₦airaland Forum

olaboy1:
That was the the best decision of your life. When you ask a woman what do you look for in a man, she throws out this endless list with caring and kindness somewhere in the middle. Now are you women saying men don't deserve caring and kindness also.

Guys if your wife or about to be wife is working and earning a salary, she MUST financially contribute to the upkeep of the family in the economy of today. When I was around 17yrs old or so, I questioned my mum with so much anger on why we don't get to see her salary at the end of month; I watched my dad tender his pay check and my mum would bring out a paper to do list for the month, I cringed at that one sided marriage set up and promised myself when I grow to get married I will never put myself up for this kind of arrangement...better not to be married.

If my salary can afford rent for the family in Igando whilst me and my wife work in Ikoyi, is it not sensible that wifey support the family so we could afford a place closer to the Island. And if she is not spending her salary on the family, then what exactly will she spend it on assuming she is earning between 150-350k.

I also believe if the woman puts her salary on the table for the family, then I consider that gesture as been invested in the relationship or marriage. I am so sick of the emotional blackmail that a woman would help me with house chores,,,wtf, what effing house chore when today it's very inexpensive to acquire a washing machine, dish washer, vacuum machine etc.

If I earn 200k and my wife earns 150k, she must provide 40% of our family expenditures, if she can't do that then let her take her bags and go back to her parents, because I'm sure she would pay her own bills when she lives alone anyway.

If I make 500k and my wife earns 50k then I don't need to ask her a dime, it's that simple.

Ngokafor:
You lots love to make noise and shout 50-50 when it comes to finances but scream 'Head of the House' 'its a mans World,'African tradition' e.t.c when it comes to doing chores,cooking,taking care of the kids and all...You lots love to quote European women and how they are so liberal and open-mindedwhen it comes to finances,forgeting that their men cook,do the chores and take care of their kids almost as much as their wives..

I have no problem with women spending their money for the betterment of their familes...but i and so many women have observed that the average Nigerian male is one of the selfish beings on earth..They love to eat cake and have it..noisily in most cases.

EgunMogaji:
Yeah, I don't write for simpletons so it's understandable that you didn't understand

tescoman90:
Foolishness............smh

EgunMogaji:
Yeah, I don't write for simpletons so it's understandable that you didn't understand

CEEcey:


A husband that depends on his wife's money is a disgrace to men

My money is mine alone and I can only decide to give him if he asks

Besides isn't he suppose to be the head of the family
His money is ours.

supersystemsnig:
Lol Oh Bro. Please leave me alone, you're cracking me up... Anyways, the mistrust in relationships is something else, We need to find a right balance to keep things in perspectives. Many of our ladies are setting up war apparatus from not getting cheated, but it's too excessive.

What does a chick need all her money to herself for, when hubby takes care of the home? Won't the finance attract some issues in the home? It beats me...It's beyond me

Ngokafor:
You lots love to make noise and shout 50-50 when it comes to finances but scream 'Head of the House' 'its a mans World,'African tradition' e.t.c when it comes to doing chores,cooking,taking care of the kids and all...You lots love to quote European women and how they are so liberal and open-mindedwhen it comes to finances,forgeting that their men cook,do the chores and take care of their kids almost as much as their wives..

I have no problem with women spending their money for the betterment of their familes...but i and so many women have observed that the average Nigerian male is one of the selfish beings on earth..They love to eat cake and have it..noisily in most cases.

Sierusvirus:
Bro, it's very necessary for our girls to be raised properly not to be stingy, selfish and self-centered.

Ngokafor:
You lots love to make noise and shout 50-50 when it comes to finances but scream 'Head of the House' 'its a mans World,'African tradition' e.t.c when it comes to doing chores,cooking,taking care of the kids and all...You lots love to quote European women and how they are so liberal and open-mindedwhen it comes to finances,forgeting that their men cook,do the chores and take care of their kids almost as much as their wives..

I have no problem with women spending their money for the betterment of their familes...but i and so many women have observed that the average Nigerian male is one of the selfish beings on earth..They love to eat cake and have it..noisily in most cases.

majekoam:
ok. please, whats your point?

