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Loveisascam:
My experience dating a 28 years old stupid boy - Age and place of employment does not necessarily mean maturity.

I and my bf have been friends online before we finally decided to meet. After meeting, we mutually decided to start dating.

Unknown to me my bf had shared me with two of his friends to tempt me. Friend 1 chatted me up but I didn't give him any attention so he stopped all conversations with me. Friend two chatted me up too but somehow he was able to get my attention. I however clearly told him I had a boyfriend and was not interested in any romantic relationship with him. He told me he didn't have any issues with it but that we could still be friends.

I am a very sincere and open person and so I told my bf about my friendship with Friend two. I usually share screenshots of my conversations with Friend two with my bf. I did not hide any thing from him because I had no intentions to cheat. I was very transparent.

Little did I know that my bf on the other hand was also busy sharing everything that has transpired between us including very sensitive information like our sexual styles, the state of my vagina and even my financial status with his friend.

My bf told friend two to stop the game and leave me alone. Friend two refused. According to him, he realised I was not the slut my boyfriend painted me to be and thought I will be a great catch for a girlfriend.

To discourage him, my bf started slandering me to him.He even went to the extent of telling his friend that
the last time I visited, he didn't enjoy the sex because my vagina was wide and that I had probably slept with some people before meeting him.

I had told friend two that the next time I visit my bf, I will endeavour to make arrangement so we can see too since him and bf stay in the same location. However on visiting my bf, I changed my mind and rather told him to visit my base if he really wants us to meet. He agreed to come around. I told my bf about my plan to meet friend two but didn't tell him that friend two had agreed to come to my base.

Friend two told my bf of his plan to come and visit me in my base and that finally he is going to have his way with me. My bf tried to discourage him from coming but he refused.

My bf was then forced to confess what he had done but told me not to let his friend know he has told me.

I kept chatting and receiving calls from friend two without revealing to him that I knew what he was up to.

After 3 days, I decided to let friend two know that my bf told me about their game. He was shocked and started opening up all my bf told him about me.

He told me my bf never really loved me and that he was with me because he didn't have to spend. I didn't ask him for money and even when I come to visit, I don't ask for tp.

Friend two also told me that my bf said I will be useful in his plans to relocate to Canada as he will convince me he wants us to marry, and that I should support him relocate first and then later when he is stable he will come back to Nigeria so we can wed and then he can bring me over. Meanwhile his actual plan is to relocate to Canada and marry a white girl for citizenship. I would never have suspected this could be my bf plans because he works in an averagely good place where he earns averagely well.

Friend two then advised me never to reveal my financial status to any man and to be selfish when I love. He said he still genuinely wants to date me and that he is sorry.

I am not stupid though. Friend 2 and my bf are idiots. I cannot date any one of them. I have blocked both of them.

This experience has shattered me though. I will never ever trust any man again even the man I marry. I used to believe in the idea of shared finances in marriage but not anymore. No managing with any man.

Men are scum. Love is a scam. The so called bf is a nairalander and I know he makes sensible comments here to deceive innocent girls who don't actually know he is a fool and a scammer.

you missed the part where friend two lashed u also....lolzz

Loveisascam:
My experience dating a 28 years old stupid boy - Age and place of employment does not necessarily mean maturity.

I and my bf have been friends online before we finally decided to meet. After meeting, we mutually decided to start dating.

Unknown to me my bf had shared me with two of his friends to tempt me. Friend 1 chatted me up but I didn't give him any attention so he stopped all conversations with me. Friend two chatted me up too but somehow he was able to get my attention. I however clearly told him I had a boyfriend and was not interested in any romantic relationship with him. He told me he didn't have any issues with it but that we could still be friends.

I am a very sincere and open person and so I told my bf about my friendship with Friend two. I usually share screenshots of my conversations with Friend two with my bf. I did not hide any thing from him because I had no intentions to cheat. I was very transparent.

Little did I know that my bf on the other hand was also busy sharing everything that has transpired between us including very sensitive information like our sexual styles, the state of my vagina and even my financial status with his friend.

