Pidgin2:


Sooth yourself but likening a female to car is like doing the same to your mother. Who knows "maybe your dad tested the engine several times before settling"how does this sound to you? To each his own

you still referred to my previous post that I thought it was settled without responding to the last one you quoted

na so u they do ?
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Op, i congrat u for taking this bold step by saying u want to remain abstain from pre-martial intimacy till u are married. What u need to know where you meet this type of people with their first impression matter. For instance, i met a lady while traveling, we got talking and exchange contact, to cut the story short, she came to my house and what she wanted was sex, i refused and ever then she has been calling impotent guy. So the places matter. Secondly, ur style of dresses and make-up matter

flowers4me:


Okay, thanks. i have met men online and offline who dont agree, even in the churches.

Then regarding the 'hiding stuff ish', nothing is being hidden, the decision is in a bid to lookout for one's self in order not to become damaged goods to the deserving man after falling prey to professional samplers fronting to be suitors.

The fact that a man is found in a church does not mean a church is in him.

As regards your topic, yes of course there are such men. One fact of life is that there are always exceptions to conventional ideas/beliefs. That you have been meeting "beta testers" doesn't mean you're attracting them and neither does it mean all guys out there are the same. Some things only happen so that we can learn from them and that God can take glory from them.
Sooner or later, you'll find what you're looking for (or rather, what you want will find you).

sisisioge:
Oh, you see a good size 40 leather shoes that promised durability, comfort and affordability. Baby, you a perfect size 40. Thank God! It should fit...You took it home a happy person.

On your first wear, it didn't quite fit well but you told yourself it's leather, it's one of a kind, you will grown into each other Whew! cos now you've got tons of blisters to show for your bravo. May God help us shop for the best fit... hallelujah

I didn't kuku say anything, I just said check your shoes wella

Not only did you say "something," you said it with an admirable style I couldn't resist commenting. Your prayer (in bold) is the ultimate though.

I find it disgusting the way some supposedly educated Nigerians correlate premarital sex and ''unserious/immature men''. People make decisions to have sex or not, it cannot be used to define them as being unserious and/immature. The decision to have sex or to abstain isn't a measure of maturity, seriousness (whatever that means?), or chastity.

As far as I'm concerned, safe sex with a trusted partner is an integral part of modern relationships. The analogy someone raised previously about testing a product prior to purchase is very apt. It's a very wise and sensible practise to 'test' someone you plan to spend the rest of your life with, sexual incompatibility is a leading cause of infidelity in many marriages.

flowers4me:
Hello Fellow N'landers'

Do people still subscribe to the idea of "abstinence from pre-marital intimacy" in relationships, these days?

In the last couple of years i've met potential suitors who walked, soon as they learnt pre-marital intimacy won't be on offer.

I'm tired of this trend, i need to meet people of like mind...are they still out there?

Yes, we exist

M in a relationship that z 4yrs as at may 5, n we have avoided it by God grace, it wasn't easy but we have been avoidinh it like plague

We intend doing our introduction this year

How did we avoid it

BY REMINDING OURSELVES OF GOD PROMISES, WE PRAY N WHENEVER THE URGE COMES I CAREFULLY LEAVE HER PRESENCE

Vutseck:
it's like signing a documents without going through the contents

only men with inferiority complex can take such a gamble


if a lady's puna is as wide as Bole hole and deceive a man into such an agreement then who loose

this is a life time agreement Jare...no room for mistakes
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Senseless message

flowers4me:


Really? how come i kept meeting those whose opinion are on the contrary even inside the church?

Anyways, thanks for re-assuring my resolve.
Amen to the prayer and the same to you if you still searching.

If you truly want to stand the test of time over this issue, remain in God, all those who want sex are not God plan for you

Owiii:

That was what I prayed for and I got it by God's grace. I decided I was going to involve myself in sexual activity after my graduation from the university but as God would have it, got born again in 2011- knowing God and having the feeling that even kissing is a sin. Because if you do remedials, you must do degree. #teamabstenancetillmarriage#

Thank you for your testimony, m in a 4yr old relationship n to the glory of God even when d huge comes, we pray together or excuse the house... .. Mere having d thought I counted it as sex then because d heart was not guided jealously


So we can abstain

Iseoluwani:



If you truly want to stand the test of time over this issue, remain in God, all those who want sex are not God plan for you

Okay, thanks bro.

