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Jzhane 28/12/2017 Marriage No Comments

Dear Admin,

Please i need your help. Am newly married to a guy i love so much.Our marriage is less than one year.
My husband loves his family but has a lot of respect for his elder brother. In-shut the way he talks about and carry this his matter was a major concern when we were courting. Its as though his elder brother is everything. I thought that was no big deal. So, i didn’t have to worry so much, believing everything will fall into their right places once we get married. But, it like am in a dream world now, as things keep deteriorating right in my eyes.
The major one now that is making me cry out for help, which i cannot no longer tolerate is my husband elder brother’s first visit. He has spent just two days with us, but is fond of always dashing into our matrimonial bed room without knocking, whenever he has just anything to say or ask his brother, not caring if we are Unclad or even making love. He has done this three times now. I held myself out of respect for my husband the first two times he did it. But on the third time i had to raise my voice after he left the bedroom, so that he could hear me saying that this is our bedroom for God sake and i demand some privacy....Read More

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consider locking the bedroom door whenever he comes around, don't try raising ur voice for him to hear cos it'll hunt u in future.

Abeg raise your voice joor,if those two baby adults can't behave themselves and tell what is proper and improper.

Elder brother from hell.

What's your request? You want to receive advice on if should add a knuckle to his head next time abi

GraGra247:
Abeg raise your voice joor,if those two baby adults can't behave themselves and tell what is proper and improper.

Elder brother from hell.

thanks, her reaction was not out of place

tugar:
consider locking the bedroom door whenever he comes around, don't try raising ur voice for him to hear cos it'll hunt u in future.

hunt in future? he barges into their bedroom dat is bullshit

Yes it's, but might not be doing it intentionally

Preetiex:
hunt in future? he barges into their bedroom dat is bullshit

Raising your. voice won't solve the problem especially if the brother doesn't want to change. Here are my advice
1. Talk to your husband on this matter calmly but don't expect quick changes like that.... it's going to be gradually
2. Take actions like locking the door whenever he is around , engage the brother in a conversation of human rights(privacy) and listen to his view. it might be that he doesn't even know it's wrong to be an imposter in someone's else marriage
3. Pray to your God. it is very important

Madam always lock your door whenever you are with your husband, if you continue raising your voice you're only setting your self up for trouble