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OZAOEKPE:
Y insult me, did I insult dbanj.....

Now ask yourself how a one year old child got to the pool and no one was around... He no they see other celebs they watch their kids.

your level of reasoning is so low ! You accuse someone of using his child for ritual and say you didn’t insult him ?

BAILMONEY:
IF YOU KNOW YOU KNOW. RITUAL THINGS

because you are poor and don’t know the way to make money does not mean other people do rituals to make money ! - I understand sha , claiming people who are successful do money ritual makes you feel less responsible for not being successful ! In short you are poor because you don’t want to kill somebody for ritual ? Lol ! Where where you when Dbanj was paying his dues ? When he was working from the bottom to make his money ? Go and ask for advice on business ideas from someone who is successful instead of deceiving yourself about people doing “ money rituals “

Doctee:
them do come again o

these are people who havnt made it in life so they don’t understand how someone else is making it - therefore it must be Illuminati or money ritual !

NOETHNICITY:
Just too bad. I feel like killing whoever is responsible for this

Just a poor innoceent baby paid the price of someone else's negligence.

Adefemiaderoju1:
If the boy is in care of nanny then its a different case and the government has to hold the nanny responsible for that but if the parent are at home and such things occur then the parent has to face the consequences

That's my point exactly.

Seahawk:
See how all of you are being judgmental of grieving parents

If any of you have kids, you will know that it only takes a split second for toddlers to get themselves in trouble.

How anyone can judge them right now is beyond me.

Accidents happen and we call them accidents because they come unexpected.

RIP little ANGEL.

safarigirl:
D'banj and his wife ought to be arrested and sued for negligence.

This is why this country is terrible.

And he even has the guts to come to Instagram and be telling us about trying times, his head is not correct. In a country with a working legal system, he would be chilling in jail by now alongside his wife.

They think parenthood is about taking pictures and looking cute for the gram? I hope this has taught them a grave lesson

I swear, I'm pissed at this boy's death because it should never have happened

I live in a country with a working legal system and I know a family who suffered the same. They are not rotting in jail.
Have you got children? It was an accident. Accidents come unexpected. Hundreds of children drown every summer. They don't make a sound when they are drowning. Next time think before you comment. You don't know what life has in store for you and trust me, you can't control everything.

safarigirl:
go out and fend for who? Now that the child is dead, who has the fending helped?

For the family of course. Or, is that not how it is everywhere, from Nigeria to USA? And yes of course, the child is dead but the family still exists.

Some toddlers are more attached to their fathers, a child is naturally more attached to whoever is most present in their lives.

My point exactly. And it is mostly the mothers, from Nigeria to China to Saudi Arabia to the end of the world.

Since most fathers have decided that they will be the absent parents, then by all means, the child will be attached to the mother

They didn't decide, that's how nature structured it unless we're subtly challenging the nature.

Parenting is a full time job on both parts.

Doesn't necessarily need to be. They, including the kid won't be eating sands and grasses

Mothers also have to go to work like fathers most times

Not in all cases. Most especially when the husband's income is more than enough and both both parents agree on one working, the other taking care of the household. Unless we're talking about feminism here. I'm not talking about Nollywood or Hollywood, I'm talking about what I have seen in many homes.

so, your point is moot

Whatever

Mindfulness:
I live in a country with a working legal system and I know a family who suffered the same. They are not rotting in jail.
Have you got children? It was an accident. Accidents come unexpected. Hundreds of children drown every summer. They don't make a sound when they are drowning. Next time think before you comment. You don't know what life has in store for you and trust me, you can't control everything.

we don't know how the child died

The latest reports say he and his mother drowned. How?

Please, leave me and my vex. I am angry at the sheer carelessness of it all. I already stated how vexed I am, so, excuse me if I am not saying what you would agree with.

I have lived with four babies, four good babies, so, I know what I am talkih about as far as child care goes. It is called an accident because it should not have happened under normal circumstances.

