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lordraiden:
God pls I don't want this type of woman who's career is more important than the family..... Family over anything

Amin ooo

dominique:
Before fellas start dancing on this thread, read this



Shes not sad about the marriage loss but how independent her children has become and are hardly involving her in their lives. If she was to turn back the hands of time, she will still pick her career but raise her children differently. Marriage must never be a woman's biggest achievement in life.

leave dat tin jare, shes old n lonely, wishin her abandoned kids wuld be around her. she realized family is most important, but too late.

dominique:
Before fellas start dancing on this thread, read this



Shes not sad about the marriage loss but how independent her children has become and are hardly involving her in their lives. If she was to turn back the hands of time, she will still pick her career but raise her children differently. Marriage must never be a woman's biggest achievement in life.

Madam know all, I hope you will live same way

dominique:
Before fellas start dancing on this thread, read this



Shes not sad about the marriage loss but how independent her children has become and are hardly involving her in their lives. If she was to turn back the hands of time, she will still pick her career but raise her children differently. Marriage must never be a woman's biggest achievement in life.

Not true...

She is sad she raise her children to be very independent.
The next thing you should ask your self is"what led to it"

She decided to sacrifice her marriage on the alter of career.So there is no way she is going to chose career again if she turns back the hand of times.This is because once you chose career,you lose the home front and you will be stranger to your children

[quote author=trustyshoess post=65273739]Lol what? [/quote for ur mind o

dominique:
Before fellas start dancing on this thread, read this



Shes not sad about the marriage loss but how independent her children has become and are hardly involving her in their lives. If she was to turn back the hands of time, she will still pick her career but raise her children differently. Marriage must never be a woman's biggest achievement in life.

marriage or family? what should be her biggest achievement then if not her impact in her home as a mother? she shouldnt have married then talk less of having kids and bin a b!tch.Dog beta pass r.

Oluhills007:
see in my little experience in life I have come to discover that marriage institution is so sacred that if you mess with it or sacrifice your marriage on the alter of anything it will come back to take a big chunk out of your ass...its is better you don't get married at all than get married and play with it....see that woman is seriously lonely...that's her problem..nothing is this life can replace..marriage or relationship... Whichever path you choose..she divorced her husband who should be her companion right now..now she is feeling lonely...you can't understand the value of relationships and love until you grow older and you don't see anybody to call you and ask how are you doing.... I mean people who call you because they love you..not because you are their boss..or because they want a favour from you..the person who should fill that gap is her husband who she divorced...whether she likes it or not...kids grow up and leave their parents...she may not even develop a great relationship with her kids..to the extent that her kids would not even know what to say when they see her or see her calls....like when you meeting a stranger for the first time...so no one should sacrifice family... On the alter of career...same goes for a man too if you treat your wife badly because of career or anything you will regret it later in life...because after a while...your career will leave you even if you don't want to leave it.....you will remain only with people whom you love...I know of many men and women who died in their houses for about 4 days without anybody knowing you can read about prof ilemobade a former vice chancellor of futa..if you thinknam lying....there are a lot of people like that....no husband, no wife, no children... Nothing...they perhaps were the best workers in their company back then.....relationships are sacrosant

hmmmm deep reply here .you have really make my day already. thanks. I really appreciate your response.

dominique:
Before fellas start dancing on this thread, read this



Shes not sad about the marriage loss but how independent her children has become and are hardly involving her in their lives. If she was to turn back the hands of time, she will still pick her career but raise her children differently. Marriage must never be a woman's biggest achievement in life.

she is happy with her career but a day is coming when her career will stop being happy with her and that is when she will realise that she is lonely.
how can you text someone and the person replies 2 weeks later (in this case her kids)and you tell me that you are joyful? nothing on earth says to hell with you than that.

specter:
More or less like ' you are not a priority' kinda altitude. And don't be surprise there is another woman some where Who raise them that they call mother and treat as one, with all love a mother can get, because she was there for them.
I have friends like that and now I am begining to understand why they act the way they do towards their biological mother.

hmmmm another thought provoking reply here.

Oluhills007:
see in my little experience in life I have come to discover that marriage institution is so sacred that if you mess with it or sacrifice your marriage on the alter of anything it will come back to take a big chunk out of your ass...its is better you don't get married at all than get married and play with it....see that woman is seriously lonely...that's her problem..nothing is this life can replace..marriage or relationship... Whichever path you choose..she divorced her husband who should be her companion right now..now she is feeling lonely...you can't understand the value of relationships and love until you grow older and you don't see anybody to call you and ask how are you doing.... I mean people who call you because they love you..not because you are their boss..or because they want a favour from you..the person who should fill that gap is her husband who she divorced...whether she likes it or not...kids grow up and leave their parents...she may not even develop a great relationship with her kids..to the extent that her kids would not even know what to say when they see her or see her calls....like when you meeting a stranger for the first time...so no one should sacrifice family... On the alter of career...same goes for a man too if you treat your wife badly because of career or anything you will regret it later in life...because after a while...your career will leave you even if you don't want to leave it.....you will remain only with people whom you love...I know of many men and women who died in their houses for about 4 days without anybody knowing you can read about prof ilemobade a former vice chancellor of futa..if you thinknam lying....there are a lot of people like that....no husband, no wife, no children... Nothing...they perhaps were the best workers in their company back then.....relationships are sacrosant