My bf told friend two to stop the game and leave me alone. Friend two refused. According to him, he realised I was not the slut my boyfriend painted me to be and thought I will be a great catch for a girlfriend.

To discourage him, my bf started slandering me to him.He even went to the extent of telling his friend that
the last time I visited, he didn't enjoy the sex because my vagina was wide and that I had probably slept with some people before meeting him.

I had told friend two that the next time I visit my bf, I will endeavour to make arrangement so we can see too since him and bf stay in the same location. However on visiting my bf, I changed my mind and rather told him to visit my base if he really wants us to meet. He agreed to come around. I told my bf about my plan to meet friend two but didn't tell him that friend two had agreed to come to my base.

Friend two told my bf of his plan to come and visit me in my base and that finally he is going to have his way with me. My bf tried to discourage him from coming but he refused.

My bf was then forced to confess what he had done but told me not to let his friend know he has told me.

I kept chatting and receiving calls from friend two without revealing to him that I knew what he was up to.

After 3 days, I decided to let friend two know that my bf told me about their game. He was shocked and started opening up all my bf told him about me.

He told me my bf never really loved me and that he was with me because he didn't have to spend. I didn't ask him for money and even when I come to visit, I don't ask for tp.

Friend two also told me that my bf said I will be useful in his plans to relocate to Canada as he will convince me he wants us to marry, and that I should support him relocate first and then later when he is stable he will come back to Nigeria so we can wed and then he can bring me over. Meanwhile his actual plan is to relocate to Canada and marry a white girl for citizenship. I would never have suspected this could be my bf plans because he works in an averagely good place where he earns averagely well.

Friend two then advised me never to reveal my financial status to any man and to be selfish when I love. He said he still genuinely wants to date me and that he is sorry.

I am not stupid though. Friend 2 and my bf are idiots. I cannot date any one of them. I have blocked both of them.

This experience has shattered me though. I will never ever trust any man again even the man I marry. I used to believe in the idea of shared finances in marriage but not anymore. No managing with any man.

Men are scum. Love is a scam. The so called bf is a nairalander and I know he makes sensible comments here to deceive innocent girls who don't actually know he is a fool and a scammer.

Sorry for your experience... It goes both ways my dear.
I am down here tryna recover from the betrayal I experienced from a bitch I trusted so much...
Imagine dating someone who secretly saw you as a competition, mehn it hurts to the marrow!

Truth is that our experiences shape us. Cos if I date again I am definitely gonna be more careful and overly suspicious.. The era of "falling" in love as passed! Everyone goes into the dating game looking for what they can get! True love doesn't exist anywhere..

Sorry it ended that way but it shouldn't change your view of life and imprison your mind forever. Relationships are either a lesson or a blessing, either way, you've nothing to loose but gain.
Love is cheap but trust is earned. So move on and keep exploring the possibilities of life, its ups and downs. How you balance the two is all that matters. I feel your pains but it's all for good.

Loveisascam:
My experience dating a 28 years old stupid boy - Age and place of employment does not necessarily mean maturity.

I and my bf have been friends online before we finally decided to meet. After meeting, we mutually decided to start dating.

Unknown to me my bf had shared me with two of his friends to tempt me. Friend 1 chatted me up but I didn't give him any attention so he stopped all conversations with me. Friend two chatted me up too but somehow he was able to get my attention. I however clearly told him I had a boyfriend and was not interested in any romantic relationship with him. He told me he didn't have any issues with it but that we could still be friends.

I am a very sincere and open person and so I told my bf about my friendship with Friend two. I usually share screenshots of my conversations with Friend two with my bf. I did not hide any thing from him because I had no intentions to cheat. I was very transparent.

Little did I know that my bf on the other hand was also busy sharing everything that has transpired between us including very sensitive information like our sexual styles, the state of my vagina and even my financial status with his friend.

My bf told friend two to stop the game and leave me alone. Friend two refused. According to him, he realised I was not the slut my boyfriend painted me to be and thought I will be a great catch for a girlfriend.

To discourage him, my bf started slandering me to him.He even went to the extent of telling his friend that
the last time I visited, he didn't enjoy the sex because my vagina was wide and that I had probably slept with some people before meeting him.

