So many guys are have gotten it all wrong. I decided to put down our chat pictures, maybe that could have made you understand my point. I am not asking him for money. I have been with him for five years and I cannot pin point something in particular he has done for me simply because he is broke, I am always the one helping him financially and being the good supportive gf, it pains me that whenever he has little money like this, to even buy 500# airtime for me becomes a problem. I just wanna be sure am not with a stingy man cos I don't see myself getting married to one. We'd enter cab together and I'd be the one to pay for either both of us or myself, he hardly gives t.fare whenever I visit him, never buy me anything, all these are making me feel like I'm in a one sided relationship. Broke guys can care for their gfs too, especially the ones that are always there for u either financially, emotionally or otherwise, don't make her feel like she's missing out on something.
No FP pls.

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The boy is having insecurity issues cos he is broke and the girl is far away in service year

Every other thing I am seeing here is just a fall-out. In that situation, the smallest trifle that would ordinarily be ignored if things were OK can start a fire

I tried reading everything but I coundnt understand




U guys r like cat n rat

Free him

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This relationship ended long ago. You were both still in it 'cause of vested emotions and other sacrifices.

Broke guys are extremely insecure and every of your move is termed as looking for a rich dude. That's the cheap blackmail they resort to when you call off their bluff to get sympathy. This one isn't only broke but stingy to the core. Even if he doesn't have, there're things he should do occasionally to make you feel at ease with him.

Hmmmm...

Some guys are just naturally stingy...It runs in their blood

There are some things a guy should do for his girlfriend/wife without her having to ask for those things...some guys would purposely wait for you to ask so they quickly tag you a gold digger or someone that is too demanding...It's really surprising...they know you need the money but they will be so reluctant to spend

Ladies that have stingy boyfriends hardly have peace of mind...If you want to know how generous a man is look at his girlfriend/wife...her skin will be glowing

You even tried...5 Full years...that relationship is dead even if you guys get back together...just move on...There's no way you can stay with that kind of man cos he's gonna keep seeing fault in everything you do...it starts from little things like this because he will reduce all your conversation to money matters

A man that can't give from the little that he has is that one a man

It's not like you are lazy or depending on him for everything self

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God! ladies dey try aswear.

Broke guys are so insecure. Jeez! anything you say would be use against you. Worst enough is if you so much want the relationship to work out and your partner is acting like it's only your business. It's really painful.

Truth is no lady wants a lazy man hiding under the umbrella of "broke guys" as a partner...
Start somewhere! for crying out loud.

I've come to realise that ladies are the ones trying to keep relationship going. They want the best for everyone while the guys are nothing to right about.

Situations like this makes me think it's better and safer for one to remain like that instead of dating someone that doesn't care.

Sorry

In my humble opinion, he is not your father... You are not in that relationship because of what you can gain from him.. As u said in your chat," he has not done anything for you except Sex which any loosed girl can get "..

If u don't want to be with him or you did not bargain for a man like him, just go with your 100% dignity ...You got nothing to loose

If he's the kinda guy that helps a friend, he would have... it's not something you can force out of him...But you made the chat look like you were in that relationship because of what you can gain

I want to believe that both of you were in that relationship because of how you feel with each other.. not what u can gain from him.. But if u are fortunate enough to have someone that plan to shoulder your financial responsibility, that is a plus.. but not mandatory....Friendship is not poverty alleviation programme....

Richy4:
In my humble opinion, he is not your father... You are not in that relationship because of what you can gain from him.. As u said in your chat," he has not done anything for you except Sex which any loosed girl can get "..

If u don't want to be with him or you did not bargain for a man like him, just go with your 100% dignity ...You got nothing to loose

If he's the kinda guy that helps a friend, he would have... it's not something you can force out of him...But you made the chat look like you were in that relationship because of what you can gain

I want to believe that both of you were in that relationship because of how you feel with each other.. not what u can gain from him.. But if u are fortunate enough to have someone that plan to shoulder your financial responsibility, that is a plus.. but not mandatory....Friendship is not poverty alleviation programme....

You're not diff from him

classicB:

You're not diff from him

Oh Messiah!!! Now you have started judging me when you don't even know me..I am sorry I didn't say what you wanted to hear

Richy4:


Oh Messiah!!! Now you have started judging me when you don't even know me..I am sorry I didn't say what you wanted to hear

I am not actually, sorry

Damn!! Wish I've Got That Girlfriend That Supports A Hustla Like Me Financially Mehn_Imma Hustle The World For Her.... Lol.


