Why should you fight for someone that doesn't want you?

Keneking:


Read the hardship in the context of the story

Did she put it up there that she was face with hardship

icon8:


Husband to the widowers?

Nothing person no go read for this Nairaland!

She quoted a passage from the Bible to back it up. Read with depth.

na who come the chop the homey pot since then say the truth abeg

Pavore9:


But she still alive and enjoying her children. Did the 2nd wife get a trophy for becoming the only wife? Don't give the impression that the second wife "won" because if the man had it good, why did he try to reach out to his first wife?

The second wife hasn't come out regretting her status as a wife, someone left her home and now regretting..
She made a foolish decision and admits it..

icon8:


Husband to the widowers?

Nothing person no go read for this Nairaland!

Hahaaaaa! Patience Jonathan will be laughing now. On a serious note,it was a typographical error

Kakamorufu:
Men, especially african men aren't created to be a monogamist.. Ladies should take note of that incase of anything.

That's not true.it's the way our society accepts polygamy that made you think that way. Because from the beginning of creation it wasn't so

heykims:

The second wife hasn't come out regretting her status as a wife, someone left her home and now lregretting..
She made a foolish decision and admits it..

The second wife is not known to Nigerians, if she has expressed her regrets of getting married as a second wife to those around her, how do we know. Rachel Oniga admitted she would have done things differently but the second woman did not triumph over her as alluded. The husband is dead, the other woman may still be alive who knows and we all have our lives to live.

aycorporat:

She quoted a passage from the Bible to back it up. Read with depth.

Now, I'm confused as to who the actual illiterate is, between you and the person I originally quoted!

celebrity marriages neva last

heykims:
Ur husband married a 2nd wife nd u left him?
U just made d 2nd wife d only wife, u lost...

Would u drag ur wife with another man?? No spouse is worth fighting for if the person wants to be with another pls allow them.

activistjohnny:




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But he married another woman and I moved on. But I miss the whole union thing, friendship and sharing things together. My advice to young ladies is to keep and fight for their marriages.
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Perhaps, I was naïve; I never fought for what was mine, but I still thank God. He made many failed attempts at reconciliation. He knew the type of person I am; that when I say no, it is no.
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Before death took him (ex-husband) away, he called many times. It was my mistake. I should have fought for my marriage. Any young lady must try her best and fight for her marriage. My decision at that time might not have been the best, but I still thank God. I have my regrets too as a human being.”

source:http://www.pressnewsng.com.ng/2017/11/it-was-mistake-i-didnt-fight-for-my.html

if only ladies will learn from these words of wisdom , maybe there wont be many broken homes . i find it amusing when some ladies advice their friends to leave their husband houses where as they themselves are going through worse situations in their own marriages. oniga has seen her mistake but alas it is too late , maybe in another life she wont repeat the same mistake again

YANCHLESS WOMAN

YelloweWest:

Would u drag it wife with another man?? No spouse is worth fighting for if the person wants to be with another pls allow them.

Please, tell them.

Wow. First time hearing her stowwie...

luckydion:
How does one fights in marriage... physical fight or spiritual fight...... however, whatever answer anyone may have, my dear readers, a woman or man who marries without Godly process is like a seed on the sandy soil.

Men and women have to be strong in the Lord... write the Laws of the Lord in your heart....

Do't think that today humble man or woman will not change with time.... seek the face of God now before fire ignits... then u can't pray but ran around for solution where there may be none.

Look at mama Explanation it a lesson to all... of us... fight the fight of FAITH... there u have victory... You can't tie your wife or husband with rop but with the Super Sounding WORD OF GOD... Only the undefitable word of God from the right mounth can tie a man or woman.. that thing in between your legs must request... but it's left for you to answer...

Remember! what you plant today must germinate... whether good or evil, moral or immoral...

Good luck to all Family.....

You can tell your Godly process to Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, Pastor Chris Okotie that had broken marriage but I guess you will be apologetic on this. "Oh they are not super sounding in word of God" "it is the so-called devil's work"

Oga, how to be successful in marriage is by working for it not by some imaginary entity.

heykims:

The second wife hasn't come out regretting her status as a wife, someone left her home and now regretting..
She made a foolish decision and admits it..

