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EmirOMENT:
This advise is good for both husband and wife and not only the women.
Creating this thread specifically for women means that you're subjecting them to mere objects/machines in their matrimonial home. I see no reason why a man can't also adhere to the above advise.

God bless you,It takes two to tangle.Two heads are better than one so both have to make it work as they both made a vow.It would not be wise if one is trying to make the marriage work while the other is bent on seeing the marriage fail.

emmie14:
Keep your kitchen bathroom and bedroom neat. Your duty before going to work. I doubt you type can maintain employment.

Do you eat from that kitchen?

Do you sleep in that bedroom?

So why is it hers solely when you benefit from both places? Abi na only her dey chop and sleep?

shaybebaby:
And he has no clue you even exist. Save it!

Blade don talk

MrHistorian:
6.)Total disregard for body/beauty maintenance.

I don't know if this is peculiar to Nigeria but once a woman is married,she pays little attention to her looks with the ridiculous belief that "Who is looking at me?".. Though a married woman is not expected to portray herself as a slut but at the same time must make herself presentable at home and in the public.

good point I agree with u

hobermener:
Marriage is hella overrated!!
Why bring two different people from different backgrounds, who hold different values and possess different traits under one union, merging them as both one, leaving them with the life long struggle of reconciling their differences with time

I just taya

Even if they are from the same womb, disagreement will still come up.

youngreezy:
Using the term weaker sex to dia advantage... Dis one na em dey reign now dem use am dey kill men..

lolzzz

SilvanusII:
All these ppl that wanna keep women under their thumbs with their sneer-worthy lists...and the asinine comments that follow sef

oil dey your head.

Martin0:
Blade don talk

When bad belle takes over some people's senses.

rolams:
Even if they are from the same womb, disagreement will still come up.

Abi o. Compromise is key !

ashjay001:
Weaker sex ke!


U come back from work n sit back with d remote, or hang out with ur pips. U claim to be tired.


She comes back from work, enters d kitchen, entertain d kids n still has to entertain u later. She claims to be tired.

Who do u think is weaker?

Please ask him ooooooo.

emmie14:
feminist sighted

she is right married men too have a lot of work to do

shaybebaby:
When bad belle takes over some people's senses.

Hahahah nor let dem con jaguda u ooo

Martin0:
Hahahah nor let dem con jaguda u ooo

How you dey today?

pocohantas:
When will you guys start having logical counters, instead of singing feminism. Is it so difficult to think and come up with a civil argument? Nawa for this generation of men o!

OP, nice list.

stewpid set of men

Jupxter:
How you dey today?

Oh ogbeni I dey fine oo

Martin0:
Hahahah nor let dem con jaguda u ooo

How dem wan take do am, teleport come my house?

Aadibros:
While I agree with some of what you have written. However, I have the following responses to share.

1. Men should be patient to truly understand why their wives give those excuses about sex. She could be stressed out or have hormonal issues. Also, women's urge for sex isn't same as men's - medically explained. Husband go do all the romantic stuff to him GF to arouse her but e go just command him wife like sacrificial lamb wey suppose just spread for bed. The question is, how sincerely has he tried to communicate with her to understand why there is a change in how she responds to sex compared to the early times of their marriage? She may be unhappy with the man or certain situations. Also, why wont she lose her urge if her husband only comes to her or becomes nice to her when he needs sex? All your yarns no be excuse for the man to begin go outside him marriage. Like someone correctly said, even when the wife give am daily, man wey go go outside still dey go.

2. I understand and have experienced that behavior but trust me, she is not happy about a lot of things. So if you know how you were so loving before you married her to get the best of her, do same and more to find out why she is happier when you are not around. You annoy her and don't genuinely repent and you think settling an issue ends in love making. Then look for a prostitute not a wife. Nothing justifies a man staying out to drink. It is not in a man's DNA!!!

3. Your third point no even clear.

4. Reactions are effects of earlier actions.

5. The man should learn to love his wife and family the way he need from day 1. I am against either of the parents taking out their anger on innocent children, but this doesn't apply to females alone so don't make it a female thing.

Bottom line, it is not a man's world!!! I don't know where that bull crap came from. Why should a husband treat his wife like he is doing her a favor to be married to him? What the heck do you think you give her or do for her that she cant get more outside too if she decides to go out the way men stupidly justify their reasons for going out? Some men annoyingly say it is to answer a man's name. which dirty name? you be Dangote or Jeff Bezos? How much you even pay for bride price or dowry? How much your best wedding even cost?
The earlier we start treating our wives as wives, the better. Happy wife, happy home!!! Why because they are the support. Nothing lasts long without good support system. Shikina!!!

A thousand likes to you sir.Are you from Mars or are you a Nigerian your level of reasoning is so impeccable.It is really nice to hear all these coming from a man it kind of shows you are not that egocentric.Thumbs up.

