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Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by RuggedArab: 11:55pm On Nov 04, 2017 |
Dear OP, 1. Your husband should not have cheated to let you know. That was disrespect. 2. Your husband should have protected himself first not to get STD from these useless girls that cannot take care of themselves. 3. Your husband is less than a Man to handle your excesses. Unless you are the bread winner maybe (The land is in your name; probably yOu bought with your money). Now over to you: 1. You have unforgiven spirit. You don't easily let go which is bad for a woman to possess. 2. You cannot be in same roof and denial me my conjugal right for oNE year. Who does that. Everyman knows how to tame his wife. 3. Advice your husband to respect you and protect himself. Let the guilt punish him that's if he has conscience. 4. Even if you report him to the family it will end up against you. Don't try it. 5.finally Pray for this man if you love him than starving him with sex. The man is having it real good outside and he does not care. He even spends more outside than inside. Love this man and see him change. NB: Young men, you see why you have to be prepared before you get married. Just because the land is in her name you can imagine the stunts she's pulling. Always pay your bills. I know sometimes it's not easy but try and pay ALL your bills. This will save you a lot of respect. I'm very sure this woman does not respect her husband again for this 1 year. 7 Likes |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by fortunechy(m): 11:56pm On Nov 04, 2017 |
forgive n forget..... or risk the opportunity of having rival |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Adaumunocha(f): 11:57pm On Nov 04, 2017 |
KingSango:Hollup you all, I ain't the op oo... What's with the mixup? Abeg o |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Nobody: 11:59pm On Nov 04, 2017 |
UBGG:that's exactly who he is 1 Like |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by RuggedArab: 11:59pm On Nov 04, 2017 |
Benita27: Not infidelity. Even if you call all the federation of women lawyers. Unless the man does not know his way Sha. What sin would you commit? I want to know. |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by MrSquint: 11:59pm On Nov 04, 2017 |
Your health comes first Life is per head and not shared Hence i support what you did. The way forward: just for your home, especially bcus of the kids "forgive but don't forget. 7 Likes |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by missyblissy: 12:01am On Nov 05, 2017 |
desreek9: Op please forgive and move on. I. Know it is difficult to forget but to be safe please tell hubby to. Go for tests hiv, stds before you sleep with him. |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Nobody: 12:01am On Nov 05, 2017 |
Benita27:stop this gender thingy and grow up. Blame laying doesn't solve a problem. The op messed, The husband messed up more! |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by KingSango(m): 12:01am On Nov 05, 2017 |
Adaumunocha: I am agreeing with your advice which got to the root of the op issue. 1 Like |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by koolaid87: 12:02am On Nov 05, 2017 |
You nailed it. Thread closed! |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Nobody: 12:02am On Nov 05, 2017 |
Benita27:how about slaps |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Rastamann: 12:04am On Nov 05, 2017 |
Do it with your husband but use a condom! |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by raphy(m): 12:04am On Nov 05, 2017 |
The way they bash the woman make me laugh till I fall down from bed... One guy said her tin will rust for Africa. Lol. Chai the thing will close again likes Virgin own... One yr no be beans she must hv dido in her bedroom to service it n be screaming papa Ngozi... Oh oh oh silently u never can tell women of now a days. Forgive n forget enjoy ur marriage together. |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Nobody: 12:05am On Nov 05, 2017 |
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Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by toogbasky(m): 12:05am On Nov 05, 2017 |
Benita27:comma see advice that one women gives to another who has four kids,,, what is this generation turning into,, the men becoming irresponsible,, the women hmmmmm 1 Like |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by jaxxy(m): 12:05am On Nov 05, 2017 |
Rokia2: He didn't just cheat he gave her freaking STDs dats no joke tho I think she shud forgive bt it's not an easy step. mhizesther Desreek9. If this was a mere relationship I wud say take a walk bt this is a good marriage with beautiful kids and everything working fine except for this shocker. U stopping 2 hv sex was a good step bt u shud hv also spoken to him about correcting his sick behaviour and maybe getting couples counselling cos all u did was send him back to the dogs. He has a problem and needs help and guidance if he's willing and remorseful. Marriage Will only work cos we made the required effort to make it work and not by sitting back and watching things go worse 5 Likes |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Pataricatering(f): 12:07am On Nov 05, 2017 |
