deflover:
my brother its well.....i have a different story to tell you and damn it was this bad for me back than.......i understand how you feel.....its like your life is shot down in front of you and you cant do shit...

i travelled to the UK summer 2007 on a six month multiple visiting visa had a swell time with lots of money.....i came back during the same summer and was planing with a group of my friends to go back....by january 2008 we all applied for a 2years visa.....i made my plans on how i will integrate into the society becos i loved it there...

i was planing to find love becos if it was for the paper i had one gal in dat my short stay ready to give me if i would allow her have a baby for me....but i said no becos the manner i met her was not a good one since she was my guys tou tou dat they all had thier way on for pills....

so janaury i and five of my friends applied for a two years visa.....all was given including me....but to my dismay when i opened it a 2 years visa was stamped on my passport but it had being cancelled with a pen...

and boldly written were the words CANCELLED WITHOUT PREJUDICE .....

till date i am yet to come to terms with what that means.....i tried to apply again twice that same month making it the third time in janaury and finally the entry officer EO told me in a letter that i am sounding desperate becos truly i was.....all my friends left me here and are gone till date

i cant even chat them up anymore becos once you are outta of the UK people forget about you with time....

i know how you feel......for me since 2008 i am still here and trying to be on my feet....i had it good but things with the global melt down and my low account made me know i must be busy here for the main time...

what does this mean to you.....only you can best describe it.....people will begin to ask questions.....wetin you do.....wetin happen....you no go go back.....eya na wa oh......see life.....all sort of pity party.....ur friends in da UK will not be helpful so dont expect much from them....if they still call you make you dey thank God..... sometimes i dey beg dem to even flash me.......most go enter nija i no go know till dem go back becos i am no longer important but these were niggas i was feeding back then

just get busy when money come you go know where you wan travel go again

my 2 kobo

I know this post is old but I just want to tell you that you are a man of wisdom

I am touched with the part where people would start asking question and old friends forgetting you because of your new status

AreaFada2:
@Deflover,

Interesting story.

What matters is that you're now doing something good with your life.

Most likely something big awaits you in 9ja there, keep looking for it.

As for friends in UK, the daily struggle is not easy. Many bills to pay.

I guess you know visting is quite different from making a living in UK. It takes a lot of effort.

People generally become more individualistic in the West, it's just the way it is.

However, genuine friends will still keep in touch. And genuine friends, you know, are few and far between.

When most people have nothing to benefit from you any more (at least if they think so), your friendship is hardly desirable.

Sad but true.

So sad

TheCongo2:


I know this post is old but I just want to tell you that you are a man of wisdom

I am touched with the part where people would start asking question and old friends forgetting you because of your new status

Thanks a lot
Its being tough but we are here

Tank