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Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by Jsaviour(f): 11:16pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
tintingz: And to think it's even the woman that gave birth to them. How come someone or thing(cos that's how some men see women-as properties) as small as one rib now becomes the mother of the earth and source of life (birthing). When you tell humans to use their brain they will say no. maybe if we tell them it's an app, they will start using it. Your maker that gave you the sense isn't stupid, he wants you to use it. 2 Likes |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by tintingz(m): 11:20pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
solasoulmusic:So you were taught? So what happens when the wife doesn't cook but work, is she a good wife? |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by Nobody: 11:21pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
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Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by zoeshalom(m): 11:22pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
tintingz:When you asked if a lady refuses or can't tend for the home in the kitchen is not a social construct? |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by tintingz(m): 11:23pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
Jsaviour:Lol, |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by Nobody: 11:29pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
tintingz: Those are grey areas and things couples need to discuss a working woman can still manage a home ...My Mother did effectively. Personally I see myself more as a stay at home mum not because I won’t want to work but because my Business will revolve around my home |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by tintingz(m): 11:29pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
zoeshalom:It was a rational question I asked. If the quality of a husband as the head is being the breadwinner and the wife being value as good wife for cooking, if the man can still be called the head and tell the wife to be submissive even tho he's not the breadwinner then why do people bash the wife if she doesn't Cook? Is a woman a good and responsible wife if she doesn't Cook? Take note of the double standard. 1 Like |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by tintingz(m): 11:35pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
solasoulmusic:There are a lot of married woman doing double duties, working to provide and building the home while the man only work to provide. That's in africa. But when a woman doesn't do the responsibility as the wife she's bashed but when same happens to the man he's still the head and no bashing, the wife must be submissive like a puppet. This is the double standard I'm pointing out from this rational question. If a woman is the stay at home person like a house wife, that's another case. 1 Like |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by sherlockhush(m): 11:37pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
God brought marriage and it will be foolish to reason marriage without God's word. A man leaves is father and go in search of a wife. Woman are met to submit themselves to their husband and husband should honour and treat their wives with love. 1peter 3:1 and vs 7 explains this properly. God made the man head not because he was only financially stable but because he can manage the home and present the home to God. Any marriage that comes in as a result of love sees beyond riches. They had a vow to maintain their position whether rich or poor, sickness or health till death do them apart. Pls if you are not married don't come here and start using your evil logic to spoil married people's home. Mind you there is a curse that you will carry by destroying a home with your immatured logic. What God has joined together let no man put assunder. You are not married to see how it work and you go online to laugh and mislead homes ... A man predicament does not make him useless to the home. Every good wife should have proverb 31: 10-31. If you are the wife and you are looking to be the head of the home why should you allow the man to come ask your hand in marriage. Why don't you go to the man house and marry him. In marriage the man heads all affairs spiritually, physically, mentally, financially , when one is not physically stable the wife who is the support comes in to assist .. Ask a single mother how it cost her to take care of her child. He will tell you if it is money only , the child will have remain wayward. No child wants to grow up in a single parent home. The presence of the man make the child unique lacking nothing. Pls ask a child that grew up in a single parent home. Just go and marry so you can get facts, and don't come here and start polluting peoples mind with useless logic which will later drive the peace of the home. Manage your home and stop asking people about their home. tintingz: |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by zoeshalom(m): 11:40pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
tintingz:I guess the contextual definition of the head being synonymous to being the bread winner is what you have a problem with? And for those thinking the Bible defined the head as only the breadwinner are wrong, because the in proverbs 31, it encourages the woman to work and tend for the needs of the and in doing so she brings honor to her home and is praised. 1 Like |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by tintingz(m): 11:42pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
sherlockhush:Kindly take your religious superiority to the next door or better still take it to pastor oyakhilome or Chris okotie on how marriage works. |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by tintingz(m): 11:44pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
zoeshalom:Sorry oga, I don't subscribe to Bible definition. |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by sherlockhush(m): 11:47pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
May God help you to have a good home... I pray you have a taste of the second side of marriage in just one year in Jesus Name Amen... tintingz: |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by sherlockhush(m): 11:50pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
Just try and marry outside God , I give you just 2years to tell the tale tintingz: |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by zoeshalom(m): 11:54pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
tintingz:Am not asking you to, but want to correct the warped impression that the Bible is a book that massages the Ego of a man. 1 Like |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by zoeshalom(m): 11:57pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
tintingz:From your response it shows you are not reacting based on rationality, but you seems to have a problem with the Bible? |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by crownson(m): 11:58pm On Oct 10, 2017 |
