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Make.u youths not talk of how to develop ur country . K3leep on talking about sex.

hmmmm, I am speechless........



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thread for married people....

This is really a good write up. What money can't do, good love making can do it perfectly well. Lack of good sex has caused so many marriages and even many good relationships. I rest my case

8 out of 10 women, 8 out of 10 men, how many people did you poll and what age range?

Fact is most people are "set in their sexual ways" by the time they marry or by the time they get into a long term relationship. Only very few are ready to change. Most are sexually selfish. The man focuses on orgasm. women not ready to break sweat (stay in the least energy consuming position).

Of late religious hypocrisy has come on top. You see questions on forums like: does the Bible allow giving a head? Is doggy not too animalistic for a born again Christian?
Like WTF!

Some who had a bad/violent sex experience may never fully enjoy sex again, let alone satisfy the partner.

santopelele:
OP, what is the best natural sexual enhancer that can makes me give it to my girl for like 1hour without yhuu?

Google it.

Obodo999:
The 'tone' is the wonder of 'copy and paste' plagiarize.

Lol!...my romance threads are 200% original from start to finish...fresh from my brain.

Appliedmaths:
Why do I have a feeling that 80% of the people giving us conc sexual advice here aren't married.

Nairalanders and marriage talks...sho mo age mi ni?

Ishilove:
I'm not married so I cannot answer how married couples can improve their sex life. I'm also here to learn too

But like the op has pointed out, communication is the key. I'm a bit shy discussing sexual matters but with this op, I will TRY to loosen up a bit.

*clears throat*

Emm, arakurin, hang me like this, I like it

Bend me that way, I may like it

Ogbeni, I hope your 'fere' is like cucumber?

Honey mi, you must do 'snake in the monkey shadow', plus helicopter style, I hear it is great for burning calories and achieving Heavenly feeling on time

2 years later.. Are you married?

freeage7:
OP, please are you married?

Kilode to fe ma underrate mi?
Ogbeni “sho mo age mi ni?”
malo phensic fun headache mi..

Somethings are better left as fantasy,what if you ask her and she said 3some would you oblige her?

Are you a Psycho the rapist?oops I meant psychotherapist.

OP you are wrong. You have to understand that many people have varied upbringing. For some its a taboo to try anything strange in the bedroom with your spouse, for some others all those sexual adventures is for girlfriends and boyfriends. Wife or hubby must be respected and treated with dignity even in the bedroom.
For the born again they will tell you their own side of the story that they can never use the same mouth they use to pray to God to put anywhere. So you see that your analogy does not apply to all as a matter of fact, sexual experiments would only come in if the two people are two of a kind, anything short of that is ticket to trouble in the home. A wife is not a girlfriend she must be treated and handled with respect same for a husband. Even if such happened while they were dating after you become a family some fetishes must go away, that's what makes the difference.

plendil:
gini bu "flute"?

whistle blower

WORDWORLD:
Another Nice thread Toks 

SO, IS SEX, INHERENTLY EVIL?

The relevance of this question to Christianity  makes it very clear why sexual perversion and carnal culture and oppression of women reigns supreme in the Western world in particular.

About three centuries after Apostle Paul, came a theologian known as St. Augustine. Like his predecessor, he believed that sex was a threat to spiritual uplifitment even in marriage. He believed that sex is INHERENTLY EVIL and taught so to his followers.

In The City of God, St. Augustine says: "Man's trangression (i.e Adam and Eve's sin) did not annual the blessing of fertility bestowed upon him before he sinned, BUT INFECTED IT WITH THE DISEASE OF LUST"

Such a verse as "Behold, I was brought forth in INIQUITY AND IN SIN my mother conceived me" PSALMS 51:5, is mostly quoted to supportting that SEX even in matrimony is inherently a sin.

"I know nothing which brings the manly mind down from the heights more than a woman's caresses and that joining of bodies without which one cannot have a wife". St. Augustine.

