U ugly?

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Gasa84:
Am sorry to bother you guys but I need your advice.
I am from Imo state and I met my man (from Enugu state) in 2013 after my NYSC. He was not quite learned but he is hard working so I suggested he rent a house and buy a land since he can afford it, he did.

But when I started spending weekends in his house I found out that he drinks a lot, beats and insults me, telling me he can never marry someone like me, but he also takes care of me as I was unemployed then, I felt it was ignorant and kept enduring and confide in his elder brother's wife about my dilemma....

To cut long story short, I got a job in 2015 and he got very sick in 2016 so I had to let go of my job to tend to him for 2 months till he traveled for proper treatment.

After 8 months he came back told his brother that he wants to marry me but his brother said no to the extent that the brother pushed me out of his house when I came to visit him as usual...

He got sick again and was diagnosed with brain tumor , I stayed with him in the hospital till he traveled for surgery... While I was with him no one cared to come stay in the hospital as they knew I was there... I stayed in his house more than mine. After a successful surgery, his father died..

I followed him to his village cos I thought it was the right thing to do but his brothers, sisters, mother and uncles told him to send me away, I left there feeling miserable and insulted...

But he kept telling me that he doesn't want to lose me that we will keep on praying that one-day they will accept me so we can then marry.

I know he loves me... Probably because I was there with him when he was sick.... But am no more that young and I don't know what will happen later... Am afraid and frustrated....

I don't know what to do please help me out. I can explain more if u ask I am just confused and depressed. What do I do, how do I cope?

just forget about him because he don't deserve u OK.

All the posters above me, well said joor, to the one's who's below me, hope you use your head. Madam, run as fast as your legs can carry you, deadly zone if you ask me, age shouldn't push you around, don't start what you won't finish

if they hate you now, despite your standing by his side through his trials,
don't think you can pray your way to them liking you after marriage.

if he can't stand up for you now, he won't later.

ask him for assurance

Why do I have a feeling you are scared to leave the relationship because age isn't on your side anymore and you feel you may not get someone else anytime soon. You know what's best for you. Take the right steps prayerfully. Your happiness is key.



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Let me consult Amadioha and shongo 4 u, I will be right back.

Colb461:
ask him for assurance

Why are you like this? Assure kini?

my dear.Hear this bitter truth.Leave him/his family b4 God leave u.u Don see the handwriting on the wall.flee.If u marry him by force and he die (God forbid )hope u know how those irresponsible family go treat u?

Hey you bring your head come closer....say after me
Any waka wey them dey waka for me them go waka tire (×10) no... In fact continue......till fade

My dear are you not a fool, don't you have self worth what manner of nonsense chronicle is this @ your age your village people are using your sense to contact amadioha, tufiakwa u need to be slapped mercilessly so that your senses can come to normal

Have you thought of why they don't like you?

I suggest you give up though because the way I look at it, your man isn't the kind of man that can be a real man in this matter. Truth is, he may not love you the way you think.

Your case is far better than that of my woman own. Almost the same but yours it's better. I Love my woman but I had no option than letting go because of my family. My dear I can't say more here. You may wish to pm me. Or whatsapp me.

O gbadun

He beats u up and told u he can't marry someone like you and now 2018 after brain surgery yopu believed he still lopves yopu and will mary you one day(may be in 2035you have been dating a drunk since 2013 and here is 2018 you arnt yet his wife but believed he still love you.which school did u stayed u attended. At u sure u at Igbo lady.Thunder fire you there.Come.where is Seun.pls Delete this buhari brain from here.idiots

My dear,he can't and won't defend you at any point in time,dont think of d sacrifices u 've made for him,u r happiness matters alot,his family doesn't like you inspite all d sacrifices,i no how much it's gonna hurt you,but d end is not going to be good if dey are not grateful for d little sacrifices u've made already den they will never appreciate you in future.You are not getting married to just ur fiance but ure going to embrace d entire family ,be wise

Nne, there's no need forcing yourself into a family where you're not accepted.

If the family can't appreciate your numerous efforts while their son/brother was ill...then it will only take the grace of God for them to accept you in the future.

Besides, what if something happens to him tomorrow? They might just accuse you of being the source of his misfortune.

Sister'm you're a nice person. Don't kill yourself because of love.

Forget that man and move on ..That Timor will still return if care is not taken and it's then the family will deal with yiu

Tell us more about your origin(osu?), because standing by your man through thick and tin is not enough for a family to like you.