I’d advise you to ask him to use a condom when you guys make love . Or better still get a female condom which you have control over. your husband not only cheats he doesn’t practice safe sex when he cheats - a terrible combination ! Don’t listen to All these hypocrites who are trying to shame you into letting a man who s not scared of stds s back into your life . 5 Likes |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Constantiney: 12:10am On Nov 05, 2017 |
frankkydee: My friend its okay. That's the hypocrisy of your fellow humans on display. The egocentric half-witted men who thinks its their God given right to cheat would criticize her, that's normal. Seeing a fellow woman criticise her fellow mate because of a decision like this is truly disappointing to say the least. Smh. For those foaming from their holier than thou mouth about forgiveness, the thing i really don't understand about this forgiveness nonsense you lot preach about is, why is it that people usually asks to be forgiven right after they get caught in the act? i mean it's rare to see people repent without being caught, confess and then ask for forgiveness. If you want to be forgiven, why can't you just repent from your bad ways and then ask to be forgiven? Look at them, shouting forgive him bla bla fucking bla when the fact remains if she never caught him, the bastard would probably never thought nor considered repenting from his cheating ways? Humans and their dramas fascinates me. 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Nobody: 12:10am On Nov 05, 2017 |
Lexusgs430: Lol. |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Pataricatering(f): 12:11am On Nov 05, 2017 |
RuggedArab:No common sense ! 1 Like |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by ehis05(m): 12:13am On Nov 05, 2017 |
Benita27:will u keep kwayet...make person borrow me patience picture abeg..no patience no forgiveness dis days in marriage dats y it breaks down so easily.....i wonder wat wud have become of my family if my mum had left my dad cuz he cheated den...i cnt even imagine...but right now they ar both happy d cheating thing dey joke abt it nw sef...they have moved on and burried it...trust me da doesnt mean he wud always cheat, a man can change...u were too harsh.....u have pushed him farther away from you for the past year...u have tormented him so much...i tink its time u totally forgive him and move on |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Nobody: 12:14am On Nov 05, 2017 |
desreek9:@ first bolded, prepare for more shocks . @ second bolded, you have a silly mentality that you are in control because a property is in your name, you care, you lost your man already.@ last bolded, nothing is Ok. You have lost your man. You can't be sure about his plans. You are being delusional here. You have let your abilities and financial worth tamper with your sense of judgements. If you think you can d without him, I ll advice a divorce if not expect shockers. It's weird for a sexually active man no matter the physical shape or looks of the woman not to be interested in his wife for over a year. I am not sure you still love him. Your marriage is quite young 2 Likes |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Lexusgs430: 12:19am On Nov 05, 2017 |
UBGG: The beauty of been married and single, at the same time...... |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by UjuJoan2: 12:19am On Nov 05, 2017 |
EVILFOREST: But her husband admitted to the cheating. STD or bot he cheated . . . So what's your point? 1 Like |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by iamdapsyj(m): 12:19am On Nov 05, 2017 |
Rokia2: Rokia2 Rokia2 Rokia2!! I dey hail u o even in the middle of the night. This comment is arguably one of the best on nairaland in recent times. I don't have any other thing to say to you OP, just read this Rokia2's comment tediously and do the needful. 3 Likes |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Lexusgs430: 12:29am On Nov 05, 2017 |
Pataricatering: The moment married couples always use condoms, they are better off divorced........ What is the pleasure of sex, if you cannot safely dive in raw? 3 Likes |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by UjuJoan2: 12:31am On Nov 05, 2017 |