I Feel Your Pain Girl
Y'all Can Still Werk Something Out, It's Cool To Have Issues But Break Up Ain't Always The Answer!.
It's All Love Right?? Keep Supporting Him The Possible Ways You Can Not Minding If He Doesn't Do Same#That's The Love We Talking About.. Not The I Do This For You Love So You Do The Other For Me Love Nah... That's Not It.

Nobody's Perfect We All Tryna Make A Living Bear With Each Others Flaws..
I'd Love That Punch Brokeness Is Temporary.. In No Time We'll Be Living Good.

#It'sNeverTooLateToTry

Make Things Up Girl
Lastly, Sorry If Anybody's Offended tho!!! But S#X At This Stage Ain't Cool, Me Don't Support That.. It's Worth Waiting Till We're Married First.. Just Focus Now On Bringing Out The Best Outta Your Partners. We've Got A lot To Offer Other Than S#X C'mon!!!
Yeah I'm Proud To Announce Even Though My Life's F**Ked Up Now I'm Still A Virgin.... LOL.
Feel Free To Come At Me With 'em Shades It's All Love
#LoveGod
#FearGod
#Peace

classicB:

I am not actually, sorry

Don't sweat it dear...
Don't worry be happy

Vyolet:
Broke guys are the most insecure, they count your every move and read bad meaning to it.
I dated one back then, it was war, we shared almost every responsibility that came up, so there was a day he asked me to give him 100naira so he could give his baby niece, I knew I had such change in my purse but it had fallen inside the bag so I had to search for it, in that process, he was already angry, I found it and gave the little girl. It was war on our way back as he accused me of being a stingy woman who finds it hard to give. I was shocked and began to recount everything I always do, he now said oh, thank God I'm not God, he will be rich some day too and shame me,I cried all night and was in deep thought. We made up again and every went fine, he was always with my ATMs and he knew every penny that came into my Account yet I couldn't complain if he withdrew anything,

Why did you let him do you like that?
And how did you finally break up with him?

For those that might be disappointed to see that thr OP has deleted her post let him summarise what I can assume from the various comments.

The Op would rather sell her body for sex but to just a man she likes to call her biyfriend.

In a way the guy could not pay her for the sex, he wrongly assumed since they were in a relationship he was not expected to pay for sex. Oh how wrong he was.

Lastly, almost all the ladies on these thread have the same mindset like OP.
Most condemning the guy for being stingy and not paying up.

One more thing, a poster asked a critical question. Is the boyfriend obligated to give the girlfriend money? Must he carry the mindset that he has to pay for his services ? How has our young ladies become so engrossed with the mindset that a man must carry their burden and needs effectively turning themselves to prosti tu .tes.

? ? ?

^^^^Complete and absolute rubbish.

A girlfriend/fiancee is perfectly within her rights to test how well a man is capable of providing for her self and her children after they get married because a man's primary duties in a family is to provide.
It doesn't make her a gold digger or whatever nonsense men these days are saying. If a man comes here to say he took his fiancee to his house and she couldn't cook properly and couldn't keep the house clean everybody, men and women alike will support him and tell him not to marry her without her changing and learning those things.
Nobody will question why he expected the girl to cook and clean for him since she isn't his mother or daughter.

Girls listen carefully : If a man is not giving you anything before marriage no matter how small leave his ass!
That's how they will treat you after marriage, they won't provide for you but will expect you to perform all sorts of widely duties. Forget the emotional blackmail men these days are trying to force down your neck with all the gold digger, selling your body for sex nonsense talk.

MhizzAJ:
Some guys are just naturally stingy...It runs in their blood

There are some things a guy should do for his girlfriend/wife without her having to ask for those things...some guys would purposely wait for you to ask so they quickly tag you a gold digger or someone that is too demanding...It's really surprising...they know you need the money but they will be so reluctant to spend

Ladies that have stingy boyfriends hardly have peace of mind...If you want to know how generous a man is look at his girlfriend/wife...her skin will be glowing

You even tried...5 Full years...that relationship is dead even if you guys get back together...just move on...There's no way you can stay with that kind of man cos he's gonna keep seeing fault in everything you do...it starts from little things like this because he will reduce all your conversation to money matters

A man that can't give from the little that he has is that one a man

It's not like you are lazy or depending on him for everything self

What do you call a guy who spends his all for a lady and sacrifices his all (Maga I guess)


Relationship isn't one sided but people now make it look as if one person has to do all the providing and sacrifice.

