₦airaland Forum

TonyeBarcanista:
God and Nature made it so.

Whose name does the children bear? Their mother's or father's? Who is primarily responsible for leadership? Who's considered to be primary provider? Have you heard of any special recognition given to husbands of public figures worldwide like is obtained in wives of figures?


See bro, there are certain things you can't contend with nor change. No matter how much a feminist will rant the man will remain HEAD of the family

In Spain the child bears both the mother and Father's name

For instance, Marco Asensio Willemsen is his name and Willemson is gotten from his mother "Maria Willemsen"

Also Oxlade-Chamberlain contains both his father and mother's name so is Maitland Niles and Alexander-Arnold

"Primarily responsible for leadership" isn't sex based, majority of those that adopted it did for cultural reasons and women have been pushing back against such ideas recently. Who's the president of Germany? I bet most Nairalanders don't know Germany has a president (neither did I till he visited Nigeria last year or so) who's a man but they all know Angela Merkel who's the chancellor

Primary provider depends on the financial level of both the man and the woman, since most Nigerians and Africans have families in which the woman doesn't even work let alone earn money its a man but many families developed nations have women as primary providers and their families are living peacefully and fine, its all understanding

I don't know what you mean by "Special Recognition"

Yes, Men are the head of most homes and a huge reason for this is that almost all religions and cultures support the idea but the pendulum has been swinging a bit in recent years compared to millennia ago

Pataricatering:
if we lived by biblical standards you would probably be a slave in an american factory right now - the Bible tells slaves to obey their masters - going by your logic , slaves should have sat down and said “ we must not fight our white masters but remain slaves since the good bible says we must obey our masters” ? Right ?

Thank you! Christians pick and chose then turn around and criticise other Christians for picking and choosing differently

Lakeside79:
Okay

Freedom of expression

Please let's not be abusive in our comments let's respect others views she stated her opinion and is free to do so

Agree or disagree respectably

I disgaree men being the head has no correlation with men and women being equal

I believe we are both equals men and women

Your wife is your partner and stands beside you not behind you

But you as the man you lead be the rock and shield for your wife and your children

For example your boss is your head in the office but you are both equals as employees of the company in that you both oay tax, you both has tasks yet he or she is your superior you won't go saying because you are both staff he or she should take on the same responsibility as you (that would be career suicide)

So while you are the head she isn't your surbordinate she is your rib , your best friend your sister your mother
Your world not your slave

Nuff said

correct and sensible

vizkiz:
She is just another twitter prostitute trying to be relevant.

I gave up on her type after Linda ikeji preached about celibacy for months and end up having an unborn Bastard.

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Feminists in Nigeria are just bunch of unfortunate and dick starved single ladies.

As far as I am concerned the only time a lady is "Head" is when she is giving me HEAD

How is Agbara ?

Tehila07:
Answer his question, olodo

Are you alright? Did the guy ask me a question? Try not to unnecessarily quote me again.

Tehila07:
Answer his question, olodo

Are you alright? Did the guy ask me a question? Try not to unnecessarily quote me again.

Tehila07:
Answer his question, olodo

Are you alright?It is obvious you are the olodo here.
Did the guy ask me a question? Try not to unnecessarily quote me again.

wildimagination:
Counter ?? who..?? The lady or you?? Me I no come fight ooooo... e be like say u be lawyer. It's like u are on leave...u are looking for small talk...no worries..I get small time... ...

That lady up there only dropped an opinion that was open....making it easy for any one to conclude anything about her.......because i couldn't even say she was a feminist, or a biblical antogonist..

for starters Christianity is not the only relegion with views of men being head over the home...clearly she is either deluded, lack of knowledge or both...

I suggested she's damaged psychologically because her point sounded to me like something drawn from the premise of long standing bad luck with men maybe father inclusive, boss at the office and so on and just wanted to hide behind religion

For thousands of years before religion, men have been the boss of homes, relegion ddnt force women under men, alot of women just never tried to become anything other baby making factories in the past, the sit in their fathers homes and wait for a man to come buy them off and they are still being bought of in the east..
And when they started trying to become something ..here we are...

If she wants the tables turned in her own home, fine let her lord over her husband and if it's equality she's advocating for..and if shes against the Bible style that says respect ur husbanda...then she should not...let's see how far her marriage will go.

the concept of head in a marriage is for peace and order not to show which gender is better or which gender can provide...and the roles can easily be switched without anyone making a show of it...

