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Xisnin:
The children are being independent, respect is meaningless in this case, you only respect
someone you know. That is how many white kids behave because they were raised that way.

I said "respect" because I was trying to be nice that they do not respect her emotions and all. Now, let me say the real thing..... The children do not give a damn about her and care less about her and that's why they do not attend to her chats. She does not even call, imagine saying she sends messages. What a shame! No matter how busy I am, I don't think a message can stay for one week unattended to on my phone irrespective of the source talkless of one from a family member and she tagged that as "independence ". Someone needs to flog this woman off her high horse.

specter:
More or less like ' you are not a priority' kinda altitude. And don't be surprise there is another woman some where Who raise them that they call mother and treat as one, with all love a mother can get, because she was there for them.
I have friends like that and now I am begining to understand why they act the way they do towards their biological mother.

Please drop this caveman believes. Many kids these days are in boarding school by age 5
till they are full-grown adult. Do you think they are calling their house masters mummy and daddy?

The job...the career will definitely leave her very soon...then I will see what she's gonna be doing.

The comments on this thread though.

Not every woman sees marriage as an achievement. I don't understand why it's so difficult for people to understand that.

She would've been unfulfilled if she had given up her career for the sake of her family. What works for one person won't work for another.
In life, we all have to make sacrifices. The fact that her decision doesn't sit well with you doesn't make it wrong.

naturalwaves:
I said "respect" because I was trying to be nice that they do not respect her emotions and all. Now, let me say the real thing..... The children do not give a damn about her and care less about her and that's why they do not attend to her chats. She does not even call, imagine saying she sends messages. What a shame! No matter how busy I am, I don't think a message can stay for one week unattended to on my phone irrespective of the source talkless of one from a family member and she tagged that as "independence ". Someone needs to flog this woman off her high horse.

That is a normal behaviour for kids raised that way. The only problem I see here is that she
expected them to be different. It looks strange to you but it is a very normal behaviour.
There is no high horse anywhere.

Atlantia:
The comments on this thread though.

Not every woman sees marriage as an achievement. I don't understand why it's so difficult for people to understand that.

She would've been unfulfilled if she had given up her career for the sake of her family. What works for one person won't work for another.
In life, we all have to make sacrifices. The fact that her decision doesn't sit well with you doesn't make it wrong.

Sacrificing your home?

How cool does that sound to you?

angels09:
She's a useless woman. Even though your aunt...yes I repeat she's a useless woman. And you're twisting the words. She never raised any child...rather she ran away with her career

And you are a useless fool for crying over another woman's affair. She is still a career woman,
you can go jump into the lagoon.

angels09:
You are a chronic and pathological liar. Which white kids have the normal culture of ignoring the message from their mothers for half a month? You must think you're in your village square...

Shut up slowpoke, you must be a child from a broken home to be reacting this violently to
an affair that is none of your business. She is not responsible for your life's woes.

Xisnin:
No, her writeup is not laced with regrets. We have seen countless families where the father
is mostly absent due to career. The only difference in this case is that she is a woman.
She is only to blame for raising independent kids and expecting them to be independent.
Most parents in her shoes don't care if their adult children calls them or not.

You have successfully twisted the word "independent " and anyhow one looks at it is based on semantics. As used here, it is not the positive kind of "independent ". Who doesn't want his/her child to be independent? But the independence she is referring to here is laced with alot of regrets. It is a pity you cannot read between the lines.

Xisnin:
And you are a useless fool for crying over another woman's affair. She is still a career woman,
you can go jump into the lagoon.

Which yeye career? Your aunt is depressed...she needs help. We know her type!

This below is professor Mrs POGOSON....an erudite scholar... who's married with lovely kids.... Not your useless aunt who can't even keep a supportive man.

dominique:
Before fellas start dancing on this thread, read this



Shes not sad about the marriage loss but how independent her children has become and are hardly involving her in their lives. If she was to turn back the hands of time, she will still pick her career but raise her children differently. Marriage must never be a woman's biggest achievement in life.

MY DEAR, FOR THE FACT THAT SHE SAID SHE IS NOT SAD SHOWS HOW SAD SHE IS. AGREED, MARRIAGE MUST NEVER BE A WOMAN'S BIGGEST ACHIEVEMENT IN LIFE, THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS THAT WE SOMEBODY IN OUR LIVES. ( WITHOUT THE MARRIAGE, SHE WOULDN'T BE TALKING ABOUT THE CHILDREN NOW) MY FRIEND,THIS WOMAN IS WELL PAINED INSIDE, FORGET THESE INTERVIEW ,SHE IS FORMING AND TRYING TO BE STRONG.

donstan18:
Sacrificing your home?

How cool does that sound to you?

Sacrificing your career?

How cool does that sound to you?

Look at it this way... Everyone has dreams. Some women dream of being home makers while some women dream of being movers and shakers in their various fields. There are a select few who dream of combining the two..Women who believe that they can build their homes and still make great strides in their chosen field.