I think people are missing the point here. . . . It's not just about the cheating, it's the gross betrayal! They had a great relationship and exciting sex life and yet the man still decided to cheat. Not just cheat, cheat without protection! What kind of sick, weak and irresponsible man does that If he's running around doing women without protection, who knows how many ladies he would have impregnated by now. Oh and HIV is definitely looming him his near future. But I guess all that doesn't matter, she has the glorified position of a wife and should not dare raise any objections to his wayward lifestyle. Forget the physical and emotional trauma she had to go through a year ago. I personally think OP is doing the right thing. Does it ever occur to you guys that this is exactly what she wants? Who says she has to get a divorce? They have a cordial relationship so why ruin that. Let him continue with his cheating ways while she preserves her own life and health. . . It's a win win for everyone. If it were me, I'd do exactly the same thing. And I'll also cheat. I'll find someone he knows and sleep with him just for the fun of it. No need to be celibate for life just because of a man who is out there having fun. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Nobody: 12:31am On Nov 05, 2017 |
I have taken time t go through the antecedent posts from other Nairalander and one thing i must tell you is.....That you have your whole life to live and you also know the best thing for yourself. Follow your heart and never allow misguided Nairalanders to misguid you. Majority of the people telling you to divorce your husband have little or nothing vital to tell about a successful marriage. Their situation and your own may not be the same. You know yourself more than anyone else and the things you can do. Go ahead and do it but make sure it's something that will help, uphold and sustain your marriage. I always feel very weak when I see posts like this and it makes me dread marriage and all the huddles it comes with. 2 Likes |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Nobody: 12:39am On Nov 05, 2017 |
UjuJoan2: You were making a lot of sense not until when I read close to the last paragraph where you finally messed up your opinions. Look,the best thing to do in this kind of situation is to get a counselor, either a family or marriage counselor to counsel them....For Christ sake, how long would this last?? 1 Like |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by Daeylar(f): 12:39am On Nov 05, 2017 |
Jman06: I just want to quote this comment, in case anyone doesn't see it That's just what they do, the man can cheat, but the woman should take all steps to keep the marriage, she has to build her home, she shouldn't let the marriage scatter, she should make sure they shouldn't head for divorce, after all, they have kids, as if the cheating man didn't destroy it himself, as if the cheating man didn't know there were kids before he decided to cheat. I don't know why they make marriage do or die Here, especially for women. I don't know for op but if I was in the op's shoes, I will be gone, it's bad enough, too bad to cheat, but to cheat so recklessly, not giving a damn about his wife, going raw, infecting his wife and not giving a fuçk at all, he must have known at a point that he had an std, but he didn't say a single thing, continued sleeping around and coming back to sleep with the wife, she had to find out from the doctor, it just doesn't seem like her husband gives a Bleep. It's too bad. If she doesn't want to leave. The best thing to do is what she is doing right now, at least she can say that she has slept well for the past one year not bothering about STDs or even HIV from her husband. If she was sleeping with him I wonder if she would have that peace of mind. Wish the op good luck in whatever she wants to do concerning this marriage. She is wearing the shoe, she knows where it's pinching her, let her do what she considers best for her (this is the most important part). I wish her well. 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by UjuJoan2: 12:40am On Nov 05, 2017 |
Rokia2: I beg to differ. . . There's no law that says she has to leave. If this is how she decides to live, then it's right by her own standards. I mean who says she has to forgive or leave? You? Society? Who says the marriage is dysfunctional? You? Society? I don't much see how the children are being affected here? At least they parents are cordial and living together, which is more than I can say for couples who actually have sex! Here you are, forcing her to do what you want. . . What you think she should do without consideration for how she feels and what she wants. Isn't the whole point of this? for her to to what she wants and not what people expect of her? I do not think she should live her life because of what people think or what is expected of her. If the husband wants a divorce let him go ahead and get one. . . . For now she if wants to stay in the house they both own it's entirely her decision to make and I don't think it's right to judge her for it! 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Deny My Husband Sex Because Of STD by ashjay001(m): 12:41am On Nov 05, 2017 |
Rokia2: Thank u, for this. A lot of pple be shifting blame! U cant trust him, yet cant leave! And, d fvcktard sef, cant pay d price, yet can do d crime? Oshikoshi! |
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