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| Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by Nobody: 12:13am On Oct 05, 2017 |
So,my colleagues and I had this argument today. But as for me, I'm totally against it. Why? Because they're the parents and it's their responsibility. It is not like the children are servants, If they can't cater for the children, then they never should have given birth to them. But, my friends were telling me that when they say thank you after every meal, you're instilling gratitude in them. But I frown at it, there are other ways to make them to be grateful. Your contributions please... Cc; Seun lalasticlala mynd44 obinoscopy 1 Like |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by Consray(f): 12:16am On Oct 05, 2017 |
I give your friend 100% support 2 Likes |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by ImaIma1(f): 12:32am On Oct 05, 2017 |
Why do they say thank you when their parents buy them gifts like a bicycle,laptop,car,etc? Afterall the parents brought them to the world and children are entitled to all gifts abi. Saying thank you after meals is good. The children learn to be grateful. There are too many ungrateful and entitled children out there. Children who never show appreciation or even know how to greet because parents are trying to be modern in their upbringing. Poster let kids say thank you at any time they receive stuff. It helps them 6 Likes |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by Merryglad(f): 1:38am On Oct 05, 2017 |
In my own home we say thank you before and after eating and we are very happy to do that......its part of making our parents know we appreciate their effort |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by elektra(f): 3:35am On Oct 05, 2017 |
Why are you frowning at it? Does it hurt the kids to say thank you after every meal? If the parent wants to be thanked then let them train their kids to say thank you. It does not hurt anyone. I think the point is to train the kids to say thank you especially when the food is not offered by the parents. If they are not trained to say thank you to their parents, they may not know they should say thank you to other people. Some husbands say thank you to their wives for preparing the food, wife responds by thanking him for bringing money to buy ingredients. Nothing spoil 2 Likes |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by Daeylar(f): 4:56am On Oct 05, 2017 |
ImaIma1: Gifts are gifts, children are not entitled to gifts, children do not need a laptop or a bicycle. (Although it's good to give them, the laptop at the appropriate age.) If you get a gift for a child the child should be taught to say thank you and be grateful for every gift given. That's different. Food however is a basic need. Children are entitled to food. A child must be fed. The fact that they don't say thank you after eating will not make them ungrateful. Op I'm with you, I think it's going over board, you can teach kids how to be grateful but saying thank you after every single meal eaten is doing too much in my opinion. I think a middle ground is OK, they should teach the child/ren to be thankful and to appreciate the good things they have, they should also be taught not to take any thing for granted. they can say thank you for their meals once in a while. (Once in a long while) that's all right, but every time is too much for me. 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by Nobody: 6:58am On Oct 05, 2017 |
I agree with your friends op,some children take little things like this for granted so much that they never learn to be thankful.Yes we know it's every parents' responsibility to feed their child(ren) but it won't hurt to show appreciation after meals. 1 Like |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by ImaIma1(f): 12:00pm On Oct 05, 2017 |
Daeylar: It's important to teach kids to be thankful even for the little things. Even though God is our father and has the ability to provide for us. We still thank Him for the food we eat and even water we drink. I don't think it is wrong for children to be taught to say thank you even after eating. Even my hubby still thanks me after he eats whether or not it's his money that cooked d food. 1 Like |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by Daeylar(f): 12:07pm On Oct 05, 2017 |
ImaIma1:I agree. I don't think it is wrong for children to be taught to say thank you even after eating. Even my hubby still thanks me after he eats whether or not it's his money that cooked d food. Neither do I, I just felt to say it after every single meal eaten was excessive, that's why I gave a suggestion of a middle ground in my post, but to each his own, as long as the child grows up to be thankful and learns to not take anything for granted, that's the goal |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by Nobody: 5:58pm On Oct 05, 2017 |
What does saying thank you has to do with Christianity? Africans and religion. How did we get here? Note. The fact that it is the responsibility of the parents to provide doesn't mean, they shouldn't be appreciated after meal. Besides I see it as African thing, few countries I have been to, it is not obtainable to say thank you. |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by shevon: 6:46pm On Oct 05, 2017 |