Sexual intercourse was transformed from something innocent to something shameful by the original sin of Adam and Eve, which is taught as a doctrine that has passed from generation to generation. Instead of sex to be understood as NATURE which should be harness RESPONSIBLY THROUGH CULTURE, in the institution called marriage without guilt. Sex is made a SIN altogether even in matrimony according to these doctrines of men of 'God'.  So for generations we have been made to living in GUILT while performing what is as natural as the air that we breath. We have been fighting against ourself and the results has been all kinds of sexual attrocities.

Is it a 'SIN' the nocturnal emmission during sleep known as WET DREAMS at such an early INNOCENT age experienced particularly by boys world wide, Africa, Asia, America, Europe.............? Is this nocturnal emission as a result of lust, fantasy at such an early innocent age or pornography in our today's sorry state or its no more than natures programming called PUBERTY? 

The story of Adam and Eve in the Bible is infact 'A' to EVIL. It has succeeded in programing men's SUBCONSCIOUSNESS right from childhood to degrade women through the indoctrination of the FORBIDDEN FRUIT. This view of degradation of women a root from the Bible is firmly supported by a lot of scholars who have cared to explore our FUNDAMENTAL SOCIETAL THOUGHTS. Such a scholar as Amit Kumar, Author of the book Fundamental of Social Thoughts which in a chapter, THE FEMINIST SOCIAL THOUGHT you read as thus: " Feminist social thought traces at least as far back as the 'women controversy' of the 17th century. Caught up in debates over the first two creation stories presented in the Book of Genesis, certain Christian patriarchal interpretations of human nature understood WOMEN to be IMMORAL and DECEPTIVE.

Women are veiwed as accomplice of EVIL, for having being the 'one' according to the Bible responsible for the fall of man. Eve was said to be the one who seduced her husband Adam to eating the forbidden fruit after she had danced to the seductive whispers of the serpent who adviced her to doing so. Hence, women are regared as EVIL themselves for having befriended the serpent to listen to it. They are percieved as no more than a creature for MAN'S OWN PLEASURE, HIS PROPERTY to be used and abused and thrown away like a banana peel. As if punishing women for being responsible for the down fall of man, Adam who also had a mouth he could have used to say NO to Eve but instead used that very same mouth for devouring the forbidden fruit. It wasn't Eve who brought about his being exited from the garden of Eden but his own FOOLISHNESS.

The story is narrated in Genesis 2:4-3:24. God prohibited both of them, Adam and Eve from eating the fruits of the forbidden tree. The serpent seduced Eve to eat from it and Eve, in turn seduced Adam to eat with her. When God rebuked Adam of what he did, he put all the blame on Eve.

"The woman you put here with me she gave me some fruit from the tree and I ate it".

To Adam, God said: "Because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree........cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat of it all the days of your life".

The indoctrination from early childhood in Christianity of the concept of Adam blaming Eve for seducing him to eating the forbbiden fruit which resulted his being cursed and both chased out of felicity as been A MAJOR CONTRIBUTING FACTOR TO UNEQUAL TREATMENT OF WOMEN IN CHRISTIAN LANDS,TO THE POINT OF OPPRESSING WOMEN. The Western world being my emphasis because of Christianity and where the stench homosexualism and the right to same sex marriage is very strong.

And what is the out-come today for men's maltreament of women due to this 'EVIL EVE' mentality over centuries gone by?

The most radical movement in recent times is born, further responsible in part for bringing our whole social structure down and bleeding in particular the HOME. This movement is the FEMINIST MOVEMENT popularly known as a drive for women's liberation but UNQUALIFIED.

Without derailing, one of the choices the pseudo feminist seek is to make socially acceptable LESBIANISM. "Lesbianism is a road to FREEDOM, FREEDOM from oppression by men and for SEXUAL SATISFACTION" says the pseudo feminist who are RADICALS. In TRUTH women are not getting their FULL share when it comes to sexual intercourse with a man. Most are just managing!!! Yet is not a reason to becoming a SICKO, lesbian. NOT AN EXCUSE AT ALL.

The problem is quite deep.

This qualifies for a good Doctoral Thesis in sociology or Theology. �

I hope to hear from women(not girls pls).

5 to 6 inches fully erect?

What is a man doing with that

Mine's 7 inches fully erect.