I would say the woman in question belongs to the second category. Why should she be faulted for the choice she made?

Xisnin:
Shut up slowpoke, you must be a child from a broken home to be reacting this violently to
an affair that is none of your business. She is not responsible for your life's woes.

The woman is an iddiot. She is not fit to be called a mother and rightfully so the children have another mother...who prays for and with them....who they talk to regularly....her woes are yet to begin....we know them they abound... prostitutes in academic disguise.

Atlantia:
Sacrificing your career?

How cool does that sound to you?

Look at it this way... Everyone has dreams. Some women dream of being home makers while some women dream of being movers and shakers in their various fields. There are a select few who dream of combining the two..Women who believe that they can build their homes and still make great strides in their chosen field.

I would say the woman in question belongs to the second category. Why should she be faulted for the choice she made?

Why is she granting the useless interview? Her monkey her zoo....how many times have you seen other scholars grant such yeye interviews. She's simply not intelligent enough for the career

Atlantia:
The comments on this thread though.

Not every woman sees marriage as an achievement. I don't understand why it's so difficult for people to understand that.

She would've been unfulfilled if she had given up her career for the sake of her family. What works for one person won't work for another.
In life, we all have to make sacrifices. The fact that her decision doesn't sit well with you doesn't make it wrong.

There are lots of loopholes in this argument of yours. Marriage does not have to be an achievement, no one is saying that but she didn't try at all. She even used and dumped the husband. Lol.

Moreover, you tell me, what are the working schedule of someone in the academia that can make them abandon the home for career? Education is one career area that offers the greatest liberty of time . Most people around me are educators. She failed woefully for not being able to juggle an educational career with a balanced family life. F9! And to think that she didn't make any groundbreaking discovery despite this is such a big shame.

dominique:
Before fellas start dancing on this thread, read this



Shes not sad about the marriage loss but how independent her children has become and are hardly involving her in their lives. If she was to turn back the hands of time, she will still pick her career but raise her children differently. Marriage must never be a woman's biggest achievement in life.

You and madam are both confused because you are contradicting yourselves. She is sad about how she raised her children to become independent to the extent of lamenting about it online, but claims to be happy about the divorce which caused it. How preposterous? Hope her medical certificate will take care of her at old age. Admitting her failure at the home front is good, but her healing will be complete when she overcomes her pride.

naturalwaves:
There are lots of loopholes in this argument of yours. Marriage does not have to be an achievement, no one is saying that but she didn't try at all. She even used and dumped the husband. Lol.

Moreover, you tell me, what are the working schedule of someone in the academia that can make them abandone the home for career? Education is one career area that offers the greatest liberty of time . Most people around me are educators. She failed woefully for not being able to juggle an educational career with a balanced family life. F9! And to think that she didn't make any groundbreaking discovery despite this is such a big shame.

Precise. My life has also been around academics...so I can say she's a useless woman. I have seen people like her....their stock in trade is sleeping with their seniors to get positions. In fact I am going to dig her story up.

Lightening:
You and madam are both confused because you are contradicting yourselves. She is sad about how she raised her children to become independent to the extent of lamenting about it online, but claims to be happy about the divorce which caused it. How preposterous? Hope her medical certificate will take care of her at old age. Admitting her failure at the home front is good, but her healing will be complete when she overcomes her pride.

KISSES TO YOU ...WELL SAID.

angels09:
Men should stop sacrificing for women's career whether wife or girlfriend! Men do that rubbish too much!
Guess what? She's a mere associate professor not even a professor!! She's empty-headed and an illiterate. Not fit for the university.

tru,men are doing that a lot now,taking charge of the homefront,while their wives are fulfilling their careers,its absurdity

your children hates you.

angels09:
Precise. My life has also been around academics...so I can say she's a useless woman. I have seen people like her....their stock in trade is sleeping with their seniors to get positions. In fact I am going to dig her story up.

Abi o. Will even go and see the papers she has written. All these people that cannot do better thing without joining joining all in the name of "I must publish". Such a shame!

Atlantia:
Sacrificing your career?

How cool does that sound to you?

Look at it this way... Everyone has dreams. Some women dream of being home makers while some women dream of being movers and shakers in their various fields. There are a select few who dream of combining the two..Women who believe that they can build their homes and still make great strides in their chosen field.

I would say the woman in question belongs to the second category. Why should she be faulted for the choice she made?

I think the question should be, Why did she go into marriage when she know she values and can sacrifice her home to her career

Why will she distance the bond of her kids?
Why put her husband in a broken home situation?

How much have you heard a man sacrificing his home to career?

Why didn't she focus of her career ahead of marriage?, why getting married?

How many great women broke their home for career?

Tell me.

babasolution:
tru,men are doing that a lot now,taking charge of the homefront,while their wives are fulfilling their careers,its absurdity

Very absurd. You need to see our Nigerian men in Canada....a very useless arrangement. The Bible says in 1Timothy 5:8 that "But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever."

