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Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by ozone92: 1:29pm On Aug 27, 2017
the op is right,church girl na god go help them
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by oieda: 1:34pm On Aug 27, 2017
BrainnewsNg:
By Brainnews NG


Ever wondered why some born-again ladies who are really serving God aren’t married?

They attend church activities regularly, always with Holy bible or spiritual book in their hand bags, always dressed properly, prayer warrior even to the point that all her neighbors hears her during night or early morning prayer yet the lady is in her late 30s or early 40s no husband, not even a fellow church or Christian brother to marry her?

Well from my observation; let me write some of the sure reasons why some of our holy sisters are finding difficulties to get married in their late 30s or early 40s when most of their perceived worldly, indecent, carnal-minded ladies are getting married in their mid 20s and late 20s.

- Born again ladies too scary and embarrassing for most men to approach: Yes they are insulting, I recall when a born again lady once slapped a man in the public because the man touched her politely. This set of ladies scared away potential husbands when they were young with their over serious attitudes. They have the set or standard of men they considered the kind of men they can grant audience and their principles and standard must be met by any man that should talk to them and believe me some of them have more than 50 principles and standard a man has to attain before they grant the man an audience.

Let me talk about some of their standards that makes them send men away;

- Firstly, He must be a God-fearing man (this God fearing man is what I don’t still understand what they mean) they need a man who is a strong Christian preferably their Church member.

- The man must tall, fair or dark, knows the scriptures very well, can pray for at least 30 minutes a day.

- The man must not drink alcohol, must not party, and must not do a kind of work that will make him return late at night.

- The man must be the type that helps her for some house works like cleaning, kitchen and laundry.

- If She finally considers the man, She will need months to pray to God about it in order for God to give her approval and if She get’s the approval from God, the man must also follow her to go and see her Pastor for final approval and if the Pastor says NO, then she pursues the man like a criminal.

- If the Pastor approves, sometimes men would not cope with their harsh principles beginning from the No touching till wedding day rule.

- Extreme born again ladies are always right and no one can correct them, they always feel like demigod to their men.

Meanwhile their perceived indecent ladies have been married with kids and peaceful family.

SOURCE: http://brainnewsng.com/some-born-again-ladies-are-finding-difficulties-to-get-married/
Just say they scare away people like you. Datzall.

Are there not unmarried non-born again ladies in their 30s and 40s?? Ehhuh Plus they may even have child.

Abeg shift!

The only time I will listen to you is when, all non-born again ladies that don't do all these things you have listed, just begin to finding GOOD husbands everywhere even before they turn 24, they have married. The marriage is now sweet, like honey sugar coated chocolate cake. Eh!! Then you can now open your mouth and tell me thats why the born again ones have problem.

The problem cuts across all ladies.

Don't you know the men have problem too?

Tcheww (in Urobo)
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by correctguy101(m): 1:35pm On Aug 27, 2017
In summary, holy holy plus I too sabi.

Dem no get anything wey dem no dey pokenose and condemn.

See me see trouble, which one is approval from God againhuh No wonde,r hahahaha
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by Chidinmaluv22(f): 1:38pm On Aug 27, 2017
am one
try it
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by bannykel: 1:49pm On Aug 27, 2017
soberdrunk:
..............because they can pretend for Africa and not all guys are like Soberdrunk that has enough patience to overcome the 'holier than thou attitude' and bring out the freak in them grin I remember dating a church girl, i go fellowship tire!! The day we finally "fight' the 'fight', she was like 'Mayweather' and i was "Mcgregor', the babe amazed me with her skills....... angry
kikikikikiki, LWKMD
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by purem(m): 1:54pm On Aug 27, 2017
Nanjerian:
One day you will surely believe that God exists. Either before or after your death but i don't advise the latter. Scientists have explored just 1/16th of the universe and just that one fraction was enough for them to say the universe is too organised to have come into existence by chance. Don't be late to meet your maker,nothing in existence compares to the horror of HELL but there is hope. All you need to do is believe that He sent his son as a sacrifice for you and i to be saved JESUS.
A wise man should not refuse to believe what he has not seen,believing does no harm if it turns out that nothing like God existed but where would you start from if you eventually find out that he does existhuh Sometimes, i wonder why people who call themselves INTELLIGENT behave less as they should. God does not exist,righthuh How did the earth come about?? It remains a mystery as you would say... Well,breaking news!!! God has given you the power to choose brother,do not say had i known,the devil would only mock you if you say that. Trust in JESUS, he has defeated death on your behalf but you need one thing to earn this salvation: believe in him,confess with your mouth that you believe in him and be baptised,live a life that exemplifies true Christian manliness. DON'T BE LATE FOR HEAVEN... cheers brother
Bro could you believe dat I finish reading dis ya preaching huh

Mhen u try o.