Is that man younger than you?
Before his father death, was he rejecting you also?

Otherwise, give the relationship a break immediately

Bae lets analyze your condition critically

1st he beats you and verbally abuse you. Definition of an abusive relationship! He hasn't yet married you and yet he turns u into a punching bag.. Nne Anya osiri gi (are you blind )

2nd he said that you are not good enough for him he can't marry your type. Meaning that he's not really into you and chances are that he may have other options aside u. Nne Ana eji ahihe acho ewu oji oo ( use daylight to find a black goat)

3rd his family has already shown you how the feel about you despite being there for their own brother when he was sick, to the extent his elder brother physically assaulted you! Only God knows what they're capable of doing to you when you eventually get married into that family! Ana amanma Na ulo apu Na ama( charity begins at home)

4th he has health issues, always falling sick to the extent of being diagnosed with brain tumour. And as much as I feel bad to admit it, most brain tumour cases i know are usually terminal. Meaning that your fiance death clock has started ticking! ( I don't wish for that) but let us be realistic here, if you become a widow in that family who will take care of you? Is it his elder brother that physically assaulted or his family members that don't like you. Tomorrow the accuse you of killing their brother and begin all manner of ill treatment towards you or even throw you out.
Bae you don't need a prophet to tell you that this fiance of yours with all the things you said about him and his family will turn your life into a living hell. Being there for you is not enough reason for him and his family ill treatment towards you, and although you claim he loves you what about your future don't you love your future?! Marriage is not a child's play it's for eternity
You can still be friends with him take care of him the way you want but don't be silly about it. Remember this, don't make someone a priority when you are an only option for them

Gasa84:
Am sorry to bother you guys but I need your advice.
I am from Imo state and I met my man (from Enugu state) in 2013 after my NYSC. He was not quite learned but he is hard working so I suggested he rent a house and buy a land since he can afford it, he did.

But when I started spending weekends in his house I found out that he drinks a lot, beats and insults me, telling me he can never marry someone like me, but he also takes care of me as I was unemployed then, I felt it was ignorant and kept enduring and confide in his elder brother's wife about my dilemma....

To cut long story short, I got a job in 2015 and he got very sick in 2016 so I had to let go of my job to tend to him for 2 months till he traveled for proper treatment.

After 8 months he came back told his brother that he wants to marry me but his brother said no to the extent that the brother pushed me out of his house when I came to visit him as usual...

He got sick again and was diagnosed with brain tumor , I stayed with him in the hospital till he traveled for surgery... While I was with him no one cared to come stay in the hospital as they knew I was there... I stayed in his house more than mine. After a successful surgery, his father died..

I followed him to his village cos I thought it was the right thing to do but his brothers, sisters, mother and uncles told him to send me away, I left there feeling miserable and insulted...

But he kept telling me that he doesn't want to lose me that we will keep on praying that one-day they will accept me so we can then marry.

I know he loves me... Probably because I was there with him when he was sick.... But am no more that young and I don't know what will happen later... Am afraid and frustrated....

I don't know what to do please help me out. I can explain more if u ask I am just confused and depressed. What do I do, how do I cope?

Base on my sister experience I'll advice you don't get married to such a family member cuz they'll frustrate your marriage life till you quit. run from such family sister, I'm talking from experience.

in fact the scenario was just like yours... when my sister husband died due to illness... you need see what she face from those family.

Gasa84:
Am sorry to bother you guys but I need your advice.
I am from Imo state and I met my man (from Enugu state) in 2013 after my NYSC. He was not quite learned but he is hard working so I suggested he rent a house and buy a land since he can afford it, he did.

But when I started spending weekends in his house I found out that he drinks a lot, beats and insults me, telling me he can never marry someone like me, but he also takes care of me as I was unemployed then, I felt it was ignorant and kept enduring and confide in his elder brother's wife about my dilemma....

To cut long story short, I got a job in 2015 and he got very sick in 2016 so I had to let go of my job to tend to him for 2 months till he traveled for proper treatment.

After 8 months he came back told his brother that he wants to marry me but his brother said no to the extent that the brother pushed me out of his house when I came to visit him as usual...

He got sick again and was diagnosed with brain tumor , I stayed with him in the hospital till he traveled for surgery... While I was with him no one cared to come stay in the hospital as they knew I was there... I stayed in his house more than mine. After a successful surgery, his father died..

I followed him to his village cos I thought it was the right thing to do but his brothers, sisters, mother and uncles told him to send me away, I left there feeling miserable and insulted...