Blessograo:
Things men do that are not mistakes
1. Cheating on their wives
2. Taking them for granted and not appreciating their little efforts
3: expecting them to do anything that involves the house, children and taking care of them like kids.
4. Leaving everywhere dirty and waiting for their wife to come back from work to clean and cook even when they've been home all day or earlier and ask for sex from the tired woman
5. Taking care of everyone when they are sick including inlaws but even her husband is not home he's with side chick.
Infact men have begin to define wifes as
W: wife
I: incubators
F: food tunnels
E: excessive
S: sex
Next time someone complains about ladies again think twic.

tell dem ooo

Aadibros:
While I agree with some of what you have written. However, I have the following responses to share.

1. Men should be patient to truly understand why their wives give those excuses about sex. She could be stressed out or have hormonal issues. Also, women's urge for sex isn't same as men's - medically explained. Husband go do all the romantic stuff to him GF to arouse her but e go just command him wife like sacrificial lamb wey suppose just spread for bed. The question is, how sincerely has he tried to communicate with her to understand why there is a change in how she responds to sex compared to the early times of their marriage? She may be unhappy with the man or certain situations. Also, why wont she lose her urge if her husband only comes to her or becomes nice to her when he needs sex? All your yarns no be excuse for the man to begin go outside him marriage. Like someone correctly said, even when the wife give am daily, man wey go go outside still dey go.

2. I understand and have experienced that behavior but trust me, she is not happy about a lot of things. So if you know how you were so loving before you married her to get the best of her, do same and more to find out why she is happier when you are not around. You annoy her and don't genuinely repent and you think settling an issue ends in love making. Then look for a prostitute not a wife. Nothing justifies a man staying out to drink. It is not in a man's DNA!!!

3. Your third point no even clear.

4. Reactions are effects of earlier actions.

5. The man should learn to love his wife and family the way he need from day 1. I am against either of the parents taking out their anger on innocent children, but this doesn't apply to females alone so don't make it a female thing.

Bottom line, it is not a man's world!!! I don't know where that bull crap came from. Why should a husband treat his wife like he is doing her a favor to be married to him? What the heck do you think you give her or do for her that she cant get more outside too if she decides to go out the way men stupidly justify their reasons for going out? Some men annoyingly say it is to answer a man's name. which dirty name? you be Dangote or Jeff Bezos? How much you even pay for bride price or dowry? How much your best wedding even cost?
The earlier we start treating our wives as wives, the better. Happy wife, happy home!!! Why because they are the support. Nothing lasts long without good support system. Shikina!!!

i just love dis write up.....infact u said all.... thumbs up to u.... wonderful men are indeed out there.... . please sir tell it to all does.... childish fvck boys on NL... who think women are tools... dat can be tossed around

Jrevelation:
When you cant cook very well

How will you be happy in that marriage

Can't you cook yourself?you can still teach her.And there are women who can't cook and they are happy in their marriages.Cooking is an art and also a skill.Everybody can cook but not everybody can cook tasty meals.If you can eat why can't you cook?

I am really impressed about this man's writeup truly from a matured mind.

Rozaytee:
i just love dis write up.....infact u said all.... thumbs up to u.... wonderful men are indeed out there.... . please sir tell it to all does.... childish fvck boys on NL... who think women are tools... dat can be tossed around

TimeMod1:
bitch, my repellant has been able to keep your ass off long enough, so crawl back to your gutter & maintain your lane.


#BitchBeWarned

Or what?

Cvnt!

..

You are truly in the 21st century,truth is not every woman can tolerate any nonsense from any man especially the egocentric and self entitled type.

oyb:
Total rubbish from silly kids who think marriage is what you see in the movies.

Fortunately or unfortunately, women are more empowered these days, and divorce is no longer a taboo subject per sentence, so not everyone will have to put up with entitled man children because they want to please society

Ladyhippolyta88:
Can't you cook yourself?you can still teach her.And there are women who can't cook and they are happy in their marriages.Cooking is an art and also a skill.Everybody can cook but not everybody can cook tasty meals.If you can eat why can't you cook?

Your excute is not rigid
In Nigeria and as original Nigerian its not possible its can be possible if the wife is pregnant or sick go and ask elders they know better...
So when ur in law visit na ur husband go still cook for them abi
You better becareful
Learn how to cook even if it doesnt taste well try apply better ingredient to make it tasty

[quote author=124mumsy post=63380612]this particular advice is for women, maybe some other time men we be treated dont just bring comparison to spoil d atmosphere.[/quote Every of this advise applies to the men as well.

PastorLucifer:
Instead of listing all these, just type her name - Pocohantas.

Simple.

Fool

Jrevelation:
Your excute is not rigid
In Nigeria and as original Nigerian its not possible its can be possible if the wife is pregnant or sick go and ask elders they know better...
So when ur in law visit na ur husband go still cook for them abi
You better becareful
Learn how to cook even if it doesnt taste well try apply better ingredient to make it tasty

I can cook very well,if only i can see you and you have the honour to taste my food you won't be talking like this.My family is not the village type they are very liberal.All the men can cook in our house it is no joke.And my husband would most definitely know how to cook and it would not be only during pregnancies or sicknesses.Truth is times have changed and some of the best chefs in the world are male and they are seen in Nigeria i have male cousins who went to catering school.And by the grace of God my in laws won't complain if my sweetheart is domestic.Times have truly changed dear and we have some domestic men as well and they are more than special.