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grandstar:
I feel really sorry to read this

I suffer from social phobia and emotional trauma.

I have suffered from social phobia since I was 20yrs. I used to be painfully shy before then.

I find it difficult interacting with people, even people I'm familiar with. The only person I feel totally at ease with is basically my mum.

My social phobia has worsened over the years. It was initially mild General Anxiety Disorder but might have progressed now to agoraphobia.

There are medications you can take to assist you.

That comes the second point. You'll need to see a doctor. I would advise you go to Yaba psychiatric hospital or Lasuth at Ikeja.

Treatment is very cheap and they may charge you nothing but recommend medication for you that are cheap and inexpensive

I'm sure you'll get some relief once you start taking these meds.

Pls not that there is a massive difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist.

A psychiatrist is a doctor and only prescribes medication. A psychologist on the other hand provides counselling to change your behavior or modify your thinking.

At both hospitals, you may be advised to see a psychologist. This is free.

If you need more info, pls let me know

We need More Pls, did you go through d treament? have over come d problems? Thanks

Blackfyre:
You dey mind them....everybody tossing labels left and right.....even the ones that need help themselves....

Maybe i shouldn't have self diagnosed...

Franzinni:
Bro ...know you are not alone . Secondly know you are one of the few gifts to the world ...I am similar to what you have described yourself but I don't ever see it as a form of mental disorder...instead I rather see it as an advancement in evolution ....I can undoubtedly say without meeting you that you have a very creative mind also you can or have serious interest in drawing painting music or making films or animation ...if I am right look at it like this, some people are born with big dicks while others small warn like dicks...now those with big dicks have an advantage but if they don't know how to use it and grow up among worm dicked freinds who make fun of his big dick, he might just kill himself ......to put this in perspective ...you have a mind that is like a V12 engine crammed into a 96 corrola. ...it makes you feel odd but ... embrace your uniqueness and watch you Glo...since your mind takes you to fantasy world's then find a way to write a video game or something ...it will be freaking dope . I myself am a film maker , a 3d animator and also a tutor living a comfortable life with a wife and two kids ...who are geniuses too so my brother ... evolution happens constantly nor go think say nah kolo you dey kolo.

Did u actually read his write up at all?

dominique:
Only you OCD, ADHD, BD, chronic depression, schizophrenia etc. You are like a ticking time bomb. Sadly we live in a country of people that understand very little about mental health issues. The best solution most of them can provide is you're probably possessed and you should go for deliverance. I suggest you seek therapy with a qualified psychiatrist. I'm sure there are quite a number of them in PHC where you're based. In the meantime, make sure you surround yourself with people to keep your mind busy so you don't entertain suicidal thoughts.

you just spoke the truth about the society we live in..the only advice they give is go to church,or sake God's face,as if you have not been doing that.

BUY A CRATE OF CAN MALT AND GIVE TO THE PASTOR OF ASSEMBLIES OF GOD NEAREST YOU LET HIM AND ELDERS PRAY FOR YOU. WITH FAITH..... NWANNE YOUR STORY GO BECOME BESTSELLER!

from experience, my advice goes thus;
1)socialize. start small. it could just be as simple as "good morning ". it helps. Get familiar with your environment. make the universe your friend. the universe I mean, the habitats; human, trees, animals etc.

2)meditate. go to YouTube. search for meditation videos and practice. morning and evening. you will see a difference.

3) read self help books. you can download the audio version form. my recommendation; feel the fear and do it anyway, the power of now, the four agreement, a return to love.
these are powerful books that have shaped and it's still shaping my life.

4) concentrate on your strengths. what are your life ambition? make a list and follow them accordingly. you may not follow them daily because of your disorganise mind and self discipline but it's okay. whenever you remember try again and again. do not beat yourself up.
you are retraining your mind, your brain. so be patience with yourself.

5) you can write affirmations that are in line with your goals and dreams, and place them on the wall. Every morning when you see them it will rekindle your energy and your beliefs until they become part of you.