To me, I feel this kinda lady is the type that her husband will loose job and the whole Nigeria will know she's the bread winner feeding the home...

As for u, there's nothing to counter.

Wake up this is the 21st century.Your joystick does not automatically equate to you having sense.
Religion or not not everyone practice what they preach.
The points you brought out there is not that common in this time and age except in third world countries.

My question is why exactly should a man be considered the head of the house?
let's leave the Bible said what and what not. Not everyone practices the religion where's it's stated in their book.

If a woman provides for the family, takes care of almost all the expenses, does everything a man could have done but couldn't do because he isn't capable... should she be considered the head? Because from a logical view, I think the only reason a man is considered the head is because he's believed to be the financial care taker and backbone of the family... but in the case where it is the woman, should we call her the head?

AtYourCervix:
Why then are you not advocating for slavery? isn't it endorsed in the Bible? every Christian I know picks and chooses then criticise other Christians for picking and choosing differently this is why we have 30,000 (Thirty Thousand) different Christian sects

But this is what I love about Christianity; there are so many Christians out there calling other Christians ignorant and heretical. Christianity right now is a cacophony of conflicting messages all of which claim to be representing the truth of God.

Thank you, such a confused religion.

don't blame her, when one talks, it shows where he/she came from. It simply depicts that she came from a family where the dad was not boyant enough to take care of the family, and trust the mothers.... They can.t seize to tell their children that she is carrying the burdens of the house


so what do you expect from the shallow thinking daughter?

AmazonTopaz:
Are you alright?It is obvious you are the olodo here. Did the guy ask me a question? Try not to unnecessarily quote me again.

Oponu

Tehila07:
Oponu

You are obviously not well. Try not to advertise your stupidity by quoting me I am allergic to sick people.

Tehila07:
Oponu

You are obviously not well. Try not to advertise your stupidity by quoting me I am allergic to sick people.

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AmazonTopaz:
Wake up this is the 21st century.Your joystick does not automatically equate to you having sense.
Religion or not not everyone practice what they preach.
The points you brought out there is not that common in this time and age except in third world countries.

.there are lots of men that don't work where I am......their wives provide everything....
But there's still no show or shout of who's the head...

Like I said the concept of being head or boss in a home shouldn't even come up...it's not like there's a firm to fill on who's the head of the house...that lady up there And u just have authority issues....no one is dragging head position with u but u already fighting and clamouring for something that there's not battle for...that's psychological problem if u don't now..

It's clear u have something against men

AtYourCervix:
In Spain the child bears both the mother and Father's name

For instance, Marco Asensio Willemsen is his name and Willemson is gotten from his mother "Maria Willemsen"

Also Oxlade-Chamberlain contains both his father and mother's name so is Maitland Niles and Alexander-Arnold

"Primarily responsible for leadership" isn't sex based, majority of those that adopted it did for cultural reasons and women have been pushing back against such ideas recently. Who's the president of Germany? I bet most Nairalanders don't know Germany has a president (neither did I till he visited Nigeria last year or so) who's a man but they all know Angela Merkel who's the chancellor

Primary provider depends on the financial level of both the man and the woman, since most Nigerians and Africans have families in which the woman doesn't even work let alone earn money its a man but many families developed nations have women as primary providers and their families are living peacefully and fine, its all understandingI don't know what you mean by "Special Recognition"

Yes, Men are the head of most homes and a huge reason for this is that almost all religions and cultures support the idea but the pendulum has been swinging a bit in recent years compared to millennia ago

The maternal names of Spaniards are usually "silent" or middle name but the "Surname" remains their paternal names... As in the case of Asensio, Marcos Alonso, Messi etc.

Primary provider in family is not same as leadership in the country. Man and woman are equal humans, but roles within units are defined. In government of Germany the President is the Head of State while the Chancellor is the Head of Government. The position is constant irrespective of the gender-occupant. This is same with organisations where the CEO is the boss irrespective of whether the occupant is male or female.

For the provider, even if a man marries a multimillionaire nobody will Blame the wife should the family starve, all eyes to the husband because it is HIS primary responsibility to do so. The job of the woman is to be a support to him in that regard. Even in the West, the man is tasked to pay Child support during separation or divorce and his assets split but it is never reversed.

In the family, the HUSBAND is the BOSS and it is only occupied by the male partner in the marriage.