Allow me vent.

safarigirl:
we don't know how the child died

The latest reports say he and his mother drowned. How?

Please, leave me and my vex. I am angry at the sheer carelessness of it all. I already stated how vexed I am, so, excuse me if I am not saying what you would agree with.

I have lived with four babies, four good babies, so, I know what I am talkih about as far as child care goes. It is called an accident because it should not have happened under normal circumstances.

Allow me vent.

And you think we parents with full time jobs and responsibilities don't?

safarigirl:
we don't know how the child died

The latest reports say he and his mother drowned. How?

Please, leave me and my vex. I am angry at the sheer carelessness of it all. I already stated how vexed I am, so, excuse me if I am not saying what you would agree with.

I have lived with four babies, four good babies, so, I know what I am talkih about as far as child care goes. It is called an accident because it should not have happened under normal circumstances.

Allow me vent.

No reason to take out your anger on grieving parents. It could have happened to ALL of us.

oyb:
And you think we parents with full time jobs and responsibilities don't?

would you have an indoor pool in your house?

Mindfulness:
How anyone can judge them right now is beyond me.

Accidents happen and we call them accidents because they come unexpected.

RIP little ANGEL.

nairalanders are super insensitive. I’m not even surprised

Seahawk:
nairalanders are super insensitive. I’m not even surprised

Attacks on parents in grief takes the cake.

Yes ‘cause you probably love the boy more than his parents did. FOH with your self righteousness and stop making this about you.

safarigirl:
we don't know how the child died

The latest reports say he and his mother drowned. How?

Please, leave me and my vex. I am angry at the sheer carelessness of it all. I already stated how vexed I am, so, excuse me if I am not saying what you would agree with.

I have lived with four babies, four good babies, so, I know what I am talkih about as far as child care goes. It is called an accident because it should not have happened under normal circumstances.

Allow me vent.

safarigirl:
would you have an indoor pool in your house?

In the countries you were talking about with a working legal system it is very normal to have an indoor pool or a pool in your backyard. Please, I understand you are upset but what the parents feel now is much worse than what you feel.

BAILMONEY:
OGA FORGET, D'BANJ DON USE THAT KID AS A SACRIFICIAL LAMB

Ridiculously dumb

Just shut up

Oh my goodness

Do you know the woman or why they got married?

Goodness gracious. You people are something else

Mudley313:
As a busy man, D'banj most probably would have not been around when this happened, but let's wait and see for full details. For now, I'm believing the young pretty ajebutter half-caste wife would have been the one responsible for looking after the kid. This why just marrying just becos of beauty even when the person is not fully matured/responsible enough to be mother of a home can be risky

Seahawk:
Yes ‘cause you probably love the boy more than his parents did. FOH with your self righteousness and stop making this about you.

I am not using your data to vent and I am not venting in your face, so bury your head in D'banj's asshole if you don't want to see my post.

Nonsense

safarigirl:
would you have an indoor pool in your house?

Every house has hazards. When my son was one,He got onto my workdesk, picked the bottle of spirit from the shelf, opened it and tried to drink it.

We were scared shirtless as methylated spirit will make you go blind. However it was too bitter so he did not swallow.

A friends baby was at our house and she somehow wound up trying to eat rusted battery fragments. We could not even figure where the fragments came from. Her mother, who had been childless for 8 years before, was freaking out.

Sometimes it's a kid running into something sharp. Every one of them has fallen off the bed at one time or another.

Blink and your toddler us trying to pull out a plug, eating a broomstick, smearing and eating body cream ...

Mindfulness:
In the countries you were talking about with a working legal system it is very normal to have an indoor pool or a pool in your backyard. Please, I understand you are upset but what the parents feel now is much worse than what you feel.

of course they feel worse. They should feel worse, their marriage may not even survive the loss because couples who lose a child like this rarely survive such a loss.