6)pray. I know you said you don't believe in religion but I guess you believe in a higher power that is beyond you. pray to that power, that being. don't think of what to say, just say anything. keep talking, when you have exhausted what you want to say end the prayer.
you will find resistance at the beginning because it is something knew to you. but keep doing.

7) sex. yes sex. have good mind blowing sex. you can make arrangement with someone just based on sex only. enjoy the feeling that comes with it.

there is a quote that says "if you want a different result, do something different " challenge yourself daily and do something you thought you could never do.

9) be your own best friend. be your own cheerleader. appreciate any feat that you attain, even if it is small. say nice things to yourself like "I love you". nobody can love you more than the way you love yourself.

10) lastly, relax, breath and smile. you are OK. you are normal just like everyone else.

stay bless!

I'm still saying, if I pay 100k for a VIP ticket in an event. I've the right to go the DJ and low the volume when my phone rings. Do u feel like this when u hear those voices

LancelLogan:
I have chronic OCD coupled with other mental issues like ADHD, chronic depression, extreme anxiety, bipolar, Low self-esteem, Perfectionism(OCPD similar to OCD) and the Fantasy Disorder (i waste hours fantasizing about a character rich fantasy world i have created in my head for almost a decade now) and (i don't know) i think i'm autistic... It kills me inside... I have contemplated suicide but i'm afraid it will be too painful or unsuccessful (since firearms are not sold in this country)...

My mental issues started when i was around 5 years (or maybe since child birth)... My depression heightened during my secondary education at a military secondary school (Nigerian Navy Port Harcourt).

I stay in Port Harcourt and school in the University of Port Harcourt (Uniport)... I'm repeating my final year because my mental issues did not allow me focus on my project and two difficult Maths courses.. i find it hard to focus (ADHD) and study... If i am not battling with that ever present inner OCD voice, I'm fantasizing about another world inside my head...

Everybody thinks i'm rude because i am never smiling and i don't know how to talk to or reply people (I'm always anxious even when i'm familiar with the person trying to talk to me)... no matter how i try i will always say something awkward or I wouldn't be able to say anything at all (my heart will always seem to be racing and my speech stuttering)... So i just detach myself from people generally to save myself from embarrassment...

What my OCD and OCPD has obsessed and compelled me to do over the years is just so much i can't write all about it here... It's more than the regular "wash your hand before and after you touch anything if not you will be infected or fall sick" or "if you press the wrong letter while typing a document, you must clear the whole page and start again if not the document file will be corrupted"]... If ever i try to resist the OCD voice, I'll feel so uncomfortable, anxious, disturbed and drowsy... i won't be able to concentrate on anything at all...

Also, it has made me abusive to my younger brother... If he does something I(or the OCD rather) don't(doesn't) like ... Example, if he doesn't wash his hand before touching things in our room or doesn't follow a couple of sequence i normally carry out while cleaning our room... i get so angry, i yell or sometimes(rarely though) physically abuse him... Any little thing he does irritates me even if he is just playing music, making a call or even laughing at a joke he read on his phone... This makes me hate myself but i can't stop this behavior...

Side note:[I have nothing against Christians or religious people... Please, don't be offended] I recently stop believing in religion (Christianity in my case)... I see it as a mechanism implemented to make people behave and make people be motivated to live and enjoy life... I also don't identify as an atheist because most atheist these days are just religious about their non-believe... They will undoubtedly support theories like The Big Bang Theory and yet criticizes Christians for believing in the Creation Story... I don't believe both of the aforementioned theories(stories)... I can say I'm agnostic because i do not know about the origin of existence.. Although, when i was still an ardent Christian, my OCD voice will compel me to give large portions of my personal savings to "God" so that i'll receive a specific blessing or answer to a prayer request... lol...

I have not talked to anyone about my issues because i know they will not understand... during my secondary school days, i told my parents i was contemplating suicide... they beat me up and took me to church for deliverance... lol... so there is no point talking about it to my family...


I will appreciate talking to someone who understands... Please reply or email me...

