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MMotimo:
Happy Easter Bukatyne. I haven't been around these parts in a while, hope you are keeping well

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I agree with #4, the first line only

crackhaus:
Every single thing written there was based on conjectures.

Acidosis:
You're just a self-centered person. Marriage is not about you or your children only. It's about everybody so quit this self-centered approach of yours.

The same way you're advising women to avoid their age mates, is the same reason a man wouldn't want to settle for a very young girl, that will most likely abandon her old man's dick for younger boys. You want women to settle with their uncles. Same way no responsible man will settle for a naive teenager without life experience, one that will openly throw away her ring in nysc camp and open up her legs to randy cadets.

We all can come up with different self-centered approach, but that won't help anyone. Rather, it will increase the rate of heart breaks even further.

Don't advise people based on your terrible relationship decisions. Some people are having it good with those things you abhor.

Shugarlord213:
Well I myself wise pass Naija ladies now. So it takes a whole lot before a lazy naija lady plays a fast one on me. Marriage benefits this h.oes anyways. Your hustle and sweat goes for her comfort. Personally to me only ass-lickers get married.

Motherless babies home day for me to adopt fine baby. if I wan nacck woman, my car day attract a lot of ladies both in church, streets, restaurants etc


My story....

I abstained from women for 4 months and hustled... ordinary Camry muscle way I day drive I don fvck pass 19 girls since this year start. If I see say the girl na brokeazz, i just drive my camry 2.2

Nigerian girls are h.oes and guys if you no get car girl go day use you do anyhow. Forget sex for couple of months, save your money and fvck her and her friends all year

I can count about 6 girls way I fuvk them and their mama coded. I just hate poosie and ass- lickers. Listen to me, if you are still on leggediz benz, we way get car go fuvk your gf and her mama and we don’t care about how you feel since you have decided to think with your di.k

Once I naacck a babe, I no even day allow her shower. I take her to the busstop, squeeze #500 for her hand... most times as soon as she steps out of my car I just zoom off with out any Goodbye or whatever.

I have over 40 ladies single and married on my WhatsApp. Over 76 unread messages... I hope your babe no day among, if she is I don’t care how you feel I go nacck am...

I got no respect whatsoever for any female human being way day bend down pisssss

Except you be Virgin I don’t mind settling down with you, and please Don’t start whining about virgins with bad character, for a lady to abstain from s.xx till her beloved guy married her is a sign she can definitely stick to you, i cherish loyalty over everything else

Flowers95:
Good day young women.

I have some tips that I would like to share to you young ladies especially those from 18 -28, women who are in their prime, Relationship and lifestyle tips as this takes a large percentage of your life. As a woman who has lived for quite of number of years and experienced things in life, I would like young women especially to wisen up, prepare for the future because you will not be young forever.

I was once like you, thought and believed I was untouchable until age and time hit me, I’m blessed and I have not experienced great regret however, many women my age have lived to regret their decisions made in the past.

1. Marry a man 10-15 years older than yourself.

Women who marry within their age bracket will most likely regret it, we age faster than men, you will not be 20 something forever. Once that man hits 40-50, he starts going through his mid life crisis. He wants to feel young again, if you’re his age mate, he’ll feel old around you and physically you’ll look like his mother not wife. If he doesn’t leave you for a younger woman he’ll cheat on you severely.

2. You are not bob the builder.

Young women please stop taking out huge loans to help your man start a business or whatever the issue may be. Stop giving him huge amounts of money to build his life please please please. Men like to feel like men, he knows you will always take credit for his success and that takes away from his manhood. He will take your money and leave you for another lady that he can impress. So many young women make this mistake of helping a man succeed and end up with nothing tangible in the end apart from debts, children and a broken heart. Women be wise.

3. You owe unconditional to your children, ONLY.


Men do not love you unconditionally, if your vagina cannot make them ejaculate, you cannot prepare their favourite meal, you do not look appealing or cannot produce children for them you are useless to them. They will never love you for ‘who you are’ without additional bonuses. Yet you young women are made to feel bad about wanting a man that can provide for yourself and family. That can provide a lifestyle of luxury. Young women please be smart, and stay focused on what you can benefit from a marriage. Unconditional love is not existent in a marriage my dear.

