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sleit:
Hi.
I am a lady of 22 years, will be 23 by January next year. I just
graduated and I've been with my guy since 200 level. We are in a
no-sex long distance relationship. In fact, we are both virgins. We
are kind of S.U.ish, if you understand the picture I'm trying to
paint.

He graduated ahead of me, and now has a job and is comfortable enough
to get married. So he's been asking for us to get married before
February next year. This guy is caring, wise, matured, faithful and
crazily in love with me (at least that is what he keeps saying).

Now, the problem?

I am not in love with him. I definitely do like and respect him, but
no matter how much I try, I can't just seem to fall in love with him.
So, you might ask why I kept the relationship for so long?
Well, I broke it off once, but he still came back and said we can put
in the effort to make it work.

He is a kind of person that doesn't condone sex out of marriage. Now,
he says the sexual pressure is quite high on him. And since he is
financially okay, he wants us to get married before he travels out for
his masters abroad.

I really have to give him an answer now as that will determine his
plans when leaving the country by February.

Would you guys advice me to accept the proposal of someone I know will
be a great husband and hope love will come along down the line later? Can a marriage start with just respect and like?
Or should I let him go and hope I will meet someone later? (I keep hearing a lot of scary stories about guys on nairaland and I'm
actually scared that if I let go, I won't get a keeper like him later.)

P.S.
I am a highly introverted person, and to make things worse, I work
remotely which means I hardly see people. I am always in my room with
my laptop.

C.C. Bukatyne, LadySarah, Shookonekilla, Ishilove, Sisisioge, Acidosis, TooNoisy, Eketem, Eyinjuege, Dominique, Eketem, KanwuliaExtra, Wilfredpat22, Tintingz, Babythug, Treasuredlove, Clarathomp, Cococandy, Nutase, Antina, Delishpot, St.surreal. (I've seen you guys give some opinion that I respect, need your say on this also. Thank you!).

WORDWORLD:
Bro, did you notice how I placed 'RAPE' as the last in the list. That is because it will be a new chapter of 'FREEDOM OF RIGHTS' to fight for.

From 'CONSENTUAL SEX' to 'NONE CONSENTUAL SEX'. We want FREEDOM for every human being to behave as they like without limitations. THAT IS TRUE DEMOCRACY. Else freedom is a mere ILLUSION if we are governed by LAWS. Our aim is to free us from ILLUSION.

So, we would have become so 'CIVILIZED' to the point that there will no more be 'CONSENT' before sex. Satisfying the fantasies of those who love to RAPE, being a NATURAL ANIMALISTIC drive.

After the triumph of RAPE as becoming legal. We will then fight for other 'NON CONSENTUAL SEXUAL INTERCOURSE'.

Such as DENDROPHILIA!!! Having sex with TREES. And other philias too.

Oh I just remembered an article about a man getting arrested for having sex with his bicycle.
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/1567410/Man-who-had-sex-with-bike-in-court.html

MECHANOPHILIA, sexual attraction to machines, sometimes a desire to engage in sexual relations with an airplane, car bicycle or helicopter.

All these fetishism we will fight very hard to make them LEGAL. So far we have been making tremendous success with Homosexualism. Gay marriage is legal in quite a number of countries today.

PLEASE IamLEGEND1, tintingz,marvinsynci JOIN US IN THIS FIGHT TO MAKE A BETTER WORLD WE WANT EVERYBODY TO BE HAPPY IN THEIR DIVERSITY.

tintingz:
Any action that will hurt fellow human must be unacceptable, any cruel action done without someone consents must be criminalize!

Freedom is not an illusion, it's real, human need to set rules to protect it people in the society.

Because some natural thing are negative doesn't mean it shouldn't be control.

There's reason humans naturally evolve in intellects!

Rape was once legal in the past, during slavery and war.

Why should humans go back to that archaic babaric behavior?

Why should any of this even be a problem? Are they even hurting anyone?, there are more important problem humans are facing than this minuscule thing.

The story in the article is BS, there's more to the story, i think it has to do with his perversion.

So those people using vibrators, machines, androids etc as sex objects, why are they not prosecuted?


Your sacarsm is even illogical.

sleit:
Hi.
I am a lady of 22 years, will be 23 by January next year. I just
graduated and I've been with my guy since 200 level. We are in a
no-sex long distance relationship. In fact, we are both virgins. We
are kind of S.U.ish, if you understand the picture I'm trying to
paint.

He graduated ahead of me, and now has a job and is comfortable enough
to get married. So he's been asking for us to get married before
February next year. This guy is caring, wise, matured, faithful and
crazily in love with me (at least that is what he keeps saying).

Now, the problem?

I am not in love with him. I definitely do like and respect him, but
no matter how much I try, I can't just seem to fall in love with him.
So, you might ask why I kept the relationship for so long?
Well, I broke it off once, but he still came back and said we can put
in the effort to make it work.

