stuffs4me:
It is rather unfortunate that the woman is feeling like a god just because she's wealthier than her husband.


The woman has a very ugly and evil unforgiving heart. After 9 years and three kids, she still has the mind to keep a grudge in her heart.

Even if she refused to help the man, it doesn't mean God cannot answer the prayers of the man the way he answered her own. Nobody knows tomorrow.

I give you three gbosa!

Your ability to twist and distort issues is out of this world.

The story is clear; this is payback time for her.

Should she forgive the man and do the court wedding is another discussion.

But to say she doesn't want to help the husband because she is now rich is wickedness.

This will teach everyone that nobody knows tomorrow. Situations turn overnight.

northvietnam:


I think a man that fathered 3 kids with a lady, spent 9years with her in same Roof should be forgiving...

women r just teaching we single men Good lessons...
9fvcking years, 9years... that women is Devilish

Some people can be heartless sha.

I pray even my enemies don't across the people that saw nothing wrong in the man's actions or refuse to understand the woman's.

It is people like that who would pinch you and expect you to forgive.

Wicked people.

northvietnam:


no cuz he would have opted for Abortion... or just walked away and body will beat him.

but he stayed and took up the responsibility of being a father and even went as far as 3rd baby...

the family and the girl is just so pained cuz she let her father who might be a Deacon( in one of those church )down by not having the So called white wedding..( church demanded for court wedding cert b4 they could be wedded)...

As far as he paid her dowry, they should not force him into court wedding

I am sorry I can't resist pointing out your callousness.

He paid her dowry and after several suplications, the wife and family moved on.

Why does the husband and his family want to force her to have a court wedding that wasn't important 9yrs back?

Is the dowry no longer in place? As it expired?

You are wicked.

ojlifa:
rubbish,you do traditional marriage they give you certificate at your local government.so who are you telling this lies to.men men draw your ears no marry any woman for court.do traditional wedding,the rest white wedding and all is just a waste of your money repeating the same thing marry cheap and save money for your family .

The woman has heeded your wise advise yet your brothers are crying like a kid whose favorite toy was taken from him.

AFONJACOW:
so church marriage certificate will not do ? so thoughtful

The church will not wed you without notification from the court(for churches with legal right to conduct marriages) or court wedding.

The woman did not do church wedding.

Elxandre:
Until you hear the Man's side of the story for not wanting a church wedding, the rest na story.

Who knows if it was for financial reasons sef, and being a headstrong person, didn't want help from anyone.

If the man is the uncommitted devil y'all paint here, he would have rejected responsibilities for the pregnancy.

He accepted and had traditional wedding with you, leading to three kids.

Court wedding is the cheapest in Nigeria.

The man is an idiot. Why the sudden change? He should stand by his decision and not be swayed by a common offer of going to America.

He should let the woman go to wherever she wants but without his kids. If she tries anything funny, he'd go to her parents' house with an AK-47 or a gallon of acid and sign a signature and she will humbly come back to Nigeria to sign the condolence registers of the people she left behind.

Reelmii:
his refusal was for his selfish interest, he might have the intentions of leaving the marriage someday or marrying a second wife which he knows would not be possible if he had a court marriage. now he wants the marriage because of the travelling involved I am sure he has a hidden agenda he might run away wen he get to US with a white woman

He should have some shame now since he refused to do it. He should stick to the decision he made as an adult that he is.

If he tries to use the woman to threaten him, she should do everything to get her children

bukatyne:


The church will not wed you without notification from the court(for churches with legal right to conduct marriages) or court wedding.

The woman did not do church wedding.

abeg which church will seek notification from court b4 wedding their member... bru u are not talking with adolescent biko

adontcare:
d man is not remorseful o. He is still insulting d woman on top. I don't think d man deserve her

Alright oo.

AFONJACOW:
abeg which church will seek notification from court b4 wedding their member... bru u are not talking with adolescent biko

Are you married?

AFONJACOW:
my father always warn me, after Satan I should fear women... must they have court marriage traditional marriage/pictures and those kids are they not enough to convince embassy that they are legally married, the lady and her family has some conical plan against that man... just wait you will hear the full story soon

embassy doesn't require marriage certificate sef, pictures, trad marriage, baptism etc is enough.. Truth is except he/she changes the kids its nt possible, she just wasting her tym

AFONJACOW:
leave without me and those children. and lose the children forever... my kind of person don't make empty threat

Hahahahha! Somebody say story story. The children will always look for their mother and when they know you stopped them from being with me, guess who'll they hate.
Nobody can make me lose my children except I choose to. You will stay in naija and raise them. See cheap blackmail na

fnep2smooth:

That's how many female keep making mistakes out of selfishness. Do you think its easy to remarry over there with 3kids. She can only have a boyfriend there but hard to get married at least it will take her some years before that can happen.

Hahhahaha. Says who? Its not that hard my dear. Have you even condemned the mans is selfishness and wickedness? The man too made a mistake out of selfishness. Let her make hers too

AFONJACOW:
not when I told them their mother flee to America with her boyfriend with my money...