4. Keep up with your looks and do not let yourself go.
Stop listening to your boyfriend that tells you to reduce the amount of makeup. Stop listening to him when he says he doesn’t like Brazilian hair, it’s a trap. Men like to protect their territory, if he can stop other men from looking at you, his job as a boyfriend/husband will be much much easier my dear. He won’t have to spend as much on you, make as much effort because he knows you’re not going anywhere. Invest in your looks and let that man be scared to lose you, always, please! Regardless of your age.

5.
Stop splitting the bills. Young Women please, let that man be a man I beg una! Stop contributing huge amounts of money in the house. You’re making life extremely harder for yourself and easier for him. He is there to take care of you, that is his Job. Whilst you are helping him pay the bills and also doing 80% of the household chores and childcare, he will spend his extra money and time on a younger prettier lady who will do absolutely nothing for him. Let him take care of the bills and all finances in the house as MAN. Stack your personal/extra money away for rainy days. Be smart oh, I use God beg all of you.

This brings me to my other point. Have something going on for yourself young women. Just because you’re beautiful, that doesn’t mean you should sit on your bottom all day and be unproductive, its not wise at all. Have something going on for yourself, even if it’s small, don’t be lazy This will also help you with rainy days, and you will always have something to fall back on. Wealthier men also like women who have something going on, even if it’s small. I met my husband at 23 I was schooling and had a small hair business on the side. That attracted him more to me as he knew that i had a life outside of our relationship. Quality attracts quality.

6.Put yourself first, Always.
Never Compromise yourself for any man, not even your husband. Always remember that he can leave you and you will be left with nothing if you give your ALL. It should always be a give and take, not give give give. My dear, you must secure a future for yourself and children before anything.

As an older lady, I have witnessed multiple women crying to me about heartbreaks, their husbands cheating or leaving them, they have nothing even though they helped the man to where he is today. It’s always the same story and I always tell them the same thing. Get into a relationship/marriage with a GOAL not expectation. Expectations = disappointment, goals are made to be met. Stop marrying for love, get this silly fairytale illusion out of your head because it’s non existent. Love is secondary but your livelihood is more important. I’m not expecting everybody to understand, however in 10 years you will look back and regret. A word is enough for the wise. Good day my people! I

henryhemon:
A piece written by an old olosho though it's better to marry someone who is older than you with as many age as possible. Others are trash, what worked for you will not work for others and I am sure you wrote this out of frustration

Shugarlord213:
My story....

Once I naacck a babe, I no even day allow her shower. I take her to the busstop, squeeze #500 for her hand... most times as soon as she steps out of my car I just zoom off with out any Goodbye or whatever.

I have over 40 ladies single and married on my WhatsApp. Over 76 unread messages... I hope your babe no day among, if she is I don’t care how you feel I go nacck am...

I got no respect whatsoever for any female human being way day bend down pisssss

Except you be Virgin I don’t mind settling down with you, and please Don’t start whining about virgins with bad character, for a lady to abstain from s.xx till her beloved guy married her is a sign she can definitely stick to you, i cherish loyalty over everything else

Flowers95:
Good day young women.

I have some tips that I would like to share to you young ladies especially those from 18 -28, women who are in their prime, Relationship and lifestyle tips as this takes a large percentage of your life. As a woman who has lived for quite of number of years and experienced things in life, I would like young women especially to wisen up, prepare for the future because you will not be young forever.

I was once like you, thought and believed I was untouchable until age and time hit me, I’m blessed and I have not experienced great regret however, many women my age have lived to regret their decisions made in the past.

1. Marry a man 10-15 years older than yourself.

Women who marry within their age bracket will most likely regret it, we age faster than men, you will not be 20 something forever. Once that man hits 40-50, he starts going through his mid life crisis. He wants to feel young again, if you’re his age mate, he’ll feel old around you and physically you’ll look like his mother not wife. If he doesn’t leave you for a younger woman he’ll cheat on you severely.

2. You are not bob the builder.

Young women please stop taking out huge loans to help your man start a business or whatever the issue may be. Stop giving him huge amounts of money to build his life please please please. Men like to feel like men, he knows you will always take credit for his success and that takes away from his manhood. He will take your money and leave you for another lady that he can impress. So many young women make this mistake of helping a man succeed and end up with nothing tangible in the end apart from debts, children and a broken heart. Women be wise.