He is a kind of person that doesn't condone sex out of marriage. Now,
he says the sexual pressure is quite high on him. And since he is
financially okay, he wants us to get married before he travels out for
his masters abroad.

I really have to give him an answer now as that will determine his
plans when leaving the country by February.

Would you guys advice me to accept the proposal of someone I know will
be a great husband and hope love will come along down the line later? Can a marriage start with just respect and like?
Or should I let him go and hope I will meet someone later? (I keep hearing a lot of scary stories about guys on nairaland and I'm
actually scared that if I let go, I won't get a keeper like him later.)

P.S.
I am a highly introverted person, and to make things worse, I work
remotely which means I hardly see people. I am always in my room with
my laptop.

C.C. Bukatyne, LadySarah, Shookonekilla, Ishilove, Sisisioge, Acidosis, TooNoisy, Eketem, Eyinjuege, Dominique, Eketem, KanwuliaExtra, Wilfredpat22, Tintingz, Babythug, Treasuredlove, Clarathomp, Cococandy, Nutase, Antina, Delishpot, St.surreal. (I've seen you guys give some opinion that I respect, need your say on this also. Thank you!).

Aquariann:
You took the words outta my mouth. The simple thing is, the Op is looking for excitement, adventure, "Fun" etc. the kind which this brother-in-Lord cannot provide.

Thing is, by the time she's had enough and wants to settle down, the guy (and every other good enough guy) must have been long gone. Story of most ladies

sleit:
Hi.
I am a lady of 22 years, will be 23 by January next year. I just
graduated and I've been with my guy since 200 level. We are in a
no-sex long distance relationship. In fact, we are both virgins. We
are kind of S.U.ish, if you understand the picture I'm trying to
paint.

He graduated ahead of me, and now has a job and is comfortable enough
to get married. So he's been asking for us to get married before
February next year. This guy is caring, wise, matured, faithful and
crazily in love with me (at least that is what he keeps saying).

Now, the problem?

I am not in love with him. I definitely do like and respect him, but
no matter how much I try, I can't just seem to fall in love with him.
So, you might ask why I kept the relationship for so long?
Well, I broke it off once, but he still came back and said we can put
in the effort to make it work.

He is a kind of person that doesn't condone sex out of marriage. Now,
he says the sexual pressure is quite high on him. And since he is
financially okay, he wants us to get married before he travels out for
his masters abroad.

I really have to give him an answer now as that will determine his
plans when leaving the country by February.

Would you guys advice me to accept the proposal of someone I know will
be a great husband and hope love will come along down the line later? Can a marriage start with just respect and like?
Or should I let him go and hope I will meet someone later? (I keep hearing a lot of scary stories about guys on nairaland and I'm
actually scared that if I let go, I won't get a keeper like him later.)

P.S.
I am a highly introverted person, and to make things worse, I work
remotely which means I hardly see people. I am always in my room with
my laptop.

C.C. Bukatyne, LadySarah, Shookonekilla, Ishilove, Sisisioge, Acidosis, TooNoisy, Eketem, Eyinjuege, Dominique, Eketem, KanwuliaExtra, Wilfredpat22, Tintingz, Babythug, Treasuredlove, Clarathomp, Cococandy, Nutase, Antina, Delishpot, St.surreal. (I've seen you guys give some opinion that I respect, need your say on this also. Thank you!).

Wilfredpat22:
If you are not in love with him, tell him and cut it short but make sure the next man you are dating doesn’t destroy that hymen before marriage. Most ladies advising you have lost theirs before Christ was born
And hope you are independent
Hope you are not materialistic


This will draw better man to you

sleit:
Hi.
I am a lady of 22 years, will be 23 by January next year. I just
graduated and I've been with my guy since 200 level. We are in a
no-sex long distance relationship. In fact, we are both virgins. We
are kind of S.U.ish, if you understand the picture I'm trying to
paint.

He graduated ahead of me, and now has a job and is comfortable enough
to get married. So he's been asking for us to get married before
February next year. This guy is caring, wise, matured, faithful and
crazily in love with me (at least that is what he keeps saying).

Now, the problem?

I am not in love with him. I definitely do like and respect him, but
no matter how much I try, I can't just seem to fall in love with him.
So, you might ask why I kept the relationship for so long?
Well, I broke it off once, but he still came back and said we can put
in the effort to make it work.

He is a kind of person that doesn't condone sex out of marriage.Now,
he says the sexual pressure is quite high on him. And since he is
financially okay, he wants us to get married before he travels out for
his masters abroad.

I really have to give him an answer now as that will determine his
plans when leaving the country by February.

