MarieSucre:

I am not defending her comment. I am saying that the people generalising on this comment thread are your fellow MEN. They are the ones saying ALL men are beast who can't control themselves. They are the ones saying don't come and visit ANY man because he must expect sex from you. They are the ones saying that ALL men must try to sleep with a woman who is in their house for a period of time.

Check the comment and go and correct your fellow men's mentality. Your are your own worse enemies. No one is generalising you but yourself.

You are going around in a circle. Maybe they made those statements, but does that justify her comment?

Looks like something else is biting you.

MarieSucre:


My brother it dies not matter whether she had one million options, what is wrong is wrong simple!
Is he the first guy to host a girl in his house? Even me sef I don host both male and female at my place, did you hear my story on nairaland.

The origin of this story is what he tried to do in the name of help. Many of us have hosted without a hitch. What is wrong is wrong. Don't be justifying rubbish. Peace.

people dont fall the sky okay? we actually grow up with life experiences. i started monitoring and observing cognitive behaviours in animals as a kid. the brain is such a marvelous material that will always stupefy mortal minds. we have the ability to reason beyond our imagination.

you dont call a stranger to say you are stranded in abuja before you call a morr familiar person. who did she later go to meet in karu? how can you go and meet a guy you dont actually know at night? what if he was a ritualist? you hosted people, that seyi guy may also tell you he has hosted people from his church without the sex move. how do we know content of their previous chats anyway? how clean did she appear to him? no lewd chats? he wasn't an option at all. its plain stupidity! I'm not justifying the actions of seyi in anyway, but I'm saying in 2018, people should not be so stupid so we can atleast reduce the occurrences of bad news

expert234:


You are going around in a circle. Maybe they made those statements, but does that justify her comment?

Looks like something else is biting you.

No it does not. But you're barking up the wrong tree, I she is a drop in the bucket compared to the millions of guys who have generalised men as animals. Are you unwilling to confront your fellow guys?

MarieSucre:


No it does not. But you're barking up the wrong tree, I she is a drop in the bucket compared to the millions of guys who have generalised men as animals. Are you unwilling to confront your fellow guys?

I have corrected whom I feel like correcting. You too should pick on those guys and correct them.


You sound like you need a quick fix.

By the way, it is "backing up the wrong tree" not barking

Sorry about that...notwitstanding u also made bad choices so i would say 30percent ur fault and that seyi is just a useless man

Someone summarize... I am allergic to long stories centered on such topics

expert234:


I have corrected whom I feel like correcting. You too should pick on those guys and correct them.


You sound like you need a quick fix.

By the way, it is "backing up the wrong tree" not barking

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barking_up_the_wrong_tree

"Barking up the wrong" tree is an idiomatic expression in English, which is used to suggest a mistaken emphasis in a specific context.

The phrase is an allusion to the mistake made by dogs when they believe they have chased a prey up a tree , but the game may have escaped by leaping from one tree to another. [1] The phrase means to mistake one's object, or to pursue the wrong course to obtain it.

It is better coming from a fellow guy. Its obvious you're reluctant to face your guys. This girl is a soft target for you. You'll do yourself no favours if you do not address the root cause of this issue. Face the men who generalise other men. Peace

MarieSucre:


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barking_up_the_wrong_tree

"Barking up the wrong" tree is an idiomatic expression in English, which is used to suggest a mistaken emphasis in a specific context.

The phrase is an allusion to the mistake made by dogs when they believe they have chased a prey up a tree , but the game may have escaped by leaping from one tree to another. [1] The phrase means to mistake one's object, or to pursue the wrong course to obtain it.

It is better coming from a fellow guy. Its obvious you're reluctant to face your guys. This girl is a soft target for you. You'll do yourself no favours if you do not address the root cause of this issue. Face the men who generalise other men. Peace

So you are now a mind reader to know I'm reluctant to talk to them? You hide behind your phone to get a revelation that I see the person I quoted as a soft target?

The worst person on earth is he (she) who thinks he (she) knows without knowing he (she) is an ignoramus.

expert234:


So you are now a mind reader to know I'm reluctant to talk to them? You hide behind your phone to know that I see the person as a soft target?

The worst person on earth is he (she) who thinks he (she) knows without knowing he (she) is an ignoramus.

Prove me wrong. Stop replying to me and single out any of these comments by guys calling men animals who can't control themselves around women. I'm waiting...

MarieSucre:

Prove me wrong. Stop replying to me and single any of these comments by guys calling men animals who can't control themselves around women. I'm waiting...

Nothing you say applies to reason Now. Your comments are absolute rubbish. I never even checked the gender of the person before quoting him or her. So, you are just arguing blindly and stupidly.

MarieSucre:


You need to see a psychologist. Someone like you can be a kleptomaniac. Something as simple as money can't be kept with you because you still it. Hop they won't through tire around your neck and burn you. Seems you lack self-control.