I had told friend two that the next time I visit my bf, I will endeavour to make arrangement so we can see too since him and bf stay in the same location. However on visiting my bf, I changed my mind and rather told him to visit my base if he really wants us to meet. He agreed to come around. I told my bf about my plan to meet friend two but didn't tell him that friend two had agreed to come to my base.

Friend two told my bf of his plan to come and visit me in my base and that finally he is going to have his way with me. My bf tried to discourage him from coming but he refused.

My bf was then forced to confess what he had done but told me not to let his friend know he has told me.

I kept chatting and receiving calls from friend two without revealing to him that I knew what he was up to.

After 3 days, I decided to let friend two know that my bf told me about their game. He was shocked and started opening up all my bf told him about me.

He told me my bf never really loved me and that he was with me because he didn't have to spend. I didn't ask him for money and even when I come to visit, I don't ask for tp.

Friend two also told me that my bf said I will be useful in his plans to relocate to Canada as he will convince me he wants us to marry, and that I should support him relocate first and then later when he is stable he will come back to Nigeria so we can wed and then he can bring me over. Meanwhile his actual plan is to relocate to Canada and marry a white girl for citizenship. I would never have suspected this could be my bf plans because he works in an averagely good place where he earns averagely well.

Friend two then advised me never to reveal my financial status to any man and to be selfish when I love. He said he still genuinely wants to date me and that he is sorry.

I am not stupid though. Friend 2 and my bf are idiots. I cannot date any one of them. I have blocked both of them.

This experience has shattered me though. I will never ever trust any man again even the man I marry. I used to believe in the idea of shared finances in marriage but not anymore. No managing with any man.

Men are scum. Love is a scam. The so called bf is a nairalander and I know he makes sensible comments here to deceive innocent girls who don't actually know he is a fool and a scammer.

First of all how long have you guys dated? You should have picked little red flags that he isn't mature, probably he gossips and shares too much with you and talks anyhow. Or maybe you were his side chick cos no reasonable guy will discuss his sex life with a girl he truly loves and respects with any friend, because his friend will disrespect his girl and no reasonable man will want anyone to disrespect his girl.

Anyway I am not going to try to convince you to change your mind about the way you view men now, on the contrary, you can even think all men dine with the devil, that's fine and your opinion but it doesn't make it true..but NOT ALL MEN ARE SCUM just like not all women are sluts and manipulative. Good luck tho

All these super story gists.......dnt worry guys we know ourselves. We don't tell our frnds we didnt enjoy the pucci cos it was too wide. Thtll be the beginning of small dck abuse for life. This is a useless story.

HaileSelassie:
Sorry for your experience... It goes both ways my dear.
I am down here tryna recover from the betrayal I experienced from a bitch I trusted so much...
Imagine dating someone who secretly saw you as a competition, mehn it hurts to the marrow!
Truth is that our experiences shape us. Cos if I date again I am definitely gonna be more careful and overly suspicious.. The era of "falling" in love as passed! Everyone goes into the dating looking for what they can get! True love doesn't exist anywhere..

This very true. I have sadly realised this. People in relationships this days are looking from what they can get from their partner and not what they can give their partners. This same Selfish and self centred people enter into marriages and breed selfish and self centred kids who have learnt from their parents.

This world is really messed up.

Sorry about your girlfriend though. Trust no longer exist in my dictionary. The highest we can do is give people the benefits of a doubt while having it at the back of our minds that they can betray and disappoint us.

generationz:
abeg share the names of your ex's monicker so innocent girls don't enter his trap

It's like you are already fallen for a guy on NL hence this statement, so you won't be victim.

I honestly believe this story is Fake. I can't even tell my Male friends about my sex life with side chics in the past or present. Not to talk of a girl I'm seriously dating. None of my exes even know who my friends are, so there is no weak link.

cruchenutii:
It's like you are already fallen for a guy on NL hence this statement, so you won't be victim.

I honestly believe this story is Fake. I can't even tell my Male friends about my sex life with side chics in the past or present. Not to talk of a girl I'm seriously dating. None of my exes even know who my friends are, so there is no weak link.

