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Justbeingreal:
Exactly no one is seeing that point, IF it wasn't planned by the bf and Friend 2 was a neutral guy naxo she for start something coded with him...

Look both op and the bf abi ex na the same...EoD

Love is scam cuz we all one way or the other are deceiving ourselves.. Period.

i saw it bro. read my previous comments.
op doesn't know wat she wants.
she was tryin to be smart but she met her match and she ran here to cry and call men scum.
scum gbuo gi dia!

Loveisascam:
He planned to act like he was really serious in the relationship and wants us to marry. Then he would probably suggest I support him by giving him a certain amount of money so he can successfully relocate to Canada. Once he gets there, he marries a white woman for papers and then forgets about me and refunding my money. Not like I have money though. He assumed wrongly. I am just managing.

No things don't work like that... It's just a boastful and wishful thinking...

I wish you can see the picture from another angle... That guy wasn't in control of himself and things he spill was just to get applause from his friend.

He is just a child that's all.

Do you think a guy a with real plan will spill those rubbish never... Even the wind won't see it coming.

You didn't even get played... If you get played you would have emptied your account by now... Why are you heart broken... Your topic should be about dating a child ... Laugh it off and move on.

AND u changed ur mind and invited him to your Base. A stranger? Well done.

It's unfortunate that this happened to you. The guy is immature and selfish. However, you should not paint all men with the same brush. There are good and responsible men out there.
It just never ends well when you use your friends to test your partner. It's fools that do that. Most of the times, you end up losing that partner (sometimes to the friend). Some ladies do it too. It's not a guy's thing.

Loveisascam:
My experience dating a 28 years old stupid boy - Age and place of employment does not necessarily mean maturity.

I and my bf have been friends online before we finally decided to meet. After meeting, we mutually decided to start dating.

Unknown to me my bf had shared me with two of his friends to tempt me. Friend 1 chatted me up but I didn't give him any attention so he stopped all conversations with me. Friend two chatted me up too but somehow he was able to get my attention. I however clearly told him I had a boyfriend and was not interested in any romantic relationship with him. He told me he didn't have any issues with it but that we could still be friends.

I am a very sincere and open person and so I told my bf about my friendship with Friend two. I usually share screenshots of my conversations with Friend two with my bf. I did not hide any thing from him because I had no intentions to cheat. I was very transparent.

Little did I know that my bf on the other hand was also busy sharing everything that has transpired between us including very sensitive information like our sexual styles, the state of my vagina and even my financial status with his friend.

My bf told friend two to stop the game and leave me alone. Friend two refused. According to him, he realised I was not the slut my boyfriend painted me to be and thought I will be a great catch for a girlfriend.

To discourage him, my bf started slandering me to him.He even went to the extent of telling his friend that
the last time I visited, he didn't enjoy the sex because my vagina was wide and that I had probably slept with some people before meeting him.

I had told friend two that the next time I visit my bf, I will endeavour to make arrangement so we can see too since him and bf stay in the same location. However on visiting my bf, I changed my mind and rather told him to visit my base if he really wants us to meet. He agreed to come around. I told my bf about my plan to meet friend two but didn't tell him that friend two had agreed to come to my base.

Friend two told my bf of his plan to come and visit me in my base and that finally he is going to have his way with me. My bf tried to discourage him from coming but he refused.

My bf was then forced to confess what he had done but told me not to let his friend know he has told me.

I kept chatting and receiving calls from friend two without revealing to him that I knew what he was up to.

After 3 days, I decided to let friend two know that my bf told me about their game. He was shocked and started opening up all my bf told him about me.

He told me my bf never really loved me and that he was with me because he didn't have to spend. I didn't ask him for money and even when I come to visit, I don't ask for tp.

Friend two also told me that my bf said I will be useful in his plans to relocate to Canada as he will convince me he wants us to marry, and that I should support him relocate first and then later when he is stable he will come back to Nigeria so we can wed and then he can bring me over. Meanwhile his actual plan is to relocate to Canada and marry a white girl for citizenship. I would never have suspected this could be my bf plans because he works in an averagely good place where he earns averagely well.