At least I am not ranting on D'banj's page. He is beating himself enough wherever he is, I am just ranting and venting in one corner. There is no crime in doing that.

Mindfulness:
No reason to take out your anger on grieving parents. It could have happened to ALL of us.

Speak for yourself bro...it couldn't have happened to all of us. If i have swimming pool like that, the key to the gates would be in a vault.

safarigirl:
I am not using your data to vent and I am not venting in your face, so bury your head in D'banj's asshole if you don't want to see my post.

Nonsense

Mtchew

wonlasewonimi:
Speak for yourself bro...it couldn't have happened to all of us. If i have swimming pool like that, the key to the gates would be in a vault.

Why children drown
Summer seems to bring a rash of tragedies: young lives lost at the beach, in the pool, even in a backyard wading pool. Here's how to make sure it doesn't happen to your family.

It was the last day of school. Gabriele Tar and her four kids were standing around their kitchen table in Markham, Ont., revelling in the excitement of two months of impending freedom. Mike, 14, and Kathy, 11, peppered their mom with questions about coming summer fun. “When can we go to Canada’s Wonderland? Are we going to the cottage soon?“ Stevie, almost three, and 18-month-old Krissy were trying to be part of the excitement they couldn’t quite understand.

Suddenly, something clicked on Tar’s mom-radar: “Where’s Krissy?” The toddler had been at her feet a minute ago.

Unable to see her, Tar started calling. At this point, she wasn’t thinking about the backyard pool. There were only two ways to get out there, a back door that was always locked and the big patio door just over a metre from where Tar stood. It was too heavy for Krissy to open by herself. Thinking she might have gone to raid her big sister’s gumball machine, Tar headed upstairs. Just in case, she sent Mike to check the front yard and told Kathy to look in the backyard. Tar was at the top of the stairs when she heard Kathy scream.

She doesn’t remember how she got down the stairs, out the door or into the pool. All she remembers is being in the water beside her daughter, who was floating face down. She pulled Krissy out of the pool and, yelling for Mike to call 911 (which he was already doing), ran with her limp body into the dining room, laid her on the carpet and started to administer infant CPR.

“Remember what you learned at Monique’s, Mom,” Kathy said. (Tar and her husband, Stephen, had recently completed an infant CPR course at a friend’s house.) Tar’s tears fell onto Krissy’s dripping body as she did compressions on the tiny chest.

Unlike some stories, this one has a happy ending. Within a few minutes, Krissy started to moan. By that time, Mike was on the phone with firefighters, who were on their way. “They need to talk to you, Mom,” he said. Mike — who had learned rescue techniques at swimming lessons and would later receive an award for his actions that day — took over, moving Krissy into the recovery position. He rolled her on her side, chin raised to keep the airway open, upper leg bent at the knee, hand under the head. Krissy coughed up a bit of water and started to breathe…and scream.

Each year, dozens of families experience a similar horror. On average, 63 Canadian children under the age of 15 drown each year; nine are toddlers who die in a backyard pool. The Canadian Institute for Health Information estimates that for every one of them, there are six to 10 like Krissy, who have a close call.

Fifteen years after that day, Gabriele and Stephen Tar still ask themselves why their daughter was spared. Krissy came home from hospital the next day. She was fine. But the family couldn’t face reminders of the near tragedy. Gabriele threw Krissy’s pink bathing suit in a hospital garbage bin. The curtains on the patio door remained closed for days. “It was a long time before we used the pool again…before we could even go in the yard,” Stephen recalls.

Stephen had raced from the golf course to the hospital after receiving a pager message, not knowing if his daughter was dead or alive. He now believes a combination of things saved Krissy’s life. One was Gabriele’s inexplicable mother’s instinct, which kicked in just in time. From the toddler’s rapid recovery, doctors estimated that she was only unconscious between 30 seconds and two minutes. After three minutes of oxygen deprivation, brain cells start to die. Neurological damage and death are not far behind.

