Hey

She's seeing another man.

Forget her

She is just giving you silly reasons. She has gotten someone else that is either fvcking her better or spending more on her financially.

Guy face your books and look for a low maintenance/ less stressful girl. This one is gone.

. na wa tradition tradition...well if i am in your shoes i will end the relationship.. u know why is better to kill a lion when its still a baby..u get that.if you continue, the day u would want to marry her baba that's wen u will regret not killing the relationship today...

It's two ways, it's either she's giving an excuse to bolt away or truly her family is against the union, which ever one it is the writing on the wall is to leave her alone and find love elsewhere

Flazer101:
My name is Obinna.
So I decided to write this down because I need advice.....
There was this girl I love so much, one thing leads to another, we started dating. We are both in school. I was totally inlove with this girl and so is the girl with me.
Then suddenly she started avoiding me, as a man, I knew something is wrong, so I approached her, asking her questions. She opened up that she is avoiding me because of one reason, she said that her family hates some particular states (Delta, Imo and most esp Enugu) , I was surprised, first time am hearing such.. Enugu of all people.. wtf
She said yes that her cousin once got married to an Enugu guy and her uncle refused to turn up to his daughter wedding just because the guy is from Enugu. She told me that one of her elder sister is facing being disown by their parents just because she is discussing marriage with an Enugu guy. By the way, this girl is an Anambra girl and am from Enugu. I was dumfounded, so this kind of old stigimatization or whatever still exist in this generation.
I inquired if there is any reason behind their family having such hatred against a particular state but she said no. I tried to make her understand but she believes so much in family first, even her brothers still have the same hatred incured in them.. Like she use to tell me that her brothers use to tell her never to date any guy from those three states. The only person insupport is only her elder sister which is dating a guy outside Anambra state.
Now am emotionally devasted, and so is she,we both love oursleves but she is not feeling secured with me any longer
She said we can still be 'normal' friends but I cant. I really can't. Pls anybody in the house, I need advice on what to do, I love this girl and I do picture my future with her, but with this new development, I dont even know what to do.

Face your studies young man.

What do you know about love except sex? You are in school and you are you talking of marriage? How far with your project and your G. P.?

Is it not Anambra people again? Na their way naw.

Most Anambra men I have met, they don't fail to ask that question.
"Are you (also) from Anambra?"
Anambra people love marrying themselves.

That said, you're still in school, better focus on your studies.

pocohantas:
Is it not Anambra people again?
Na their way naw.

Most Anambra men I have met, they don't fail to ask that question.
"Are you (also) from Anambra?"

Tribalistic fvcks

Thegamingorca:



Tribalistic fvcks

More of superiority complex.

pocohantas:
Is it not Anambra people again? Na their way naw.

Most Anambra men I have met, they don't fail to ask that question.
"Are you (also) from Anambra?"
Anambra people love marrying themselves.

That said, you're still in school, better focus on your studies.

ARE you also from anambra?

Espada10:

ARE you also from anambra?

Yoruba

The girl do not like you that much ...simple and short



That being said ...I am suprised at Enugu because even though anambra loves to marry themselves as poco said...but they have no problem marrying from Enugu



The only state anambra people try as much as possible to avoid is IMO.

They will rather go to cross river or akawaibom than marry from imo state.

she is not really seeing any one... My boss relationship of years ended like that just as he didnt listened earlier ... they didnt marry of cus... it also happend to my brother same anambra ... so use ur head brother...

donstan18:


Yoruba

I think delta-igbo

Thank you all.
I think I will end the relationship, but thinking about ending the relationship keeps hurting me. From the advice so far, its like there is no light at the end of the tunnel.

Espada10:

I think delta-igbo

Weird to know she has something to do with igbos.
Just don't want to believe that.

Olalan:
It's two ways, it's either she's giving an excuse to bolt away or truly her family is against the union, which ever one it is the writing on the wall is to leave her alone and find love elsewhere

I believe she is not seeing anyone and she loves me, its just this family ish. I think I will just move on. Thanks

But this stuff is not proper .

Though I think some avoid others probably because of their tradition or local customs which are too rigid .

For example: In some tribe's or States , they do not get buried outside their state , This can create problem for an intending spouse cos the thought that they gonna face those rigid customs can scare them away .


Africa is just something Else

Nevertheless,, this thing has emotionally killed a lot of people that would have married and live happily , They are forced to settle with someone they don't really love BECAUSE the one their heart loves can't stay because of ethnic, state or tribal issues

donstan18:


Weird to know she has something to do with igbos.

Just don't want to believe that.

Lol...Much better if she was yoruba..abi?

Espada10:

Lol...Much better if she was yoruba..abi?

Yea, would have been better.

If age don meet he, she go accept second wife from any of those states..

Most Imo peopled are known to build duplex on a man's head in the name of bride price. And don't close their legs in husband house.

They can go to any length to keep the husband under their wrappers. Thereby turning the man to Lucozade abi lukaman



The only state anambra people try as much as possible to avoid is IMO.

They will rather go to cross river or akawaibom than marry from imo state. [/quote]

Shitty excuse.... It's quite unfortunate though, buh if she truly loves you, she would rate her happiness(You) over some silly family belief/tradition.

Enugu is still manageable.

Relationships these days crash more than airplanes. Thank God for that at least.

This is serious

Pearl05:

Most Imo peopled are known to build duplex on a man's head in the name of bride price. And don't close their legs in husband house.

They can go to any length to keep the husband under their wrappers. Thereby turning the man to Lucozade abi lukaman



The only state anambra people try as much as possible to avoid is IMO.

They will rather go to cross river or akawaibom than marry from imo state.

Shut your stinking dirty mouth oooooh must you talk olodo

pocohantas:
Is it not Anambra people again? Na their way naw.

Most Anambra men I have met, they don't fail to ask that question.
"Are you (also) from Anambra?"
Anambra people love marrying themselves.

That said, you're still in school, better focus on your studies.

Will be interesting to watch from the side lines if they get their biafra.

rebirthforgoody:




Shut your stinking dirty mouth oooooh must you talk olodo

Sis take it easy on her biko. Or are you quilty

izaray:


Sis take it easy on her biko. Or are you quilty

The girl talks alot..... Must she mention state especially my state

rebirthforgoody:



The girl talks alot..... Must she mention state especially my state

Lol, that's social media for you. Where alot people sees as an opportunity to display their stupidity to the world. Trust you're doing good