Organs:




GINAZ: You are on point. I agree with you absolutely. I think Kimbraa got confused with the subtle way in the write up. For example the writer said "money in the house" once there is money etc and Kimbra is "inferring" she was referring to her husbands money but like you said, there are so many pointers in the write up that shows clearly your explanation is CORRECT.


BENITA27: Sometimes your argument is not right but you hold on to it anyways. You should explore the other person's viewpoint else you won't learn. Just follow Ginaz's chain of thought and read it again and you will get to the ahaaaa moment. My hunch is you won't still accept, cos you are female, somehow females do not accept and give in to other females. Its just an unwritten code, they see the truth in it but they will refuse to accept the truth as the truth.... Why? i don't know.

eyinjuege:


She said she has her own money or intends to. She talked about working hard in one's youth to afford life's luxuries
She didn't talk about a ready made man anywhere, you just naturally assumed getting married equates elevation out of poverty.

Alcatraz005:
Why are women like this? See how they gathered against kimbraaa because she broke the ladies’ code. How many Nigerian women (whether rich or poor) would spend their money for the family when the man too has money. The inference that can be drawn from Facebook post in point is that the lady is talking about spending her “rich” husband’s money and she is spoiling for war with her mother in law.

Well done kimbraaa, your type are rare in these perilous times.

I now wait for the bashing from Nigerian women.

Ginaz:


Don't mind that thing! Going from the main content , jumping into irrational conclusions and still be calling it referred knowledge.

Anyway nobody is above mistakes. We should learn to take corrections when we are wrong sometimes despite our pride. That should be my lesson for today. Good morning, it's A.M already. Bye

kimbraa:
I don't even have her time 'cause I could also go down the lane of using derogatory remarks, and she won't have been able to sleep last night.

At least you understood my view points. All I said was the undertone with which the lady wrote and someone who read and understood the superficial is busy trying to make her opinion supercede mine when the lady repeated said that she's suffered all her life and wouldn't want to in marriage. And to make it worse, she's so uncouth with her replies that I wonder if she's a product of a dysfunctional family. Silly girl!.

Alcatraz005:


My sister, just continue being the good woman that you are. Your type are very rare these days. In fact, it is God that will save we Nigerian men from what Nigerian economy has turned most of our women to.

kimbraa:
Thanks, have a nice day.

kimbraa:
How would you know whether I got confused at some point or not?. I read the post before commenting so my comment was strictly based on what I inferred from her write-up. Why don't you "Like" and go than telling me what you think is right or wrong 'cause last time I checked, rights or wrongs are relative. Agreed, however, if for the most part, lots of people say you're wrong and show you clearly how you are wrong, then maybe you are most probably wrong. Also, if i see something wrong, i can decide to say it same way some folks hail you and you said thank you, must not all be positive.

Back to the topic. Let me assume she intends working to make her money, at the end of the day whose finances are bigger (Exactly what GINAZ is saying..... This is your personal opinion....the writer "Onome" did not disclose or hint at that) chunks going to go to family upkeep? Her man. So what are we talking about here?. If her parents couldn't give her a life of luxury like she said and she's already wishfully thinking of caving one for herself it all boils down to having a well to do man in ones life.(Not necessarily.. All this is your interpretation, she did not say or suggest it in her write up).. 'cause all she mentioned would be provided by her husband and maybe an insignificant amount by her.

Bottom line, most mothers in-law who make their daughters in-laws life a hell hole do so 'cause these women met their men already made so they just develop this feelings that she's come to reap where she didn't sow. For these ones, winning their heart would be out of one's good deeds and genuine feelings for their sons. Marry a pauper and see if his mother would make your life miserable.

Alcatraz005:
Why are women like this? See how they gathered against kimbraaa because she broke the ladies’ code. How many Nigerian women (whether rich or poor) would spend their money for the family when the man too has money. The inference that can be drawn from Facebook post in point is that [b]the lady is talking about spending her “rich” husband’s money [/b]and she is spoiling for war with her mother in law.

Well done kimbraaa, your type are rare in these perilous times.

I now wait for the bashing from Nigerian women.

Organs:
- I agree with this satement in most cases but ofcourse not in all cases, now its on this premise - Inferred Knowledge that you drew up your conclusion of what the writer wrote. GINAZ is going strictly on the writer's message which is inferred from only what she wrote.