Instead of you people to see the REALITY of life.
You will be seeing it from the perspective of DELUSIONED CIRCLE.
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by PrimadonnaO(f): 1:56pm On Aug 27, 2017
r2beez:
Ure so wrong. There is a Supreme Being who is God Almighty and knows everything about you and I
God bless you...
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by StaffofOrayan(m): 1:57pm On Aug 27, 2017
Reminds me of when Christ Embassy members could only marry among church members, and then their pastor divorced huh huh huh
Humans LOVE to lock themselves in cages and attempt to invite others in with them.
Nigerian churches in Europe do their service behind closed doors, if you pray too loud or use PA system you get fined for noise pollution, for naija na mosque reggae go wake you for 5am, church go do vigil disturb the whole street, My biggest qualms with the colonialist is that they killed one superstition and replaced it with their own delusions that they personally didn't believe for one second,
Naija's are the biggest hypocrites on earth especially 'born again' christians, have you read Esdras, Tobit, Judith, The rest of Esther, Baruch with the epistle Jeremiah, Bel and the dragon, Book of Enoch the Ethiopian? and other books taken out of the bible, sabbath was changed from saturday to sunday by the roman church to spite the jews, even though there are over 50 verses that emphasizes keeping the sabbath, all the pegan holidays like easter, christmas etc Abeg practice your religion but PLEASE avoid dragging people into your delusions.
For the muslims, someone in Egypt once said mohammed could have been black, the arab clerics called it blasphemy and an insult to the prophet because blacks were slaves in the quoran, mohammed studied judaism and then the quoran idea was born and was called the word of allah even though 90% of the jive is copied from the Jewish torah (the torah in turn was inspired by ancient Egyptian/Assyrian religions), only instead of jesus, he made himself the hero but because Arabia was deeply pegan, he allowed them worship the black stone at mecca and made a story up about it, but in fact it was a meteorite from space! They claim the quoran is untouched but alas the oldest quoranic text was found during renovations in Yemen but was suppressed, hiding something? When you look at the asset of the vatican going into trillions, you realize jesus isn't coming anytime soon.
Personally I believe every religion has a tiny speck of truth in them but because they are ALWAYS written/updated by kings and chief priests (scribes), -our traditional religion included - it almost always degenerates into killing of other tribes and genocide, how to pay tax, how to take care of the priest, sacrifice, calling others heathens or infidels and how one is better than the other, depending on the sanity or otherwise of the current ruler's religious zeal
Please attempt to get your hands on the very rare Portuguese accounts of life in West Africa before the Islamic incursion came and turned it upside down and then the British, we haven't always gotten it wrong,
Unfortunately religion is a delusion that would forever sell, people are really scared of hell even though billions of Asians and few hundred million pacific islanders and Africans have no concept of hell in their religion, (including ours), and of course there is that very basic need for a mentor that we never seem to outgrow even as adults, and pastors and imams and whatnot slips snugly into that role..............books are your friend, never box 'god' in an ideology/religion keep searching, that is spirituality, being a follower kills something deep inside you.
To understand every religion is man made, they are all obsessed with virgins and virgin blood, from the most traditional people that have never seen westerners to the most 'modern'

Food for thought;
"There is no such thing as a new idea. It is impossible. We simply take a lot of old ideas and put them into a sort of mental kaleidoscope. We give them a turn and they make new and curious combinations. We keep on turning and making new combinations indefinitely; but they are the same old pieces of colored glass that have been in use through all the ages.”
― Mark Twain
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by Egghead4real: 1:57pm On Aug 27, 2017
Not true, look before you leap. Watch and pray says the scripture. A hasty climber makes a sudden fall...
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by BestChoiceTutor(m): 1:57pm On Aug 27, 2017
Im sorry to say this..... Those class of ladies aren't born again. That one goes to Church regularly doesn't make him/her a born again. Its a pity we generalize ones regular attendance in church, not wearing necklace or trousers means one is born again. VERY WRONG! Not all who calls me Lord Lord will see the kingdom of God but those who do the will of God who is in heaven.
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by PrimadonnaO(f): 1:59pm On Aug 27, 2017
r2beez:
Being Born Again is the best thing that can ever happen to you my brother. It simply means forsaking the old life of sin and embracing a new life in Christ: a life of holiness and uprightness. What is wrong in being holy?

