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frustratedrat:
i'm short-tempered. I probably inherited that trait from my dad. Due to the way my dad handled his affairs, my mum was plunged into penury. Currently living with her. The situations of the past has made her bitter. She complains about everything.


I open the pot to take my meal, she raises her voice, i come back empty-handed, she runs me down as being a leech. I lie flat without touching anything, she comes back complaining of so many things. When she starts, i find myself exchanging words with her.


I feel bad afterwards but the cycle continues once she makes me pesky again. how do i salvage this situation? Sometimes, i'm pushed to the edge that my frustration about her slander and my predicament makes me wanna hit her.

...and she's the one who feed you?

You are irresponsible. Get your own space before complaining. Its her house not yours. She pays the bill not you.

Work and pray very hard to salvage the precarious financial situation and help the entire family,that way your Mum would be your best friend.May God help you on this,but please don't hurt the hapless woman.Our Mothers are our pride

frustratedrat:
hmm.. What's the way forward? At times, i walk away to come back late intentionally to avoid her disturbances. Yet she's ever ready to pick offense. The 'grace to grass' transition has unstabled her. More tips needed

What if you go stay with a relative?? Or a big Friend? Or cousin, and hustle ur way to ur own accommodation. Even if na face me I face u.

BTW, do u work What sort of 'hustle' do u do??

pillowTalk:
What if you go stay with a relative?? Or a big Friend? Or cousin, and hustle ur way to ur own accommodation. Even if na face me I face u.

BTW, do u work What sort of 'hustle' do u do??

i teach but pay not regular. I once stayed on my own but it didn't end well

please Mr Oga,

trust this meets you well,

pack to your own house oh except u want ur own children to beat you too in the future,

every parent get angry when a child has not attend some level, which is excepted for the child at that age, some knows how to control it while some don't,
so her attitude is suppose to make u work harder not hit her.....

why will u be in her house and refuse to do chose.......


am a Lady, i live with my parent i work and also provide for them....... i still do chose .....u neva get kobo u dey proud.

frustratedrat:
i'm short-tempered. I probably inherited that trait from my dad. Due to the way my dad handled his affairs, my mum was plunged into penury. Currently living with her. The situations of the past has made her bitter. She complains about everything.


I open the pot to take my meal, she raises her voice, i come back empty-handed, she runs me down as being a leech. I lie flat without touching anything, she comes back complaining of so many things. When she starts, i find myself exchanging words with her.


I feel bad afterwards but the cycle continues once she makes me pesky again. how do i salvage this situation? Sometimes, i'm pushed to the edge that my frustration about her slander and my predicament makes me wanna hit her.

what are u still doing,living with ur mum? U are simply lazy. Pack ur stuff and move out and go hustle. U wont die hustling. Hit her or even use bad words on her and be cursed. Mtcheew

teebankz10:
I will not tell you not to hit your mom Cus even if I tell u not to,you already know what is right...

How could you ever

THOUGHT

of hitting of your mom in the first place.

I have said my own

GGBAGAUNNN

frustratedrat:
i'm short-tempered. I probably inherited that trait from my dad. Due to the way my dad handled his affairs, my mum was plunged into penury. Currently living with her. The situations of the past has made her bitter. She complains about everything.


I open the pot to take my meal, she raises her voice, i come back empty-handed, she runs me down as being a leech. I lie flat without touching anything, she comes back complaining of so many things. When she starts, i find myself exchanging words with her.


I feel bad afterwards but the cycle continues once she makes me pesky again. how do i salvage this situation? Sometimes, i'm pushed to the edge that my frustration about her slander and my predicament makes me wanna hit her.

you've cursed yourself by ever thinking of raising your hand against your mom.

Short-tempered my foot. And you have the guts to tell us you got that rubbish from your dad .

Go on your knees and plead your mom for forgiveness, or you can never get it right in life. Do that before it is too late.

Whenever she's mad at you , leave the house. Park out of the house. She'll come looking for you.

If u are tempted to hit ur own mother, having known what she went through in the hands of ur dad.... Whoa... Please don't get married cos I pity the lady already....

U had better learn how to control ur anger and how to deal with a woman before u do what u will regret in ur life time.......

Iceberg3:
GGBAGAUNNN

it's about his message and not this stupidity you're displaying here.

Bros your mata day surprise me guy u no get say she wan make you park ya load and go

Caseless:
you've cursed yourself by ever thinking of raising your hand against your mom.

Short-tempered my foot. And you have the guts to tell us you got that rubbish from your dad .

Go on your knees and plead your mom for forgiveness, or you can never get it right in life. Do that before it is too late.