Secondly, family members knew what to do: Gabriele’s CPR training was fresh in her mind, and Mike knew to put her in the recovery position. The third factor was Krissy’s age, which might explain why she experienced a “dry” drowning — when a laryngeal spasm closes the throat so no water goes into the lungs, only the throat. This can happen at any age, but it is more common in young children. A dry drowning can still kill you — you can’t breathe and pass out from the lack of oxygen. But victims who revive are less likely to suffer lasting damage.
It’s not as if we don’t know how quickly water can kill and that children have to be supervised closely any time they are near the water. We know that kids should wear life jackets in boats and that pools have to be fenced and gated securely. Stephen and Gabriele Tar knew all that stuff. Their back door was locked, as always, that day Krissy fell in the pool. And Gabriele and the older kids were steps away from the sliding patio door, which was normally kept closed (and was too heavy for a toddler to open), but must have been Krissy’s route to the pool. Still, the unthinkable happened. “We thought we were good parents,” says Stephen. “We watched our kids, even Mike and Kathy who could swim. This is proof that it can happen to anybody.”

He’s right. In a single moment, somebody turns his head, a child becomes curious and slips away, or a tot trips and falls near water. A family’s world changes forever.

It all seems to lead to a single safety message repeated over and over again: Watch them, stay close, watch them, stay close. However, parental supervision is not foolproof. A study by the US-based National Safe Kids Campaign found that 83 percent of children who drowned were in the care of an adult at the time. Here are several key pitfalls of adult supervision to watch out for.

https://www.todaysparent.com/family/family-health/why-children-drown/

You're welcome.

oyb:
Every house has hazards. When my son was one,He got onto my workdesk, picked the bottle of spirit from the shelf, opened it and tried to drink it.

We were scared shirtless as methylated spirit will make you go blind. However it was too bitter so he did not swallow.

A friends baby was at our house and she somehow wound up trying to eat rusted battery fragments. We could not even figure where the fragments came from. Her mother, who had been childless for 8 years before, was freaking out.

Sometimes it's a kid running into something sharp. Every one of them has fallen off the bed at one time or another.

Blink and your toddler us trying to pull out a plug, eating a broomstick, smearing and eating body cream ...

I have seen all these things, you are not saying anything that is alien to me

My little brother was once burnt with by water when he tipped over a flask.

I burnt my hand as a child......once with fire and another time with hot oil. I nearly drowned at a beach once when I was nine years old

Like I said, nothing being said here is new to me, but it does not matter how many times it happens or who it happens to, it is still annoying when it happens and there is always the need to blame someone even when it happens as an accident. I have not gotten to that point of "everything happens for a reason".... I still dey venting stage.

Do you understand this much?

Exactly.
Only people who don’t have kids make the types of insensitive judgmental posts I’ve been reading on this thread.

My child will take off into the road like lightening, the moment I unbuckle her car seat and set her down to bring out other stuff form the car.
So I’ve learned to strain my one hand in holding her while using one hand to do everything else I need to do.

You can’t even set her down inside so that you can go out to bring in the other stuff from your car. She will be standing on the island or whatever highest point she can find in the house by the time you come back in. Very ready to fall and break her neck if you don’t catch her in time.

Just one tiny example.

Children can get in trouble in a 10th of second and it’s wise to reserve judgement until we know what happened to this poor baby.

oyb:
Every house has hazards. When my son was one,He got onto my workdesk, picked the bottle of spirit from the shelf, opened it and tried to drink it.

We were scared shirtless as methylated spirit will make you go blind. However it was too bitter so he did not swallow.

A friends baby was at our house and she somehow wound up trying to eat rusted battery fragments. We could not even figure where the fragments came from. Her mother, who had been childless for 8 years before, was freaking out.

Sometimes it's a kid running into something sharp. Every one of them has fallen off the bed at one time or another.

Blink and your toddler us trying to pull out a plug, eating a broomstick, smearing and eating body cream ...

