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kmcutez:
What do you understand by the statement below?

"Ladies, don't be lazy at your youthful age so when you put on the garment of marriage, you can prove that you were once a hard-working lady, but now, money has changed things for you.

I see you explained yourself above, but my interpretation is quite different from yours.

Why does she need to prove that she was once a hard-working lady after getting married? Should it not be obvious even after getting married? What does she mean by hard work? Why is it that only after putting on the garment of marriage that money has changed things for her.

I think her interpretation of hard work(back breaking housework the old fashioned way due to poverty) is different from your interpretation (making money).

[/b]A husbands money also belongs to the wife by Nigerian standards

that is not true to some extent, it's not a Nigerian thing. It happens everywhere in all part of the world cos biblically, God gave a command to man to feed his family. He should provide for his family. Don't make it look a woman is all about her husband's money.

. I believe that is why she keeps appealing to the mother in law to let her enjoy her money after marriage, because she has suffered enough while growing up.

On the other hand she could also mean, she can afford the gadgets that makes life less stressful for her, so the mother in law should not come and make life difficult for her by making her do things the old fashioned way.

Her write up is very confusing. Her command of English is very poor and ambiguous.

kmcutez:
Women in developed countries have a different mentality somehow from those in the developing countries when it comes to money.

Ginaz:
You got your statistics from where? Why would you degrade your continent so low as if mentality isn't an individual thing?

Their mentality when it comes to money ain't different from ours. The Mexicans are known for hard drugs and selling them off to make lots of money(millions)and those Mexican women that follow rich drug lords, are they different?

Money is an individual thing and it cuts across the world. Everyone needs money.

kmcutez:
Is Mexico a developed country?

Women in developed countries would rather work and make their own money to foot their bills most of the time.

Now compare an average Swiss woman to an average Nigerian woman.

There are also cultural differences that play a role in shaping this mentality, hence why I said their mentality are somewhat different when it comes to money for e.g. like offering to split the bill when they go out on dates, not expecting the opposite sex to foot their bills, take care of their family etc.

kimbraa:
Likewise me. I regret having a conversation with the girl 'cause the worse anyone could do is to have an argument with a conceited person. She has this much certitude that the lady wasn't in anyway referring to gold digging. Unfortunately for her, some of her supporters are know to be dyslexic, and it's evident in their inputs on the forum.

Funny enough, where her intelligence stops is where mine begins. That's the difference.

A fool thinks she's wise in her own very eyes. The topic has been overflogged, have a nice day ahead.

Organs:
KIMBRA: Be careful your use of words.....
Dyslexic children and adults struggle to read fluently, spell words correctly and learn a second language, among other challenges. But these difficulties have no connection to their overall intelligence. In fact, dyslexia is an unexpected difficulty in reading in an individual who has the intelligence to be a much better reader. While people with dyslexia are slow readers, they often, paradoxically, are very fast and creative thinkers with strong reasoning abilities.


Back to the discussion, now it is becoming interpretation of what the writer was saying based in your understanding in COLLABORATION with your mindset, experiences, background, environment etc now that is your understanding, you, you you and thats ok.... Ginaz, I and others understanding is different. It becomes an issue if you now say your understanding was what the writer was trying to say. So what i will say is your interpretation is wrong with possibility of it being right and ours is right with possibility of it being wrong.

kmcutez:
The writer of the article has a poor command of English, and her article is full of ambiguity, and coupled with the fact that she comes across as semi illiterate, and also her environment does not also help her case, one might be forced to decipher her article in different ways.

Too much emphasis on money and less on how she will get that money. E.g. When I get money, as far as there is money, now that money has come, etc etc . Money, money, money.