mukhcech:


Promiscuity it is when we support the campaign of those satanic elements blaming no sex before marriage as d reason for ur wife behavior. I am personally not interested in discussing the main issue here as I believe sexuality of couples should not be discussed on open forums even anonymously. I will advice u seek solutions elsewhere. I had a similar ish buh solved it.

I don't really understand what you mean but I think forum like this allow you to sample various opinion and share knowledge.

Religious society have done a lot of damages by not openly discuss sex among themselves. Everybody cover it as if nobody is doing it yet we have 7 billion people on earth which is a result of seven billion intercourse.

Your wife's low sexual drive has nothing to do with her religious beliefs. It is one of those lies we tell ourselves to encourage promiscuity.

Every human being with the right hormones have the tendency to like sex. If she does not like sex, then her hormone is not right. Christianity does not curtail sexual hormones. What Christianity preaches is control over sexual hormones when you find yourself in difficult and tempting situations.

Pastors have sex, and that's why some of them even cheat! So what type of Christianity prevents your wife from having adequate sex?
As you can see, it is the "Christianity" some posters formulated in their heads.

To the real issue, a lot of physiological factors are involved. It could also be a result of what her mom and all those grannies did back in the days (mutilation) in the name of omigwo. You should also discuss with your wife her sexual history?
It is very important at this stage.

I know you need a quick way out of this, but be very careful and know that everything that seems good has hidden disadvantages. What if you find a good kisser and a tigress in bed and she ends up cheating on you? What if you find a woman that has terrible and uncontrollable urge for sex?

I advise you to mold your woman the way you want her to act. Finding an already molded sex tigress comes with plenty disadvantages too. So don't feel inadequate. Ask her questions, try to understand the reasons behind those things she dislike. Like you said, she's perfect in other aspects, that's a plus!

You see this se x thing, we will all get tired someday. Unlike the food we take in daily, a lot of married folks will tell you that they spend a month, even two months without sex and they're fine.

smulti:
both of you aren't sexually compatible bro,


that is the disadvantage of no sex before marriage


you have to bear it and Carry the cross alone
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Lies from the very PIT OF HELL.

sisisioge:
Hian! It's all about getting the right shoe fit. Some people don't like sex, some do and distaste pre-intimacy, some don't like kisses, some are just alright with all the plays minus the do...whew! I just can't deal getting that aspect wrong...hian!

No vex Oga, please beg her to listen to the voice of reasoning. How could she not want to be kissed? Chai! I swearit, most no sex before marriage doers always get that aspect wrong. If you won't have the sex, at least play the play. That would have given you some insight on your sexual compatibility. Biko, let there be plenty sex bikonu ...let there be abeg. It's one of the things we singles are so jealous of your married for

Gospel according to sisioge. Get married to that guy browsing you now what are you waiting for?

OP, you seem to be answering questions on behalf of your wife but this is wrong. If you are pleasing her there's no way she will refuse you, check yourself.

smulti:


if no sex before marriage was God’s plan then people would have receive their joystick or vagina on their wedding day.
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How would you urinate?

benabbey:


Absolutely correct

You de pretend

Pidgin2:

How would you urinate?

via his mouth

Go marry another wife

Pidgin2:


How would you urinate?

God would've made a provision for that while withholding sexual organ until wedding day

Pidgin2:


Gospel according to sisioge. Get married to that guy browsing you now what are you waiting for?

OP, you seem to be answering questions on behalf of your wife but this is wrong. If you are pleasing her there's no way she will refuse you, check yourself.

You this Warri girl, I know you would get it wrong I won't even explain

Acidosis:
Your wife's low sexual drive has nothing to do with her religious beliefs. It is one of those lies we tell ourselves to encourage promiscuity.

Every human being with the right hormones have the tendency to like sex. If she does not like sex, then her hormone is not right. Christianity does not curtail sexual hormones. What Christianity preaches is control over sexual hormones when you find yourself in difficult and tempting situations.

