hope for and the world becomes dark to us but when we achieving most of our expectations in life it becomes a wonderful place to live in. the twin sister of sadness and joy..hmmmmm!!

Only keep working hard, it doesn't matter what doesn't seem to work out now, everything'll fall into place with time. Ultimately, Stay close to your Maker. It's well.

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Phargbemmy:
I just cry and cry and cry most time when I think of my inability to be able to fend for the family like I used to do years back.

I have mixed Sniper with Powerhorse to swallow many a time but I see my children's faces smiling at me during these episodes and I feel I come back to the reality of what will become their lot after I am gone.

it's a cruel world, a place where you work so hard and yet no reward for your labour, a place where you help and when it's your turn to get help people turn their back on you. Now I do not have friends, not even a phone call from anyone and it's unlike before when you have resources to throw around.

Most times I feel it's just only me..............

Oh dear. Think about how your children would feel if you killed yourself.

I agree with you that the world can be cruel. But depression makes the world seem even worse than it is. A lot of people are suffering, but there are moments they are able to enjoy the pleasures of life. Think of your children.

You say you are no longer able to fend for your family as before. It is understandable that this would make you feel bad. But please do not make the mistake of believing your children would feel better if you were gone. My father used to constantly complain and get down about how business was bad, meanwhile I wished he just let go of his pride a little and see that we appreciated him as our father, regardless of how much money he made. You need to remember that. You are not your job, your worth is not determined by your income or your education or how many friends you have. Even if you were lying under a bridge with no clothes on your back (which is not the case for you!), you will still be a worthy human being. Even if you had to move to a bad neighborhood and lose your car because money was tight, you would still be a worthwhile person. God has created every person with worthiness that cannot be taken away. Remember that you are worthy, regardless of how much money you have, where you live, what school your children attend, etc etc.

Is there one person you can talk to? Surely you are not completely alone. You don't need to have multiple friends - even just a spouse, a coworker, somebody at a place of worship, your neighbor. Don't let your depression magnify the bad things in your life, so you don't see the good. Take heart.

sesan24:
Im living my life, trying to be upbeat, cheerful and optimistic, but situations around always trying to make me sad.. guess thats why i cant quit smoking

Depends on what you are smoking same here I can't quit smoking I keep thinking about my age and things I haven't achieved I always feel low so I smoke a lot of marijuana esp Arizona. Only thing that keeps me sane is working and reading, and playing games to take my attention.