Sex is over rated

mrhansome12:
communication can work wonders but sometimes you find it difficult to convince the religious folks to be open even in marriage many of them still see sex as sin, getting married to such person can be frustrating because he or she will not satisfy you and see no reason to.

Shut up there!
Yanyanyan talking anyhow!
Is Toks not religious?

abike12:
8 out of 10 women, 8 out of 10 men, how many people did you poll and what age range?

My wonderful woman hates mouth action. I myself can't imagine how my anointed Mouth that preaches the Holy Gospel would be perverted with such end time satanically popularized perversion. For those that know, finger does it fantastically better than tongue. Humans are not snakes, cunnilingus was originally satanic sex ritual performed by Satanists and later popularized to spread subtle initiation; "Where Purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable" The Bible says "the enemy has done this" He planted these abnormal sexual behaviors among our GOD-given normal sexual behaviors. With my finger expertise of her clitoral and gspot stimulation, she climaxes and have multiple with Orgasms before I even start...

5minsmadness:
When u lack sexual satisfaction in matrimony

As a man this can be very frustrating. The woman you knew that was very sexually active premaritally suddenly develops cold feet after marriage. She relaxes and loses her sexiness. She talks of being tired all the time and you as the man is turned into a houseboy doing all you can around the house to please madam and make sure she is well rested so you can get down to business in the bedroom later in the day. Most women still don't find this effort by the man enough and use the opportunity to take advantage of their husbands and use sex in blackmailing them (if u can't do so and so then we can't have sex). This is a man that is used to having sex three times a week and suddenly finds himself settling for it once or twice a month.

Men are sexual beings. Sex is a major part of our repertoire. If it wasn't so you wouldn't see so many cases of infidelity on the part of the man. Sex is important, very important to us. Sex is food. And if the wife denies him this meal he gets angry, irritable, commandeering and cold. A religious man will try and keep himself in check by practicing holiness, but you will always notice the bitter undertones in all the things he does. The grumpiness, the sadness, distancing himself away from the wife and choosing to watch TV instead, etc. A carnal man(for want of a better word) will simply take his business elsewhere. He will find sex either in porn.ogra.phy and mast.urb.ation (and the wife catches him one day and starts wondering where he learnt the bad habit from). Or he learns how to frequent prostitutes. Or he has an affair and if he doesn't get caught he goes on to have many other affairs all in a bid to satiate the sexual hunger within him. Even those that get caught if the situation in the house isn't rectified they harden thier hearts and become more daring in thier escapades.

I know women will come here and start screaming self control and how they know "millions" of men who practice such. Let's be honest, that's a lie, you don't know up to 10 men you can bet your life on that are faithful to thier wives, not even pastors. Sexual hunger is hard for us men. We need all the help we can get in controlling it.


So if you are a married woman reading this, don't starve your husband of sex. Satiating your husband is wonderful when done in love but if you can't do it in love at least see it as a duty. It will keep him sane, less prone to outside temptation fron your female gender whom he meets everyday and who by the way smell of roses, less irritable and more compliant to your wishes.

End of part 1.

Man you just spoke the real truth and I'm guessing you're talking from experience. the op's writeup is somewhat idealistic in thinking that women want to be physically pleasured the same way a man wants in the bedroom. maybe they do initially but when we start to pressure them constantly, they too would need something to rationalize the effort they are putting into it.

at the outset, I had a hard time trying to understand why the same woman that will wake you up severally at night to have fun would all of a sudden turn a cold feet. but I later figured it has to do with men not having self control when it comes to issues of sex cos of the way we are biologically designed.

whoever desires sex the most in a relationship would usually tend to turn off the other party. its like being offered ur best meal as you're getting out of bed, then once again in the shower and another one as you are about to leave the house. it could be fun in the beginning but with time, this feeling could be replaced by resentment if it becomes the routine. its like the same feeling I get when I'm constantly being asked to provide money.

I find that my best relationships are the ones where the girl has to come and go from time to time. but once we enter cohabitation of any sort, the sex would usually dry up, except when she starts to get jealous or feel threatened by another female or I'm fully providing her needs. maybe cohabitation kills passion or something. I don't know but the passion always tends to burn out.