Whenever she's mad at you , leave the house. Park out of the house. She'll come looking for you.

hmm.. Easy. I thought a problem shared is a problem half-solved?

frustratedrat:
i'm short-tempered. I probably inherited that trait from my dad. Due to the way my dad handled his affairs, my mum was plunged into penury. Currently living with her. The situations of the past has made her bitter. She complains about everything.


I open the pot to take my meal, she raises her voice, i come back empty-handed, she runs me down as being a leech. I lie flat without touching anything, she comes back complaining of so many things. When she starts, i find myself exchanging words with her.


I feel bad afterwards but the cycle continues once she makes me pesky again. how do i salvage this situation? Sometimes, i'm pushed to the edge that my frustration about her slander and my predicament makes me wanna hit her.

. I wasn't going to say anything at first but seeing how judgmental people can be with their comments I decided to drop something here. First of all,calm down. Trust me when I say I understand how remorseless and inconsiderate females can be when they think u'r of little or no beneficial value to them anymore. Urs is ur mother,mine was my mum and my sisters. Here's what u should do: Stop entertaining her by reacting to her tantrums and negative speeches(it will be hard but u can and will overcome). About hitting her,well if u do,that's a burden u will carry for a long time and u will feel bad not necessarily because u felt she didn't deserve it but because u'll feel and know that ignoring her would have been a lesser burden to carry. To y'all blaming the guy for feeling bad to the point of frustration(which could lead to a lot of things including suicide) which is as a result of his mother's constant degradation of his person,u'r not only validating his mum's actions,u'r also being bias and I got a simple reply to y'all:NOT ALL MOMS ARE THE SAME. I don talk my own,bros just ignore her and with time hopefully she'll come around by being more understanding and considerate. PEACE.

frustratedrat:
i'm short-tempered. I probably inherited that trait from my dad. Due to the way my dad handled his affairs, my mum was plunged into penury. Currently living with her. The situations of the past has made her bitter. She complains about everything.


I open the pot to take my meal, she raises her voice, i come back empty-handed, she runs me down as being a leech. I lie flat without touching anything, she comes back complaining of so many things. When she starts, i find myself exchanging words with her.


I feel bad afterwards but the cycle continues once she makes me pesky again. how do i salvage this situation? Sometimes, i'm pushed to the edge that my frustration about her slander and my predicament makes me wanna hit her.

My friend, u need Psychotherapy. And I think ur mums needs it to. The earlier u visit a Psychiatrist or Psychologist d berra ur chances of not doing d unthinkable one day.

Afamed:
� lol. There are quite number of lads in this forum. What sort of advise is he soliciting? Perhaps to get the go ahead so that he can hit his Mum. He's really a tout like you have rightly said.

Oga so this is wat U too that re not tout will say to some1, bible sd he that is strong shud help he that is weak.

frustratedrat:
i'm short-tempered. I probably inherited that trait from my dad. Due to the way my dad handled his affairs, my mum was plunged into penury. Currently living with her. The situations of the past has made her bitter. She complains about everything.


I open the pot to take my meal, she raises her voice, i come back empty-handed, she runs me down as being a leech. I lie flat without touching anything, she comes back complaining of so many things. When she starts, i find myself exchanging words with her.


I feel bad afterwards but the cycle continues once she makes me pesky again. how do i salvage this situation? Sometimes, i'm pushed to the edge that my frustration about her slander and my predicament makes me wanna hit her.

Pls any time your mom provoke you come and look for me and hit me, don't hit the poor woman so that you will not mistakenly kill her. I'm available for you to hit

Piercy:
Bros your mata day surprise me guy u no get say she wan make you park ya load and go

hmm... But there are some times we laugh together (though rare). If only okowa can pay her her entitlements to pacify her

frustratedrat:
i'm short-tempered. I probably inherited that trait from my dad. Due to the way my dad handled his affairs, my mum was plunged into penury. Currently living with her. The situations of the past has made her bitter. She complains about everything.


I open the pot to take my meal, she raises her voice, i come back empty-handed, she runs me down as being a leech. I lie flat without touching anything, she comes back complaining of so many things. When she starts, i find myself exchanging words with her.


I feel bad afterwards but the cycle continues once she makes me pesky again. how do i salvage this situation? Sometimes, i'm pushed to the edge that my frustration about her slander and my predicament makes me wanna hit her.

bros no try am... When it happens just take a walk.

thanks to all those that contributed. Currently having a nice rapport with her. I'll try to be more tolerant and obedient to make things work

frustratedrat:
hmm.. Easy. I thought a problem shared is a problem half-solved?

I understand your worry. You can understand my pain cos I wish I had a mom like yours to trouble me. Women are always never too grown to behave in a certain way, just understand her and treat her right.

