₦airaland Forum

Luckygurl:
Lol!

Ain't gonna argue that

Koolking:
I dunno your definition of a strong woman but I do know that African society censures women indulgence with multiple men for emotional and sexual gratification.

That said, polygamous choice of some African men has cultural and religion backing. It has no bearing on weak or strong men (as you coined). Relationships demand sensitivity and responsibility from parties involved. If the relationship is devoid of these elements, then the union is not meant to be.

By the way, am not a fan of polygamous relationships. My opinion only validated what our society stands for

lindabon:
You are right at some point but does not remove from the fact that the men that originally came up with these laws did so out of their own insecurities. No strong confident man will want to create laws that only appeal to them, neglecting the needs of others. Some people need to criticize you in order to drag you down. .... Some people can't function without negativity because bringing down others makes them feel better about themselves. That for me is weakness cause if a person is strong and confident in themselves, they would not feel the need to drag others down.

I don't even have a problem with polygamy as long as its the woman's choice and the woman is allowed to choose to marry multiple men as well. I don't also have a problem with promiscuity as long as the people the person is involved with are informed and allowed to choose to be with the promiscuous person or not.. The problem always arises when there is an imbalance, in this case when one gender is allowed to sleep around and have multiple mates and the other is forbidden or stigmatized for doing same. Religion, culture or not, treat everyone equally, regardless of their gender. We must not swallow everything society tells us. Treat every human being the way you want them to treat you.

TimeMod3:
Don't argue it, try it.

Could tame me into becoming a good guy, hit me up

Koolking:
It does not matter what you believe. It's the natural order of thing.

Seen a woman who lives with 4 husbands in one house? But it's not strange when a man lives with 4 or more wives under the same room.

Is my believe still disputable?

Lalas247:
And what’s the value of virginity an educated man talking like an illiterate ...


Making ladies feel that’s all they have to offer a man VIRGINITY
And after the whole passa you guys still cheat
So if what value is it ?
Value to the man ?

If ladies want to keep virginity should be personal choice or religious one , they are keeping it to please men .... really

MarieSucre:
It is strange because a segment of society has made it so. And what society has made, can be unmade.

There was a time an educated blackman was strange. There was a time Christianity was a "strange" religion. Society decides what is strange not any silly natural order, and society can as well undecide.

Koolking:
Dear MarieSucre,

There are things that can not be changed. This is Africa. Women themselves are scared to shift the boundary for fear of being stigmatised and ostracised.

Pop culture and emerging global mainstream cultures like LGBT can not be discussed or practiced openly in Nigeria without severe censure and subsequent outcast. In Africa, society decides and the decision becomes an attitude, a culture, anything short of the culture is strange and an aberration.

Peace!

Mujtahida:
At the end it boils down to this:you who say people should be virgins are you a virgin? Before you go aghast it was St Paul that asked : you who preach against stealing do you steal?

If you read me carefully I never condemned virginity. I only highlighted what to me is the reality. It's easy to marry as a virgin in a society where people marry on time and where sexuality is not hyped up. And it is difficult to marry as a virgin in a society where people marry late and where everything is sexualized.

As for the character of virgins compared to non virgins, all I see are human beings. Good, bad, beautiful, ugly can be found within humanity. Dazzol

Hakeem12:
I agree with the first poster. It should apply both ways, not to ladies alone. [b/][color=cyan][b] But whoever is thinking that way is still living in a world of fantasy. [/color]

AryEmber:
But Men wear black already, what should they start putting on now?