GoodFaith:
Indian women pay bill too
Indian women don't do it is my money and the men must pay all the bills

supersystemsnig:
They are stingy, selfish and self centered, and guess what, i don't care...I can hustle

tescoman90:

EgunMogaji:

GoodFaith:
Indian women pay bill too
Indian women don't do it is my money and the men must pay all the bills

GoodFaith:
"according to the Bible a husband is the head of the home"
So what are u going to be doing with ur money?
show me in the Bible where it was stated that the men must take all or most of"financial responsibility" by himself
The Bible talk about family as one unite
The word joint together

Rukkydelta:
Why are you Nigerian men so selfish and self centered?
If it's comes to submission you guys will be the loudest screaming about it that a wife must summit cos it is said in the bible and the man paid her bride price bla bla
But when it suddenly comes to finance you guys don't know that the man is the head and he paid the bride price & it's also the african tradition for a man to take care of his wife?
And you asked me for where in the Bible is the man stated to be the financial head, so look at where it is stated
1tim5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel
Even in Genesis when God chases the first man and woman out of the garden of Eden,to each he gave his/her respondiblility. Read Gen3:15-21
Seriously I wonder the kind of men this present generation will bring forth. Women are now taking part of what originally was the man's duty but you guys aren't still satisfy you want it to be 50-50 or the woman should provide more. I don't have any problem with any man saying he and his wife is going to share financial responsibility equally,he should just know he isn't going to be the head of the home, he and his wife will be equals, nothing like submission and house chores should also be shared 50-50
Cos it's what you guys want, since a woman contributing 30% isn't accepted by you

GoodFaith:
I think u are very selfish and self center
Person like you will make your husband work ten job
U have two have hands and I have two hands If you have PHD and make 100k
I have a master degree and I make 95k
Sis tell me what make me selfish
" originally was the man's duty" yes it wa original men duty but things have change
Fathers don't use to sent girls to school
So women was at a disadvantage but today men like me are going to ensure our daughters
can be the leaders of the free world why
because they have as good education like any other men
u and ur husband are not a team?
Question what are u going to use your money for?
Nigerian Men for really
White women that make more money pay more for bill
Your father will be very disappointed if he educated u and u think that u are less than a men
Traditional the role of men and women has not change
women go to work now, so the men must help in running the house

Rukkydelta:
I'm not selfish was just being rational

What I'm against is when the man still wants the wife to summit to him (where she has no/little say and should worship him like a god)
Or when he refuses to partake in house chores?
Yes time have changed and things have so,
So a man should also know that if the woman is to take care of financial responsibility like him or more than him, he should also be ready to get involve in house chores cos most men have stone age kind of mentality in the that aspect but when it comes to finances they know it's now modern time
And what made me to reply you like that it's cos you said the man as head of the home in the Bible doesn't mean he is the financial head

GoodFaith:
U can be the financial head because u know about money management than me
I might make the most money
Are u going to get on my ride lawnmower to mower the lawn?
Are u going to cut trees if we have tree to cut?
Are u going to take out the snow blower to blower the snow?
It can't be 50-50
People are not looking for 50-50 but a team player
Yes u are going to summit
i am going to summit
If I said put it on the bed do it girl, give it to him the way I want it
He is the lord of the house
You are the most high queen of the land that need to be please too
There is no one size fit all
Girl u just 18 years old? young
The world is a crazy place

sucre:
From your write up you ain't married. Wait till u are married before you respond

EgunMogaji:
Only a broke man will be worrying about this.

Marry a good woman and work hard to make sure she never lacks.

Do you think Zuckerberg is sitting around worrying about how much his wife makes?

Povertious souls

GoodFaith:
You wrote this?
for really?
"Do you think Zuckerberg is sitting around worrying about how much his wife makes?"
U living in Texas?
I don't know u but I know I make lot of money than you--
I still want wife backing
Marry a team player to make sure that ur family never lack
I thought you was a smart man for you to use Mark to compare 96% of men
??
I am not going to be disrespectful