BackToLife:
My wonderful woman hates mouth action. I myself can't imagine how my anointed Mouth that preaches the Holy Gospel would be perverted with such end time satanically popularized perversion. For those that know, finger does it fantastically better than tongue. Humans are not snakes, cunnilingus was originally satanic sex ritual performed by Satanists and later popularized to spread subtle initiation; "Where Purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable" The Bible says "the enemy has done this" He planted these abnormal sexual behaviors among our GOD-given normal sexual behaviors. With my finger expertise of her clitoral and gspot stimulation, she climaxes and have multiple with Orgasms before I even start...

Why use finger if you condemn mouth? Should that not be bad Too?

odikwa serious

mrhansome12:
communication can work wonders but sometimes you find it difficult to convince the religious folks to be open even in marriage many of them still see sex as sin, getting married to such person can be frustrating because he or she will not satisfy you and see no reason to.

It's only for procreation abi.

tesppidd:
5 to 6 inches fully erect?

What is a man doing with that

Mine's 7 inches fully erect.

Lol! I know someone that has over 7inches when erect but I'm referring to the average erection size.

Hmmmm

We that left Enugu to come and hustle in the north to risk our lives, I don't think touching and not touching is an issue.

hmm

Toks2008:
Why use finger if you condemn mouth? Should that not be bad Too?

Do you mind them. Most guys will say this nonsense because they know that they will get their own s*exual satisfaction regardless of oral; afterall the traditional way of having sex was for procreation and to satisfy the lust and desires of men. That is why so many women in marriages today have never had an o*rgasm. They believe s*ex is just something a man does to a woman and thats why most women still think having sex with a man is being "used", cause the women don't enjoy the encounter which makes the experience painful and uncomfortable for them. If you as a man have to beg your woman for sex at any time, then clearly the woman does not look forward to having s*ex with you which means YOU are a bad s*exual partner. Sex should be natural, exciting, engaging, pleasurable and consensual and there should be no begging, force or excruciating pain involved. Some men and women still think p*enis size matters when in reality, the size of whatever is in between a mans legs means nothing if he does not understand a womans body. Most married men don't even know what their wife's private looks like. For them, a vagin*a is just somewhere that gets occasional visits whenever his p*enis is erect. Some men are totally engrossed in satisfying their own sexual needs. They will pound and bang as if he were having intercourse with a non-feeling person or an animal." I blame the women most times as they themselves have even come to accept lack of sexual satisfaction as something that is ACCEPTABLE. No, as far as I am concerned, any sexual encounter between a man and a woman which only satisfies one person at the expense of the other is RAPE. So my dear women, if your husband ejaculat*es and can not bring you to climax, thats RAPE happening right there. If you're experiencing excruciating pain instead of pleasure from start to finish, and the pain is not caused by some medical condition, you are being raped, PERIOD. That is why most women feel "used" after sex, because their sexual needs are never met during sexual encounters. This also explains why many married women withhold sex from their husbands every now and then, because since there is no pleasure in it for her, her body can now become a bargaining chip to get what she wants out of a man and this is very SAD!!

What a shame, and these sort of men call themselves "husbands". Ordinary to Satisfy your own wife and some men are busy quoting bible scriptures as if the bible said "Husbands, dont sexually satisfy your wife in the bedroom". Hope one day, Nigerians will stop using the bible as a defence for their own personal choice, preference and beliefs. If you leave Nigerians, they will even say corruption and stealing is scriptural.

OP..you are a good sex therapist!
More grace!!

Toks2008:
This is one aspect of marriage many people don't usually discuss and many marriage counselors deliberately shy away from but unfortunately this is one area that is so important in keeping the marital bond strong and pleasurable.

Satisfying your spouse sexually is very important if you want him/her to respect you and this has nothing to do with how rich you are or how caring you are. If you are a man or woman who fails to treat your spouse well in the room then you have failed woefully in marriage.

FOR THE MARRIED MAN

You must first sit your wife down and ask her to tell you what turns her on, how she loves to be touched and stop assuming you are a super man. Every woman has different sexual preference and until you know exactly what she wants, you just might be fooling yourself thinking you are doing the right thing for many years.

Ladies can be shy so as a man you really need to make her tell you what she wants in the bedroom and as a woman, don't hold back, tell him exactly your fantasies without any fear.