Girl calm down, thief is an abstract here we talking of attraction here. A girl come to your house eat, bath, change clothes and lie on the same bed with you for complete a week and you fold your hands and be dreaming on how to touch?
No no, I can't believe this shit, he need to see a doctor for proper evaluation.
Even you wey be girl, u no get human sympathy?

MarieSucre:


So a stranded woman passing the night in her supposed friends house scares you to death but a guy who uses the cover of help to try to rape his friend and then pushes her out into the night to unknown danger does not scare you at all, in fact it is normal for you se.

What scares you really really scares me cuz it tells me your priorities and the kind if person you are.

You can say whatever u like. Why ppl die in their mistakes is cos they always have excuses to give and want to blame the other person for their mistakes.

You are here defending that lack unreasonable action of that lady cos she was alive to tell the story.

I don't know what u people refer to as a friend. Somebody u met and don't kw much about him or her, your start calling him or her your friend.

She was stranded and the most important thing that should have come to her head is to "think safety, act safety and eat safety". Thinking of the cheapest alternative shouldn't be the best option. The best option should be the safest alternative.

If u want to learn, fine. If you don't want to, then wait till the day you'll learn the hard way.

I don't wish to talk about that guy's foolishness. If the girl had not allow herself to be carried away by the guy's cosmetic kindness, the idiot wouldn't have seen reason to display the animal in him.

MarieSucre:

"he said they agreed to hang out together after work on Friday", not mention of a sleep-over in his write up. I feel like he made that assumption on his own.

He said they planned to be together at her place after work. But yea, he largely assumed it involved sleeping over. Now he knows better.

Klinee:
Girl calm down, thief is an abstract here we talking of attraction here. A girl come to your house eat, bath, change clothes and lie on the same bed with you for complete a week and you fold your hands and be dreaming on how to touch?
No no, I can't believe this shit, he need to see a doctor for proper evaluation.
Even you wey be girl, u no get human sympathy?

tell these dimwitted girls bro..

MarieSucre:


You're saying that we should assume men are rapist until proved otherwise? na wa o.

Rapist isn't written on any man's face. Be careful about male friends you trust. many men pretends to good according to what comes out of them. it is left for you to use your instincts to discern what's inside him.

MarieSucre:

So women should just automatically assume a man will rape them till proven otherwise? You realise you're the one giving men a bad name not even feminist.

That's is not what I am saying.

pedrilo:
Reminds me of my ordeal with a female in d same abj.
I fell in love with a colleague, we started out as friends. She always asked for financial assistance and I do sort her out sometimes.
On a certain Friday after work, she asked me to buy yam, potatoes and onions on my way to her crib cos we planned seeing after work and my place is very far from hers.
Got to her place past 8pm wit her yams etc, we both went out to buy fuel for her gen which I paid for, then returned to her place, ate togeda and started gisting.
At exactly 11:46pm, she asked to know wat time I intend to go bak home and I was surprised!
This babe changed it for me and said I cnt pass the nyt in her house. I was beyond embarrassed!
I called a friend to come n pick me wit his car and he did.
I left her place with few drops of tears. I was seriously hurt.

..Eyah...Take heart Bro..that girl was really mean sha..She get mind o..Well its a normal thing..you know it happens in this country of ours a lot..

PrimadonnaO:


Why didn't you want to return to your house oga? Because you bought yams and fuel?

..I tire o

Blecool:
..I tire o

Lol.

pedrilo:
Reminds me of my ordeal with a female in d same abj.
I fell in love with a colleague, we started out as friends. She always asked for financial assistance and I do sort her out sometimes.
On a certain Friday after work, she asked me to buy yam, potatoes and onions on my way to her crib cos we planned seeing after work and my place is very far from hers.
Got to her place past 8pm wit her yams etc, we both went out to buy fuel for her gen which I paid for, then returned to her place, ate togeda and started gisting.
At exactly 11:46pm, she asked to know wat time I intend to go bak home and I was surprised!
This babe changed it for me and said I cnt pass the nyt in her house. I was beyond embarrassed!
I called a friend to come n pick me wit his car and he did.
I left her place with few drops of tears. I was seriously hurt.