Thanks...

hahahahahhaahha...brother u aint alone...mine is worst..i mean freaking worst...it affected my self confidence thats wia it pains me most...i have a dream of becoming one of d best programmers on planet earth..but dis issues seems lyk a hindrance to d dream...but the truth is, am getting closer to a better control of it cos it seems it has no cure,jus havin control over ur mind...we can be friends and talk over it anytym..cos i hv gotten som means to take better control of my mind,u can as well...chat me up on 07067923118

featheredwinter:
You, you be satan papa... Insensitive animals littered every where!!

Satan mama, ashaawo bascard

Bros, you're not alone.

You are special, and a genius. You are unique. Those imaginations you have could be used creatively, you know.

Please disregard any suggestion that you need a girl! You need to accept and love yourself before letting in any girl, otherwise you'll mount her with unnecessary pressures, and make it seem like she is responsible for your happiness.

You see, you could go to as many the therapists as you can, but in the end, you'll realize that the bulk of the solution lies in you.

You'll need to accept yourself. Release yourself to the beauty of living.

Open your heart to people. Yes, i understand that you might have a hard time trusting people, but you'll need to trust to stay healthy.

You could choose to look out for others. Being there for people gives you a sense of fulfilment.
Relating with people gives you room to understand yourself.

Another thing you'll need to understand is the art of self control. Moat of the time, humans have the power to control our feelings, our reactions, and even our thoughts.

Living a happier life would take you through a process. It might not happen suddenly, but you'll be glad you made a choice to live happier.


You deserve happiness!
You are unique!
You are invaluable!
You are courageous!


Besides, I would love to be one of your friends. You don't deserve to go through this alone.

LancelLogan:
I have chronic OCD coupled with other mental issues like ADHD, chronic depression, extreme anxiety, bipolar, Low self-esteem, Perfectionism(OCPD similar to OCD) and the Fantasy Disorder (i waste hours fantasizing about a character rich fantasy world i have created in my head for almost a decade now) and (i don't know) i think i'm autistic... It kills me inside... I have contemplated suicide but i'm afraid it will be too painful or unsuccessful (since firearms are not sold in this country)...

My mental issues started when i was around 5 years (or maybe since child birth)... My depression heightened during my secondary education at a military secondary school (Nigerian Navy Port Harcourt).

I stay in Port Harcourt and school in the University of Port Harcourt (Uniport)... I'm repeating my final year because my mental issues did not allow me focus on my project and two difficult Maths courses.. i find it hard to focus (ADHD) and study... If i am not battling with that ever present inner OCD voice, I'm fantasizing about another world inside my head...

Everybody thinks i'm rude because i am never smiling and i don't know how to talk to or reply people (I'm always anxious even when i'm familiar with the person trying to talk to me)... no matter how i try i will always say something awkward or I wouldn't be able to say anything at all (my heart will always seem to be racing and my speech stuttering)... So i just detach myself from people generally to save myself from embarrassment...

What my OCD and OCPD has obsessed and compelled me to do over the years is just so much i can't write all about it here... It's more than the regular "wash your hand before and after you touch anything if not you will be infected or fall sick" or "if you press the wrong letter while typing a document, you must clear the whole page and start again if not the document file will be corrupted"]... If ever i try to resist the OCD voice, I'll feel so uncomfortable, anxious, disturbed and drowsy... i won't be able to concentrate on anything at all...

Also, it has made me abusive to my younger brother... If he does something I(or the OCD rather) don't(doesn't) like ... Example, if he doesn't wash his hand before touching things in our room or doesn't follow a couple of sequence i normally carry out while cleaning our room... i get so angry, i yell or sometimes(rarely though) physically abuse him... Any little thing he does irritates me even if he is just playing music, making a call or even laughing at a joke he read on his phone... This makes me hate myself but i can't stop this behavior...