Would you guys advice me to accept the proposal of someone I know will
be a great husband and hope love will come along down the line later? Can a marriage start with just respect and like?
Or should I let him go and hope I will meet someone later? (I keep hearing a lot of scary stories about guys on nairaland and I'm
actually scared that if I let go, I won't get a keeper like him later.)

P.S.
I am a highly introverted person, and to make things worse, I work
remotely which means I hardly see people. I am always in my room with
my laptop.

C.C. Bukatyne, LadySarah, Shookonekilla, Ishilove, Sisisioge, Acidosis, TooNoisy, Eketem, Eyinjuege, Dominique, Eketem, KanwuliaExtra, Wilfredpat22, Tintingz, Babythug, Treasuredlove, Clarathomp, Cococandy, Nutase, Antina, Delishpot, St.surreal. (I've seen you guys give some opinion that I respect, need your say on this also. Thank you!).

victorian:
I just hope she listens. It's for her own good.

My dear u can't blame us, it was youthful exuberance and we feeling fly, we are so young and pretty.
if only I had someone to advise me back then. I won't have bad memories of my exs hovering at the back of my head. My kids would have been 11years, 9years, then the third one should be 7years by now with a stable dad and grounded dad and husband next to me and our kids.
But I was thinking of mills and boons, looking for a tall dashing overly handsome either fair or dark guy with broad shoulders
Those criterias were my doom!
I didn't know on-time
I felt I was falling in love and going through a passionate process.. And yea, I was going through a process but bad and terrible ones for that matter..

My dear, na God save me O.. If not I would have been history by now. I just thank God for everything, at least am wiser and stronger now.


How u dey jare?

Belafonte:
Guy stop being boring. Women despise boring guys and easily get dripping wet for non-bring guys.

The problem this girl is facing is simple. She has a "good" guy who does things by the book but lacks spontaneity. He sounds rigid. He probably has never slapped her butt, ever. Never pressed the bobby, once ever. She can not feel sexual desires towards him. It is against natural human laws of sexual attraction.

Women want a muthafucka, not a sheep.

I would not be surprised if this sister is already chopping blokos codedly. If she isn't, she probably already is already eyeing some dude somewhere.

All this no sex before marriage sef dey sound somehow for my ear. How can a woman love you when you haven't banged nonsense out of her head. Give her the kind of love making that will make her deny her parents, religion and tribe.

Stop thinking women will love you because you have money, because they won't. You will only be an ATM.

Pusyiter:
Well, the past is past, the present is now and tomorrow is colourful.
I dey jare, picking up the pieces.....

victorian:
Yes o! Tomorrow is colourful and bright.

Eeyah, God will restore everything uv lost in triple folds amen.
As long as there is life and good health, tomorrow will always be better than yesterday. God is with you and family, amen.
Warm hugs dear#

Pusyiter:
Thanks for being there as friends are rare

victorian:
Awww

You are welcome dear. Smiles.
Hope to see u in Lagos before the year ends?

Pusyiter:

sleit:
Hi.
I am a lady of 22 years, will be 23 by January next year. I just
graduated and I've been with my guy since 200 level. We are in a
no-sex long distance relationship. In fact, we are both virgins. We
are kind of S.U.ish, if you understand the picture I'm trying to
paint.

He graduated ahead of me, and now has a job and is comfortable enough
to get married. So he's been asking for us to get married before
February next year. This guy is caring, wise, matured, faithful and
crazily in love with me (at least that is what he keeps saying).

Now, the problem?

I am not in love with him. I definitely do like and respect him, but
no matter how much I try, I can't just seem to fall in love with him.
So, you might ask why I kept the relationship for so long?
Well, I broke it off once, but he still came back and said we can put
in the effort to make it work.

He is a kind of person that doesn't condone sex out of marriage. Now,
he says the sexual pressure is quite high on him. And since he is
financially okay, he wants us to get married before he travels out for
his masters abroad.

I really have to give him an answer now as that will determine his
plans when leaving the country by February.

Would you guys advice me to accept the proposal of someone I know will
be a great husband and hope love will come along down the line later? Can a marriage start with just respect and like?
Or should I let him go and hope I will meet someone later? (I keep hearing a lot of scary stories about guys on nairaland and I'm
actually scared that if I let go, I won't get a keeper like him later.)

P.S.
I am a highly introverted person, and to make things worse, I work
remotely which means I hardly see people. I am always in my room with
my laptop.

C.C. Bukatyne, LadySarah, Shookonekilla, Ishilove, Sisisioge, Acidosis, TooNoisy, Eketem, Eyinjuege, Dominique, Eketem, KanwuliaExtra, Wilfredpat22, Tintingz, Babythug, Treasuredlove, Clarathomp, Cococandy, Nutase, Antina, Delishpot, St.surreal. (I've seen you guys give some opinion that I respect, need your say on this also. Thank you!).