Disagreement and protest against natural and social order is allowed, afterall even homosexuals, those practicing incest, those into sleeping in with animals etc are protesting against the established order. However, the protests won't change a thing

Tehila07:
Your first mention of me appeared 3 times; your second mention appeared 2 times; Chinko phone will keep disgracing you, ode.

Ugly and poor rats always become feminists.

Wow so you are this high on drugs?Be careful so as not to be caught in this your drug trafficking business.
My reply to you means I am gracing you this morning.I know you want attention but sorry I am allergic to drug and sick people.So good you described your friends in this post of yours so you use a Nokia 3310?
Now that is amazing.
Take note this is my last reply to you.I don't like making sick people feel they are special or useful further mentions would be gladly ignored.

wildimagination:
.there are lots of men that don't work where I am......their wives provide everything....
But there's still no show or shout of who's the head...

Like I said the concept of being head or boss in a home shouldn't even come up...it's not like there's a firm to fill on who's the head of the house...that lady up there And u just have authority issues....no one is dragging head position with u but u already fighting and clamouring for something that there's not battle for...that's psychological problem if u don't now..

It's clear u have something against men

There is nothing psychological there.You are not in every marriage to know how couples run their marriages.In some families male headship is in theory not practical and vice versa.
And yes I have a problem with myopic,chauvinistic,misogynistic and primitive men who believe that having a joystick gives them the right to think they have undue superiority over women.
Case closed.

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AmazonTopaz:
There is nothing psychological there.You are not in every marriage to know how couples run their marriages.In some families male headship is in theory not practical and vice versa.
And yes I have a problem with myopic,chauvinistic,misogynistic and primitive men who believe that having a joystick gives them the right to think they have undue superiority over women.
Case closed.

U sound pretty angry....is anyone fighting with u presently? That's the thing with u feminist....u just naturally feel men think they are superior to u....where as u are the one just entertaining tension that doesn't exist..like u said...case closed

[quote author=buskie13 post=67874994]I wish man could recreate humans by himself, all these female folks wouldn't even exist, it's a shame that this one is lost because she has little money, a woman without a lord is useless [/quote.



That is what the whites discovered about 100 yrs ago, the reason they treat the female folk almost like equal.

LivingFree:
I just laugh at you

Well you can laugh at me afterall I'm a mere mortal, but whatever God says stands. No matter what we try, we are just mere mortals.

AtYourCervix:
In Spain the child bears both the mother and Father's name

For instance, Marco Asensio Willemsen is his name and Willemson is gotten from his mother "Maria Willemsen"

Also Oxlade-Chamberlain contains both his father and mother's name so is Maitland Niles and Alexander-Arnold

"Primarily responsible for leadership" isn't sex based, majority of those that adopted it did for cultural reasons and women have been pushing back against such ideas recently. Who's the president of Germany? I bet most Nairalanders don't know Germany has a president (neither did I till he visited Nigeria last year or so) who's a man but they all know Angela Merkel who's the chancellor

Primary provider depends on the financial level of both the man and the woman, since most Nigerians and Africans have families in which the woman doesn't even work let alone earn money its a man but many families developed nations have women as primary providers and their families are living peacefully and fine, its all understanding

I don't know what you mean by "Special Recognition"

Yes, Men are the head of most homes and a huge reason for this is that almost all religions and cultures support the idea but the pendulum has been swinging a bit in recent years compared to millennia ago

From now till next 1000 years, man will still be head and director in relationships.

It's nature, and there is nothing that can change it. And our women need to understand this.

Irrespective of all these feminist movement recently, most women can't feel fulfilled if they don't have a man in their life. And that is the right thing to do. Because women are meant to be loved, cherished, cared for and pampered . And I mean good and virtuous women, oh.

And I laugh at men that have time to even engage some of this misinformed ones here. If you are wise as a man, you already know what you want for your family.


Raised by a highly educated parents (dad a retired surgeon, mum a retired chief nursing officer, that reached peak of nursing, HOD health for state government for years)

But my sweet mum was and is still totally submitted to her loving husband. They are still alive, like inseparable twins.
Had 5 girls and raised them to be obedient and submitted to their husbands. 2 are doctors, others well read professionals well settled in their husbands homes.

Abeg men be very wise. Avoid all these opinionated ones if you want to live long. Or else na serious problem for your head. Will even affect bringing up your children.















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