Fake in what sense.....You people with your insensitive comment.

I know lots of guys that does this.....especially those guys that are fortunate to be employed in a fairly better place that most people dream of earning 150k or so with not so much responsibility

This lady just learnt the hard way.

I wonder the joy some people derive in making other people sad....There should be a limit to whatever we do.

Karma is definitely coming to hunt and bite him.

Everyone going into relationship should be wise and not make one fake love make you gullible....


There's nothing like love in Nigeria.... The economy has turn us all into a beast.

Here we go again
Men are scum, and her father is a man o

colourish. you need to see this.

colourish. you need to see this.

phantonce:
Fake in what sense.....You people with your insensitive comment.

I know lots of guys that does this.....especially those guys that are fortunate to be employed in a fairly better place that most people dream of earning 150k or so with not so much responsibility

This lady just learnt the hard way.

I wonder the joy some people derive in making other people sad....There should be a limit to whatever we do.

Karma is definitely coming to hunt and bite him.

I said "I honestly believe" It's called Opinions my friend. But how does earning well got to do with the OP's post.

Just asking.

lol,I have always wondered the kind of plannet these guys on NL came from,seriously.
bunch of idiotic imps,stupid cùnts,useless morafvckers,fake ass bìtches,foolish leeches,dirty looking things.
op,thank God you have learnt your lessons and for the girls that believe the 'i won't ask my bf for anything " sorry for y'all.

because,they will use it as a bait to drill you of your own wealth.

leeches everywhere.

Oblongata:
You got played

Your boyfriend messed up real bad, he destroyed the guy code ; never snitch on your guy

Both of them are stu.pid and immature

In a mature setting, you would get forked by both of them and still end up being friends with them. ..

Hope the guys learnt their lesson

very stupid comment,I guess that how they eat your sisters right?

A singular experience, and you're shouting that men are scum.....you're not even mature.

cruchenutii:
I said "I honestly believe" It's called Opinions my friend. But how does earning well got to do with the OP's post.

Just asking.

Good to know it's your opinion...

Didn't you read the part where she said her ex works in a good place which am assuming is a big company well known in Nigeria.

I'm speaking from experience of how guys like that behave.

This kinda treatment is reserved to bitchy and too demanding girls and not an innocent girl the op claims to be.

any girl that accepts a pm from these sex starved NL bìtches all in the name of dating should have herself to blame,even upon seeing the nonsense they do spill against women here.


and this boy will still come to call girls gold digger when he has nothing to be digged.

Preshy561:
very stupid comment,I guess that how they eat your sisters right?

If my sister were slotty y not?

Oblongata:
If my sister were slotty y not?

good enough.

so when your sisters are all whòres and sluts,does that mean that other girls should be treated like yours sisters??


sometimes,pretend to be intelligent with your comment even when you aren't.

So many relationship scammers out there. Too many.

Preshy561:
lol,I have always wondered the kind of plannet these guys on NL came from,seriously.
bunch of idiotic imps,stupid cùnts,useless morafvckers,fake ass bìtches,foolish leeches,dirty looking things.
op,thank God you have learnt your lessons and for the girls that believe the 'i won't ask my bf for anything " sorry for y'all.

because,they will use it as a bait to drill you of your own wealth.

leeches everywhere.

u lack sense Iswear

adetoroamos:
u lack sense Iswear

Okay.

anybody that takes you guys serious especially the guys on this forum should have her brains checked.

Preshy561:
Okay.

anybody that takes you guys serious especially the guys on this forum should have her brains checked.

I don't do online stuff so ur massage is for those stupid guy on dis forum okay but to say d fact smhting is wrong wit u upstairs

Preshy561:
lol,I have always wondered the kind of plannet these guys on NL came from,seriously.
bunch of idiotic imps,stupid cùnts,useless morafvckers,fake ass bìtches,foolish leeches,dirty looking things.
op,thank God you have learnt your lessons and for the girls that believe the 'i won't ask my bf for anything " sorry for y'all.

because,they will use it as a bait to drill you of your own wealth.

leeches everywhere.