Friend two then advised me never to reveal my financial status to any man and to be selfish when I love. He said he still genuinely wants to date me and that he is sorry.

I am not stupid though. Friend 2 and my bf are idiots. I cannot date any one of them. I have blocked both of them.

This experience has shattered me though. I will never ever trust any man again even the man I marry. I used to believe in the idea of shared finances in marriage but not anymore. No managing with any man.

Men are scum. Love is a scam. The so called bf is a nairalander and I know he makes sensible comments here to deceive innocent girls who don't actually know he is a fool and a scammer.

Both of them are stvpid and scum. Why is my mind telling me it's Airforce1/LifeofAirforce1 and buygala or englishmart

Its a lie nothing like that exists, just cooked up stories that does not gel.

Op is a man, no ladies will come online to narrate this kind of story.

Nothing happened, no bf no friend 1and 2 exists.

Like i said is a lie, this story is actually good for seasonal movie, that's my opinion thank you.

see as I weak

3kay945:
I don't think the girl is that good looking or decent. Guys do that when they want to eat and run. So her story didn't move me.

True, but still. I don't understand the need to bring in "shared finances" and shii as the conclusive lesson she learned from her experience.

Then again, quite unfortunately, it seems many Nairaland girls are, to put it very nicely, very unprepossessing or weird or abnormal in real life. I've met a few, but have been too disappointed to even consider a second meeting. I try to be nice though, have a good time that once, and then fade off. No calling or answering of calls subsequently.

pocohantas:
Nah, I doubt that. You believe that one is actually 'offline'?
LOL! If you know, you know

The OP seems like a nice girl,if only she knows nairaland is a jungle .You need to be crazier than the guys here to survive.

I have my suspicion on one or two male nairalanders based on what the OP wrote

That D is not really on sabbatical ,its in his character to change colours

Oblongata:
You got played

Your boyfriend messed up real bad, he destroyed the guy code ; never snitch on your guy

Both of them are stu.pid and immature

In a mature setting, you would get forked by both of them and still end up being friends with them. ..

Hope the guys learnt their lesson

Hope you learnt yours too?

Shine your eyes and don't ignore warning signs!

You sound like her boyfriend's type, giving guys a bad name.

Hisduchess:
be a little bit nice.this lady is heartbroken.

she sounded dull to me, an easy target

men!!!

The fact is working in a good place nor age doesn't define maturity and pls note men re not scam and love is not scam either.definitely u will find love again with the right one someday nd experience the difference between dating a boy nd men.

fvck:
Date a real man in real lyf and not an online man with online lyf

is not d real u is online here.


Abeg.

Loveisascam:
My experience dating a 28 years old stupid boy - Age and place of employment does not necessarily mean maturity.

I and my bf have been friends online before we finally decided to meet. After meeting, we mutually decided to start dating.

Unknown to me my bf had shared me with two of his friends to tempt me. Friend 1 chatted me up but I didn't give him any attention so he stopped all conversations with me. Friend two chatted me up too but somehow he was able to get my attention. I however clearly told him I had a boyfriend and was not interested in any romantic relationship with him. He told me he didn't have any issues with it but that we could still be friends.

I am a very sincere and open person and so I told my bf about my friendship with Friend two. I usually share screenshots of my conversations with Friend two with my bf. I did not hide any thing from him because I had no intentions to cheat. I was very transparent.

Little did I know that my bf on the other hand was also busy sharing everything that has transpired between us including very sensitive information like our sexual styles, the state of my vagina and even my financial status with his friend.

My bf told friend two to stop the game and leave me alone. Friend two refused. According to him, he realised I was not the slut my boyfriend painted me to be and thought I will be a great catch for a girlfriend.

To discourage him, my bf started slandering me to him.He even went to the extent of telling his friend that
the last time I visited, he didn't enjoy the sex because my vagina was wide and that I had probably slept with some people before meeting him.