Side note:[I have nothing against Christians or religious people... Please, don't be offended] I recently stop believing in religion (Christianity in my case)... I see it as a mechanism implemented to make people behave and make people be motivated to live and enjoy life... I also don't identify as an atheist because most atheist these days are just religious about their non-believe... They will undoubtedly support theories like The Big Bang Theory and yet criticizes Christians for believing in the Creation Story... I don't believe both of the aforementioned theories(stories)... I can say I'm agnostic because i do not know about the origin of existence.. Although, when i was still an ardent Christian, my OCD voice will compel me to give large portions of my personal savings to "God" so that i'll receive a specific blessing or answer to a prayer request... lol...

I have not talked to anyone about my issues because i know they will not understand... during my secondary school days, i told my parents i was contemplating suicide... they beat me up and took me to church for deliverance... lol... so there is no point talking about it to my family...


I will appreciate talking to someone who understands... Please reply or email me...

Thanks...

Guy , you are very interesting, don't hate you self , there are very few people like you , we have a lot of stuffs in common, I would like to meet you and discuss further, do you stay in Lagos ?

Whatsapp me I can help 08036477792

lazygal:
Did u actually read his write up at all?

to answer your question ....I did and I didn't really expect you to mention me because it was directed at OP . .. but now that you mentioned, what did I write that didn't connect? Or what prompted your question ?

Pataricatering:
He needs a trained therapist! God gave people brains to train as therapists so they can heal others ! God would not have bothered if he wanted to be healing people directly .

Really then those mad men God healed ain't there any therapist wen he healed them ,where were their brains wen he healed the people that are mad with other sickness,there is nothing God can not do only bilv

Franzinni:
to answer your question ....I did and I didn't really expect you to mention me because it was directed at OP . .. but now that you mentioned, what did I write that didn't connect? Or what prompted your question ?

Since you wan fight ..don't worry just dey go.happy sunday

LancelLogan:
Yes they are self-diagnosed... I think the depression has been present since 2005....

Self-diagnosis is a waste. Bipolar disorder in its florid form is the most severe type of mental illness in terms of acute symptoms. I’m not saying there aren’t milder cases but I don’t think you know how big a deal being manic-depressive is.

OCD and OCPD nearly cancel each other out. Some of these mental illnesses you mention can’t be found in the same person at the same time.

And where’s this autism thing coming from?

oyb:
your only disease is mental hypochondria with a dose of attention seeking

go and face your books and stop making up fancy excuses for your academic failures.

this is not your village where you can wow illiterates with big words

is not like that.

alot of people go through this,

I am even worse than him, you just need to be strong,


if you're a weak person it will destroy you before you no it,

I don't trust people, I have no friends, and am always angry.

A lot of people don’t know this but most of the people roaming the streets of Aba Market have bipolar disorder. There’s not one country in the world that has bipolar and schizophrenia in rates that Nigeria does because the buck started with us. They’re Igbo illnesses.

lazygal:
Since you wan fight ..don't worry just dey go.happy sunday

bro do you have ADHD...or OCD where did I ask for a fight ? I only asked for more information on your reason for mentioning me simple o...anyway I understand you jare....have a nice day G

Probz:
A lot of people don’t know this but most of the people roaming the streets of Aba Market have bipolar disorder. There’s not one country in the world that has bipolar and schizophrenia in rates that Nigeria does because the buck started with us. They’re Igbo illnesses.

Schizophrenia is everywhere jare. Oyibos will tell you about black helicopters, cia conspiracies, tracking chips. Black people will tell you devil is a liar, back to sender, they are following me from village.

My advice is that you should make more friends. Meet more people and interact everyday. Avoid being lonely. Always come out and meet people. It will help u. Just like the bible say an hidle mind is the devil's workshop.

LancelLogan:
I have chronic OCD coupled with other mental issues like ADHD, chronic depression, extreme anxiety, bipolar, Low self-esteem, Perfectionism(OCPD similar to OCD) and the Fantasy Disorder (i waste hours fantasizing about a character rich fantasy world i have created in my head for almost a decade now) and (i don't know) i think i'm autistic... It kills me inside... I have contemplated suicide but i'm afraid it will be too painful or unsuccessful (since firearms are not sold in this country)...

My mental issues started when i was around 5 years (or maybe since child birth)... My depression heightened during my secondary education at a military secondary school (Nigerian Navy Port Harcourt).