Your people are just taking things serious in this forum.

adetoroamos:
I don't do online stuff so ur massage is for those stupid guy on did forum okay but tonsay d fact smhting is wrong wit u upstairs

text back when you must have learnt how to write English.

Lonestar124:
Your people are just taking things serious in this forum.

This statement should be directed to guys in this forum.

Preshy561:
text back when you must have learnt how to write English.

middle finger to u.... its typo error

adetoroamos:
middle finger to u.... its typo error

It's better now.

Loveisascam:
My experience dating a 28 years old stupid boy - Age and place of employment does not necessarily mean maturity.

I and my bf have been friends online before we finally decided to meet. After meeting, we mutually decided to start dating.

Unknown to me my bf had shared me with two of his friends to tempt me. Friend 1 chatted me up but I didn't give him any attention so he stopped all conversations with me. Friend two chatted me up too but somehow he was able to get my attention. I however clearly told him I had a boyfriend and was not interested in any romantic relationship with him. He told me he didn't have any issues with it but that we could still be friends.

I am a very sincere and open person and so I told my bf about my friendship with Friend two. I usually share screenshots of my conversations with Friend two with my bf. I did not hide any thing from him because I had no intentions to cheat. I was very transparent.

Little did I know that my bf on the other hand was also busy sharing everything that has transpired between us including very sensitive information like our sexual styles, the state of my vagina and even my financial status with his friend.

My bf told friend two to stop the game and leave me alone. Friend two refused. According to him, he realised I was not the slut my boyfriend painted me to be and thought I will be a great catch for a girlfriend.

To discourage him, my bf started slandering me to him.He even went to the extent of telling his friend that
the last time I visited, he didn't enjoy the sex because my vagina was wide and that I had probably slept with some people before meeting him.

I had told friend two that the next time I visit my bf, I will endeavour to make arrangement so we can see too since him and bf stay in the same location. However on visiting my bf, I changed my mind and rather told him to visit my base if he really wants us to meet. He agreed to come around. I told my bf about my plan to meet friend two but didn't tell him that friend two had agreed to come to my base.

Friend two told my bf of his plan to come and visit me in my base and that finally he is going to have his way with me. My bf tried to discourage him from coming but he refused.

My bf was then forced to confess what he had done but told me not to let his friend know he has told me.

I kept chatting and receiving calls from friend two without revealing to him that I knew what he was up to.

After 3 days, I decided to let friend two know that my bf told me about their game. He was shocked and started opening up all my bf told him about me.

He told me my bf never really loved me and that he was with me because he didn't have to spend. I didn't ask him for money and even when I come to visit, I don't ask for tp.

Friend two also told me that my bf said I will be useful in his plans to relocate to Canada as he will convince me he wants us to marry, and that I should support him relocate first and then later when he is stable he will come back to Nigeria so we can wed and then he can bring me over. Meanwhile his actual plan is to relocate to Canada and marry a white girl for citizenship. I would never have suspected this could be my bf plans because he works in an averagely good place where he earns averagely well.

Friend two then advised me never to reveal my financial status to any man and to be selfish when I love. He said he still genuinely wants to date me and that he is sorry.

I am not stupid though. Friend 2 and my bf are idiots. I cannot date any one of them. I have blocked both of them.

This experience has shattered me though. I will never ever trust any man again even the man I marry. I used to believe in the idea of shared finances in marriage but not anymore. No managing with any man.

Men are scum. Love is a scam. The so called bf is a nairalander and I know he makes sensible comments here to deceive innocent girls who don't actually know he is a fool and a scammer.

Is your boyfriend IamAirforceone??

Hahahahha.

Why do guys do this?

One oloriburuku guy on Nairaland did this with me too.

OP sorry jare. You must be a nice girl.
People like us frustrate such guys with our rudeness.

pocohantas:
Hahahahha.
Why do guys do this?
One oloriburuku guy on Nairaland did this with me too.
OP sorry jare. You must be a nice girl. People like us frustrate such guys with our rudeness.

what do they stand to gain? that's act of childishness to say the least.

Preshy561:
what do they stand to gain?
that's act of childishness to say the least.

Immaturity babe. Like one or more persons must hit that pussy on behalf of the brotherhood.