UjuJoan2:


This is not about feminism. It's about modernization and everything it stands for. The legal way of getting married was created for a reason, to protect women from the marginalization that paying of bride price will not take care of.

You can't select what you want to respect as the laws of the land. As far as the Nigerian law is concerned, that woman is a baby mama.

In the eyes of God, she has been living in sin.

I want to believe you will have children, if you don't already. I'll like to see you encourage them to shun legality and live we with men because we are Africans and it's only bride price that matters. And yo prove what? That you're not a feminist?

I will like to believe you are young and inexperienced and don't really understand what you are saying.

Joy1706:

Shuuuu..... Remarry na. Who is holding your preek? She will land herself a better man over there. Las las na she win

donnaD:

try to always read a story well and digest it,stop jumping on issues.read very well he married her and paid her bride price but nope she wants more and when he said he is doing all that she held it against him.she shud be happy he removed shame from her face,Than counting and bottling up his sins in her heart.is she a saint in the marriage?

UjuJoan2:

Seriously? I don't get this post . . And made by a woman too?
SMH!

HeWrites:
According to the story shared on Facebook, a man who refused to do court and white wedding with his baby mama is now begging to wed her in court after she got an opportunity to relocate abroad with her family. The story is quite interesting.

Read below;
“I got pregnant nine years ago while dating my current husband and then the issue of marriage came up. I wasn’t working then. He told my family and I that he doesn’t want a court marriage for no reason. My parents tried talking to him, I cried and begged him severally to legalize his marriage with me but he stood his grounds not to wed me in a court.

I involved his family members to help me beg him but they said, he’s old enough to make his decisions. He even refused to do a white wedding either because my church requested for a court certificate, so we ended up doing only traditional marriage.

I later got tired and gave up on the matter. I was hurt and broken but I resolved to marry him like that just to save myself and my family the shame of having a baby outside wedlock. My dad was angry and disappointed in him but he didn’t care and because of that my dad vowed to see me a successful and independent woman with or without him.

After I gave birth to my baby, my dad helped me secure a job with a multinational company and things started to turn around for me. I could now take care of myself and secure a future.

Though I married my husband but I never forgave him from my heart and it made me not to do anything in my husband’s name.

We currently have three kids together but all my properties are in the name of my children. I never used him as my next of kin either.

Just last month my company decided to transfer me to a branch in Texas and the company is willing to pay for my entire family to relocate with me. My husband’s business is not doing too well and he’s willing to relocate also but we have no legal certificate to show that we are married.

Now he wants us to go to the court to legalize our marriage and I have said “No” My dad has threatened to disown me if I ever go with him to court.

He’s been tagging me everywhere as a bad wife who is not loyal to her husband, spoiling my family also. His family members have been calling me trying to persuade me but I told them I’m old enough to make my decisions also and I have stood my ground just like he did to me nine years ago.”

Culled from; https://www.torimill.com/2018/04/man-who-refused-to-marry-his-baby-mama-for-9-years-now-begging-to-wed-her-see-why.html

Biglittlelois:



What a stupid mentality, how do you know this? you have wh0re yourself through 99.9% of Nigerian women to know which is ambitionless right? nonsense

that woman was destined to be successful regardless of what her husband did, you didnt bother to condemn the man, only to tag him "desperate", if it was a lady supporting her own, y'all would be fast to tag her feminist, irritating menist

Blonchilli:
I believe the word is misogynist

UjuJoan2:


This is not about feminism. It's about modernization and everything it stands for. The legal way of getting married was created for a reason, to protect women from the marginalization that paying of bride price will not take care of.

You can't select what you want to respect as the laws of the land. As far as the Nigerian law is concerned, that woman is a baby mama.

In the eyes of God, she has been living in sin.

I want to believe you will have children, if you don't already. I'll like to see you encourage them to shun legality and live we with men because we are Africans and it's only bride price that matters. And yo prove what? That you're not a feminist?

I will like to believe you are young and inexperienced and don't really understand what you are saying.

revolt:
don't mind the catfish...she thinks she can travel with his kids without his consent. She NVR apply for child visa obviously. Plus she evn has a formal job which makes it very easy to get to her. He even got her the job....mtchwee.

Women sha

Joy1706:

Ahn! No wahala na. Stay in naija and raise our children. I can be sending upkeep money to you.

AFONJACOW:
leave without me and those children. and lose the children forever... my kind of person don't make empty threat

AFONJACOW:
my father always warn me, after Satan I should fear women... must they have court marriage traditional marriage/pictures and those kids are they not enough to convince embassy that they are legally married, the lady and her family has some conical plan against that man... just wait you will hear the full story soon

ifynwa8:


Hahahahaha men, men, men the things you to to women only God will judge ooo. Men should remember that they are still under the headship of Jesus Christ and he don't misuse his authority.

Reelmii:
u will be shocked that u will not be able to poison their harts because they would be happy they have a mim abroad and also she would be visiting and also send things home, na bad belle go kill the man, u think it is easy to break between a mother and a child

Reelmii:
u see dat u are not also a good person, now u ar saying the woman is a wicked woman but u have a darker heart, but sorry to shock u, they would even be happy they have a mum abroad and I know the woman would be visiting and sending things to them, na the man go die of bad belle

AFONJACOW:
not when I brainwashed them

AFONJACOW:
not when I brainwashed them

ImaIma1:
But what was his reason for refusing the court wedding initially?

And what is his reason for wanting it now?

Some men be using village sense and mentality. Has he seen his life now?

Reelmii:
u cant do anything and if lie that she ran away with her boyfriend and ur money, one day the truth will come out then u will experience the true meaning of hate because the children will not forgive you for lying about their mum, if it were the man dat got that offer do u think ge would still consider the court marriage? he would leave them here and travel out, so y the noise

caseynewnn:
u contradict urself.legally married without a court wedding? bros without legalising ur union u r not married by law.it is called common law union

caseynewnn:
u still get mouth to threaten.it just means d nan isn't remorseful

emperormossad:


Yes I quite agree with you no doubt.
Listen, no one is innocent, like everyone has said. He messed up real time. And deserves whatever he gets. I'm just saying, if I were the lady, I'd need to ask myself why I'm still bearing a grudge this long also. Did I really forgive him?

Babe it's a coin. It has two sides. To err is human, to forgive is divine. She's got every right to act whichever way though, it's her life, her decisions to make.

Lemme ask you
How long can you hold a grudge?

northvietnam:


At least them go still drag am for court first.. dont u knw about customary court.. he will go get marriage cert there.. ASAP.

the kids will grow and still look for their DAD...

Imagine the woman telling her children that she left their papa cuz the man refused occult abi court wedding... and still provided for them, sheltered them...

those kids will so hate her in the future...