I stay in Port Harcourt and school in the University of Port Harcourt (Uniport)... I'm repeating my final year because my mental issues did not allow me focus on my project and two difficult Maths courses.. i find it hard to focus (ADHD) and study... If i am not battling with that ever present inner OCD voice, I'm fantasizing about another world inside my head...

Everybody thinks i'm rude because i am never smiling and i don't know how to talk to or reply people (I'm always anxious even when i'm familiar with the person trying to talk to me)... no matter how i try i will always say something awkward or I wouldn't be able to say anything at all (my heart will always seem to be racing and my speech stuttering)... So i just detach myself from people generally to save myself from embarrassment...

What my OCD and OCPD has obsessed and compelled me to do over the years is just so much i can't write all about it here... It's more than the regular "wash your hand before and after you touch anything if not you will be infected or fall sick" or "if you press the wrong letter while typing a document, you must clear the whole page and start again if not the document file will be corrupted"]... If ever i try to resist the OCD voice, I'll feel so uncomfortable, anxious, disturbed and drowsy... i won't be able to concentrate on anything at all...

Also, it has made me abusive to my younger brother... If he does something I(or the OCD rather) don't(doesn't) like ... Example, if he doesn't wash his hand before touching things in our room or doesn't follow a couple of sequence i normally carry out while cleaning our room... i get so angry, i yell or sometimes(rarely though) physically abuse him... Any little thing he does irritates me even if he is just playing music, making a call or even laughing at a joke he read on his phone... This makes me hate myself but i can't stop this behavior...

Side note:[I have nothing against Christians or religious people... Please, don't be offended] I recently stop believing in religion (Christianity in my case)... I see it as a mechanism implemented to make people behave and make people be motivated to live and enjoy life... I also don't identify as an atheist because most atheist these days are just religious about their non-believe... They will undoubtedly support theories like The Big Bang Theory and yet criticizes Christians for believing in the Creation Story... I don't believe both of the aforementioned theories(stories)... I can say I'm agnostic because i do not know about the origin of existence.. Although, when i was still an ardent Christian, my OCD voice will compel me to give large portions of my personal savings to "God" so that i'll receive a specific blessing or answer to a prayer request... lol...

I have not talked to anyone about my issues because i know they will not understand... during my secondary school days, i told my parents i was contemplating suicide... they beat me up and took me to church for deliverance... lol... so there is no point talking about it to my family...


I will appreciate talking to someone who understands... Please reply or email me...

Thanks...

If i may say in your search for a guilding philosophy about life and it existence brought you to this stage. You started too early in your life you should have waited until you are mature enough before lead off the one given to you by your biological parent and is unfortunate you didn't have any to replace it therefore your mind seem to be empty as a result other voices keep coming in to dominate. The fact is that you can't leave this life without a guilding philosophy either you are an atheist or theis. Bros choose one and guild it jealously and you shall see that your thought and mental health improving. Good luck bro. My opinion though.

LancelLogan:
Thank you... I'll consider your suggestions... Although, I doubt i'll be able to genuinely believe in God even if a try...

Believing in him is a funflction of continual dwelling amongst his congregation

LancelLogan:
I have chronic OCD coupled with other mental issues like ADHD, chronic depression, extreme anxiety, bipolar, Low self-esteem, Perfectionism(OCPD similar to OCD) and the Fantasy Disorder (i waste hours fantasizing about a character rich fantasy world i have created in my head for almost a decade now) and (i don't know) i think i'm autistic... It kills me inside... I have contemplated suicide but i'm afraid it will be too painful or unsuccessful (since firearms are not sold in this country)...

My mental issues started when i was around 5 years (or maybe since child birth)... My depression heightened during my secondary education at a military secondary school (Nigerian Navy Port Harcourt).

I stay in Port Harcourt and school in the University of Port Harcourt (Uniport)... I'm repeating my final year because my mental issues did not allow me focus on my project and two difficult Maths courses.. i find it hard to focus (ADHD) and study... If i am not battling with that ever present inner OCD voice, I'm fantasizing about another world inside my head...