Pastors have sex, and that's why some of them even cheat! So what type of Christianity prevents your wife from having adequate sex?
As you can see, it is the "Christianity" some posters formulated in their heads.

To the real issue, a lot of physiological factors are involved. It could also be a result of what her mom and all those grannies did back in the days (mutilation) in the name of omigwo. You should also discuss with your wife her sexual history?
It is very important at this stage.

I know you need a quick way out of this, but be very careful and know that everything that seems good has hidden disadvantages. What if you find a good kisser and a tigress in bed and she ends up cheating on you? What if you find a woman that has terrible and uncontrollable urge for sex?

I advise you to mold your woman the way you want her to act. Finding an already molded sex tigress comes with plenty disadvantages too. So don't feel inadequate. Ask her questions, try to understand the reasons behind those things she dislike. Like you said, she's perfect in other aspects, that's a plus!

You see this se x thing, we will all get tired someday. Unlike the food we take in daily, a lot of married folks will tell you that they spend a month, even two months without sex and they're fine.

Pastor Jazi, the point is for all low, medium and high sex drivers to simply marry their counterparts. That way, the issue of marital wahala that stems out of sexual incompatibility will be highly curtailed. Does that not make some sense to the bluest nose?

** So what type of Christianity prevents your wife from having adequate sex?
As you can see, it is the "Christianity" some posters formulated in their heads.**

the above quote is an avoidable circumstances if they had sort to discover their sexuality preference before tying the knot

I'm a Roman Catholic, the pioneer of Christianity, intending couple are advised to discover each others weaknesses before they are joined together as husband & wife

Op predicament is an avoidable one if he had taken the right steps

Acidosis
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pussygotlips:
Quick and short method,







Put energizer in her drink, she go fu ckk u till your pen!s peel

Energizers like??

pussygotlips:
Quick and short method,







Put energizer in her drink, she go fu ckk u till your pen!s peel

Energizers like...?

This is a very sensitive issue. Your wife might have had some very ugly opinion about sex while she was single.
People develop this hatred for sex just so they can avoid pre-marital sex. The problem now arises when they cannot change that mindset after marriage... I believe this is where your wife is, at the moment.

If you truly believe in the sanctity of marriage, you will need to put in a lot of love into your marriage instead of the pressure you are putting in (e.g reporting her to family members). The more love you show her the more she loves you and I believe a woman who have grown to love and trust her husband will be open to him... That way, she might be able on her own even without you asking, tell you what it is she fears about sex. She could have been a victim of some sort of sexual assault in the past, who knows?

My point is, you need to get to the root of the matter and the love you pour on her can get you there faster.

jusRadical:


Lies from the very PIT OF HELL.

Can you respond intelligently with fact regards to Op's predicaments
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smulti:


Can you respond intelligently with fact regards to Op's predicaments

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Satan sees not the truth.

jusRadical:


Satan sees not the truth.

I won't trade words with you, trust me.

sisisioge:



Pastor Jazi, the point is for all low, medium and high sex drivers to simply marry their counterparts. That way, the issue of marital wahala that stems out of sexual incompatibility will be highly curtailed. Does that not make some sense to the bluest nose?

There is no such thing as sexual compatibility, or let me say I don't believe in that term.

I believe in sexual growth as no individual is born to have good or bad sex. We are all born virgins, so when we talk about compatibility, we make it sound like "sexual destiny". Sexual satisfaction for me is earned through efforts, not finding a "compatible" sexual partner. How do one find a compatible partner without turning a h o e or contracting stds in the process? What if you love someone you're not "sexually compatible" with?

Linking sexual compatibility or sexual destiny to sexual satisfaction is detrimental not only to partners but the moral values of an entire generation.

Compatibility isn't something you have, so you can't find it too. It is something we make, in a procedural way, one that you negotiate as you go along. That you like sex today doesn't mean we will like it forever. We have seen some sexual tigress lose that vibe after a baby. So it needs continuous negotiations.