But he kept telling me that he doesn't want to lose me that we will keep on praying that one-day they will accept me so we can then marry.

I know he loves me... Probably because I was there with him when he was sick.... But am no more that young and I don't know what will happen later... Am afraid and frustrated....

I don't know what to do please help me out. I can explain more if u ask I am just confused and depressed. What do I do, how do I cope?

The boldened is exactly the problem you are facing - Desperation!

Without desperation in this matter, I'm not sure there's anything that would make any one confused at all.

You want us to encourage you with lies of how "love always wins" or how you need to ignore the family in as much as the drink-loving woman batterer of a man "loves" you?

The kind of things that people term confusion in this world sha! That word has been grossly abused!

Do as you see fit but note that,

1. The man that has started getting drunk and beating you as a girlfriend (which is when they are usually of 'best' behaviour) would not miraculously change after signing a piece of paper.
Once e start to happen, don't call God or come here to cry foul o, allow space for people with genuine concerns mbok

2. Even if we miraculously enter 22nd century this night, in Nigeria especially in Igbo land, once you marry a man you have married the family. Don't allow any show of love deceive you into thinking that the man won't remind you whose womb carried him for 9months.

3. Desperation is never a good reason to marry, it almost always backfires.

4. When you enter your next relationship (I'm hoping you'd be wise enough to leave this one), please look for another person to confide in. Family members are usually not the best confidants for relationship issues cos of a tendency for bias, In-laws are the worst (a complete no-go area in fact).

5. Love is not an endurance thing. It's an exciting journey to remarkable horizons with some bumps here and there - it is meant to be enjoyed. Don't let pity or assumptions make you think otherwise.

My advice for you is that you leave him for a long time as you said his family don't like you..
Don't force Ur self on someone even if te person have many mansions wait for your time.

You can see how your sister wait until Davido bring assurance come her way. She didn't chase him to all his tours..
I hope am. Help full.

I understand where she's coming from, it's really hard to move on, but I think the best right now is to move on, and if u want to do that 1st of all relocate to another state, get another job there, try to avoid him from your social media accounts, give him enough space, it will help.

Gasa84:
Am sorry to bother you guys but I need your advice.
I am from Imo state and I met my man (from Enugu state) in 2013 after my NYSC. He was not quite learned but he is hard working so I suggested he rent a house and buy a land since he can afford it, he did.

But when I started spending weekends in his house I found out that he drinks a lot, beats and insults me, telling me he can never marry someone like me, but he also takes care of me as I was unemployed then, I felt it was ignorant and kept enduring and confide in his elder brother's wife about my dilemma....

To cut long story short, I got a job in 2015 and he got very sick in 2016 so I had to let go of my job to tend to him for 2 months till he traveled for proper treatment.

After 8 months he came back told his brother that he wants to marry me but his brother said no to the extent that the brother pushed me out of his house when I came to visit him as usual...

He got sick again and was diagnosed with brain tumor , I stayed with him in the hospital till he traveled for surgery... While I was with him no one cared to come stay in the hospital as they knew I was there... I stayed in his house more than mine. After a successful surgery, his father died..

I followed him to his village cos I thought it was the right thing to do but his brothers, sisters, mother and uncles told him to send me away, I left there feeling miserable and insulted...

But he kept telling me that he doesn't want to lose me that we will keep on praying that one-day they will accept me so we can then marry.

I know he loves me... Probably because I was there with him when he was sick.... But am no more that young and I don't know what will happen later... Am afraid and frustrated....

I don't know what to do please help me out. I can explain more if u ask I am just confused and depressed. What do I do, how do I cope?

Well if all you said is true then he doesn't love you...Maybe he is just pitying you for being by his side through hard times.

Genesis 2:23-24 said it very clearly

And until he took the bold step regardless of if the parents are in or out. Else the parents will never like you

OP, I doubt if they don't like ur person, I think it's where u come from they don't like.

I would advise u move on with ur life, except u re a tough person.

Leave

This is kinda complicated to bliv,because come to think of it, according to u, u are educated, how do u define a home?
U wanna watch him beat u wen u guys are married?
Or make ur kids to be psychologically unwell about happiness in the home? My sister if ur story is true, then the young man could die anytime if the brain tumor is not well handled and then u find ur self in a miserable state... Please read the writing on the wall and do the needful.... Just MA opinion

As in eh, I no just understand this babe matter o

You mean without this guy your world is shattered or what?
Hmm...
Your own is good if so