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| Am I Married To Him? by amprat: 12:49am On Feb 06, 2018 |
We have been together for years now and have 3 beautiful kids between us, the state of the marriage is another day's discussion ,have even tried keeping a diary here on Nairaland but tupdating it is an issue, what I want to clarify at the moment is am not even sure am married to my husband. 1. I have always had issues with dowry and stuff (my personal opinion) so I didn't allow it to be paid hence I didn't invite any extended family member to any wedding, was a bit easy we've not really been close to them as my dad died quite early so wedding was myself,him,my immediate siblings, his own, my mum and his,no serious"introduction",presentation of yam and stuff, I look back now and think what sort of thing that is must have always done things my way. 2. I remember at the court, they had to do mine before statrting , because I had exam on that day( I was an undergraduate) we signed,witnesses signed and we were given the certificate but was told we should bring it back later for an authorized signature from one of their oga or something, I didn't hear, I just didn't want to miss my exam truth is I wasn't serious and didn't realize the enormity of the event(i was barely 21) meaning authorized signature on behalf of government missing 3. Took the ring to a pastor who blessed the ring but we didn't marry in the church, just introduced to the church, right now I really want to know if I am married( in the eyes of the law, man or God,)or I have just been cohabiting with this guy. thanks |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by Collins0609(m): 1:38am On Feb 06, 2018 |
No u are not,u are co habiting 32 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by yimikaa: 3:08pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
You're married to him 28 Likes |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by amprat: 3:11pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
please, why do you think I am married to him or not married to him, kindly give reasons to support your answers, thanks. 1 Like |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by Chubhie: 4:55pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
As long as the rider mounted the horse the night after, Yes. 36 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by Chubhie: 5:00pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
amprat:As long as fluids has been exchanged and DNA successfully copied... Yes. I'm talking about terabytes loads of imprints. 20 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by edoman2016: 5:19pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
What mockery of marriage did you have? Even if you were 21 years old when you got married, didn't you have elders in your family that will ensure all the right process of marriage was done? After three years of cohabiting, you are now wondering whether you are married to him or not. This is the reason why extended family is important in traditional marriage in Africa. 62 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by Ishilove: 9:33pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
There are some salient cultural rituals/processes that have to be done before you can be legally married. Even in church they'd tell you to go marry traditionally before a wedding ceremony will be conducted for you. As it stands you're just cohabiting with your man. Even court sef you no do complete. Ahn ahn! Go and be properly married 18 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by Nobody: 9:40pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
The two most important things to do to get married; 1) Traditional wedding: As stated in the bible and culture, bride price is a MUST for you to be called husband and wife, anything other than that is null and void. 2) Court/Registry: Well this is for society and the law to OFFICIALLY recognise you both as husband and wife, in case of divorce, property claim and what-not. My dear, try and finalise these two, then you're good to go. 13 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by pennywys(m): 9:41pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
Madam go get valid marriage certificate, then you can claim you are legally married to ur husband. You can't present in valid certificates anywhere to claim ur right even in school, even in churches weddings its only authorize priest that sign marriage certificates 10 Likes |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by thorpido(m): 9:41pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
Officially,you are not married to him. Your character is an interesting one though.You're a bit too set in your own ways for your own good.If it works for you,no qualms. 14 Likes |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by amprat: 9:42pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
Chubhie:you mean as long as we have kids between us |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by OBTMOS(m): 9:42pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
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| Re: Am I Married To Him? by wunmi590(m): 9:43pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
Sister, the truth of the matter is, you had a very wonderful wedding, no better wedding is better than the one you had, that has even produced 3 beautiful kids. Wearing wedding gown to show of these days is a scam, alot of broken home. Just enjoy your marriage sis. 48 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by Damidave1124(m): 9:44pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
I dont know, lets wait for those who have enough experience |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by ct2: 9:44pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
what kind of talk is this, you have three kids for him ,and u are still skeptical, what wrong with all this girls ,u have to make it work whether the devil like it or not. just tell us u want to fleet 2 Likes |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by blackbeau1(f): 9:44pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
According to the African tradition, you are cohabiting .and you actually know that, that's why you are asking this question 12 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by akeentech(m): 9:45pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
pennywys: |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by Gabrielwilliams(m): 9:45pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
Wao! Mind blown!! What were u thinking.. Err.. 1. U are not married and 2. Ur fed up and making excuses.. U dont need one.. Just walk.. |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by zulex880: 9:45pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
I don't know what I'm 100% sure of is that Buhari is a stupid fellow with no iota of wisdom 2 Likes |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by spongeisback: 9:46pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
Customary yes. Legally YES. You can take your marriage certificate to the courts and make an amend. Forget all they will say about African culture and what not the most important people (you,your husband and your immediate family) were present that's ALL that matters. Sort out the legal aspect. Except you're tired of your marriage. 19 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by Pavore9: 9:46pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
No dowry, no government authorized signature on marriage certificate nor church wedding.....I believe you are educated enough to know if you are married, single or just co-habiting. 7 Likes |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by sisisioge: 9:46pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
Yes you are married traditionally since your people gave you to him, not by court though. Your marriage certificate is null since it wasn't authenticated with the official stamp. Thus cant be used fir official purpose. It doesn't matter that a dime wasn't collected on your head as dowry, they gave you to him and that's all that matters. 6 Likes |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by unbitchable(m): 9:46pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
You were a kid but a little matured now, so go complete the signatures. |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by Homeboiy: 9:47pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
See question Ask ur mama how ur papa take marry her |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by gratiaeo(m): 9:47pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
No |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by dayleke: 9:48pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
Eleyi tun gidi gan o |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by mallam2016: 9:48pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
Baby you are married to him you both signed the marriage certificate, your family are aware and a pastor has blessed the union or have you found someone else you love 1 Like |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by Futurewice11: 9:48pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
amprat: You are legally married and thats what count. Church or not, intro or not, you are bound to comply with the LAW because u are issued a certificate already and your details has been updated as married. The only thing that count by law is wedding certificate and thats all...church or intro is irrelevant. So sfter ur studies u want to duml him abi....no way. 3 Likes |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by pennywys(m): 9:49pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
amprat:dear sister you are not married to any man either in heaven nor here on earth, your marriage certificate is illegal, cos it was signed by unauthorized personel. It married couples with valid marriage certificate are duly married under the eyes of the law. I believe you should be grown enough to understand that. 2 Likes |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by Yinxies(f): 9:51pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
You know you are not married to him, you just want us to confirm it, that is, if your story is true 1 Like |
| Re: Am I Married To Him? by antsut(m): 9:52pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
Eyyah! I know the feeling!
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