3. You owe unconditional to your children, ONLY.


Men do not love you unconditionally, if your vagina cannot make them ejaculate, you cannot prepare their favourite meal, you do not look appealing or cannot produce children for them you are useless to them. They will never love you for ‘who you are’ without additional bonuses. Yet you young women are made to feel bad about wanting a man that can provide for yourself and family. That can provide a lifestyle of luxury. Young women please be smart, and stay focused on what you can benefit from a marriage. Unconditional love is not existent in a marriage my dear.

4. Keep up with your looks and do not let yourself go.
Stop listening to your boyfriend that tells you to reduce the amount of makeup. Stop listening to him when he says he doesn’t like Brazilian hair, it’s a trap. Men like to protect their territory, if he can stop other men from looking at you, his job as a boyfriend/husband will be much much easier my dear. He won’t have to spend as much on you, make as much effort because he knows you’re not going anywhere. Invest in your looks and let that man be scared to lose you, always, please! Regardless of your age.

5.
Stop splitting the bills. Young Women please, let that man be a man I beg una! Stop contributing huge amounts of money in the house. You’re making life extremely harder for yourself and easier for him. He is there to take care of you, that is his Job. Whilst you are helping him pay the bills and also doing 80% of the household chores and childcare, he will spend his extra money and time on a younger prettier lady who will do absolutely nothing for him. Let him take care of the bills and all finances in the house as MAN. Stack your personal/extra money away for rainy days. Be smart oh, I use God beg all of you.

This brings me to my other point. Have something going on for yourself young women. Just because you’re beautiful, that doesn’t mean you should sit on your bottom all day and be unproductive, its not wise at all. Have something going on for yourself, even if it’s small, don’t be lazy This will also help you with rainy days, and you will always have something to fall back on. Wealthier men also like women who have something going on, even if it’s small. I met my husband at 23 I was schooling and had a small hair business on the side. That attracted him more to me as he knew that i had a life outside of our relationship. Quality attracts quality.

6.Put yourself first, Always.
Never Compromise yourself for any man, not even your husband. Always remember that he can leave you and you will be left with nothing if you give your ALL. It should always be a give and take, not give give give. My dear, you must secure a future for yourself and children before anything.

As an older lady, I have witnessed multiple women crying to me about heartbreaks, their husbands cheating or leaving them, they have nothing even though they helped the man to where he is today. It’s always the same story and I always tell them the same thing. Get into a relationship/marriage with a GOAL not expectation. Expectations = disappointment, goals are made to be met. Stop marrying for love, get this silly fairytale illusion out of your head because it’s non existent. Love is secondary but your livelihood is more important. I’m not expecting everybody to understand, however in 10 years you will look back and regret. A word is enough for the wise. Good day my people! I

I looked at all her points and I would say they make absolute sense if a woman is married to a man without a moral compass or one who is religious without imbibing the life of the teachings. The thread is actually based on worldly wisdom

Dheartless:
o boy

imustsaymymindo:
1. Marry a man 10-15 years older than yourself.
So as to remain young and pretty. What if the woman gets disabled?

2. You are not bob the builder.
What if the man gets broke?

3. You owe unconditional to your children, ONLY.
What if you never have children?


4. Keep up with your looks and do not let yourself go.
Again, what if you get an accident or something just makes you ugly?

5. Stop splitting the bills.
Even if he is broke, and your he is sick?

6.Put yourself first, Always.
What if he decides to do the same?

Khonifer:
How do we expect anything to change when we have people like this that think they are wiser than every Nigerian female because they have over 76 unread messages?

Abi na fùck you dey fùck wey we neva fùck before?

Flowers95:
What If, what if. If we live our lives saying what if all the time we will never accomplish anything. Life itself is a risk, does that mean we shouldn’t make the best possible decisions that we can and be smart about it? What if the money I invested into my business doesn’t yeild any profit? Does that mean that I should not invest my money at all in any business? Please wake up and face reality sir.

imustsaymymindo:
What-if? It's called the first principle thinking. It's a better way to think than analogy. And what is analogy? Making conclusions on experiences based on history or experiences and that is simply what your post is all about. When you think beyond analogy, you would understand that it is better to just get married because of love and be committed to it. Because your case went this way, doesn't mean others would. That was why I brought the peculiar what-if questions. But then again, we all are different human beings with different mindset.