However you can be born again and still need counseling. Only God is all knowing. My advice to born again sisters who are yet to be married due to their un-reasonable standard is that they should seek for counseling in the Bible and from men of God.

We are saved by grace not by Works. Do not create a standard that only angels can meet.

May the Lord bless us all.
Are you married? May I propose? cheesy.
Wonderful admonition.
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by doyinbaby(f): 2:10pm On Aug 27, 2017
Are there not unbelieving single ladies in their 40s....why single out born again ladies....
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by FOLLEY20(m): 2:13pm On Aug 27, 2017
One thing is sure, God will surely make a way for his children at the appointed time. God's standard can never change.
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by enemyofprogress: 2:24pm On Aug 27, 2017
Na dem dey cheap pass to fok, I swear. Just pretend to be one of dem grin grin
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by enemyofprogress: 2:26pm On Aug 27, 2017
doyinbaby:
Are there not unbelieving single ladies in their 40s....why single out born again ladies....
doyin wa mu pata e ni ile wa o, its going to two months now that you left it behind as a souvenir grin grin
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by janefrancisca(f): 2:26pm On Aug 27, 2017
Mere speculations with cooked up stories, no facts...next please!
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by enemyofprogress: 2:27pm On Aug 27, 2017
PrimadonnaO:
Are you married? May I propose? cheesy.
Wonderful admonition.
I am not married. I am single searching and a virgin
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by enemyofprogress: 2:28pm On Aug 27, 2017
janefrancisca:
...next please!
see me here
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by Daeylar(f): 2:29pm On Aug 27, 2017
memories1:
My dear, don't pay much attention to what you read online. Gone are the days when this section of nairaland had a higher number of experienced and reasonable people. There are still a whole lot of good, deliciously imperfect men out there who don't believe in all these crappy double standards. Most comments here are best regarded as a form of comic relief.
I thought this topic was under romance, was really surprised to see it under religion, this seems like a topic best suited for romance.I still see some good topics in the religion section
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by Akinniyi10: 2:33pm On Aug 27, 2017
tosyne2much:
The problem with most of them is that they are too timid and strict for a man to handle. They are too spiritual even with this things that have to do with love, romance and emotions. However, they have unrealistic target and standard they set for themselves that most men can never meet up to.

Some of people are poorly and ridiculously dressed that causes them to look unappealing to men. You see some of them using N50 thread to make their hair and will carry it for months because they consider those who use N2, 000 weavons as sinners.

Some of them have nauseating characters and they discriminate a lot. They always want to be in control of a relationship and are quick to discard any man that does not meet their spiritual standard. Most of suffer from indecisiveness that, the moment you woo them, they will direct you to their pastors for validation undecided

What these ladies don't know is that being spiritual is not a yardstick to building a good marriage. That's why you see some born again people in unhappy and unromantic marriages while you their unbeliever counterparts enjoying every bit of their marriages

Relationship/marriage encompasses a lot of things that these people don't understand
yes I agree with you but to an extent reason because when God is the foundation of your life( spirituality) he will tell you the missing ingredient in your soup( relationship and marriage) and I tell you sir, if truly our sisters are spiritual as illustrated of the women of old, they will get married at God's appropriate time and season but what we have is one leg in church and the other leg in the world that is why when they have enjoyed all the ferries of life, they now turn back to God by attending service upon service thinking they can appease God by joining a dept in the church without a genuine heart of repentance
Note: as it applies to sisters so also it applies to brothers.
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by Afritop(m):
The one I had a crush on want to subject me to some period of prayers and fasting, to verify if truly I want to have a relationship with her. She even wanna invite me to her church 70 DAYS VIGIL. And tryna bring ideas on how we will be going together.
NA STYLE I USE WAKA COMOT. embarassed
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by buchilino(m): 2:37pm On Aug 27, 2017
BrainnewsNg:
Another extreme born again spotted.

