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“Oh Mike… I’m sorry, but I just don’t see you *that* way...”

“Why?” I asked her. “We’ve been going out for over a month... Just level with me.”

She hesitated, and then…

She did me a HUGE favor. She told me the truth.

“You’re a really nice guy Mike, but… you’re just too… NEEDY.”

I’ll never forget that sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach.

My face burning. My balls shriveling up inside of me...

What had I done wrong?

I had done everything by-the-book (or so I thought).

I’d used every pickup artist trick… every so-called seduction secret to try to make her want me…

But all the junk these “gurus” and “dating coaches” taught in their e-books and video courses?

It was all bullshit.

How could I have been so dumb?

Where did their advice get me?

Stuck straight in the friend zone, that’s where.

What was I missing?

Why was my neediness so painfully obvious to her?

I’ll tell you why...

And no girl is going to come right out and admit this, but…

Women can read you like a book.

She knows what you’re fvcking thinking, man.

So even if you think you’re playing it cool...

You might still be looking “needy” or “creepy” or “sketchy”...

Without even realizing it!

Here are the 7 most common ways I see guys doing this:

1. Leaning in to talk to a girl, while she stays put and doesn’t move. You’re trying too hard - a big turn off. It’s subtle, but painfully obvious to women.

2. Complimenting a girl right away, before you even know her - for example, telling her she’s gorgeous, or you like her dress, or she has nice style, or she’s a cool, fun person, etc... all super needy.

3. Buying her gifts - this could be anything from flowers, to buying her dinner and drinks, to getting her jewelry… it looks like you’re trying to “buy” her affection.

4. The “I’m here when you need me” vibe - this is when you’re super available for a girl whenever she wants to talk to you. Don’t be the guy who jumps whenever she says “jump”, dude!

5. Texting too much - if your texts are way longer than hers, or more frequent than hers, or using a lot more smileys than hers… then you look super needy.

6. Being too sensitive and taking things she says too personally (also called “being a little bytch”). This is super insecure… women hate this!

7. Agreeing with everything she says. This is what guys do when they’re trying to “force a connection,” and it’s super wussy. Instead, express your own opinions and have a backbone, it’s way more attractive.

So, listen.

I’ve done all of these things, and more.

And if you’re displaying any of these common needy behaviors…

Make a point to cut them out and you’ll notice a massive improvement in how women treat you.




#Copied from Bobby Rio's Newsletter

Interesting write up.

Some guys who behave this way will avoid this thread like a plague

Compliments don't make anyone needy. What turns a guy needy in this case is if he compliments continously. For example, he sees a girl he likes today and he goes "Babe, I love your dress". Later that same day, they run into each other and he goes "I love your hair do". C'mon! Pretend you didn't see her or notice her looks on the second meeting.

Benita27:
Compliments don't make anyone needy. What turns a guy needy in this case is if he compliments continously. For example, he sees a girl he likes today and he goes "Babe, I love your dress". Later that same day, they run into each other and he goes "I love your hair do". C'mon! Pretend you didn't see her or notice her looks on the second meeting.

Complimenting a girl right away, before you even know her - for example, telling her she’s gorgeous, or you like her dress, or she has nice style, or she’s a cool, fun person, etc... all super needy.


I hope you see where the emphasis lies


There are better ways to kick off a conversation with a damsel than showering her with "how angelic her voice sound" or "how sexy her curve is" - c'mon! What happens to getting to know her first on a deeper and more appealing level

Some of these things are ok in moderation, it's when it's consistent and over the top to the point of redundancy

ibkayee:
Some of these things are ok in moderation, it's when it's consistent and over the top to the point of redundancy

"Moderation "

That seems to the word! But unfortunately, most dude don't know what that means.

And the question will always be: "what is moderate and what is not"?

Stycon:
"Moderation "

That seems to the word! But unfortunately, most dude don't know what that means.

And the question will always be: "what is moderate and what is not"?

Just don't be excessive, obsessive etc.

Helps to be able to read people's signals, I've come across a lot of needy people who lack self awareness, if you don't know you're doing something wrong you can't really help yourself so start with that lol

That's true

RETIREDMUMU:
like me being needy to get under ur pant

It's not funny dude

why on mother green earth would you make that your sole ambition

On a serious note, some guys sincerely don't know that their gestures, most times, portray them as being "needy" ...and sincerely being "clingy" repeal! - on both sides

I am guilty of some of the above too tho ...but I've learnt to be optimal...still learning...

I can still remember those years I was doing those things. And it didn't really favour me.
Although it was a lesson.

Daniel2289:
I can still remember those years I was doing those things. And it didn't really favour me.
Although it was a lesson.

Yeah. Some of us learnt via experience. I hope some would learn via reading this.

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Stycon:
Yeah. Some of us learnt via experience. I hope some would learn via reading this.

Na so.