I believe the society should teach people how to attain sexual satisfaction, not how to find/locate a "sexually compatible" partner.

smulti:


I won't trade words with you, trust me.

Me toooo.

Hey bro, can u tell us if u have any fun with ur wife? Do u make her laugh? As a woman, i can only tell u that sex doesn't start that second ure on the bed. its an atmosphere u build up all thru the day. U've got to overlook some of her faults , chat with her in the kitchen n just generally bond with her.

Try and inculcate talking to ur wife bout ur issues rather than escalating them to her folks. if indeed ure right that she has sexual hang ups, y do u think that reporting her to her family is the right way to go. She most likely would rather act like shes not having sex so i'm not surprised that u have reported her to her parent, Brother and Uncle without any change.

Are you the type of guy that ogles every well endowed lady or forever watching porn as all these are mood killers as she may feel ure comparing her body with theirs and seeing her body shortfalls.

N though this is not a popular option - bro, pray bout it. it helps.

Well Bros there will be no family with out endurance. Every human being has his/her own weakness. No one is totally perfect. If you like divorce, And you will still find error in the next you will marry. Even those who had sex from their child hood still have their cases, some divorced and etc. As you Continue trying don't allow devil to destroy your family

Acidosis:


There is no such thing as sexual compatibility, or let me say I don't believe in that term.

I believe in sexual growth as no individual is born to have good or bad sex. We are all born virgins, so when we talk about compatibility, we make it sound like "sexual destiny". Sexual satisfaction for me is earned through efforts, not finding a "compatible" sexual partner. How do one find a compatible partner without turning a h o e or contracting stds in the process? What if you love someone you're not "sexually compatible" with?

Linking sexual compatibility or sexual destiny to sexual satisfaction is detrimental not only to partners but the moral values of an entire generation.

Compatibility isn't something you have, so you can't find it too. It is something we make, in a procedural way, one that you negotiate as you go along. That you like sex today doesn't mean we will like it forever. We have seen some sexual tigress lose that vibe after a baby. So it needs continuous negotiations.

I believe the society should teach people how to attain sexual satisfaction, not how to find/locate a "sexually compatible" partner.

Oh dear! I can't believe Acidiosis wrote this. You just shocked me dude...it is well

Read books on Internet on raise a woman's libido.

Try find our what turns her on.


Seems you just bump into sex, cos you are always turned on. You are always ready when she is rarely ready. It may be her weakness, or she has wrong orientation towards sex.‎

 She is a course/project you need to study and work on if you want to succeed. ‎

Get food/fruits that can turn her on too, food that can increase her libido.‎

Sometimes take sex leave without notifying her. Stay days/few weeks off sex and see the demand from her at the slightest touch . Every man can live without sex (it is only a fallacy that men can't do without sex).

Your family is your first constituency, work out its success. 

Seems you are a Christian, focus on your Jesus when sex from your wife is there or not. Stop reporting her. ‎


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benabbey:


They are no satan agent. Why I will not support promiscuity I think religious body should dig into sexual preference of intending couple. May be through questionnaire. Question like how often will you like have been asked before marriage and the lady says once in a while and man fill in often or as body demanded you know there is a conflict already

The only thing harp on by religious body is holiness, bed undefiled and pregnancy test.

I think intending couple should discuss their sexual preference and check compatibility

You should have gone through adequate marriage counselling which includes talking about sexual intimacy
Your wife's reluctance or disinterest in sex are not related to obedience to no premarital sex
Obedience is a sacrifice not a chain

Stop 'reporting' her to her relatives you will just make her resent you.
I mean she doesn't even want to kiss you..this is DEEPER than you think and it's not about you.

She needs to get help, sex is intimacy and in marriage it's like glue.

Research pschologists that deal with sex. Let her see that you want her to get help FIRST for her own benefit because you are HER FRIEND not just her husband
In fact consider contacting the lady that writes for Punch Saturdays on sex matters or email praise fowowe.