Bottom line, all these are part of learning for me, i hope it is for you too.

kimbraa:
First off, your mother in-law isn't going to disturb you when she's aware that the lady in question is path of her man's success story. They mostly do when they perceive a lady to be reaping from where she didn't sow . Having said that, my statement was an inferred knowledge . What I deduced from her post and it doesn't have to be what she wrote in verbatim. Scratch deeper!. She said so much of suffering as a child and not wanting to go through the same ordeal in her husband's home. Now, who's going to give her that life of luxury that her parents couldn't afford in marriage? It's the man. She could make her own money and not still not be able to afford the life she wants.

I repeat, you're making a mountain out of a molehill.

cococandy:
@bold, even if that the case, she should stay out of her son’s marriage. His money is automatically his wife’s money too once they get married. She has not business trying to police or disturb in her son’s marriage unless she believes she didn’t raise a man capable of making good decisions.

kimbraa:
When you become a mother in-law, let's see how you stay out of your son's marriage.

kimbraa:
When you become a mother in-law, let's see how you stay out of your son's marriage.

cococandy:


I’ve only been to four countries in my life.
I’m already in my late twenties.

There are about a few more hundred countries to go.
My point? I’m sure I’ll spend my retirement ages touring the world. Only needy women who don’t have a plan for their later lives cling to their sons when they grow up. If you have your own life, you won’t be in the middle of your kids’ marriages.

kimbraa:
She said too much but ended up saying nothing. Mothers in-law are not mad. Though, some could frustrate the living day light out of you but it's expected 'cause women understand themselves. Since you want to marry an already made man, she definitely won't let you enjoy the man's wealth she's groomed in peace. So, it's expected. Pray to marry into a good family 'cause you're not only marring their son but the entire family. Mothers in-law aren't the only ones who could make your life a hell hole.

kimbraa:
You're making a mountain out of a molehill. Like the average Nigerian girl doesn't see marriage as poverty alleviation. What I stated was an inferred knowledge, you needn't see it that way.

cococandy:


I’ve only been to four countries in my life.
I’m already in my late twenties.

There are about a few more hundred countries to go.
My point? I’m sure I’ll spend my retirement ages touring the world. Only needy women who don’t have a plan for their later lives cling to their sons when they grow up. If you have your own life, you won’t be in the middle of your kids’ marriages.

Alcatraz005:
Why are women like this? See how they gathered against kimbraaa because she broke the ladies’ code. How many Nigerian women (whether rich or poor) would spend their money for the family when the man too has money. The inference that can be drawn from Facebook post in point is that the lady is talking about spending her “rich” husband’s money and she is spoiling for war with her mother in law.

Well done kimbraaa, your type are rare in these perilous times.

I now wait for the bashing from Nigerian women.

cococandy:


I’ve only been to four countries in my life.
I’m already in my late twenties.

There are about a few more hundred countries to go.
My point? I’m sure I’ll spend my retirement ages touring the world. Only needy women who don’t have a plan for their later lives cling to their sons when they grow up. If you have your own life, you won’t be in the middle of your kids’ marriages.

Alcatraz005:


My sister, just continue being the good woman that you are. Your type are very rare these days. In fact, it is God that will save we Nigerian men from what Nigerian economy has turned most of our women to.

missvaj2015:
A Nigerian lady wrote on her Facebook wall warning her future mother in-law, telling her that we are in 21century and technology has taking over everything.So she should not come and tell her what to do in her marriage home.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Yes o.It is only the idle one's and the one's that enjoy causing trouble.

Mindfulness:


You nailed it.
I have the same plans for retirement age and many more.

dingbang:
but Benita, where in the world did she state she wants to marry an already made man?

You are trying ooo... Keep it up

cococandy:


I’ve only been to four countries in my life.
I’m already in my late twenties.

There are about a few more hundred countries to go.
My point? I’m sure I’ll spend my retirement ages touring the world. Only needy women who don’t have a plan for their later lives cling to their sons when they grow up. If you have your own life, you won’t be in the middle of your kids’ marriages.

kimbraa:
That's your plan, and you're obviously one out of a million. #fact!.

cococandy:

Seun doesn’t have the right emoji to convey the face I’m making right now.

Alcatraz005:
Why are women like this? See how they gathered against kimbraaa because she broke the ladies’ code. How many Nigerian women (whether rich or poor) would spend their money for the family when the man too has money. The inference that can be drawn from Facebook post in point is that the lady is talking about spending her “rich” husband’s money and she is spoiling for war with her mother in law.

Well done kimbraaa, your type are rare in these perilous times.

I now wait for the bashing from Nigerian women.