I had told friend two that the next time I visit my bf, I will endeavour to make arrangement so we can see too since him and bf stay in the same location. However on visiting my bf, I changed my mind and rather told him to visit my base if he really wants us to meet. He agreed to come around. I told my bf about my plan to meet friend two but didn't tell him that friend two had agreed to come to my base.

Friend two told my bf of his plan to come and visit me in my base and that finally he is going to have his way with me. My bf tried to discourage him from coming but he refused.

My bf was then forced to confess what he had done but told me not to let his friend know he has told me.

I kept chatting and receiving calls from friend two without revealing to him that I knew what he was up to.

After 3 days, I decided to let friend two know that my bf told me about their game. He was shocked and started opening up all my bf told him about me.

He told me my bf never really loved me and that he was with me because he didn't have to spend. I didn't ask him for money and even when I come to visit, I don't ask for tp.

Friend two also told me that my bf said I will be useful in his plans to relocate to Canada as he will convince me he wants us to marry, and that I should support him relocate first and then later when he is stable he will come back to Nigeria so we can wed and then he can bring me over. Meanwhile his actual plan is to relocate to Canada and marry a white girl for citizenship. I would never have suspected this could be my bf plans because he works in an averagely good place where he earns averagely well.

Friend two then advised me never to reveal my financial status to any man and to be selfish when I love. He said he still genuinely wants to date me and that he is sorry.

I am not stupid though. Friend 2 and my bf are idiots. I cannot date any one of them. I have blocked both of them.

This experience has shattered me though. I will never ever trust any man again even the man I marry. I used to believe in the idea of shared finances in marriage but not anymore. No managing with any man.

Men are scum. Love is a scam. The so called bf is a nairalander and I know he makes sensible comments here to deceive innocent girls who don't actually know he is a fool and a scammer.

Sad you had to roll with those douchebags. I really feel your pain dear but I must correct that false notion on behalf of me and the rest of the correct dudes out there that not all men are scum... Just learn your lesson from this and count your blessings.

I have learnt not to take sides in a conflict. I'm contemplating on what to say while I wait for your so called online bf post his own side. perhaps the friend 1 and friend will says their side too


but I want to say this after engaging in it. online loves 80% are unreal, scam and waste of time. that's why I don't get carried with those nairaland ladies. I remember asking a Lady here if she can be my fvck mate I don't have time for online dating now and forever

that aside some guys and ladies are grown up with teenage brain. if any friend test me with her gf, I will help you trick her and fvck the hell out of her before I will send the used back to u, shebi you no won get sense ni

Loveisascam:
My experience dating a 28 years old stupid boy - Age and place of employment does not necessarily mean maturity.

I and my bf have been friends online before we finally decided to meet. After meeting, we mutually decided to start dating.

Unknown to me my bf had shared me with two of his friends to tempt me. Friend 1 chatted me up but I didn't give him any attention so he stopped all conversations with me. Friend two chatted me up too but somehow he was able to get my attention. I however clearly told him I had a boyfriend and was not interested in any romantic relationship with him. He told me he didn't have any issues with it but that we could still be friends.

I am a very sincere and open person and so I told my bf about my friendship with Friend two. I usually share screenshots of my conversations with Friend two with my bf. I did not hide any thing from him because I had no intentions to cheat. I was very transparent.

Little did I know that my bf on the other hand was also busy sharing everything that has transpired between us including very sensitive information like our sexual styles, the state of my vagina and even my financial status with his friend.

My bf told friend two to stop the game and leave me alone. Friend two refused. According to him, he realised I was not the slut my boyfriend painted me to be and thought I will be a great catch for a girlfriend.

To discourage him, my bf started slandering me to him.He even went to the extent of telling his friend that
the last time I visited, he didn't enjoy the sex because my vagina was wide and that I had probably slept with some people before meeting him.

I had told friend two that the next time I visit my bf, I will endeavour to make arrangement so we can see too since him and bf stay in the same location. However on visiting my bf, I changed my mind and rather told him to visit my base if he really wants us to meet. He agreed to come around. I told my bf about my plan to meet friend two but didn't tell him that friend two had agreed to come to my base.