Man not woman. So I don't get this absurdity men are condoning

DeRay98:
Follow her step my dear, when you reach her age you 'll come to see and feel the pain she feels now but living in denial.

Dude I don't care if I'm 40 and unmarried. If it happens, it happens on my terms or not at all. FYI not every woman gears her life towards marriage. It's overrated

[quote author=Martin0 post=65273862][/quote]It's true tho

naturalwaves:
There are lots of loopholes in this argument of yours. Marriage does not have to be an achievement, no one is saying that but she didn't try at all. She even used and dumped the husband. Lol.

Moreover, you tell me, what are the working schedule of someone in the academia that can make them abandon the home for career? Education is one career area that offers the greatest liberty of time . Most people around me are educators. She failed woefully for not being able to juggle an educational career with a balanced family life. F9! And to think that she didn't make any groundbreaking discovery despite this is such a big shame.

According to you, she's a failure for not being able to juggle an educational career and a balanced family life.
That's your opinion and I respect it... does your opinion affect her as a human being? No it doesn't. Does it affect me? Not in the least.

She raised up responsible and independent children. Although she regrets not having a closer relationship with them, I say she's a success.

But then... we cannot always agree, can we?!

darlenese:
your children hates you.

That's been kind. They loathe and despise her....so strongly that they have to be careful not to incur God's wrath that's why they even respond at all. They make it so long so she wouldn't bother texting again!

Atlantia:
The comments on this thread though.

Not every woman sees marriage as an achievement. I don't understand why it's so difficult for people to understand that.

She would've been unfulfilled if she had given up her career for the sake of her family. What works for one person won't work for another.
In life, we all have to make sacrifices. The fact that her decision doesn't sit well with you doesn't make it wrong.

She had to abandon her children because of her career? Why should there even be the question of abandoning one for the other? What did her husband do wrong to warrant divorce? She didn't say. Does that mean she made her marital vows with a mendacious tongue, if she could divorce him when she felt like, without any justifiable or cogent reason {which she should have stated, since the man is a human being with feelings, and there were obligations and responsibilities that marriage demanded of her which would have been part of his expectations towards her-----if she divorced him simply because she felt like, then it is no different from telling him that he's of no consequence and only her own feelings mattered, in which case, why did she decide to get married in the first place?}?

She could have saved her career and family, no? Or didn't she have responsibilities towards those kids? If she didn't care, she shouldn't have had them. She could remain single and childless, if she wanted to live as a single and childless woman. No one has the right to behave anyhow they want when dealing with humans-----human beings are not toys or inanimate objects.

I believe there was no need to abandon her family for her career, since it was possible to keep both. She wasn't engrossed in any project to build bridges to heaven or dig tunnels to hell. She works in academia and I don't see how that stops her from having time for her family. Or is she the only one in her line of work who's passionate about building a career?

She's just an irresponsible and self-centered woman, and there's everything worth condemning about her. No one should emulate such a shitty life.

Atlantia:
According to you, she's a failure for not being able to juggle an educational career and a balanced family life.
That's your opinion and I respect it... does your opinion affect her as a human being? No it doesn't. Does it affect me? Not in the least.

She raised up responsible and independent children. Although she regrets not having a closer relationship with them, I say she's a success.

But then... we cannot always agree, can we?!

Stop the nonsense there! She didn't raise any child. Mark my words the children hate, loathe and despise her.

angels09:
Why is she granting the useless interview? Her monkey her zoo....how many times have you seen other scholars grant such yeye interviews. She's simply not intelligent enough for the career

You said it yourself...Why then are you giving yourself a headache?

angels09:
Stop the nonsense there! She didn't raise any child. Mark my words the children hate, loathe and despise her.

Don't take your frustrations out on me.

You clearly have a problem with being objective.

Tollzara:
She had to abandon her children because of her career? Why should there even be the question of abandoning one for the other? What did her husband do wrong to warrant divorce? She didn't say. Does that mean she made her marital vows with a mendacious tongue, if she could divorce him when she felt like, without any justifiable or cogent reason {which she should have stated, since the man is a human being with feelings, and there were obligations and responsibilities that marriage demanded of her which would have been part of his expectations towards her-----if she divorced him simply because she felt like, then it is no different from telling him that he's of no consequence and only her own feelings mattered, in which case, why did she decide to get married in the first place?}?

She could have saved her career and family, no? Or didn't she have responsibilities towards those kids? If she didn't care, she shouldn't have had them. She could remain single and childless, if she wanted to live as a single and childless woman. No one has the right to behave anyhow they want when dealing with humans-----human beings are not toys or inanimate objects.

I believe there was no need to abandon her family for her career, since it was possible to keep both. She wasn't engrossed in any project to build bridges to heaven or dig tunnels to hell. She works in academia and I don't see how that stops her from having time for her family. Or is she the only one in her line of work who's passionate about building a career?

She's just an irresponsible and self-centered woman, and there's everything worth condemning about her. No one should emulate such a shitty life.

A very shitty life indeed