Everybody thinks i'm rude because i am never smiling and i don't know how to talk to or reply people (I'm always anxious even when i'm familiar with the person trying to talk to me)... no matter how i try i will always say something awkward or I wouldn't be able to say anything at all (my heart will always seem to be racing and my speech stuttering)... So i just detach myself from people generally to save myself from embarrassment...

What my OCD and OCPD has obsessed and compelled me to do over the years is just so much i can't write all about it here... It's more than the regular "wash your hand before and after you touch anything if not you will be infected or fall sick" or "if you press the wrong letter while typing a document, you must clear the whole page and start again if not the document file will be corrupted"]... If ever i try to resist the OCD voice, I'll feel so uncomfortable, anxious, disturbed and drowsy... i won't be able to concentrate on anything at all...

Also, it has made me abusive to my younger brother... If he does something I(or the OCD rather) don't(doesn't) like ... Example, if he doesn't wash his hand before touching things in our room or doesn't follow a couple of sequence i normally carry out while cleaning our room... i get so angry, i yell or sometimes(rarely though) physically abuse him... Any little thing he does irritates me even if he is just playing music, making a call or even laughing at a joke he read on his phone... This makes me hate myself but i can't stop this behavior...

Side note:[I have nothing against Christians or religious people... Please, don't be offended] I recently stop believing in religion (Christianity in my case)... I see it as a mechanism implemented to make people behave and make people be motivated to live and enjoy life... I also don't identify as an atheist because most atheist these days are just religious about their non-believe... They will undoubtedly support theories like The Big Bang Theory and yet criticizes Christians for believing in the Creation Story... I don't believe both of the aforementioned theories(stories)... I can say I'm agnostic because i do not know about the origin of existence.. Although, when i was still an ardent Christian, my OCD voice will compel me to give large portions of my personal savings to "God" so that i'll receive a specific blessing or answer to a prayer request... lol...

I have not talked to anyone about my issues because i know they will not understand... during my secondary school days, i told my parents i was contemplating suicide... they beat me up and took me to church for deliverance... lol... so there is no point talking about it to my family...


I will appreciate talking to someone who understands... Please reply or email me...

Thanks...

I don't know if you can follow dz advice but I can assure you it will work.... Go to a psychiatric hospital and lodge your complaint. I'm sure they will know d right treatment to give you.
When I was a student nurse, I met a lot of patients like that at d neuropsychiatric hospital, Aro. I have friends among them till date and they are fine. As long as you're following the prescribed treatment, you'll be fine. All the best

Probz:
You can’t have depression and bipolar disorder at the same time because one’s part of the other.

Are these self-diagnosed?

He could.
Bipolar disorder.

sabanageorge:
Too much googling is what I find to be your problem. It's called self-diagnosis. Go see a doc.

You are so right. Cut out googling your symptoms and you may eradicate a large percentage of your problem. You need to get busy with whatever is worthwhile and this challenge will be history.

Chin up!

As a psychologist I would advice you to visit neuropsychiatric hospital at Aro, Abeokuta. They have experts who will treat ur case. They have treated cases like yours over and over.

Probz:
A lot of people don’t know this but most of the people roaming the streets of Aba Market have bipolar disorder. There’s not one country in the world that has bipolar and schizophrenia in rates that Nigeria does because the buck started with us. They’re Igbo illnesses.

The bolded is interesting. Explain further.

beardlessdude:
why are you pressing your telephone during church service ?

Hahahaha. I no fit explain shaa.

oyb:
Schizophrenia is everywhere jare. Oyibos will tell you about black helicopters, cia conspiracies, tracking chips. Black people will tell you devil is a liar, back to sender, they are following me from village.

Truth

oyb:
Schizophrenia is everywhere jare. Oyibos will tell you about black helicopters, cia conspiracies, tracking chips. Black people will tell you devil is a liar, back to sender, they are following me from village.

Delusions of persecution are a type of depressive delusion. More commonly associated with schizophrenia these days but they arise from a depressive basis.