Friend two told my bf of his plan to come and visit me in my base and that finally he is going to have his way with me. My bf tried to discourage him from coming but he refused.

My bf was then forced to confess what he had done but told me not to let his friend know he has told me.

I kept chatting and receiving calls from friend two without revealing to him that I knew what he was up to.

After 3 days, I decided to let friend two know that my bf told me about their game. He was shocked and started opening up all my bf told him about me.

He told me my bf never really loved me and that he was with me because he didn't have to spend. I didn't ask him for money and even when I come to visit, I don't ask for tp.

Friend two also told me that my bf said I will be useful in his plans to relocate to Canada as he will convince me he wants us to marry, and that I should support him relocate first and then later when he is stable he will come back to Nigeria so we can wed and then he can bring me over. Meanwhile his actual plan is to relocate to Canada and marry a white girl for citizenship. I would never have suspected this could be my bf plans because he works in an averagely good place where he earns averagely well.

Friend two then advised me never to reveal my financial status to any man and to be selfish when I love. He said he still genuinely wants to date me and that he is sorry.

I am not stupid though. Friend 2 and my bf are idiots. I cannot date any one of them. I have blocked both of them.

This experience has shattered me though. I will never ever trust any man again even the man I marry. I used to believe in the idea of shared finances in marriage but not anymore. No managing with any man.

Men are scum. Love is a scam. The so called bf is a nairalander and I know he makes sensible comments here to deceive innocent girls who don't actually know he is a fool and a scammer.

How about I be your next boy friend







Ok, am just kidding, no money to take care of another person

Loveisascam:
This very true. I have sadly realised this. People in relationships this days are looking from what they can get from their partner and not what they can give their partners. This same Selfish and self centred people enter into marriages and breed selfish and self centred kids who have learnt from their parents.

This world is really messed up.

Sorry about your girlfriend though. Trust no longer exist in my dictionary. The highest we can do is give people the benefits of a doubt while having it at the back of our minds that they can betray and disappoint us.

what u have written up there is the typical nature of man. we didn't make ourselves like that and that is the reason some of us are working on ourselves on a daily basis. sorry for what happened to you. it is also a typical example that good people don't always find it easy. jst brace up, dear. what u learnt is gonna make u make wonderful decisions in times to come. I have been there and can certainly tell you "it is a wonderful experience later in life"

And by next month (September) another guy will still chop her again

You're a fool.

Hedonini:
True, but still. I don't understand the need to bring in "shared finances" and shii as the conclusive lesson she learned from her experience.

Then again, quite unfortunately, it seems many Nairaland girls are eminently unprepossessing or weird or abnormal in real life. I've met a few, but have been too disappointed to even consider a second meeting. I try to be nice though, have a good time that once, and then fade off. No calling or answering of calls subsequently.

Well, I intentionally ignored that "share finances" part cause I know she can't say what she don't know. Marriage is a complete ballgame compared to this boyfriend stuff she is crying of.
When she finally hook someone, let's her keep to the idea of no sharing finances, I wish her future husband would be endowed financially otherwise sorry would be her case.

Op, a wealthy relative gave a young lady from a modest background love, SUVs, a big house, etc. Yet all three kids she had were not his. A neighbour back in the day sent his wife to university after having their kids. After she qualified she went off with another man. That man dumped her later. And she begged in vain for over 10 years to return. Do these events make all women scum including you?

Why are girls so quick to apportion collective guilt and blame for individual failure in choosing a good guy.

You mentioned his averagely good income in your write up a few times. Were you probably more interested in his economic status and did not see glaring warning signs? That you did not as yet ask him for money is not necessarily proof that his job and economic status didn't matter to you.

People, both men and women, get played in relationships every second. That was your turn. You can let it define you and become a horrible gf or wife to some innocent guy or move on positively.

romenna:
i saw it bro. read my previous comments.
op doesn't know wat she wants.
she was tryin to be smart but she met her match and she ran here to cry and call men scum.
scum gbuo gi dia!

Don't mind her...deceiving themselves.

Twoclans:
The OP seems like a nice girl, if only she knows nairaland is a jungle .You need to be crazier than the guys here to survive.

