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Proudgorgeousga:
would like your daughter any of your children to be docile? Is it a good attribute in this world of opportunists.

when I was a teenager I was very timid and docile by dad hated that. He always complain he made me change.

I do not think being docile as an adult is cool.

webngnews:
I will send my wife packing the moment I found out she is keeping her money from me

Proudgorgeousga:
would like your daughter any of your children to be docile? Is it a good attribute in this world of opportunists.

when I was a teenager I was very timid and docile by dad hated that. He always complain he made me change.

I do not think being docile as an adult is cool.

supersystemsnig:
Wrong Move...


Humility is having more and been under control at the same time...After a contrite heart, God loves an individual that is unmoved by " more ". Shall we now be so unstable that our lives are directed by financial increase? Is financial stability the only/major thing that makes up an individual? You're making some mistakes, but you're in the right direction...Holyspirit, i wished i had time to break these things down...

GoodFaith:
I understand that
30 year back women can stay home take care of the kids
a cost of a house was 40,000.00
have two cars in the driveway one new and one old
Husband making 40,000.00 yearly
today the cost of a house 300,000.00 for the same house
The school is not provide a good stand of education
Now you want private school for two or four kids
Most today family like the two new cars in the driveway

supersystemsnig:
You met God, and she's black heh !

I thought i've seen it all in life...abeg make i laff in spiritual powers biko

You ladies want to take everything for yourselves..

Proudgorgeousga:
Anyhow you want to interpret the quote is up to you.

But aren't we supposedly created in God's image

isn't God supposed to be love?

The best example of love I have seen in this world is my mum

and of course she's God's image and she's a black woman

Hence I met God she's black "

supersystemsnig:
Docile has plenty meanings and we ought to be careful. I don't like any human being in life to swallow what people dish out to them. I stand for, sort things out and choose which is yours... The meaning i stand for is being malleable, in Christianity, we call it been " teachable ", the ability to receive instruction and not be in a defensive mode against any form of reproof or correction... This is where i stand ma


Never swallow what anyone dishes out without testing, lest we submit to manipulation under the will of others who may not mean well for us...

supersystemsnig:
I never said a woman can't work in a marriage oh... Even Proverbs 31 advocates a hard-working woman... Woman that don't work in a marriage are prone to depression...I hope you know? The intelligence in them just irks and wants to jump out of them...I see it in their faces many times...Damn, there's this radiologist i need to toast, i need to fake something so i can ask my doctor to give me letter for a scan...BRB...

majekoam:
Ok my Final question. In as much as that was the case. Can you in your heart of heart now change and become such an example and live like such from today on?

Im partial to chinese food...

Proudgorgeousga:
being teachable? cool

GoodFaith:
I feel sorry for the next generation
with the continuous increase in price

supersystemsnig:
Lol @ Youre a parent. You have two sons and a daughter. Daughter's the only one who's raised to do the cleaning and cooking while the boys lazy around. She isnt even given ample time to focus on her studies like her brothers. Bad and discriminative parenting. Big problem. Feminism is against this.


Common sense is against it. I grew up in a home of discipline as the last child...Do you know my mother would virtually tell my sisters to go do something else, i fetched water upstairs, washed the floor, washed the plates...When i finished went for lessons and got home 7.30pm from Primary 3-4...Guess what, it didn't require feminism...I remember being more or less the last in everything, and my mum didn't get the feministic training..


Baby, it's a healthy family we should push for, and not place these basic things under strange tags...Thank God i submitted to that process, i also learnt from the street, today, i'm super versatile, from electricals, to mechanicals, to plumbing, to farming, to cognitive demands, i do all. At 8 years old i was reporting to my dad's workplace till 15...Little wonder why many men are weak now, their mental prowess was not well developed, cause we forget most times, that as we attend to tasks, they also cultivate us in the process and help us become more adept in handling life issues. Thank God i submitted to the process without fighting back. More so, i have an excellent rapport with my sisters. I basically took it as my training...Shame on any mother that don't allow sons do home chores..May they eat from their labour...May the fruits yield increase for them..


We're cool...


So, is it Theresa May or Donald Trump ?

Blueberrie:
Oh oh.. so sorry about that. I think we should all endeavour to practice good parenting.

what do you mean by Theresa May or Donald Trump?

supersystemsnig:
It implies r u in Yankee or JD

Daeylar:
My response to this is if the man wants support in financing for the family then he must support with the cooking, cleaning, doing house chores, taking care of the kids, that's the only way I will support equal or any type of financial help by the wife. My reason is this, many men see providing as their job and taking care of the home and kids as the job of the wives, so if the men want any form of support in their job, they must be willing to support in the job of the wife.
It's not fair nor right in any way to say that just because the wife is financially stable she must help financially yet the husband who is emotionally physically and moral stable leaves the cooking, house chores and care of the kids to the wife because he is a man and that is not what men do.
It can't be shared responsibility when it comes to finances but becomes the woman's job when it comes to care of the home and the kids, it's not acceptable,

50-50 all the way or nothing,

The wife brings money to support the family and the man cooks and cleans and takes care of the children not just when the woman is sick or unavailable but also when she is capable and available to do so, The man does it because it's the 50-50 rule.
Do you see my point?

Blueberrie:
Been living like that since forever. That's why I'm a feminist

Indian is the best

Next2Bezee:
ToZaraWithaZ sumed in up brilliantly on page 2. Both partners are adults and can agree on the type of lifestyle that works for them. I don't see anything wrong with a husband helping with chores and cooking, it's actually getting more common now

Especially if both the husband and wife works. It'll be an uncomfortable relationship if the wife always have to deal with the stress of work then come back to tidy the home...then clearly her husband doesn't love her. So they could go with maids or share the responsibility.

But if the wife doesn't work, isn't willing to and would rather be a housewife, then it'll be quite unreasonable to expect the husband to take most of the responsibility when it comes to chores at home.

majekoam:
O.Y.O

supersystemsnig:
It is our heartfelt prayer that things become better...It is going to be well with the next generation,this country and all of us. God cares about us, and has made provision ahead for whatever needs may lie in the future. I entrust my future in his hands 100% without any fear or worry

EgunMogaji:
Though it’s not my duty to educate you but I’ll throw you a freebie because I hate seeing educated illiterates.

http://www.dictionary.com/browse/figure-of-speech

Daeylar:
If you're just stating your views then I agree,

If it's the 2nd option I have clearly stated many times that if the husband is the sole provider then the wife takes care of the home however if they are both providers then they will both take care of the home

Blueberrie:
Haha neither of those. When I told you I'm 10hrs away by plane the only countries you could think of are the Us and Uk?

GoodFaith:
Indian women are contributing to their marriage
I spoke with a Indian dude about wife have a job where we work
that men can take more risk not know that the wife work here
in a different Dept
Few months later the dude became a contractor from full job still working in same job
doesn't get vacation pay, no health coverage
Make more money as a contractor

tescoman90:
Educated illiterate?

EgunMogaji:
Yeah, I don't write for simpletons so it's understandable that you didn't understand

supersystemsnig:
This guy..

supersystemsnig:
She makes serious sense...The bae is very very on point..Go bring her here bro...

RomeoEmpire:
Aswear u sef know better tin die. Will surely holla u wen i get her.