MMotimo:
@ bukatyne

Thank you very much, such kind words, so seasoned with upliftment, may you always have cause to be of good cheer. I am flattered and I am happy my ramblings make sense to someone.

.


I have retired from detailed responses on threads like this, that is why I did a one liner. I didn't know where to start from, it would mean epistle upon epistle First, why would anyone marry a man without a moral compass? Why would you do that to yourself? What happened to self love? The genesis of the marriage is already flawed in that scenario and susceptible to all manner of wahala which I agree could make a wife adopt these "defence tactics" That makes me question what people call "marriage," what it means to them, another heavy topic entirely.

Let me stop here, take care

Flowers95:
What If, what if. If we live our lives saying what if all the time we will never accomplish anything. Life itself is a risk, does that mean we shouldn’t make the best possible decisions that we can and be smart about it? What if the money I invested into my business doesn’t yeild any profit? Does that mean that I should not invest my money at all in any business? Please wake up and face reality sir.

Shugarlord213:
Well I myself wise pass Naija ladies now. So it takes a whole lot before a lazy naija lady plays a fast one on me. Marriage benefits this h.oes anyways. Your hustle and sweat goes for her comfort. Personally to me only ass-lickers get married.

Motherless babies home day for me to adopt fine baby. if I wan nacck woman, my car day attract a lot of ladies both in church, streets, restaurants etc


My story....

I abstained from women for 4 months and hustled... ordinary Camry muscle way I day drive I don fvck pass 19 girls since this year start. If I see say the girl na brokeazz, i just drive my camry 2.2

Nigerian girls are h.oes and guys if you no get car girl go day use you do anyhow. Forget sex for couple of months, save your money and fvck her and her friends all year

I can count about 6 girls way I fuvk them and their mama coded. I just hate poosie and ass- lickers. Listen to me, if you are still on leggediz benz, we way get car go fuvk your gf and her mama and we don’t care about how you feel since you have decided to think with your di.k

Once I naacck a babe, I no even day allow her shower. I take her to the busstop, squeeze #500 for her hand... most times as soon as she steps out of my car I just zoom off with out any Goodbye or whatever.

I have over 40 ladies single and married on my WhatsApp. Over 76 unread messages... I hope your babe no day among, if she is I don’t care how you feel I go nacck am...

I got no respect whatsoever for any female human being way day bend down pisssss

Except you be Virgin I don’t mind settling down with you, and please Don’t start whining about virgins with bad character, for a lady to abstain from s.xx till her beloved guy married her is a sign she can definitely stick to you, i cherish loyalty over everything else

Shugarlord213:
Well I myself wise pass Naija ladies now. So it takes a whole lot before a lazy naija lady plays a fast one on me. Marriage benefits this h.oes anyways. Your hustle and sweat goes for her comfort. Personally to me only ass-lickers get married.

Motherless babies home day for me to adopt fine baby. if I wan nacck woman, my car day attract a lot of ladies both in church, streets, restaurants etc


My story....

I abstained from women for 4 months and hustled... ordinary Camry muscle way I day drive I don fvck pass 19 girls since this year start. If I see say the girl na brokeazz, i just drive my camry 2.2

Nigerian girls are h.oes and guys if you no get car girl go day use you do anyhow. Forget sex for couple of months, save your money and fvck her and her friends all year

I can count about 6 girls way I fuvk them and their mama coded. I just hate poosie and ass- lickers. Listen to me, if you are still on leggediz benz, we way get car go fuvk your gf and her mama and we don’t care about how you feel since you have decided to think with your di.k

Once I naacck a babe, I no even day allow her shower. I take her to the busstop, squeeze #500 for her hand... most times as soon as she steps out of my car I just zoom off with out any Goodbye or whatever.

I have over 40 ladies single and married on my WhatsApp. Over 76 unread messages... I hope your babe no day among, if she is I don’t care how you feel I go nacck am...

I got no respect whatsoever for any female human being way day bend down pisssss

Except you be Virgin I don’t mind settling down with you, and please Don’t start whining about virgins with bad character, for a lady to abstain from s.xx till her beloved guy married her is a sign she can definitely stick to you, i cherish loyalty over everything else

Flowers95:
5. Stop splitting the bills. Young Women please, let that man be a man I beg una! Stop contributing huge amounts of money in the house. You’re making life extremely harder for yourself and easier for him. He is there to take care of you, that is his Job. Whilst you are helping him pay the bills and also doing 80% of the household chores and childcare, he will spend his extra money and time on a younger prettier lady who will do absolutely nothing for him. Let him take care of the bills and all finances in the house as MAN. Stack your personal/extra money away for rainy days. Be smart oh, I use God beg all of you.