I have my suspicion on one or two male nairalanders based on what the OP wrote

That D is not really on sabbatical ,its in his character to change colours

Learned that the very hard way

I know babe, trust me, I know .

DaddyNimo:
she sounded dull to me, an easy target

when some people are in love abi lust they tend to keep their brain in the shelf.so she probably was doing all those things out of ifunanya abi ifunaahu.just be nice cos heartbreak pain nah next to death

krucifix:
My dear there's is no tru love again even from both side. Relationship today is Like a guess work that is under probability to end well or not. Though there are still fewer good people out there but still they cannot be trusted. It was after I broke up with the girl I brag about everywhere that her best friend revealed my ex tru identity. She said she would have told me ever since but was scared not to cause the reason for our breakup. So my, trust is long dead and buried but that doesn't mean u should not try another.at times, without experience, we cannot learn

hmmmm
Hope u confirmed?

Loveisascam:
My experience dating a 28 years old stupid boy - Age and place of employment does not necessarily mean maturity.

I and my bf have been friends online before we finally decided to meet. After meeting, we mutually decided to start dating.

Unknown to me my bf had shared me with two of his friends to tempt me. Friend 1 chatted me up but I didn't give him any attention so he stopped all conversations with me. Friend two chatted me up too but somehow he was able to get my attention. I however clearly told him I had a boyfriend and was not interested in any romantic relationship with him. He told me he didn't have any issues with it but that we could still be friends.

I am a very sincere and open person and so I told my bf about my friendship with Friend two. I usually share screenshots of my conversations with Friend two with my bf. I did not hide any thing from him because I had no intentions to cheat. I was very transparent.

Little did I know that my bf on the other hand was also busy sharing everything that has transpired between us including very sensitive information like our sexual styles, the state of my vagina and even my financial status with his friend.

My bf told friend two to stop the game and leave me alone. Friend two refused. According to him, he realised I was not the slut my boyfriend painted me to be and thought I will be a great catch for a girlfriend.

To discourage him, my bf started slandering me to him.He even went to the extent of telling his friend that
the last time I visited, he didn't enjoy the sex because my vagina was wide and that I had probably slept with some people before meeting him.

I had told friend two that the next time I visit my bf, I will endeavour to make arrangement so we can see too since him and bf stay in the same location. However on visiting my bf, I changed my mind and rather told him to visit my base if he really wants us to meet. He agreed to come around. I told my bf about my plan to meet friend two but didn't tell him that friend two had agreed to come to my base.

Friend two told my bf of his plan to come and visit me in my base and that finally he is going to have his way with me. My bf tried to discourage him from coming but he refused.

My bf was then forced to confess what he had done but told me not to let his friend know he has told me.

I kept chatting and receiving calls from friend two without revealing to him that I knew what he was up to.

After 3 days, I decided to let friend two know that my bf told me about their game. He was shocked and started opening up all my bf told him about me.

He told me my bf never really loved me and that he was with me because he didn't have to spend. I didn't ask him for money and even when I come to visit, I don't ask for tp.

Friend two also told me that my bf said I will be useful in his plans to relocate to Canada as he will convince me he wants us to marry, and that I should support him relocate first and then later when he is stable he will come back to Nigeria so we can wed and then he can bring me over. Meanwhile his actual plan is to relocate to Canada and marry a white girl for citizenship. I would never have suspected this could be my bf plans because he works in an averagely good place where he earns averagely well.

Friend two then advised me never to reveal my financial status to any man and to be selfish when I love. He said he still genuinely wants to date me and that he is sorry.

I am not stupid though. Friend 2 and my bf are idiots. I cannot date any one of them. I have blocked both of them.

This experience has shattered me though. I will never ever trust any man again even the man I marry. I used to believe in the idea of shared finances in marriage but not anymore. No managing with any man.

Men are scum. Love is a scam. The so called bf is a nairalander and I know he makes sensible comments here to deceive innocent girls who don't actually know he is a fool and a scammer.

Odiegwu!