Mindfulness:
Why children drown
Summer seems to bring a rash of tragedies: young lives lost at the beach, in the pool, even in a backyard wading pool. Here's how to make sure it doesn't happen to your family.

It was the last day of school. Gabriele Tar and her four kids were standing around their kitchen table in Markham, Ont., revelling in the excitement of two months of impending freedom. Mike, 14, and Kathy, 11, peppered their mom with questions about coming summer fun. “When can we go to Canada’s Wonderland? Are we going to the cottage soon?“ Stevie, almost three, and 18-month-old Krissy were trying to be part of the excitement they couldn’t quite understand.

Suddenly, something clicked on Tar’s mom-radar: “Where’s Krissy?” The toddler had been at her feet a minute ago.

Unable to see her, Tar started calling. At this point, she wasn’t thinking about the backyard pool. There were only two ways to get out there, a back door that was always locked and the big patio door just over a metre from where Tar stood. It was too heavy for Krissy to open by herself. Thinking she might have gone to raid her big sister’s gumball machine, Tar headed upstairs. Just in case, she sent Mike to check the front yard and told Kathy to look in the backyard. Tar was at the top of the stairs when she heard Kathy scream.

She doesn’t remember how she got down the stairs, out the door or into the pool. All she remembers is being in the water beside her daughter, who was floating face down. She pulled Krissy out of the pool and, yelling for Mike to call 911 (which he was already doing), ran with her limp body into the dining room, laid her on the carpet and started to administer infant CPR.

“Remember what you learned at Monique’s, Mom,” Kathy said. (Tar and her husband, Stephen, had recently completed an infant CPR course at a friend’s house.) Tar’s tears fell onto Krissy’s dripping body as she did compressions on the tiny chest.

Unlike some stories, this one has a happy ending. Within a few minutes, Krissy started to moan. By that time, Mike was on the phone with firefighters, who were on their way. “They need to talk to you, Mom,” he said. Mike — who had learned rescue techniques at swimming lessons and would later receive an award for his actions that day — took over, moving Krissy into the recovery position. He rolled her on her side, chin raised to keep the airway open, upper leg bent at the knee, hand under the head. Krissy coughed up a bit of water and started to breathe…and scream.

Each year, dozens of families experience a similar horror. On average, 63 Canadian children under the age of 15 drown each year; nine are toddlers who die in a backyard pool. The Canadian Institute for Health Information estimates that for every one of them, there are six to 10 like Krissy, who have a close call.

Fifteen years after that day, Gabriele and Stephen Tar still ask themselves why their daughter was spared. Krissy came home from hospital the next day. She was fine. But the family couldn’t face reminders of the near tragedy. Gabriele threw Krissy’s pink bathing suit in a hospital garbage bin. The curtains on the patio door remained closed for days. “It was a long time before we used the pool again…before we could even go in the yard,” Stephen recalls.

Stephen had raced from the golf course to the hospital after receiving a pager message, not knowing if his daughter was dead or alive. He now believes a combination of things saved Krissy’s life. One was Gabriele’s inexplicable mother’s instinct, which kicked in just in time. From the toddler’s rapid recovery, doctors estimated that she was only unconscious between 30 seconds and two minutes. After three minutes of oxygen deprivation, brain cells start to die. Neurological damage and death are not far behind.

Secondly, family members knew what to do: Gabriele’s CPR training was fresh in her mind, and Mike knew to put her in the recovery position. The third factor was Krissy’s age, which might explain why she experienced a “dry” drowning — when a laryngeal spasm closes the throat so no water goes into the lungs, only the throat. This can happen at any age, but it is more common in young children. A dry drowning can still kill you — you can’t breathe and pass out from the lack of oxygen. But victims who revive are less likely to suffer lasting damage.
It’s not as if we don’t know how quickly water can kill and that children have to be supervised closely any time they are near the water. We know that kids should wear life jackets in boats and that pools have to be fenced and gated securely. Stephen and Gabriele Tar knew all that stuff. Their back door was locked, as always, that day Krissy fell in the pool. And Gabriele and the older kids were steps away from the sliding patio door, which was normally kept closed (and was too heavy for a toddler to open), but must have been Krissy’s route to the pool. Still, the unthinkable happened. “We thought we were good parents,” says Stephen. “We watched our kids, even Mike and Kathy who could swim. This is proof that it can happen to anybody.”