You should be her husband, her father , her son and her everything. What your mom is doing is not unconnected to something that's disturbing her on the inside. Sit her down and discuss in a way that mother and son would do. Ask her to tell you what she wants to see in you and you'd strive to achieve it. Women wants to be lied to and given false hope; flow her like she's your girlfriend and she go mellow. Give her hope , tell her what you'll do for her if you make it.


If you raise your hand against your mom, you'll live to regret it for the rest of your life.
Even militants, drug Baron, armed robbers, cultist, etc, respect their mom.

its a hard life

frustratedrat:
i won't by God's grace. But she's over possessive now. Ranting and cursing when we use the little she has left. I never forced her to give birth to me. Why not reserve her antagonism to my dad who fled after complicating issues. More enlightenment from you guys will help me though to help calm my nerves. thinking of getting an earpiece. Hopefully, i can blank out her verbosity

I used to think my mother wasn't the one that gave birth to me whn I was very young to the extent I told my friends then that my real mum will come for me one day.u kw I got used to her ranting,scolding and curse that I now feel it normal,lolss sometimes I don't even want her to stop cus to me that what gives her inner peace.She is changed now totally, and now I feel she is the best thing in my life.there is always this beautiful thing in every mother, they are wonderful creatures. My advice is, get used to her that way,pray to God to give her peace of mind,and I kW God will touch her heart and at the end she will apologize to u guys.just be patient with her abeg, she is a wonderful woman and don't mind her toxic words to u,those are not from her heart pls.

Daeylar:
I stopped reading when I saw, my grandmother cursed him, if I had the power to curse someone and It will work won't I first curse myself to be richer than bill gates till I die?
All these people with power to curse others and it will work won't use it for something useful. Only for useless things.

Chop am

frustratedrat:
i'm short-tempered. I probably inherited that trait from my dad. Due to the way my dad handled his affairs, my mum was plunged into penury. Currently living with her. The situations of the past has made her bitter. She complains about everything.


I open the pot to take my meal, she raises her voice, i come back empty-handed, she runs me down as being a leech. I lie flat without touching anything, she comes back complaining of so many things. When she starts, i find myself exchanging words with her.


I feel bad afterwards but the cycle continues once she makes me pesky again. how do i salvage this situation? Sometimes, i'm pushed to the edge that my frustration about her slander and my predicament makes me wanna hit her.

You open the pot to take your meal

Whose pot? Whose meal?
You seem to have been asleep for far too long. You have been sucking your mother's breast for far too long. You need someone to wake you up and fast too. How about you try this: go and sleep under the bridge for one week, and then come back and hit your mother if you still have a hand left on you by then.

How much did you give her or contributed for your feedings this month?
I just hate this type of entitlement of someone over 18yrs.
You should just come home and jejely go to sleep. Eat her food only if you are given. Best still, move out if you are over 18yrs.
Nigerians, take some responsibilities common!
Go get your own small place and start real life. Come visit with bags of goodies for mom. Mama is tired of you taking and not giving back hence her constant complaint.
According to you, your dad plunged her into hardship and you want to beat her on top??
Jesu onye ebere!!
Qui?

Can you imagine he exchanged words with his mom whose anger was brought about due to hardship ?
I pity the poor woman.
The reason why I like how they made sure you are an individual and on your own in western world. See---smh

Caseless:
you've cursed yourself by ever thinking of raising your hand against your mom.

Short-tempered my foot. And you have the guts to tell us you got that rubbish from your dad .

Go on your knees and plead your mom for forgiveness, or you can never get it right in life. Do that before it is too late.

Whenever she's mad at you , leave the house. Park out of the house. She'll come looking for you.

hit her now wasted sexual energy. rather than work and get your own apartment. you would end in the police station

frustratedrat:
hmm... But there are some times we laugh together (though rare). If only okowa can pay her her entitlements to pacify her

Oga na so but guy think am well I dy reason am say she need her space

Piercy:
Oga na so but guy think am well I dy reason am say she need her space

hmm.. But she loves me deep down and wants me close. When i'm away, she calls.


I think what matters is striking a balance. I'm changed now. I want to be there to make her smile. We chat often now.

When she's alone, she begins to think of the unfortunate situations of the past

frustratedrat:
thanks to all those that contributed. Currently having a nice rapport with her. I'll try to be more tolerant and obedient to make things work

I'm happy to hear this and encourage you to keep it up! Did you take note of some the things that changed? Do share maybe someone else can benefit from your experience

babythug:
I'm happy to hear this and encourage you to keep it up! Did you take note of some the things that changed? Do share maybe someone else can benefit from your experience

ohh k. Actually, what I do is that I avoid her in the evenings. we talk mainly in the mornings when her mind is settled and relaxed after sleep. her vituperation comes up in the evenings when she must have experienced the hustle and bustle of the day