Anyway you were dating a kid not a Real man. Real men don't even kiss and tell. Some of them are introverts like us and you hardly see them in drinking pubs with friends all the time. I mentioned drinking pubs and bars because that's where guys meet and discuss frivolities likes the smell and wideness of vagina.

I hope you meet a real man not the kiss-and-tell sissies young girls like to roll with.

Loveisascam:
My experience dating a 28 years old stupid boy - Age and place of employment does not necessarily mean maturity.

I and my bf have been friends online before we finally decided to meet. After meeting, we mutually decided to start dating.

Unknown to me my bf had shared me with two of his friends to tempt me. Friend 1 chatted me up but I didn't give him any attention so he stopped all conversations with me. Friend two chatted me up too but somehow he was able to get my attention. I however clearly told him I had a boyfriend and was not interested in any romantic relationship with him. He told me he didn't have any issues with it but that we could still be friends.

I am a very sincere and open person and so I told my bf about my friendship with Friend two. I usually share screenshots of my conversations with Friend two with my bf. I did not hide any thing from him because I had no intentions to cheat. I was very transparent.

Little did I know that my bf on the other hand was also busy sharing everything that has transpired between us including very sensitive information like our sexual styles, the state of my vagina and even my financial status with his friend.

My bf told friend two to stop the game and leave me alone. Friend two refused. According to him, he realised I was not the slut my boyfriend painted me to be and thought I will be a great catch for a girlfriend.

To discourage him, my bf started slandering me to him.He even went to the extent of telling his friend that
the last time I visited, he didn't enjoy the sex because my vagina was wide and that I had probably slept with some people before meeting him.

I had told friend two that the next time I visit my bf, I will endeavour to make arrangement so we can see too since him and bf stay in the same location. However on visiting my bf, I changed my mind and rather told him to visit my base if he really wants us to meet. He agreed to come around. I told my bf about my plan to meet friend two but didn't tell him that friend two had agreed to come to my base.

Friend two told my bf of his plan to come and visit me in my base and that finally he is going to have his way with me. My bf tried to discourage him from coming but he refused.

My bf was then forced to confess what he had done but told me not to let his friend know he has told me.

I kept chatting and receiving calls from friend two without revealing to him that I knew what he was up to.

After 3 days, I decided to let friend two know that my bf told me about their game. He was shocked and started opening up all my bf told him about me.

He told me my bf never really loved me and that he was with me because he didn't have to spend. I didn't ask him for money and even when I come to visit, I don't ask for tp.

Friend two also told me that my bf said I will be useful in his plans to relocate to Canada as he will convince me he wants us to marry, and that I should support him relocate first and then later when he is stable he will come back to Nigeria so we can wed and then he can bring me over. Meanwhile his actual plan is to relocate to Canada and marry a white girl for citizenship. I would never have suspected this could be my bf plans because he works in an averagely good place where he earns averagely well.

Friend two then advised me never to reveal my financial status to any man and to be selfish when I love. He said he still genuinely wants to date me and that he is sorry.

I am not stupid though. Friend 2 and my bf are idiots. I cannot date any one of them. I have blocked both of them.

This experience has shattered me though. I will never ever trust any man again even the man I marry. I used to believe in the idea of shared finances in marriage but not anymore. No managing with any man.

Men are scum. Love is a scam. The so called bf is a nairalander and I know he makes sensible comments here to deceive innocent girls who don't actually know he is a fool and a scammer.

Hmmm! When real men make comments on nairaland without fear of been hated ladies will call them names.

I know most guys who write what ladies love to hear are mostly evil but the foolish ladies will always fall for their type.

Sorry OP, you dated a boy and not a real man.

Loveisascam:
My experience dating a 28 years old stupid boy - Age and place of employment does not necessarily mean maturity.

I and my bf have been friends online before we finally decided to meet. After meeting, we mutually decided to start dating.

Unknown to me my bf had shared me with two of his friends to tempt me. Friend 1 chatted me up but I didn't give him any attention so he stopped all conversations with me. Friend two chatted me up too but somehow he was able to get my attention. I however clearly told him I had a boyfriend and was not interested in any romantic relationship with him. He told me he didn't have any issues with it but that we could still be friends.