Guitarlife:
For those that might be disappointed to see that thr OP has deleted her post let him summarise what I can assume from the various comments.

The Op would rather sell her body for sex but to just a man she likes to call her biyfriend.

In a way the guy could not pay her for the sex, he wrongly assumed since they were in a relationship he was not expected to pay for sex. Oh how wrong he was.

Lastly, almost all the ladies on these thread have the same mindset like OP.
Most condemning the guy for being stingy and not paying up.

One more thing, a poster asked a critical question. Is the boyfriend obligated to give the girlfriend money? Must he carry the mindset that he has to pay for his services ? How has our young ladies become so engrossed with the mindset that a man must carry their burden and needs effectively turning themselves to prosti tu .tes.

? ? ?

What a load of crap!

The way you guys twist this money thing eh, is amazing.

A guy will decide he's not going to spend a dime on his girlfriend and still expect all the benefits due to a boyfriend. What nonsense!

When are you guys going to realise that money is a huge part of making a relationship work? Even in a marriage, a wife is more likely to be romantic and loving to a husband who caters for her needs as against the one expecting her to pick up equal bills.

It's just the way it works, if I'm having sex with a guy, then I expect him to pay my bills, or at least some. Don't be claiming boyfriend and enjoying free sex when you can't even help her out financially.

Of course he's free to go hire the services of a prostitute if it makes him feel any better.

Guys be wanting to eat their cakes and have it since 1860!

nahzyla:
^^^^Complete and absolute rubbish.

A girlfriend/fiancee is perfectly within her rights to test how well a man is capable of providing for her self and her children after they get married because a man's primary duties in a family is to provide.
It doesn't make her a gold digger or whatever nonsense men these days are saying. If a man comes here to say he took his fiancee to his house and she couldn't cook properly and couldn't keep the house clean everybody, men and women alike will support him and tell him not to marry her without her changing and learning those things.
Nobody will question why he expected the girl to cook and clean for him since she isn't his mother or daughter.

Girls listen carefully : If a man is not giving you anything before marriage no matter how small leave his ass!
That's how they will treat you after marriage, they won't provide for you but will expect you to perform all sorts of widely duties. Forget the emotional blackmail men these days are trying to force down your neck with all the gold digger, selling your body for sex nonsense talk.

I completely agree. . .

jeff1607:





What do you call a guy who spends his all for a lady and sacrifices his all (Maga I guess)


Relationship isn't one sided but people now make it look as if one person has to do all the providing and sacrifice.

If my husband cannot be my maga then who will

jeff1607:





What do you call a guy who spends his all for a lady and sacrifices his all (Maga I guess)


Relationship isn't one sided but people now make it look as if one person has to do all the providing and sacrifice.

I agree with you that relationship isn't one sided but no reasonable girl would call a guy who spends on her a 'Maga'

It is those girls with multiple boyfriends that will tag a man that way

In fact a responsible woman will not rely totally on her man for financial support...

A man that can't take care of a woman at this stage what will now happen when they get married

MhizzAJ:


I agree with you that relationship isn't one sided but no reasonable girl would call a guy who spends on her a 'Maga'

It is those girls with multiple boyfriends that will tag a man that way

In fact a responsible woman will not rely totally on her man for financial support...

A man that can't take care of a woman at this stage what will now happen when they get married

I totally agree with you but what I meant is that the lady might not say it out loud but one could tell, especially every little thing she demands

UjuJoan2:


If my husband cannot be my maga then who will

Lol



Your husband na different matter entirely not in the case of when he still bears the title BF

jeff1607:



Lol



Your husband na different matter entirely not in the case of when he still bears the title BF

Eziokwu? . . . I hope the boyfriend won't be upset when I decide to reserve my body for my husband then.

UjuJoan2:


Eziokwu? . . . I hope the boyfriend won't be upset when I decide to reserve my body for my husband then.

You were actually supposed to do that. No marriage, no...

UjuJoan2:


Eziokwu? . . . I hope the boyfriend won't be upset when I decide to reserve my body for my husband then.

Apart from sex you will also not cook or clean his house until you get married. Don't assist him with any house chores after all you are not his mother or maid.

nahzyla:


Apart from sex you will also not cook or clean his house until you get married. Don't assist him with any house chores after all you are not his mother or maid.

Exactly . . . Then he can keep his money to himself!

UjuJoan2:


Eziokwu? . . . I hope the boyfriend won't be upset when I decide to reserve my body for my husband then.

I hope the girlfriend won't be upset when he decides to reserve his money for his wife