Come rain, come shine night or day in any situation, circumstances the man is the "head of the house". Just as Christ is the head of the church. 1 Like |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by Nobody: 12:36am On Oct 11, 2017 |
No matter how osibande shines, jubrin is still the president. |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by chieni(f): 12:36am On Oct 11, 2017 |
I think you should have a talk with him. Ask what is actually happening, and the rest. |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by Prognose: 12:45am On Oct 11, 2017 |
sacluxisback:Lol |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by Prognose: 12:59am On Oct 11, 2017 |
Lol@op Even if you earn all the money for the house your children will still answer their father's name so he's the head. Even if you earn all the money for the house and are now rubbing it in the man's face and making fun of him because he is currently down, then you are immature and not fit to be the head. Even if you are the sole breadwinner in the house, you're still not in charge of security, your husband will be the one to tuck you and the kids in at night and make sure the house is secure before going to bed himself...unless he has become so embittered by your attitude that he doesn't care anymore. Even if you are the one putting food on the table it was not always so. There was a time he went out to work so you could afford the house you now live in. You cant be a leader if you are not humble. Even if you are currently the breadwinner of the house, he still came to your father's house and paid your dowry. He is responsible for you and it is him people will come and ask if anything goes wrong with you so he is still your head. Oh, and none of the things I mentioned above had anything to do with religion since religion hurts you so much Even in your logical world everything has a head. If the head is cut off the body dies. The hand or leg does not automatically become the head if the head is incapacitated yet all parts of the body perform equally important functions. Read this with wisdom. (I would advice you to look for ways to encourage that man in your life that is making you feel this way to become the leader/head that he once was instead of struggling to change the status quo because perhaps he has fallen on hard times.) Peace.... |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by IBBG(m): 1:16am On Oct 11, 2017 |
i think ceremonially, the man is designated the head of the home, but functionally anybody can assume that role. When there is understanding between both parties, then there will be no need to want to flex muscle to show who is the head. i think men especially should always see their wifes as their equals and not their inferior, and see the position of being the head as a shared responsibilty. which means the man is responsible to the woman and the woman is responsible to the man, nobody is superior to each other, by so doing whoever is footing the family bills will not feel cheated or feel the other party is irrelevant. As for me both man and woman are both the head. nothing less 4 Likes |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by Nobody: 2:00am On Oct 11, 2017 |
tintingz: I don’t think it’s a double standard it really speaks about man and his position in Gods plans as the head of the household nothing can ever take that away and it’s deliberate It’s now up to that man to step up and still play a fatherly and husbandly role despite the tough times you can get upset with a man but do know when to lay off in bashing that’s the loving way |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by Originalsly: 2:45am On Oct 11, 2017 |
chukzyfcbb:I hear you...going back directly to the question raised....if the woman earns the title of head of household if she is the one working and bringing home the |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by femison32(m): 3:28am On Oct 11, 2017 |
alexialin:i love your mentality keep it up really excited by it 1 Like |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by corpershun: 4:33am On Oct 11, 2017 |
crownson: The Man is the head of the house. No argument but there are clauses. To further buttress that passage, The man was admonished to love his wife as Christ loved the church. Now Christ so much loved the church that He gave his life for the church as the HEAD of the church. Since we are looking at it biblically then any man that can not give his life for his family is not fit to be called the HEAD. Also note what love means in 1 Corinthians 13, people should read the whole Bible and not just pick a verse their pastor uses to preach and start intimidating people. That's why some people become atheist, little understanding of the Word of God. A drunkard or an irresponsible fellow claiming head is just one on paper. A woman that cannot take care of her household is not fit to be a wife. Marriage is partnership. The man the head, the wife the neck. If this concept isn't bastardized, then all things work together for good... More so, a wise woman is the head without assuming it, she basically controls the man but subtly, that he does her desires without him knowing it. Just like the neck controls the head in whatever direction seemingly. |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by Nobody: 4:41am On Oct 11, 2017 |
alexialin: You might get hurt if you continue like this |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by Ndipe(m): 4:43am On Oct 11, 2017 |
The man is always the head of the family. If you disagree with me, come and explain why a woman, even if she makes more money than the man would still bear the man's last name, likewise the children. |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by Gettreadyy(m): 5:03am On Oct 11, 2017 |
kimbraa:If the husband Is your friend, advice him to look for work, He must not leave the wife to continue providing for the family... the children may not respect and admire him for that fact. |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by Nobody: 5:55am On Oct 11, 2017 |
the way I see it the Op just want to argue, seems he likes it but more seriously, if you have noticed here on Nairaland, most ladies don't ask questions or create topics relating to marriage. 80 percent of topics about marriage are created by men, seeing they want it to work. women on the other hand....smh |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by Caprigal: 6:05am On Oct 11, 2017 |
chidichuddo:Women create topics only that if they create a topic defending themselves or saying how they deserve to be equal human beings, men will come in their hundreds to insult them or tell them they will grow old and die alone because of their feminism. The only time they don't get attacked is if they post something saying how men are so great and superior to women like what alexialin posted on page one. 1 Like |
Re: Does The Wife Earn The Position Of Head Of The House If She's The Breadwinner? by badoh(m): 6:24am On Oct 11, 2017 |
When both of you are in sleeping position, ordinarily, who's always on top? That should answer the question. � |
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