I am a very sincere and open person and so I told my bf about my friendship with Friend two. I usually share screenshots of my conversations with Friend two with my bf. I did not hide any thing from him because I had no intentions to cheat. I was very transparent.

Little did I know that my bf on the other hand was also busy sharing everything that has transpired between us including very sensitive information like our sexual styles, the state of my vagina and even my financial status with his friend.

My bf told friend two to stop the game and leave me alone. Friend two refused. According to him, he realised I was not the slut my boyfriend painted me to be and thought I will be a great catch for a girlfriend.

To discourage him, my bf started slandering me to him.He even went to the extent of telling his friend that
the last time I visited, he didn't enjoy the sex because my vagina was wide and that I had probably slept with some people before meeting him.

I had told friend two that the next time I visit my bf, I will endeavour to make arrangement so we can see too since him and bf stay in the same location. However on visiting my bf, I changed my mind and rather told him to visit my base if he really wants us to meet. He agreed to come around. I told my bf about my plan to meet friend two but didn't tell him that friend two had agreed to come to my base.

Friend two told my bf of his plan to come and visit me in my base and that finally he is going to have his way with me. My bf tried to discourage him from coming but he refused.

My bf was then forced to confess what he had done but told me not to let his friend know he has told me.

I kept chatting and receiving calls from friend two without revealing to him that I knew what he was up to.

After 3 days, I decided to let friend two know that my bf told me about their game. He was shocked and started opening up all my bf told him about me.

He told me my bf never really loved me and that he was with me because he didn't have to spend. I didn't ask him for money and even when I come to visit, I don't ask for tp.

Friend two also told me that my bf said I will be useful in his plans to relocate to Canada as he will convince me he wants us to marry, and that I should support him relocate first and then later when he is stable he will come back to Nigeria so we can wed and then he can bring me over. Meanwhile his actual plan is to relocate to Canada and marry a white girl for citizenship. I would never have suspected this could be my bf plans because he works in an averagely good place where he earns averagely well.

Friend two then advised me never to reveal my financial status to any man and to be selfish when I love. He said he still genuinely wants to date me and that he is sorry.

I am not stupid though. Friend 2 and my bf are idiots. I cannot date any one of them. I have blocked both of them.

This experience has shattered me though. I will never ever trust any man again even the man I marry. I used to believe in the idea of shared finances in marriage but not anymore. No managing with any man.

Men are scum. Love is a scam. The so called bf is a nairalander and I know he makes sensible comments here to deceive innocent girls who don't actually know he is a fool and a scammer.

You sound like a sincere lady looking for a real man to genuinely love and be loved. So sorry for this mess. Learn the necessary lessons and move on. The stupid fuckboy didn't deserve you. Take it easy on your self because you did nothing wrong.

What most men that mess up with ladies don't know is that whatever a man sows, same he shall reap. Since I caught that revelation, I would rather a Lady use me than I use any Lady.

Preshy561:
lol,I have always wondered the kind of plannet these guys on NL came from,seriously.
bunch of idiotic imps,stupid cùnts,useless morafvckers,fake ass bìtches,foolish leeches,dirty looking things.
op,thank God you have learnt your lessons and for the girls that believe the 'i won't ask my bf for anything " sorry for y'all.

because,they will use it as a bait to drill you of your own wealth.

leeches everywhere.

Young lady, you are taking things too seriously.

There are guys here that can change your life in an instant.

Learn to be more respectful . The fact that guys play too much, does not mean you should take them for granted.


This is an anonymous forum. I could be the human resource manager, shell Africa.

You never know.

Lovely Eyeballs.. Is this you

DookShop:
Sorry about your experience. It is always advisable to let respectable people, parents/guardian or mentor whose counsel is weighty to be in the know when you're into a relationship. This is especially important for folks who enter such with a sincere and pure intention. Highly likely they would've seen through him and see him for what he is.

worst


If u are not matured..... Then just play along
Simple