CAPSLOCKED:

TO DO LIST:
1. FIND A NICE, LOVING, ABLE, RESPONSIBLE AND DECENT MAN.

2. DISCOVER HE TRULY LOVES YOU.
3. DON'T LOVE HIM BACK.

4. FIND A WAYWARD, IRRESPONSIBLE, GOOD FOR NOTHING DOUCHEBAG. 100% PLAYBOY.
5. FALL IN LOVE WITH HIM UNCONTROLLABLY.
6. GETS USED TO THE MAXIMUM AND DUMPED IN THE DUSTBIN.

7. ADOPTS THE ANTHEM "MEN ARE TRASH" AND "ALL MEN ARE DOGS", "SCUM".

8. REPEAT THE ENTIRE CYCLE AGAIN FROM 1 - 7

-MOST GIRLS.

zed7:
Like a single friend once told me, he is so attracted to girl A. She turns him on all the time even by mere thinking of her. Girl B doesn't turn him on so much except he wants to make love to her. But he is going to marry girl B because she will make a better wife and mother. He says girl A will only bring drama into his home, she's self centered, demanding and unforgiving. Now that's a wise man who didn't let attraction confuse him into thinking it's love.

Shugavee:
lol u r so spoilt!! I give up on you!

Treasuredlove:
attraction and love...two different things bro

I see a lot of people saying love doesn't really matter, love isn't the ultimate. Love will never stop being the ultimate because it is what makes the relationship work. Marriage in itself is serious work and without love, not much will work. If a woman is trapped in a loveless marriage where the guy loses his job and becomes penniless...God save that man. Or if a man is trapped in a loveless marriage where the woman suddenly begins to grow fat...God save that woman. When one is in a comfortable place, anything can be accepted. Comfort is deceptive but test them with a little discomfort...
Attraction goes and comes but love...it never fades

Belafonte:
This sounds really good on paper, but is there anything like love in real life? If the love exists, how commonplace is it? How can one be sure to find it?

I would advise men to go into marriage like any other major transaction. With two eyes fully washed, shined and open. Getting ready for any eventualities. Better safe than sorry.

baby124:
You better not see marriage as a transaction because transactions can fail badly. Have patience and know what you are looking for. Learn to work with a woman who you know you can wake up to for the rest of your life. Regardless of the situation or condition. Marriage is serious business, don’t enter into it for the wrong reasons.

sleit:
Hi.
I am a lady of 22 years, will be 23 by January next year. I just
graduated and I've been with my guy since 200 level. We are in a
no-sex long distance relationship. In fact, we are both virgins. We
are kind of S.U.ish, if you understand the picture I'm trying to
paint.

He graduated ahead of me, and now has a job and is comfortable enough
to get married. So he's been asking for us to get married before
February next year. This guy is caring, wise, matured, faithful and
crazily in love with me (at least that is what he keeps saying).

Now, the problem?

I am not in love with him. I definitely do like and respect him, but
no matter how much I try, I can't just seem to fall in love with him.
So, you might ask why I kept the relationship for so long?
Well, I broke it off once, but he still came back and said we can put
in the effort to make it work.

He is a kind of person that doesn't condone sex out of marriage. Now,
he says the sexual pressure is quite high on him. And since he is
financially okay, he wants us to get married before he travels out for
his masters abroad.

I really have to give him an answer now as that will determine his
plans when leaving the country by February.

Would you guys advice me to accept the proposal of someone I know will
be a great husband and hope love will come along down the line later? Can a marriage start with just respect and like?
Or should I let him go and hope I will meet someone later? (I keep hearing a lot of scary stories about guys on nairaland and I'm
actually scared that if I let go, I won't get a keeper like him later.)

P.S.
I am a highly introverted person, and to make things worse, I work
remotely which means I hardly see people. I am always in my room with
my laptop.

C.C. Bukatyne, LadySarah, Shookonekilla, Ishilove, Sisisioge, Acidosis, TooNoisy, Eketem, Eyinjuege, Dominique, Eketem, KanwuliaExtra, Wilfredpat22, Tintingz, Babythug, Treasuredlove, Clarathomp, Cococandy, Nutase, Antina, Delishpot, St.surreal. (I've seen you guys give some opinion that I respect, need your say on this also. Thank you!).

Belafonte:
You say serious business, I say transaction. Sounds quite similar, doesn't it? Transactions might have the possibility of bad failures but so do serious businesses. In the end, it's all risk taking. There are millions who thought they married someone they would be with for ever, people they actually worked well with, people they were happy to wake up to. In the end, they had nothing but extremely bitter tales to tell.

My point is, I'd rather enter it as a transaction with well-stipulated terms and conditions and a shock absorber in the event of lack of faith on the continuity of the union. If any woman wants to be married to me, she must be willing to enter a signed transaction, otherwise she's on her own. If she like make she born triplets, if we're nnot married we're nnot married.