Iseoluwani:


Thank you for your testimony, m in a 4yr old relationship n to the glory of God even when d huge comes, we pray together or excuse the house... .. Mere having d thought I counted it as sex then because d heart was not guided jealously


So we can abstain

Kudos to you and bae.

Iseoluwani:


Yes, we exist

M in a relationship that z 4yrs as at may 5, n we have avoided it by God grace, it wasn't easy but we have been avoidinh it like plague

We intend doing our introduction this year

How did we avoid it

BY REMINDING OURSELVES OF GOD PROMISES, WE PRAY N WHENEVER THE URGE COMES I CAREFULLY LEAVE HER PRESENCE

Okay, that's remarkable. More of God's Grace on you and your's and congratulations in advance.

claremont:
I find it disgusting the way some supposedly educated Nigerians correlate premarital sex and ''unserious/immature men''. People make decisions to have sex or not, it cannot be used to define them as being unserious and/immature. The decision to have sex or to abstain isn't a measure of maturity, seriousness (whatever that means?), or chastity.

As far as I'm concerned, safe sex with a trusted partner is an integral part of modern relationships. The analogy someone raised previously about testing a product prior to purchase is very apt. It's a very wise and sensible practise to 'test' someone you plan to spend the rest of your life with, sexual incompatibility is a leading cause of infidelity in many marriages.

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Iseoluwani:


Thank you for your testimony, m in a 4yr old relationship n to the glory of God even when d huge comes, we pray together or excuse the house... .. Mere having d thought I counted it as sex then because d heart was not guided jealously


So we can abstain

for you to even go into a relationship with opposite sex who is yet to be your wife is a sin


a mere having the thought when you are with her and sex urge arises is also a sin


you are dating a woman for 4yrs, be inviting her to your house,.. you have an ulterior motives, that is a sin


where is dating written in the Bible


all these holier than thou
self
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DonOms:


The fact that a man is found in a church does not mean a church is in him.

As regards your topic, yes of course there are such men. One fact of life is that there are always exceptions to conventional ideas/beliefs. That you have been meeting "beta testers" doesn't mean you're attracting them and neither does it mean all guys out there are the same. Some things only happen so that we can learn from them and that God can take glory from them.
Sooner or later, you'll find what you're looking for (or rather, what you want will find you).

Many thanks to you and Amen to " getting what i want".

Vutseck:


for you to even go into a relationship with opposite sex who is yet to be your wife is a sin


a mere having the thought when you are with her and sex urge arises is also a sin


you are dating a woman for 4yrs, be inviting her to your house,.. you have an ulterior motives, that is a sin


where is dating written in the Bible


all these holier than thou
self
.

N who told you she comes to my house likr that? M not dating her m courting her. There is a difference there

Oma307:
Op, i congrat u for taking this bold step by saying u want to remain abstain from pre-martial intimacy till u are married. What u need to know where you meet this type of people with their first impression matter. For instance, i met a lady while traveling, we got talking and exchange contact, to cut the story short, she came to my house and what she wanted was sex, i refused and ever then she has been calling impotent guy. So the places matter. Secondly, ur style of dresses and make-up matter

Sorry about your experience.

Kudos to you for showing you can control your emotions.
About dress-sence, modesty is my watch-word.
Thanks for stopping by.

Iseoluwani:



N who told you she comes to my house likr that? M not dating her m courting her. There is a difference there

Bro, please ignore....

Iseoluwani:



N who told you she comes to my house likr that? M not dating her m courting her. There is a difference there

""we pray together or excuse the house""

why must you invite her to your house at the first place since you know you will lust over her


how can you have an urge if truly you worship God in spirit and not by lip service

give reference in the Bible where you are asked to go into courtship with opposite sex before you can marry her
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flowers4me:

Bro, please ignore....

lol..
he is one local nigga from a remote village

internet have given everybody a voice .

flowers4me:


Many thanks to you and Amen to " getting what i want".