You are pathetic walahi. Sheybi you are THE MAN na. Work your way to America by yourself. Nonsense. You think you're the only one that can fabricate stories ba

AFONJACOW:
which Truth they believe what I told them, feed them shit, their skulls gonna function that way... how will you feel if your pa told u how ur mother abandon you and flee with her boyfriend, will u ever forgive such a person she either choose her parents decision or her family, I didn't read where she said the husband beat or maltreated her, her only grudge is court marriage, which the man refuse to do bcuz of some unknown reason, must the husband dance to the tone of her in-laws, there should a limit for everything, if the young man say no court marriage why not obey his decision... unless they have some evil plan

She has also said no court marriage na. What's your problem? He should obey her decision...... Unless he has some evil plan. She too has a reason for saying no

Demayour:
I think this couple should just forget everything that has happened in the past and focus more on ensuring a secured future especially for the woman and her kids. The ugliness of the past cannot be taken away now. And except the man is still not remorseful, the woman should forgive him and focus on living a better life. For those saying the man is a gold-digger, looking for gain etc, you might be right and the woman may go ahead without the man but what if things eventually turn around for the man again? The woman will still have to come back to Nigeria

Which one is the woman still has to come back to Nigeria? To do what? When she already has a job and a life abroad

Obason22:
Had it been that both of u have no children, it could have been a good decision too, on like me I never accept court marriage for any reason, but since it happen this way and ur husband have decide to change mind no option than u to follow his decision he still ur husband but if u say no, then he can still change mind and restrict u traveling with his children, except he is lazy type.

Did you say she has no option than to follow his decision? That he can restrict her from travelling? you men are funny o. Think yourselves demi gods. He should stop her na lemme see. Nansense

Joy1706:

She has also said no court marriage na. What's your problem? He should obey her decision...... Unless he has some evil plan. She too has a reason for saying no

so if your brother began dey dance to his
in-laws tune u go like am respect her ke ... so the woman is now the head of the family and her word is final ... hehehehe no wonder we have so many unmarried women in our society

Joy1706:

You are pathetic walahi. Sheybi you are THE MAN na. Work your way to America by yourself. Nonsense. You think you're the only one that can fabricate stories ba

she can walk away without those kids... as for my kind of person I don't even give a fvck if she work in White house... she not into that marriage because of love... no wonder we have so many single ladies in our society

AFONJACOW:
she can walk away without those kids... as for my kind of person I don't even give a fvck if she work in White house... she not into that marriage because of love... no wonder we have so many single ladies in our society

And what if the kids say they don't want to be with you?

Joy1706:

Hahahahha! Somebody say story story. The children will always look for their mother and when they know you stopped them from being with me, guess who'll they hate.
Nobody can make me lose my children except I choose to. You will stay in naija and raise them. See cheap blackmail na

my dear I can see too much aftereffects of nollywood in ur reasoning... ( the children will one day grow and go and look for their mother) bra bra bra. .. kids whatever you install in them is what they will carry along, no juju or fiction in this one , do u think they will accept a woman that flee with her boyfriend because of luxury lifestyle in America... if my daddy told me that, I gonna kill her myself... thank God I have a lovely mother that carry everyone along

shaybebaby:

And what if the kids say they don't want to be with you?

but the kids has no say in diz decision nah

AFONJACOW:
but the kids has no say in diz decision nah

But when they do, what happens then?

shaybebaby:

But when they do, what happens then?

until then... if only they can be able to knw their mother's existence... the spell and fatherly love might be stronger

AFONJACOW:
until then... if only they can be able to knw their mother's existence

Don't see how they wouldn't. She still has family in naij, there is social media etc.

You may hold on to them for a while but eventually when they are older, they would do the needful. If she becomes a citizen, they become entitled to citizenship as well.

And considering the economic situation in Nigeria, you think they would stick with you? When the reason for your hatred was borne out of the fact even you wanted the chance at a life outside of naij.

They would want what you wanted only thing is they will be able to have it eventually with all certainty as they won't be kids forever. But you on the other hand, well your fate remains undecided.

Joy1706:

Did you say she has no option than to follow his decision? That he can restrict her from travelling? you men are funny o. Think yourselves demi gods. He should stop her na lemme see. Nansense

Yes, I did what else do u want from me Ogun kill u idiot. u cannot make any such move with my child without my permission. to hell with ur job.

shaybebaby:

But when they do, what happens then?

She should take the case to court. I am sure it will not be easy to see why she should have custody of the children.

Who knows if he has been paying the children's school fees and participating actively in their lives. Getting the children might not be hard.

shaybebaby:

Don't see how they wouldn't. She still has family in naij, there is social media etc.

You may hold on to them for a while but eventually when they are older, they would do the needful. If she becomes a citizen, they become entitled to citizenship as well.

And considering the economic situation in Nigeria, you think they would stick with you? When the reason for your hatred was borne out of the fact even you wanted the chance at a life outside of naij.

They would want what you wanted only thing is they will be able to have it eventually with all certainty as they won't be kids forever. But you on the other hand, well your fate remains undecided.

which family abi if I allow them come closer or knw their whereabouts... the woman is an ingrate, because the tide has turn her side, she now want to abandon his husband, his only fault is court marriage... they will stick with me bcuz I'm the only person in the picture when the roads are rougher... I have seen reasons why most men are so mean to their wives.. after devil fear women

Obason22:
Yes, I did what else do u want from me Ogun kill u idiot. u cannot make any such move with my child without my permission. to hell with ur job.

You're a dead man walking already. God punish the imbeciles that brought you into this world. To hell with you. Its my child too news flash. You are just a mere man. You will stay in naija and rot. Who are you to grant me permission?

AFONJACOW:
my dear I can see too much aftereffects of nollywood in ur reasoning... ( the children will one day grow and go and look for their mother) bra bra bra. .. kids whatever you install in them is what they will carry along, no juju or fiction in this one , do u think they will accept a woman that flee with her boyfriend because of luxury lifestyle in America... if my daddy told me that, I gonna kill her myself... thank God I have a lovely mother that carry everyone along

Is that so? Then why do some children whose father's abandoned them still go back to look for them. Lies will always crumble in the face of truth. When the truth comes out, guess who'll be the big fat loser.
I can also say you tried to murder me so I had to escape to preserve my life. See anybody can lie o