When i was an undergraduate, a silly friend of mine did similar thing. She called me to assist with her homework one late evening, i reminded her what time it was. But the psycho told me to come, perhaps sleep over if late. I got there she started gist, from gist to play. when it was about 6:30pm, told her i had to go before it gets dark as my house was far. The silly being persisted i stay. It happened that my roomy called to inquire whether i'll come back (around 9pm), as i said no, this idiot told me to go to my house that i can't sleep in her room. I gave her a thunderstorm slap, took my bag and left that night. I had no dirty intentions though. Some people are possessed

gentlechyke:


When i was an undergraduate, a silly friend of mine did similar thing. She called me to assist with her homework one late evening, i reminded her what time it was. But the psycho told me to come, perhaps sleep over if late. I got there she started gist, from gist to play. when it was about 6:30pm, told her i had to go before it gets dark as my house was far. The silly being persisted i stay. It happened that my roomy called to inquire whether i'll come back (around 9pm), as i said no, this idiot told me to go to my house that i can't sleep in her room. I gave her a thunderstorm slap, took my bag and left that night. I had no dirty intentions though. Some people are possessed

i tink they hav mental problems

MarieSucre:


You did not read the op and you just jump from nowhere. Let me do a short recap.
1) She is not from the village, she is a university student.
2) They're not in relationship.
3) She did not ask him for any money.
4) He attempted to rape her and threw her out into the dark unknown night.
5) She survived and is here to give glory to God.

what is she doing in the guy house by
why did she agree to go home with him

pedrilo:
Reminds me of my ordeal with a female in d same abj.
I fell in love with a colleague, we started out as friends. She always asked for financial assistance and I do sort her out sometimes.
On a certain Friday after work, she asked me to buy yam, potatoes and onions on my way to her crib cos we planned seeing after work and my place is very far from hers.
Got to her place past 8pm wit her yams etc, we both went out to buy fuel for her gen which I paid for, then returned to her place, ate togeda and started gisting.
At exactly 11:46pm, she asked to know wat time I intend to go bak home and I was surprised!
This babe changed it for me and said I cnt pass the nyt in her house. I was beyond embarrassed!
I called a friend to come n pick me wit his car and he did.
I left her place with few drops of tears. I was seriously hurt.

nwanne ndo!
next time tear her panties befr she takes that call.

Girls ehen..

pedrilo:
i tink they hav mental problems

Seriously

expert234:


Nothing you say applies to reason Now. Your comments are absolute rubbish. I never even checked the gender of the person before quoting him or her. So, you are just arguing blindly and stupidly.

I don't need to be in your mind. Your comment implied a specific gender, you know it, I know it. You even re-affirmed it in a later comment which is there for all to see. Please don't act disingenuous. You can continue playing this ignorant game by yourself. good day.

Klinee:
Girl calm down, thief is an abstract here we talking of attraction here. A girl come to your house eat, bath, change clothes and lie on the same bed with you for complete a week and you fold your hands and be dreaming on how to touch?
No no, I can't believe this shit, he need to see a doctor for proper evaluation.
Even you wey be girl, u no get human sympathy?

It's the same thing we're saying bros. You simply don't have discipline. You do realise that all those people whose stories reach nairaland that they raped their daughter or cousin also follow this same logic.

Psoul:


You can say whatever u like. Why ppl die in their mistakes is cos they always have excuses to give and want to blame the other person for their mistakes.

You are here defending that lack unreasonable action of that lady cos she was alive to tell the story.

I don't know what u people refer to as a friend. Somebody u met and don't kw much about him or her, your start calling him or her your friend.

She was stranded and the most important thing that should have come to her head is to "think safety, act safety and eat safety". Thinking of the cheapest alternative shouldn't be the best option. The best option should be the safest alternative.

If u want to learn, fine. If you don't want to, then wait till the day you'll learn the hard way.

I don't wish to talk about that guy's foolishness. If the girl had not allow herself to be carried away by the guy's cosmetic kindness, the idiot wouldn't have seen reason to display the animal in him.

Your last sentence says it all. The guys foolishness is the MAIN issue here. The girl might be wiser and might not have fallen into his trap but because of the excuses you keep using to justify his actions, the guy will always remain the guy. If it's not this girl today, it may be a neighbours young daughter tomorrow or a young boy playing in the neighbourhood.

At what point will you accept that the guy has a serious problem.

babyphaze07:


Rapist isn't written on any man's face. Be careful about male friends you trust. many men pretends to good according to what comes out of them. it is left for you to use your instincts to discern what's inside him.

So what are you trying to say in earnest now, assume every guy is a rapist till proven otherwise? I just want to get you clear.

MarieSucre:


I don't need to be in your mind. Your comment implied a specific gender, you know it, I know it. You even re-affirmed it in a later comment which is there for all to see. Please don't act disingenuous. You can continue playing this ignorant game by yourself. good day.

You are paranoid, fooling yourself that you know something, whereas you are a perfect ignoramus. Hope you live long in your state of self deceit

icedsammy:


That's is not what I am saying.

Please educate me. What are you saying.

expert234:


You are paranoid, fooling yourself that you know something, whereas you are a perfect ignoramus. Hope you live long in your state of self deceit

Abeg drop all this your plenty grammar. Your previous comments speak for you. Again I have told you stop replying me, since you know how to correct generalisations about men, I have given you a road map. It's up to you.