bro i experienced family first and been married to your soulmate when my dad was sick for a long time and eventually died from the sickness my mom stood by him till the last mins and we the kids me and my elder bro was helping my moms out with the caring cause he can't walk nor move his legs and my mom cant carry him or you know those manly cares but my mom was there for him and my sisters visits often... i think people need to know that YOU MIGHT ACTUALLY THINK THAT YOU DONT NEED ANYONE I.E FAMILY AND HUSBAND OR WIFE BUT AT THE DYING TIME OR TRYING TIMES IS WHEN YOU WILL KNOW YOU ACTUALLY NEED LOVE (WHICH IS ACTUALLY THEM)...


NEVER EVER NEGLECT YOUR FAMILY OR KIDS OR WIFE OR HUSBAND FOR ANY GOALS OR WHATEVER IN LIFE... CAUSE I TELL YOU, YOU WILL REGRET ONE DAY JUST LIKE THIS WOMAN....

DO YOU THINK THOSE KIDS IGNORE THEIR FATHER THE WAY THEY IGNORED THIS WOMAN? NO AM SURE THE DAD WAS THERE FOR THEM DUE TO TESTIMONY FROM HER... SHE BROUGHT THIS ON HERSELF... SOME PEOPLE SAID SHE IS SELFISH WHICH IS THE REAL TRUTH...

Enoquin:
You all need to learn and respect the fact that not everyone is family oriented. Stop trying to project your own beliefs and feelings on another person because while backgrounds might be similar, experiences and the lessons you learn from that will not be, which is how we have all come to be different.

If the people of the ancient time reasoned this way i dont think you would meet this world to dwell in, It would have been destroyed. If this mindset prevails then the human race is doomed.

Tallesty1:
Haba Domi, you can do better than this. You really expected an egocentric woman to come public and declare that she regrets divorcing her husband? No now. You should be the one to discern it from the write up.

Here's the reality, she had a good husband but preferred her job, she divorced him and got custody of the kids(the man was definitely heartbroken but it doesn't matter to Domique since he doesn't have a vagina). First thing to note here is that she fail to run a home and career without letting one get in the way of the other.

Now the only way she communicates with her kids in via whatsapp and texts and it takes them weeks to reply. Obviously she also failed to bond with her kids. So we have here, a woman who failed to keep her marriage and also failed to raise her kids the way she had wanted. The only thing she knows how to do is make money and take care of herself, which makes me wonder why the husband didn't divorce her first.

nice reply here God bless you. the same set of woman later results to feminist. this is not good for our society. thanks for your reply.

trustyshoess:
Preach!!
They way people go on about marriage these days like it's life and death.

Follow her step my dear, when you reach her age you 'll come to see and feel the pain she feels now but living in denial.

naturalwaves:
Yeah. She is senseless, pound, cunning and very deceitful. Looking at her picture, you could tell the kind of individual she is. Such a shame!

Well I was not actually judging by her picture and I don't know about her cunning, but it is very wrong of her to air her dirty linen in public.

Gourdoinc:
foolish illogical women will come and masturbated on this thread. because majority are so dull they can't comprehend hidden messages. the woman has achieved in her career and yet she feels empty. no children to need her, no husband to need her, retirement is approaching and likely no man is even interested in anything she has to offer.

you haven't lived and be useless to feel deep seated regret that life has been for nothing. marriage is about family and having a companion in old age. I will see how she will work that out. a common associate professor and not even yet a professor. stupid woman

it is so painful that some women are working towards that in their marriage. they prefer to be alone and later regret their actions in the future. this is just a lesson one must learn from.

Johnnyessence:
nice reply here God bless you. the same set of woman later results to feminist. this is not good for our society. thanks for your reply.

Where's your own response

Ellabae:
Career over family? . I have always thought family comes first.

well not for everyone.

She has a right to her priorities. I don't agree with her priorities but i can generalize my thinking to everyone

IamaNigerianGuy:
Well I was not actually judging by her picture and I don't know about her cunning, but it is very wrong of her to air her dirty linen in public.

The problem has started raining with much force. She's going insane gradually...now she's already depressed.

Confor:
Hello Aunty, marriage should be a biggest achievement in every woman's live just because you are going to raise a NATION and not just a home.

please advice her very well. I think she's still single. advice her never to fall for that mindset. Dominique need to learn. we are talking about the future here.

Belafonte:
True.

So, she could have time to do things that being married would restrict her from, ie, things married D women shouldn't be doing. Absolutely nothing to do with her career. She was not marriage material basically.