Funny enough, I had same conversation with my wife today. A delivery guy brought diapers I ordered online, I transferred the cash to her account, she paid and told me afterwards and I thanked her. She then asked why I was thanking her, I told her it was just out of mare cutesy. Children should thank their parents after a meal not because their parents are doing them any favour, but simply out of cutesy. Yes, parents have the obligation to provide for their children and the children should appreciate the efforts put in by the parents to provide for them, mostly out of cutesy. In doing that, the children will also learn to appreciate people outside when efforts are put into providing them any service or favours. If the child doesn't say thank you, that is not a ground for victimisation or an opportunity to beat the child to force it on the child because the parent has not done anything extraordinary for the child. That's just my opinion though, to each his own. |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by Cuddlebugie(f): 8:26pm On Oct 05, 2017 |
Little wonder we have many entitled adults who are very unappreciative of what they have been blessed with, believes the world revolves around them and are insensitive to the feelings of others. What harm is there in instilling grateful feelings in your child not just for the 'big' gifts but for provision of their basic needs? 2 Likes |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by personal59: 12:10am On Oct 06, 2017 |
am not getting this u mean "thank you" or thank God" after each meal because it sound somehow to me, after every meal!!! ah ah How would the world av look like if man are the ones producing our breathing air to me is out of it and that is not the proper way to teach them how to be grateful......... ah ah after each meal...hey this is serious and that kain parent can be proud chai |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by Caracta(f): 6:19am On Oct 06, 2017 |
Yeah. Quite alien to me. But I experienced it when a family hosted me for a couple of weeks. After each meal, every child would go, "thank you mummy, thank you daddy, thank you Jesus". At first I was like  But I liked it. Even the daddy would say 'thank you' to his wife. It was funny. I joined them too. Ain't no big deal but every effort should be appreciated. Plus it doesn't hurt to say them, so why not? |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by Adaumunocha(f): 9:43am On Oct 06, 2017 |
You need to put the spirit of gratitude in kids. Kids thank their parent for providing while the parents thank God. |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by adexsimply(m): 10:52am On Oct 06, 2017 |
As a parent, expecting your child(ren) to show gratitude after providing them meals is total BS. You brought them to this world against their will so feeding them is something they are entitled to. There are other ways you can teach your children to show gratitude, feeding them shouldn't be part except you're running an orphanage. |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by adexsimply(m): 11:09am On Oct 06, 2017 |
Cuddlebugie:Parents who "instill" grateful feelings in their children on the basis of providing meals for them only want their egos stroked. The emboldened text is unfounded. A child/adult will turn out to be entitled and unappreciative regardless of how "they reacted to being fed" by their parents. "Thank you" is just mere words which doesn't show how appreciative you are of something -- your actions and gestures are a better judge of how you "feel". |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by adexsimply(m): 11:12am On Oct 06, 2017 |
Daeylar:Correct. 1 Like |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by Acidosis(m): 11:44am On Oct 06, 2017 |
Saying too many thank you for what you failed to do, what you didn't ask for because you perceived yourself as "too important", "too good for that task", and what you could not do because everyone knows you to be very lazy and incapable, will only lead to resentment. Some "thank you" aren't necessary so parents should be mindful of how they instil a manner in their children. Thank you should not become a tool for expecting more from people who don't owe you anything, it can breed laziness. And in fact, a lazy person should not use the word "thank you". A child whose hands are only good for holding big spoons, not soap and a bowl of water should not be encouraged to say thank you until he/she learns how to appreciate people by first taking significant or insignificant level of weight off the parent's shoulders. |
| Re: Should Children Say Thank You To Their Parent(s) After Every Meal? by ezugegere(m): 10:12pm On Oct 06, 2017 |
It doesn't make sense to me. I can never demand a 'Thank you' from my children after a meal. Rather, they should give the thanks to God who provides. |
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