You're welcome.

Yes, there are men who supports your view op.

Men whose dicckkk refuse to rise or function during sexual pre-intimacy. Such men will gladly accept this request of yours and play along, until the dotted lines are signed and sealed.

So be patient op.

NoToPile:



You just summarized a whole lot about the male species.

Flowersforme you will find just what you are looking for, its just a matter of time and yeah men with no sex policy are abound everywhere don't be deceived. Since you have made that decision stand by it, don't let any one feel you are making a mistake.

Thanks so much, bro.

alexialin:
Yes, there are men who supports your view op.

Men whose dicckkk refuse to rise or function during sexual pre-intimacy. Such men will gladly accept this request of yours and play along, until the dotted lines are signed and sealed.

So be patient op.

I pray and wish you just the same. Amen.

flowers4me:


I pray and wish you just the same. Amen.

Heheheheheheheeh..

My dear, I didn't beg you to pray for me


And news flash: such prayer and wishes cannot work on me.

U know why?
I don't marry blindly. And hope for the best.

I marry with all my eyes and five senses wide open, before signing the doted lines.

So am not moved one bit about the prayer, uv indirectly cast on yourself.

Better be wise and don't marry with eyes closed, or else you will. Come back online and start crying your newly wedded husband cant get it up since wedding night till date.

A word is enough for the wise.

Vutseck:
that moment a young chap sheepishly agrees in no sex before marriage


eventually discovers they aren't sexually compatible after he must have finalized all marital formalities


regrets and frustrations sets in


I doubt if a civilized fellow can fall for it


on a second thought, an impotent man will welcome no sex before marriage with an open arms since it will help cover his weaknesses.
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Enough of this madness ! why are you so pained over this thread title ? you are a professional sampler damaging goods since time immemorial.

Use the door, get out of here.

Take Note: dont even think of quoting and responding back cos you have been IGNORED.

alexialin:





Heheheheheheheeh..

My dear, I didn't beg you to pray for me


And news flash: such prayer and wishes cannot work on me.

U know why?
I don't marry blindly. And hope for the best.

I marry with all my eyes and five senses wide open, before signing the doted lines.

So am not moved one bit about the prayer, uv indirectly cast on yourself.

Better be wise and don't marry with eyes closed, or else you will. Come back online and start crying your newly wedded husband cant get it up since wedding night till date.

A word is enough for the wise.

I know that you are the wisest in the universe, thats why i pray same for you, as you wish others so it will be unto you, simple law of nature.
EOD !

flowers4me:


I know that you are the wisest in the universe, thats why i pray same for you, as you wish others so it will be unto you, simple law of nature.
EOD !

And have said and decree already. That prayer is for you and will manifest in your life.

It will not affect me or have any effect on my life or whomsoever I marry.

You are only praying that prayer yourself.

So be expectant.

And so shall It be for u, amen and amen.

It's finished.

Anything u say from now on, it's all on you from henceforth amen.

abimbawealth:
I believe there are, may be rare though...

Ok dear, thanks.

Stephanie22:
Yes poster, they are everywhere. Is just that they are quiet cause it isn't in vogue.

Okay Stephanie, kindly send the 'single searching one' to this thread if you can. Thanks.

jashar:
Even if the lady is a non-virgin and tells a guy no to premarital sex, doesn't she have right to say no?

@ OP, there are ooo... But they ain't many and they keep it to themselves. I know some sha...

Okay Jashar, kindly send the one you know here. Thanks

Pidgin2:


It is an insult to liken a human being to a car, is your mother a car, was her punna test driven and sampled by your father several times before purchase? Nonsense

Please Sis, don't waste your breath on that nonsense, can you imagine criticizing females for being promiscuos which led to body part becoming bore hole' and at the same time kicking hard against abstinence' is there any sense there at all?