Oh, it's an absolutely necessary interview. More and more women are becoming like this woman since women began to see the light. It let's us guys know that marriage isn't really the ultimate and isn't really the big deal it used to be. Women think there's no pressure on men to get married. This interview empowers men with the wisdom to handle that pressure and avoid marriage altogether if they are so inclined.

indeed. people easily assume that men don't get pressured. the only difference between the pressure men and women suffer is that women also have to deal with the additional pressure of biological clock.

Family, friends, colleagues never waste time to remind me about marriage. Even single female colleagues older than me do same.

This happens when parents dump their kids in boarding school to avoid responsibility.

Belafonte:
True.

So, she could have time to do things that being married would restrict her from, ie, things married D women shouldn't be doing. Absolutely nothing to do with her career. She was not marriage material basically.

Oh, it's an absolutely necessary interview. More and more women are becoming like this woman since women began to see the light. It let's us guys know that marriage isn't really the ultimate and isn't really the big deal it used to be. Women think there's no pressure on men to get married. This interview empowers men with the wisdom to handle that pressure and avoid marriage altogether if they are so inclined.

Shut up. Married women do [b]whatever [/b]they want but you are too dumb to realise that the woman
divorced primarily to face her career.

Dammylois:
You think it's 'independence' that make your children reply after two whole weeks when they are busy chatting significant others up every hour? This woman must be in a denial state......cos I don't think any child will lv her parents' message unattended to that long

There are children like that.
The problem is that they have never bonded with their parents while young, so they do not
see the need in doing so later in life. They usually get dumped into boarding school from a very young age
and when they are on break, they get taken care of by maids because the parents are not available.
Such children end up choosing non-related adults as parents.

IamaNigerianGuy:
Well I was not actually judging by her picture and I don't know about her cunning, but it is very wrong of her to air her dirty linen in public.

She is cunning because she twisted the fact that her children do not care about her nor respect her to being independent. About the look thing, not everyone has the inner eyes. Having said that, what ground breaking achievement has she done despite dedicating her life to her career at the expense of the home? NONE because her name doesn't ring a bell and seems inconsequential.

Xisnin:
There are children like that.

Lies

naturalwaves:
She is cunning because she twisted the fact that her children do not care about her nor respect her to being independent. About the look thing, not everyone has the inner eyes. Having said that, what ground breaking achievement has she done despite dedicating her life to her career at the expense of the home? NONE because her name doesn't ring a bell and seems inconsequential.

And she's just an associate professor not even a professor!

Alphagan:
Why did she get married when she knew from the outset that she was not a family person? Marriage is not by force, why bringing innocent children from heaven to make them suffer the trauma of "zero motherless care" ? She should have stayed single and face her career from the get go


Selfish woman!!!

Shut up. There are far more absentee husbands than wives, and their wives tolerate them.
I am sure you won't have asked why the men got married in the first place.

naturalwaves:
She is cunning because she twisted the fact that her children do not care about her nor respect her to being independent. About the look thing, not everyone has the inner eyes. Having said that, what ground breaking achievement has she done despite dedicating her life to her career at the expense of the home? NONE because her name doesn't ring a bell and seems inconsequential.

The children are being independent, respect is meaningless in this case, you only respect
someone you know. That is how many white kids behave because they were raised that way.

specter:
More or less like ' you are not a priority' kinda altitude. And don't be surprise there is another woman some where Who raise them that they call mother and treat as one, with all love a mother can get, because she was there for them.
I have friends like that and now I am begining to understand why they act the way they do towards their biological mother.

Exactly! You get the picture. You can still balance academic career with the home front very well. You can do your research from any remote location including the home. It is obvious the woman never even spend her free time with the children. She never communicated well with them. I know people who are always busy but the children always know that "daddy will make it up to us when he is free" or "mummy will make up for all the busy times". In this woman's case, she never gave a damn.

naturalwaves:
Is it about dancing about the thread or about pointing out the facts? You lot have a serious problem. See the direction you took it to. Her write up is laced with regrets and it is obvious she is so full of herself. Aside that, she is cunning and a foool for saying her children have become too independent. Does the illustration paint independence or lack of respect and disappointments?? If your children do not call you nor respond to your message in good time, it means they lack respect for you and care less about you not independent. So, Miss woman crusader, read well before you spill jargons next time.

No, her writeup is not laced with regrets. We have seen countless families where the father
is mostly absent due to career. The only difference in this case is that she is a woman.
She is only to blame for raising independent kids and expecting them to be independent.
Most parents in her shoes don't care if their adult children calls them or not.

Xisnin:
The children are being independent, respect is meaningless in this case, you only respect
someone you know. That is how many white kids behave because they were raised that way.

You are a chronic and pathological liar. Which white kids have the normal culture of ignoring the message from their mothers for half a month? You must think you're in your village square...

Xisnin:
No, her writeup is not laced with regrets. We have seen countless families where the father
is mostly absent due to career. The only difference in this case is that she is a woman.
She is only to blame for raising independent kids and expecting them to be independent.
Most parents in her shoes don't care if their adult children calls them or not.

She's a useless woman. Even though your aunt...yes I repeat she's a useless woman. And you're twisting the words. She never raised any child...rather she ran away with her career