Note not every counsellor can handle sexual matters especially because there can be a unknown sexual abuse cause.

benabbey:


They are no satan agent. Why I will not support promiscuity I think religious body should dig into sexual preference of intending couple. May be through questionnaire. Question like how often will you like have been asked before marriage and the lady says once in a while and man fill in often or as body demanded you know there is a conflict already

The only thing harp on by religious body is holiness, bed undefiled and pregnancy test.

I think intending couple should discuss their sexual preference and check compatibility

Right on point bro

thumbs up

Acidosis:


There is no such thing as sexual compatibility, or let me say I don't believe in that term.

I believe in sexual growth as no individual is born to have good or bad sex. We are all born virgins, so when we talk about compatibility, we make it sound like "sexual destiny". Sexual satisfaction for me is earned through efforts, not finding a "compatible" sexual partner. How do one find a compatible partner without turning a h o e or contracting stds in the process? What if you love someone you're not "sexually compatible" with?

Linking sexual compatibility or sexual destiny to sexual satisfaction is detrimental not only to partners but the moral values of an entire generation.

Compatibility isn't something you have, so you can't find it too. It is something we make, in a procedural way, one that you negotiate as you go along. That you like sex today doesn't mean we will like it forever. We have seen some sexual tigress lose that vibe after a baby. So it needs continuous negotiations.

I believe the society should teach people how to attain sexual satisfaction, not how to find/locate a "sexually compatible" partner.

What a fine argument I find it difficult to pick a hole in the premises and the conclusion

Sexual growth lovely one. I will also call it sexual evolution. A man may be more sexually evolved than his wife. The man may have to wait patiently for the wife to evolve

Perfect

smulti:
** So what type of Christianity prevents your wife from having adequate sex?
As you can see, it is the "Christianity" some posters formulated in their heads.**

the above quote is an avoidable circumstances if they had sort to discover their sexuality preference before tying the knot

I'm a Roman Catholic, the pioneer of Christianity, intending couple are advised to discover each others weaknesses before they are joined together as husband & wife

Op predicament is an avoidable one if he had taken the right steps

Acidosis
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First, Christianity does not encourage anyone to discover sexual weaknesses in bed. I can't understand the exact passage of the Roman Catholic book you got that from.. However I'm sure that isn't in the Bible.

If OP met his wife a virgin, then there is really no way he could have understood her weakness before the first sex; unless of course another type of Christianity encourages the breaking of hymen before wedding. Most virgins don't even understand their own body so don't expect any valid answer when you ask a virgin about her s.exual preference.

When Pastors begin to ask unmarried singles their sexual preferences, then know that the world would soon end. It doesn't mean they don't discuss and advise good sex. That's the best they can do (advise!), they won't force anyone's dckk into an unwilling home.

Dlionsheart:

Right on point bro
thumbs up

I couldn't reply your pm, hope all is well?

smulti:
both of you aren't sexually compatible bro,


that is the disadvantage of no sex before marriage


you have to bear it and Carry the cross alone
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By your interpretation anybody dat hasn't had sex before marriage can't enjoy marital sex?

Asexuality, kind of a psychological thing

Acidosis:


First, Christianity does not encourage anyone to discover sexual weaknesses in bed. I can't understand the exact passage of the Roman Catholic book you got that from.. However I'm sure that isn't in the Bible.

If OP met his wife a virgin, then there is really no way he could have understood her weakness before the first sex; unless of course another type of Christianity encourages the breaking of hymen before wedding. Most virgins don't even understand their own body so don't expect any valid answer when you ask a virgin about her s.exual preference.

When Pastors begin to ask unmarried singles their sexual preferences, then know that the world would soon end. It doesn't mean they don't discuss and advise good sex. That's the best they can do (advise!), they won't force anyone's dckk into an unwilling home.

Op.. kindly answer this question


if truly you meet your wife a virgin then you need to be patient with her to master the skills of other room ..biko

cc benabbey
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