This brings me to my other point. Have something going on for yourself young women. Just because you’re beautiful, that doesn’t mean you should sit on your bottom all day and be unproductive, its not wise at all. Have something going on for yourself, even if it’s small, don’t be lazy This will also help you with rainy days, and you will always have something to fall back on. Wealthier men also like women who have something going on, even if it’s small. I met my husband at 23 I was schooling and had a small hair business on the side. That attracted him more to me as he knew that i had a life outside of our relationship. Quality attracts quality.

6.Put yourself first, Always.
Never Compromise yourself for any man, not even your husband. Always remember that he can leave you and you will be left with nothing if you give your ALL. It should always be a give and take, not give give give. My dear, you must secure a future for yourself and children before anything.

As an older lady, I have witnessed multiple women crying to me about heartbreaks, their husbands cheating or leaving them, they have nothing even though they helped the man to where he is today. It’s always the same story and I always tell them the same thing. Get into a relationship/marriage with a GOAL not expectation. Expectations = disappointment, goals are made to be met. Stop marrying for love, get this silly fairytale illusion out of your head because it’s non existent. Love is secondary but your livelihood is more important. I’m not expecting everybody to understand, however in 10 years you will look back and regret. A word is enough for the wise. Good day my people! I

Eketem:
Extremely stupid post and I am a woman.

You want the entitlement that comes with equality yet you imagine that financial responsibility is a man's job.

You imagine that every older man is mature and every younger man is immature


You have been damaged probably from past relationships which I suspect your attitude contributed to but instead of making amends and learning from your past you have chosen to be bitter and write long senseless bitter epistles


Women should grow up and stop acting entitled and like victims every time a relationship ends

CAPSLOCKED:

EXTEND MY FEELINGS AND LOVE TO THE MAN (AND CHILDREN) IN YOUR LIFE. YOU'RE MYSTERY IN HUMAN FORM.




UNFORTUNATELY SHE'S THE TYPE OF "MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER" YOUNG WOMEN GROW UP TO ADMIRE AND COPY

OUR BELOVED "MARRIAGE COUNCILOR" LIKE SHE CALLS HERSELF, AND MANY OTHERS LIKE HER CLAIM TO BE EMPOWERING WOMEN, BUT THE ONLY THING THEY DO IS TO TEACH YOUNGER GIRLS HATE AND BITTERNESS FOR MEN, AND CAUSE MORE GENDER PROBLEMS IN THE SOCIETY, AND I HAVE A SERIOUS PROBLEM WITH THAT.

Eketem:
Extremely stupid post and I am a woman.

You want the entitlement that comes with equality yet you imagine that financial responsibility is a man's job.

You imagine that every older man is mature and every younger man is immature


You have been damaged probably from past relationships which I suspect your attitude contributed to but instead of making amends and learning from your past you have chosen to be bitter and write long senseless bitter epistles


Women should grow up and stop acting entitled and like victims every time a relationship ends

CAPSLOCKED:

EXTEND MY FEELINGS AND LOVE TO THE MAN (AND CHILDREN) IN YOUR LIFE. YOU'RE MYSTERY IN HUMAN FORM.




UNFORTUNATELY SHE'S THE TYPE OF "MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER" YOUNG WOMEN GROW UP TO ADMIRE AND COPY

OUR BELOVED "MARRIAGE COUNCILOR" LIKE SHE CALLS HERSELF, AND MANY OTHERS LIKE HER CLAIM TO BE EMPOWERING WOMEN, BUT THE ONLY THING THEY DO IS TO TEACH YOUNGER GIRLS HATE AND BITTERNESS FOR MEN, AND CAUSE MORE GENDER PROBLEMS IN THE SOCIETY, AND I HAVE A SERIOUS PROBLEM WITH THAT.

greatermax77:
Agents of Satan.

Biglittlelois:
Your 1,5%6 get as e be, there is nothing wrong with splitting the bills and marrying a man 2 years older, doesnt have to be 10 to 15 years older.