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There is this my brother, he has never been married. But now he said he has seen a woman he wants to marry.

But the problem is that his family members are not in support of the marriage because the woman is a divorcee with 3 kids under the age of 10. The kids live with the woman.

The question is, is it wise for this man to marry this woman and take responsibility of the kids because the woman says her kids must be with her.

If she was that good, why was she divorce?

milemimi93:
If she was that good, why was she divorce?

she claims that her ex is violent and a womanizer

it's wife, u are cultivating on a fertile soil ,

onyekabe:
she claims that her ex is violent and a womanizer

women always playin the victim card since 15BC.

And for the ex to leave the kids with her shows those kids do not belong to her ex.

it's wise, your bro is cultivating on a fertile soil ,

where were the family members when your bro was going through difficulties ?

my own be say, wetin a man see and run leaving his 3kids �

Abeg oh, 3 kids that's not his is plenty responsibility. He should look well and ask questions before venturing into such

Lol. You never sabi woman.

That’s a lot of responsibility for him to assume. Let him not get carried away by new love and get committed into responsibilities that will weigh heavily on him later.

That’s being said , if he has thoroughly searched his heart and he believes he’s doing this for the right reason (not infatuation) and that he can actually do it when it starts getting tough, then I can point out a few positives that I already see in the woman.

1)She’s brave to walk away from an abusive marriage with three kids. If she lives in Nigeria, she’s a really strong mama. That’s the kind of strong woman you want as an ally. On your side not against you.

2) she’s not desperate to hook up. some women because of societal pressures and mockery often latch onto the next guy that proposes marriage even if it means giving up their kids maybe to grand parents or relatives. This woman wants her kids with her or no marriage. Give her one bottle jimmy choo .

Lala is viewing

Haha
Your brother will go bald before age 45 with wahala

Egbon yen MA palori

Anybody can marry anybody.

It's not wise except you are also a divorcee.

Warn your brother against the dangers ahead of him

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So women have finished in the whole world so much so that you have to marry another man's wife, okwaya?

I raise yansh for you.

Love is limitless

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HMMMM THIS ONE STRONG OOO. HE HAS TO BE VERY CAREFUL.

onyekabe:
she claims that her ex is violent and a womanizer

have you seen any divorcée that says good about her ex husband? They tell same lines

It is wise go ahead

Wetin make them divorce na em you ho check first

African Americans don't really care about this as we do. It is not uncommon to see a man marrying a divorcee who has gotten 5 children from 4 different men. Yet you will see the man kneeling down with a ring and proposing to her. It happens the other way round too.

But here in Nigeria, it's quite different. Even a lady with a child won't find it too easy to get a man.

@op, try and analyze your emotion. I hope you have not tasted the puna because that can make an objective self-assessment difficult for you. Know why she is divorced. Are you willing to accept her children? Won't her children see you as rival? Ask many other questions.

If in the end you feel cool with the above, then go for her.

Love conquers all.

Your personal choice!

Not wise!

So many red flags waving!

a man that can take such a decision needs to be confident in his decision and sure of himself and not someone that listens to what people say (because people will have lots to say). not someone that is asking a brother to ask strangers on nairaland. so based on that alone, I'll say he needs to stay away from the woman and her innocent kids.

3 kids wawu responsibility buruku


Sorry I can’t .... one is a lot ...

Yoruba adage says: you approached an old chicken in the market to buy...had it been is of a good use... The owner wouldn't have sold it

So woman has finished in this world abi??

abike12:
a man that can take such a decision needs to be sure of himself. not someone that is asking a brother to ask strangers on nairaland. so based on that alone, I'll say he needs to stay away from the woman

Beautiful!
Hope he soaks this in