As a man you must understand that no part of your wife's body is sacred and understand that within the confines of marriage, you have access to explore all her nooks and crannies without inhibitions. If your wife loves mouth action then please her with that, even if she wants the unconventional type of intimacy then oblige her. Note that you are her husband and if you deny her what she loves then where else do you want her to get it?

8 out of every 10 ladies love oral but they are usually shy to tell a rigid hubby and keeping mum over sexual matters is the reason why many ladies in their entire years of marriage will never experience true sexual satisfaction and many ladies don't even know that they also climax as men do simply because their husband is the rigid type. Every man must make it a duty to please his wife so that he will be respected and cherished by her.

FOR THE MARRIED WOMAN;

Have you ever taken time out to ask your husband what turns him on the most about your body and try to flaunt that the more? Have you ever asked your husband how he enjoys been touched?

You may not believe this,but every man has a crazy fantasy no matter how spiritual they can be. Most married men want a bad girl in the bedroom and i mean real bad girl. Leave your sister Mary nature anytime you get inside the room and make him beg for more.

Every part of your husband's body belongs to you, play with it as you like. Many men want their flute blown so don't see this as a sin or sacred but make his head spin and make him long for you wherever he may be and get him addicted to you because men love sex a lot and any woman that gives them a fantastic one will always have them hooked.

Many women make this silly mistake and this is very important to understand. GOD in his infinite wisdom has made it possible that a man with a short flute can give you the greatest pleasure you can imagine and that is why he deliberately placed the pleasure zone of every woman just 3 inches from the opening of her goody bag and what your hubby needs is to understand the type of positions that will make him stimulate that zone.

8 out of every 10 men you see have an average erect flute size of 5 to 6 inches and believe me even a 4 inch flute can give you great satisfaction if the man understands what to do so stop your foolish fantasy of being with a man that has an abnormal flute size that may cause more pain to you than pleasure. What is the use of having access to a flute that your porch can't accommodate easily so no matter the size of your husband's flute, you can make the best use of it. If a short thin finger can pleasure you then a thin short sized flute will do better so stop your baseless fantasy about a bigger flute and make the best out of what your hubby has.

Lets stop depriving ourselves of intimate pleasures as married men and women. Sex is meant to be enjoyed in any way and any form within the confines of marriage so explore it and enjoy your bedroom activities to the max.

For the sexually timid spouse i will advice that you take your second half serious if he or she complains of sexual dissatisfaction else you may lose such to another person.

Don't allow your wife or husband fantasize about another person because not satisfying your spouse sexually is marital unfaithfullness which is a sin and a good ground for divorce..please adjust.

Hope this helps.

lindabon:
Do you mind them. Most guys will say this nonsense because they know that they will get their own s*exual satisfaction regardless of oral. So many women in marriages today have never had an o*rgasm. They believe s*ex is just something a man does to a woman and thats why most women still think having sex with a man is being "used", cause the women don't enjoy the encounter. Some men and women still think p*enis size matters when in reality, the size of whatever is in between a mans legs means nothing if he does not understand a womans body. Most married men don't even know what their wives private looks like. For them, a vagin*a is just somewhere that gets occasional visits whenever his p*enis is erect. Some men are totally engrossed in satisfying their own sexual needs. They will pound and bang as if he were having intercourse with a non-feeling person or an animal." I blame the women most times as they themselves have even come to accept lack of sexual satisfaction as something that is ACCEPTABLE. No, as far as an concerned, any sexual encounter between a man and a woman which only satisfies one person at the expense of the other is RAPE.
What a shame, and these sort of men call themselves "husbands". Ordinary to Satisfy your own wife and some men are busy quoting bible scriptures as if the bible said "Husbands, dont sexually satify your wive in the bedroom". Hope one day, Nigerians will stop using the bible as as defence for their own personal choices and beliefs. If you leave Nigerians, they will even say corruption and stealing is scriptural.

Interesting and insightful too.Nice one.

Yes it is Jamb question.
A. Yes
B. Broke
C. Ladies scarce
D. No
E. Getting married soon

Toks2008:
Jamb question.