You also want me to bring video proof?
HE MEANT DAT NO BORN AGAIN CHILD OF GOD WILL SLAP A MAN IN PUBLIC. BESIDES Y IS D MAN TOUCHING HER. IS SHE HIS WIFE, SISTER OR RELATION. DID SHE GIVE D MAN PERMISSION TO TOUCH HER.
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by PrimadonnaO(f): 2:38pm On Aug 27, 2017
enemyofprogress:
I am not married. I am single searching and a virgin
But you're an enemy of progress na... undecided
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by Blonchilli(m): 2:44pm On Aug 27, 2017
Nigerians sef. If you don't agree with someone attack the points laid with logical reasons not attacking the Op. Why fight dirty when you can bring logical reasons? And btw I agree with the Op BrainNewsNG
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by Hier(m): 2:46pm On Aug 27, 2017
BrainnewsNg:
By Brainnews NG


Ever wondered why some born-again ladies who are really serving God aren’t married?

They attend church activities regularly, always with Holy bible or spiritual book in their hand bags, always dressed properly, prayer warrior even to the point that all her neighbors hears her during night or early morning prayer yet the lady is in her late 30s or early 40s no husband, not even a fellow church or Christian brother to marry her?

Well from my observation; let me write some of the sure reasons why some of our holy sisters are finding difficulties to get married in their late 30s or early 40s when most of their perceived worldly, indecent, carnal-minded ladies are getting married in their mid 20s and late 20s.

- Born again ladies too scary and embarrassing for most men to approach: Yes they are insulting, I recall when a born again lady once slapped a man in the public because the man touched her politely. This set of ladies scared away potential husbands when they were young with their over serious attitudes. They have the set or standard of men they considered the kind of men they can grant audience and their principles and standard must be met by any man that should talk to them and believe me some of them have more than 50 principles and standard a man has to attain before they grant the man an audience.

Let me talk about some of their standards that makes them send men away;

- Firstly, He must be a God-fearing man (this God fearing man is what I don’t still understand what they mean) they need a man who is a strong Christian preferably their Church member.

- The man must tall, fair or dark, knows the scriptures very well, can pray for at least 30 minutes a day.

- The man must not drink alcohol, must not party, and must not do a kind of work that will make him return late at night.

- The man must be the type that helps her for some house works like cleaning, kitchen and laundry.

- If She finally considers the man, She will need months to pray to God about it in order for God to give her approval and if She get’s the approval from God, the man must also follow her to go and see her Pastor for final approval and if the Pastor says NO, then she pursues the man like a criminal.

- If the Pastor approves, sometimes men would not cope with their harsh principles beginning from the No touching till wedding day rule.

- Extreme born again ladies are always right and no one can correct them, they always feel like demigod to their men.

Meanwhile their perceived indecent ladies have been married with kids and peaceful family.

SOURCE: http://brainnewsng.com/some-born-again-ladies-are-finding-difficulties-to-get-married/
loooooool
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by enemyofprogress: 2:48pm On Aug 27, 2017
PrimadonnaO:
But you're an enemy of progress na... undecided
I will change as soon as you marry me
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by PrimadonnaO(f): 2:50pm On Aug 27, 2017
enemyofprogress:
I will change as soon as you marry me
No... change first.
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by Tundetiler2011(m): 2:52pm On Aug 27, 2017
if i tell u my own story @op u will fear for real
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by enemyofprogress: 2:53pm On Aug 27, 2017
PrimadonnaO:
No... change first.
change to what?
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by Fearcom(m): 2:58pm On Aug 27, 2017
If any man be in Christ, he is a new creature; old things have passed away, behold all things are become new.


To be born again is to receive the Life and Nature of God into your human spirit. Born of the Spirit of God. It is a spiritual experience.
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by PrimadonnaO(f): 2:58pm On Aug 27, 2017
enemyofprogress:
change to what?
DevotedtoProgress... cheesy
Re: Why Some Born-again Ladies Are Finding Difficulties To Get Married by enemyofprogress: 3:00pm On Aug 27, 2017
PrimadonnaO:
DevotedtoProgress... cheesy
mods said it's not possible to do that again
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