He’s right. In a single moment, somebody turns his head, a child becomes curious and slips away, or a tot trips and falls near water. A family’s world changes forever.

It all seems to lead to a single safety message repeated over and over again: Watch them, stay close, watch them, stay close. However, parental supervision is not foolproof. A study by the US-based National Safe Kids Campaign found that 83 percent of children who drowned were in the care of an adult at the time. Here are several key pitfalls of adult supervision to watch out for.

https://www.todaysparent.com/family/family-health/why-children-drown/

You're welcome.

TL:DR

What I am trying to say is that dbanj and his wife are foolish for leaving that pool area open like that with a toddler in the house.

wonlasewonimi:
TL:DR

What I am trying to say is that dbanj and his wife are foolish for leaving that pool area open like that with a toddler in the house.

you need to give the guy a break.

there is a reason why there are professionals who design and install swimming pools, etc.
if i were to conduct a safety audit of your house, do you think you would pass muster?
do you have a designated fire escape route?
do you have functioning smoke alarms?
do you have panic buttons?
do you have multiple fire extinguishers
do you have ladders?
do you have the right clothes and gear for every task?

you may not even realise it, but babies have drowned in bathtubs

as i am writig this, my wife, who has been ignoring the health club subscription i purchased wants to revisit it because our last born 2 years july. loves water.

wonlasewonimi:
TL:DR

What I am trying to say is that dbanj and his wife are foolish for leaving that pool area open like that with a toddler in the house.

Ease up on being so judgemental, pls. No one prays to lose their child.

oyb:
you need to give the guy a break.

there is a reason why there are professionals who design and install swimming pools, etc.
if i were to conduct a safety audit of your house, do you think you would pass muster?
do you have a designated fire escape route?
do you have functioning smoke alarms?
do you have panic buttons?
do you have multiple fire extinguishers
do you have ladders?
do you have the right clothes and gear for every task?

you may not even realise it, but babies have drowned in bathtubs

as i am writig this, my wife, who has been ignoring the health club subscription i purchased wants to revisit it because our last born 2 years july. loves water.

Please oyb stop comparing all these to an open pool... The toddler would have wandered there so many times common sense should have told them to secure the area.

JupiterGeekVII:
Ease up on being so judgemental. No one prays to lose their child.

I have to be bro..

Lack of safety awareness is killing so many people in Nigeria. I'm still surprised there are few deaths caused by the marble floors they do in Nigeria. You see some stairs on nollywood movies and you if someone falls, they can't escape the mortuary.

wonlasewonimi:
I have to be bro..

Lack of safety awareness is killing so many people in Nigeria. I'm still surprised there are few deaths caused by the marble floors they do in Nigeria. You see some stairs on nollywood movies and you if someone falls, they can't escape the mortuary.

As a country, Nigeria itself is a hazard and we could be here all day blaming people left and right, but what would that solve? An effective way to raise awareness about its endless safety issues is to do so without blame. From the little time I've spent with my almost 2-yr old baby nephew, I know how curious little kids can be, so you've to keep an eye on them at ALL times. But I wasn't there when this happened to little Daniel D' Third and refuse to blame the parents. Besides, I bet they're blaming themselves, like any parents would when something unfortunate like this happens to their child, and this self-blame alone is going to affect them for a veeeery long time. Some of you on this site running your mouths don't need to add salt to injury by blaming them any further. Let them grieve in peace.