Actually I see it as the other way round without any man she still put her kids through school, to me she won, besides am surprised why the husband didn't pay for the kids fee.

icon8:


Now, I'm confused as to who the actual illiterate is, between you and the person I originally quoted!

Maybe you are the nincompoop here then! Last time I will quote you windbag!

aycorporat:

Maybe you are the nincompoop here then! Last time I will quote you windbag!

Typical example of combining arrogance with ignorance!

Keneking:
Seen

"I had to put them all in boarding schools. That is one of the most painful things I have had to do"
- Why not public school? Buhari sef

"I toughened my heart and blocked every opportunity to go into any relationship."
- This government sef

"Before we got separated, he was a good and ideal man."
- Jonathan sef

" But I miss the whole union thing, friendship and sharing things together. '
- Jonathan sef

"Any young lady must try her best and fight for her marriage."
- Useless APC government

activistjohnny:
Veteran Nollywood actress, Rachael Oniga, recently had a chat with Olusola Ricketts of Punchng, about her failed marriage. On how she coped as a single mother of three, she said: “My first born, Olamide, was four years old when I left my marriage.
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I had to put them all in boarding schools. That is one of the most painful things I have had to do. Whenever I talk about this, it always brings me close to tears. My children paid the price for something they knew nothing about.
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The factor (her late husband married another woman) that led to the end of my marriage made me determined to prove to him (ex-husband) that I could stand without any man.
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I was not ready to give any other man the chance to be a hindrance to my children and me. I also made up my mind that I would dedicate my life totally to my children. I toughened my heart and blocked every opportunity to go into any relationship.
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I saw myself as equal to any man, regardless of how much money he might have. I didn’t want any man to treat my children badly. I was working for my money and I put my kids in good schools. So, what do I need a man for?
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I felt all men just wanted was to see the beauty of a woman and walk away. With what my ex-husband did to me, you expect me to trust men again? Before we got separated, he was a good and ideal man.
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But he married another woman and I moved on. But I miss the whole union thing, friendship and sharing things together. My advice to young ladies is to keep and fight for their marriages.
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Perhaps, I was naïve; I never fought for what was mine, but I still thank God. He made many failed attempts at reconciliation. He knew the type of person I am; that when I say no, it is no.
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Before death took him (ex-husband) away, he called many times. It was my mistake. I should have fought for my marriage. Any young lady must try her best and fight for her marriage. My decision at that time might not have been the best, but I still thank God. I have my regrets too as a human being.”

source:http://www.pressnewsng.com.ng/2017/11/it-was-mistake-i-didnt-fight-for-my.html

This is the reason why I write some realistic threads but naira land toddlers will never understand yet will be ranting up and down.

Indeed madam you were naive.

heykims:

The second wife hasn't come out regretting her status as a wife, someone left her home and now regretting..
She made a foolish decision and admits it..

Indeed she is brave to admit it.

Lalasticlala I think this thread should be beamed for our young ladies to Learn.

https://www.nairaland.com/4065809/10-unusual-steps-woman-should

icon8:


Husband to the widowers?

Nothing person no go read for this Nairaland!

na only God go forgive am. this matter pass my power.

icon8:


Husband to the widowers?

Nothing person no go read for this Nairaland!

na only God go forgive am. this matter pass my power.

Yoruba pple marriage no dey get head

icon8:


Husband to the widowers?

Nothing person no go read for this Nairaland!

patience Jonathan in the making

Afloxybabe:
Mummy Oniga, the Lord Almighty will be with you and your children in Jesus name. You shall not suffer, because He is the husband to the widowers, so therefore, He will always protect & provide for all yours needs to take proper care of your children.

Pastor in the room.

I love the fact that she admitted her flaws too.
That's really humble of her, much respect.

Marriage ain't easy, its like fidelity is so hard nowadays.
The multi-million dollar question, should i divorce him for cheating... Such a difficult decision though the bible allows it.

After all the forming and feeling too big to submit to that particular guy, you realized he is better than the jobless guys around. Now that he is gone, you miss him terribly.

This woman has got some terrible form of ego. So you tried to prove to him you could stand without any man but ended up sending your four years old kid to boarding school. And to think he even made many attempts at reconciliation which you rebuffed. Thank God she's learned her lesson and can now proffer quality advice to the younger generation

Alexgeneration:
The younger ones should learn from her mistake.

What is her mistake??